Actually the first son was in love with her mother .. but parents have made an engagement with their son and Chen…
I think most of the misunderstandings in this drama is caused by the grandparents of Liu Shen Yuan. If they had allowed LSY's bio dad to marry his concubine (the woman she really loved) she wouldn't have been off the rails with jealousy to do so many evil things. They would have been a happy couple with no harem drama.
If they had allowed LYN's bio mom to marry the first born (the Uncle) then he would not have been a loveless marriage,he would have married the woman he loved and they both could have been happy!
But then we wouldn't have the drama fraught with misunderstandings because parents insist on marrying their children to strangers.
but how!? like how did he get where he is? I understand the smart part, he had an excellent teacher. what about…
His Shifu. The one who brought him up and was a second father to him. He tells his grandmother that his late shifu taught him books and hired teachers to teach him martial arts, so he owes him a debt he can never repay and he needs to clear his name from being falsely accused.
I don't think he was neglecting her. He was always trying to do his best to be there for her but their financial…
Exactly. She didn't mind his work. We even saw how she cheerfully sat down and watched him working.
What broke their relationship was his emotional unavailability during the hard times in her life, that made her feel so lonely and that she was unimportant to him.
Here's another take of what would have happened if he had bothered to text her or call her back when she was running and broke her leg. She might probably have understood that he was busy and couldn't be there, but she would have definitely understood that she mattered to him, and wouldn't have felt so isolated.
For the wedding if he had texted her back when she called, she could probably have headed over to his new workplace after the wedding was over, and they would have eaten dinner together while he shared his ambitions for his newly gotten job. Communication is crucial and so important to relationships and doesn't take much work really.
everyone has different love languages and needs. it's not all black and white just cause someone else can handle…
The question remains that when she broke up with him, WHY didn't he go after her? Maybe he didn't have the money for a plane ticket (he had her address) but maybe he should have called? This was probably what the FL was expecting.
In reality, we see that he wrote her a letter and placed it in her guitar. Now if she had even bothered to open the guitar, she would have read his letter and maybe answered the questions that were bothering her.
So in the long and short run, she really has herself to blame for some really rash and dare I say (stupid?) decisions. Now life has given them another opportunity to reconnect, but I daresay she will squander this opportunity as she had in the past.
I have a theory that our unconscious minds tend to make the strongest decisions for us, especially when we are under duress. I strongly feel that since she is not letting herself get close to Aoki or Jungo, her biggest concern now is self preservation, not love. And she will unconsciously make decisions that will validate her feelings of self preservation and of safety. So unless she has a last minute rapid change of heart, I don't see her going back to him.
jungo is an introvert and he was young & struggling with his career at that time...& she obviously felt lonely,…
I'd be happy if she didn't marry anyone. She and the ML are in no place to rekindle their relationship. He clearly still has issues communicating, and she seems to have run out of patience with him. To be fair, she may be more in love with the idea of being in love, than with the male lead. Being that she didn't take the time to really 'know' him. Who he is, what he wants, what his love style is and so on.
As for the second male lead, he's ideal but she doesn't love him. Better to break the engagement than lead to divorce down the line. There's nothing as bad as marrying someone you love, but who doesn't love you back.
I am watching ep 4 now after the wedding scene I am so mad at jungo he never prioritises her ever He is only working…
To be fair, I was less upset that he stayed to work and more that he didn't text her to tell her he couldn't make it and something came up. Was it so hard for him to send her a text message telling her that he could no longer make it to the party, instead of letting her get home with no communication? Maybe he couldn't have pushed back on his start date because he really wanted to work there but he could have delivered the bad news sooner, instead of waiting to get home, knowing that she would be dissatisfied with him.
Ren Mi is beautiful in this compared to TLP (Has to do with the make up team)
Yeah the makeup team did her dirty in TLP. But she was also younger then and had more baby fat. She's grown up nicely and lost some of her baby fat, and her styling here is much better. She good looking, I read comments where they said she didn't have the looks for period dramas, but I hope she proves them wrong. She's a good actress.
I really, REALLY can't stand her father. It's one thing to ignore a child whose mother seduced or 'raped' you when you were drunk. I can understand him not giving the child any love, but to go out of his way to deliberately make life difficult for the child is so cruel. He always takes the trouble to lash out at that poor boy/man. He doesn't care for Yining either, but at least she has her grandmother's backing and protection. I can't imagine how tough it must have been for Shenyuan to live in a household like that. Constantly bullied and ignored. Who made sure that he ate, slept or even had clothes to wear as he was growing up? Other than Yining's mother?
I love this drama and I LOVE the ending. I never expected the drama to be a HEA, I only asked for the ending to be logical and the drama satisfied me on all points and I couldn't be more pleased though I shared a few tears for our hero. I felt that they wrapped up all points in a nice way and she even had his child! So she wouldn't be so lonely. Such a realistic drama, speaks a lot about love, not just romantic love, but love of a people, love of one's identity, love of family, love for friends, love for comrades. Very aptly titled.
I agree with your perspective. I eagerly anticipated the drama, but fell out of love with it because of the quick jump into skinship & sex particularly with the second couple. Reminds me of a Hollywood production (no taking time to get to know you, just jumping into bed, and then become a couple). I'm on episode 5 and still curious to see how things play out. I like the FL and ML but I'm not enamored with the plot and how things are progressing.
Acting is great and I like the ML and FL. However, I found myself using my fast forward button quite a bit. I don't care for the secondary couple, their scenes are quite jarring at times . I love the cinematography, that it's filmed in the desert, but the editing is a bit choppy and the scene transition needs work. I find myself questioning whether I'm watching a scene in the present or in the past.
If they had allowed LYN's bio mom to marry the first born (the Uncle) then he would not have been a loveless marriage,he would have married the woman he loved and they both could have been happy!
But then we wouldn't have the drama fraught with misunderstandings because parents insist on marrying their children to strangers.
What broke their relationship was his emotional unavailability during the hard times in her life, that made her feel so lonely and that she was unimportant to him.
Here's another take of what would have happened if he had bothered to text her or call her back when she was running and broke her leg. She might probably have understood that he was busy and couldn't be there, but she would have definitely understood that she mattered to him, and wouldn't have felt so isolated.
For the wedding if he had texted her back when she called, she could probably have headed over to his new workplace after the wedding was over, and they would have eaten dinner together while he shared his ambitions for his newly gotten job. Communication is crucial and so important to relationships and doesn't take much work really.
In reality, we see that he wrote her a letter and placed it in her guitar. Now if she had even bothered to open the guitar, she would have read his letter and maybe answered the questions that were bothering her.
So in the long and short run, she really has herself to blame for some really rash and dare I say (stupid?) decisions. Now life has given them another opportunity to reconnect, but I daresay she will squander this opportunity as she had in the past.
I have a theory that our unconscious minds tend to make the strongest decisions for us, especially when we are under duress. I strongly feel that since she is not letting herself get close to Aoki or Jungo, her biggest concern now is self preservation, not love. And she will unconsciously make decisions that will validate her feelings of self preservation and of safety. So unless she has a last minute rapid change of heart, I don't see her going back to him.
As for the second male lead, he's ideal but she doesn't love him. Better to break the engagement than lead to divorce down the line. There's nothing as bad as marrying someone you love, but who doesn't love you back.
Avenue X once said he reminded her of Budda with his expressions. I can really see that in him, in this drama. lol.