we're lucky to have scientific research aid us, today 🤭it does depend on, how slow or fast the man goes.....if…
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHH...I think one cousin of mine used a different technique. Something about the timing, dunno, but she did get what she wanted in the end (a boy and a girl).
we're lucky to have scientific research aid us, today 🤭it does depend on, how slow or fast the man goes.....if…
Yeah, good thing there have been improvements these days in many aspects. There's always room to grow/improve no matter how improved the situation has been he he...
What they don't realize is it's the Male that determines the sex of the baby. I'm the only girl born in my family…
Yes, this was wayyyyy back in those days when there was no internet and people didn't know the male was responsible for the sex of the baby, so the poor woman felt guilty for not being able to produce a boy.
Owwwww...you're surrounded by so many males! How do you feel about not being named in your father's will?
I'm not a fan of the character Cui Shijiu, but after seeing her background I can't help but feel a bit sorry for her. She's born in the wrong period of time. She's burning bridges here and there (doing reckless things) to prove herself worthy, simply because she's born a girl. How many people can also relate to this: the feeling of being unworthy (having to prove your worth to your parents/the world), I wonder?
Reminds me of my mom's story when I was born. She was in the same room as another woman who had given birth to a baby girl. This woman's baby was the fourth or fifth child and they were all girls. She told my mom, "It's NOT my fault that the baby is a girl again, right? The father wants to have a boy." Ouchie...:-(
Poetry in motion...the aesthetic, the BGM, too...what the Japanese lady told Hong...continued in spoiler...
Japanese lady: "I'm glad I didn't have to move all the way to Korea. Having to rely only on one person and the possibility of being lonely in a new country...I don't think I'm able to cope with it."
As someone who moved far away from my hometown to be with my current husband, it takes a lot of effort to build my own support system here (other than my husband). Bonus points if the husband's parents and family members/relatives are supportive, too, but even then because I lack my other side of family tree (my cousins, sibling, other extended family members), it's crucial to try to have as much support system as I can. The more support system I have in a foreign country, the better.
IMO it's because Hong doesn't really "love" Min Jun. She likes him and she feels comfortable and safe/stable with…
Another example about one BFF of mine. One guy used to like her, but she didn't end up with him. She married someone else, he worked abroad and then came back years later (around 4-5 years had passed). One day he found out my friend's phone number and called her. He knew she was married, but he still said to her "I'd like to be in a relationship with you. I know you're married but I don't care."
Mind you, they never even started dating, but he was still chasing her even after knowing she was married.
IMO it's because Hong doesn't really "love" Min Jun. She likes him and she feels comfortable and safe/stable with…
OK, we have different opinions then. IMO even though they're together for a short period of time, they already lived together as a couple.
Case in point: my mom told me that a guy used to like my grandmother, but grandma's elder sister "stole" the guy (ended up with the guy). Even after both my grandma and my grandma's elder sister got married, the guy kept on visiting my grandma's place regularly. In this case my grandma and that guy never even dated or lived together (living together was taboo at that time). Sometimes that "what if (we could be together)" can be stronger than the current relationship. If the current relationship is strong as a rock, the "what ifs" can be pushed to the back and have no chance of battling the current relationship.
I really love the kind of melodrama this show delivers. The angst is portrayed so well and the emotions hit hard.…
IMO it's because Hong doesn't really "love" Min Jun. She likes him and she feels comfortable and safe/stable with him, but not that kind of "crazily in love, butterfly-in-the-stomach, I can't wait to be with you forever" feeling. It's more of a companionship instead of a lover-to-lover bond.
Moreover, she's not expecting Jungo to appear in front of her after all this time ('coz of their geographical locations), so that's also another shocking factor for her. In today's episode, she even said to Min Jun she was confused about her own feelings (she thought she had gotten over it).
Another factor for Jungo: they didn't have a clean breakup because Hong left ASAP. It may be harder to move on after such a breakup, because there may still be the "what if" questions lingering. Otherwise he wouldn't have written the book on their relationship, even giving the characters a happy ending.
Beautiful pain. There are just some dramas that can convey pain (in different aspects) beautifully and this drama is one of those. Re: the topic of loneliness...you can still be with someone or be surrounded by so many people, yet you can still feel lonely.
Today's ep reminded me of a memory I had from the past. An acquaintance told me that his elder sister cancelled her wedding TWICE (both times everything was already booked: the venue, the restaurant, even the invitation letters were already sent!). I gasped in shock when I heard that story, but then again if the person's not the right one, I guess it's better to call it off before the wedding.
This example says everything about their relationship before
Oh, you like the director? I see. Yeah, I enjoy the way he sets up the scenes in this drama for sure. 😊
I think Hong's life revolved too much around Jungo in Japan (although I totally understand why). You can see many times she was waiting for him alone in their apartment. I also felt this lonely before I started finding expat friends and learning the language. I was in her position, too, but that wasn't a healthy way of living.
Support groups outside of the family or relatives would be more ideal in a foreign country (even family/relatives had their own busy lives), although for sure it's not easy. In my own case, other than a few expat friends here, I also have a lot of online friends (some I've met in real life, some I've never met) who have also helped me through the seasons of life. Chit-chatting with random people on MDL is also helpful for me. 😊
This example says everything about their relationship before
I agree that being thoughtful to your loved one is an important part of a relationship, but in reality it's really REALLY difficult to think/know about all the possible little, medium, and big things that may be different in another country and explaining them to your spouse (esp. when you have to juggle many things on top of this: work etc.).
Unless your spouse has lived in your home country and realized what some of the differences may be, I find it too demanding to ask your spouse to fill in all the blanks. That's why I believe in finding/searching for your own support systems (in plural) esp. when you move to a foreign country.
I love this drama, too. Loving the cinematography. That scene when she ran past him and the slow-mo of the falling snow...GORGEOUS! Took my breath away as I was wondering what she was going to do. And that look on his face? OMG! My heart! And yeah, she's definitely changed a lot compared to her younger, bubbly self. I'm a bit sad that there are only 2 ep left, but as long as they do it right, I'll still enjoy the drama he he he...
This example says everything about their relationship before
Yeah, the person living in their home country (my spouse or Jungo in this drama) may not even think that there would be such big differences for certain things (like the wedding invitation or graduation party invitation), because they wouldn't know what the other person's full cultural spectrum would be like. And I also didn't even think there would be big differences in such a setting (therefore I didn't even ask about what it would be like). I just assumed it was similar to my home country's setting and my husband probably assumed the same thing.
One thing I realized after having lived in this foreign country (that I now consider my home) for over 17+ years is that not many people are equipped with such a foresight of preparing the newcomer about many things that may be different from their home countries. In that aspect, having a support system like other expats may be helpful (like talking to Ji Hui in this drama).
As a woman who married someone from a different culture, I could relate to some of the issues in this drama. The timing of the relationship between the two (on top of other things) also made it difficult for them to carry on the relationship.
Before I moved halfway across the world to be with my husband, I told him that he should be ready to guide me like a little child because I'd be in a completely new country, new language, new culture, new everything. That said, it would also be too hard on him if I relied on him in every aspect of my life, so I had to find my own support systems as well (as much and as quickly as I could), because no one person can be everything no matter how much they love you.
The wedding party invitation in ep. 4 reminds me of the first time I was invited by my husband's distant relative to her son's graduation party (from HS). In my own country it's just a simple ceremony of eating and wearing casual clothes, so I had NO idea that in my husband's country, it's more of a semi-formal event (they'd take photos with each couples/guests that came by). I felt underdressed and unprepared for the graduation party. Good thing my mom-in-law had prepared money and envelope and written our names on the card, too LOL!!!!!!
Owwwww...you're surrounded by so many males! How do you feel about not being named in your father's will?
Reminds me of my mom's story when I was born. She was in the same room as another woman who had given birth to a baby girl. This woman's baby was the fourth or fifth child and they were all girls. She told my mom, "It's NOT my fault that the baby is a girl again, right? The father wants to have a boy." Ouchie...:-(
As someone who moved far away from my hometown to be with my current husband, it takes a lot of effort to build my own support system here (other than my husband). Bonus points if the husband's parents and family members/relatives are supportive, too, but even then because I lack my other side of family tree (my cousins, sibling, other extended family members), it's crucial to try to have as much support system as I can. The more support system I have in a foreign country, the better.
Mind you, they never even started dating, but he was still chasing her even after knowing she was married.
Case in point: my mom told me that a guy used to like my grandmother, but grandma's elder sister "stole" the guy (ended up with the guy). Even after both my grandma and my grandma's elder sister got married, the guy kept on visiting my grandma's place regularly. In this case my grandma and that guy never even dated or lived together (living together was taboo at that time). Sometimes that "what if (we could be together)" can be stronger than the current relationship. If the current relationship is strong as a rock, the "what ifs" can be pushed to the back and have no chance of battling the current relationship.
Moreover, she's not expecting Jungo to appear in front of her after all this time ('coz of their geographical locations), so that's also another shocking factor for her. In today's episode, she even said to Min Jun she was confused about her own feelings (she thought she had gotten over it).
Another factor for Jungo: they didn't have a clean breakup because Hong left ASAP. It may be harder to move on after such a breakup, because there may still be the "what if" questions lingering. Otherwise he wouldn't have written the book on their relationship, even giving the characters a happy ending.
Today's ep reminded me of a memory I had from the past. An acquaintance told me that his elder sister cancelled her wedding TWICE (both times everything was already booked: the venue, the restaurant, even the invitation letters were already sent!). I gasped in shock when I heard that story, but then again if the person's not the right one, I guess it's better to call it off before the wedding.
I think Hong's life revolved too much around Jungo in Japan (although I totally understand why). You can see many times she was waiting for him alone in their apartment. I also felt this lonely before I started finding expat friends and learning the language. I was in her position, too, but that wasn't a healthy way of living.
Support groups outside of the family or relatives would be more ideal in a foreign country (even family/relatives had their own busy lives), although for sure it's not easy. In my own case, other than a few expat friends here, I also have a lot of online friends (some I've met in real life, some I've never met) who have also helped me through the seasons of life. Chit-chatting with random people on MDL is also helpful for me. 😊
Unless your spouse has lived in your home country and realized what some of the differences may be, I find it too demanding to ask your spouse to fill in all the blanks. That's why I believe in finding/searching for your own support systems (in plural) esp. when you move to a foreign country.
I love this drama, too. Loving the cinematography. That scene when she ran past him and the slow-mo of the falling snow...GORGEOUS! Took my breath away as I was wondering what she was going to do. And that look on his face? OMG! My heart! And yeah, she's definitely changed a lot compared to her younger, bubbly self. I'm a bit sad that there are only 2 ep left, but as long as they do it right, I'll still enjoy the drama he he he...
One thing I realized after having lived in this foreign country (that I now consider my home) for over 17+ years is that not many people are equipped with such a foresight of preparing the newcomer about many things that may be different from their home countries. In that aspect, having a support system like other expats may be helpful (like talking to Ji Hui in this drama).
Before I moved halfway across the world to be with my husband, I told him that he should be ready to guide me like a little child because I'd be in a completely new country, new language, new culture, new everything. That said, it would also be too hard on him if I relied on him in every aspect of my life, so I had to find my own support systems as well (as much and as quickly as I could), because no one person can be everything no matter how much they love you.
The wedding party invitation in ep. 4 reminds me of the first time I was invited by my husband's distant relative to her son's graduation party (from HS). In my own country it's just a simple ceremony of eating and wearing casual clothes, so I had NO idea that in my husband's country, it's more of a semi-formal event (they'd take photos with each couples/guests that came by). I felt underdressed and unprepared for the graduation party. Good thing my mom-in-law had prepared money and envelope and written our names on the card, too LOL!!!!!!