Yeah, it’s really weird how people are reducing her down to the romance. Other than not currently being so into…
Yes I agree with you, he needs to stop hiding the trut. It’s a HUGE problem. It’s not fair to cang cang or anyone for that matter, and tricky as his situation is I don’t think it’s enough of an excuse anymore.
Yeah, it’s really weird how people are reducing her down to the romance. Other than not currently being so into…
Agree — but the fault really falls at the feet of her father, master, and brother, honestly. They’re the ones who created this mess. But Xiao Huan is not helping, and I think he’s making things even more complicated for her by not being honest from the start, or at least coming clean at some point. He’s absolutely between a rock and a hard place, but the lack of honesty isn’t helping her at all.
And she is trying, but she’s also not taking responsibility in certain ways. I don’t even have a problem with Cang Cang herself — I just think she’s too caught up in her own feelings and slipping into self-pity when she can’t afford to. She’s clouded by her hurt, and nobody can control that but her… but again, Xiao Huan’s secrecy isn’t helping her gain any clarity.
But the lack of clarity being there in the first place is wholly due to her father. The core fault still lies with her family, who have been gaslighting her for her entire life. That’s a brutal situation for her, 💯 — but it’s also extremely tough on a romantic partner too. Especially for him, considering his position, his illness, and the wolves circling him waiting to take advantage the moment he slips.
So yeah, I strongly disagree with the way he’s handling the honesty piece too… but he isn’t the one at fault.
Kiss lovers, how long do you plan to complain about knowing that ML respects his real wife by not kissing (like…
I honestly think he gets criticized because he’s too good at romance. It’s counterintuitive, but he can build tension and communicate so much with just his eyes alone that people end up wanting more — and not getting it because he is classy — and they project that onto him as a flaw instead of a talent.
And then there’s the whole ‘it’s part of their job, just suck it up’ argument — which is honestly such a shallow take. That’s like telling anyone in any profession that sacrificing their boundaries or their family is just the price of success, and if you don’t like it, deal with the fallout. That’s not how real life works. Wanting an actor to abandon their values for your entertainment isn’t ‘professionalism’ — it’s entitlement. Perhaps dipping into obsession and delusion a bit too.
And let’s be clear: he has done plenty of kiss scenes across multiple dramas. Some are lighter, some are deeper, and many he’s done himself. The idea that he “avoids” intimacy is just misinformation. He keeps it simple and classy — and that’s allowed. Not every love story needs to spell everything out in order to land. Some want it to be more explicit, but he’s allowed to have limits, and directors, scripts, and production all play a massive part in what ends up on screen ALSO.
At the end of the day, actors are human beings with a public-facing job — not public property. This whole ‘it’s your job, give us what we want’ mindset isn’t valid criticism, it’s projection. People aren’t advocating for the story; they’re just demanding their own preferences be met. And that’s not how boundaries — or good storytelling — work.
I love historical dramas more than modern ones because they usually have no exaggerating passionate kiss or intimate…
Exactly. Those scenes look romantic on screen, but for actors they’re usually awkward and super technical. When someone can create good chemistry without relying on all that, it shows real skill — and honestly, I respect them more as a person because they actually value their marriage and family.
Also, the whole ‘it’s their job, just suck it up’ take is wild. That’s like telling anyone in literally any profession that sacrificing their family or boundaries is just part of success — and if you don’t like it, don’t complain. That’s such backward thinking. People are allowed to pursue their craft without betraying their values, and it absolutely doesn’t justify putting unfair pressure on them to conform. Actors aren’t public commodities; they’re professionals with a public persona. Some folks really need to get their head out of the clouds and back into reality.
And honestly, once a drama starts throwing in nonstop kiss/bed scenes, the tension naturally disappears most of the time anyway. Good romance isn’t about showing everything — it’s about pacing and the way it is built. Overshare, and the spark’s gone. At the end of it all, true romance is rooted in connection and communication, not in how much sexual tension or lust a show can cram into every episode. It’s the emotional journey and the mutual understanding that make a love story unforgettable.
Some people have blurred love and lust into the same category, and it shows — there’s a real confusion out there about the difference. One thing I love about dramas is how they still treat them as two separate things. I hope that never disappears, and that we continue to get many, MANY romance dramas that choose this more tasteful approach. Long comment sorry - I digress!
It's really that medicine or he's just lying to her?
Oh that’s not so bad. I mean it’s pretty insulting and humiliating for her obviously, but I thought it was permanent so whew!
All valid points, but this isn’t something she can avoid. Her dad is too much of a creep and the damage goes too deep — she has to face it. It’s going to hurt, absolutely. Her entire reality will come crashing down, but it’s going to happen regardless. Assuming she can’t handle the truth feels pretty condescending, and honestly it just keeps taking power away from her the same way the gaslighting has. She has to deal with it either way, since her father (and her brother and master too) have been manipulating her since day one.
She could avoid it before Xiao Huan entered the picture — her whole world was built to keep her from ever questioning the illusion. But now the cracks are showing. And through no fault of his, he’s simply the catalyst. With or without Xiao Huan, this is her reality to face. She can’t run from it anymore, and honestly, avoiding it at this stage would be completely irresponsible.
And if she genuinely can’t handle the truth, then she shouldn’t be anywhere near a leadership role — much less out in the martial world fighting for “justice” — because that level of myopic naïveté is dangerous. She can’t just sit in self-pity forever, even if it’s unfair and valid. If she really cares about her cause, she’ll find a way to face reality and fight appropriately.
And she is trying, but she’s also not taking responsibility in certain ways. I don’t even have a problem with Cang Cang herself — I just think she’s too caught up in her own feelings and slipping into self-pity when she can’t afford to. She’s clouded by her hurt, and nobody can control that but her… but again, Xiao Huan’s secrecy isn’t helping her gain any clarity.
But the lack of clarity being there in the first place is wholly due to her father. The core fault still lies with her family, who have been gaslighting her for her entire life. That’s a brutal situation for her, 💯 — but it’s also extremely tough on a romantic partner too. Especially for him, considering his position, his illness, and the wolves circling him waiting to take advantage the moment he slips.
So yeah, I strongly disagree with the way he’s handling the honesty piece too… but he isn’t the one at fault.
And then there’s the whole ‘it’s part of their job, just suck it up’ argument — which is honestly such a shallow take. That’s like telling anyone in any profession that sacrificing their boundaries or their family is just the price of success, and if you don’t like it, deal with the fallout. That’s not how real life works. Wanting an actor to abandon their values for your entertainment isn’t ‘professionalism’ — it’s entitlement. Perhaps dipping into obsession and delusion a bit too.
And let’s be clear: he has done plenty of kiss scenes across multiple dramas. Some are lighter, some are deeper, and many he’s done himself. The idea that he “avoids” intimacy is just misinformation. He keeps it simple and classy — and that’s allowed. Not every love story needs to spell everything out in order to land. Some want it to be more explicit, but he’s allowed to have limits, and directors, scripts, and production all play a massive part in what ends up on screen ALSO.
At the end of the day, actors are human beings with a public-facing job — not public property. This whole ‘it’s your job, give us what we want’ mindset isn’t valid criticism, it’s projection. People aren’t advocating for the story; they’re just demanding their own preferences be met. And that’s not how boundaries — or good storytelling — work.
Anyways, all to say — I agree with you!
Also, the whole ‘it’s their job, just suck it up’ take is wild. That’s like telling anyone in literally any profession that sacrificing their family or boundaries is just part of success — and if you don’t like it, don’t complain. That’s such backward thinking. People are allowed to pursue their craft without betraying their values, and it absolutely doesn’t justify putting unfair pressure on them to conform. Actors aren’t public commodities; they’re professionals with a public persona. Some folks really need to get their head out of the clouds and back into reality.
And honestly, once a drama starts throwing in nonstop kiss/bed scenes, the tension naturally disappears most of the time anyway. Good romance isn’t about showing everything — it’s about pacing and the way it is built. Overshare, and the spark’s gone. At the end of it all, true romance is rooted in connection and communication, not in how much sexual tension or lust a show can cram into every episode. It’s the emotional journey and the mutual understanding that make a love story unforgettable.
Some people have blurred love and lust into the same category, and it shows — there’s a real confusion out there about the difference. One thing I love about dramas is how they still treat them as two separate things. I hope that never disappears, and that we continue to get many, MANY romance dramas that choose this more tasteful approach. Long comment sorry - I digress!
All valid points, but this isn’t something she can avoid. Her dad is too much of a creep and the damage goes too deep — she has to face it. It’s going to hurt, absolutely. Her entire reality will come crashing down, but it’s going to happen regardless. Assuming she can’t handle the truth feels pretty condescending, and honestly it just keeps taking power away from her the same way the gaslighting has. She has to deal with it either way, since her father (and her brother and master too) have been manipulating her since day one.
She could avoid it before Xiao Huan entered the picture — her whole world was built to keep her from ever questioning the illusion. But now the cracks are showing. And through no fault of his, he’s simply the catalyst. With or without Xiao Huan, this is her reality to face. She can’t run from it anymore, and honestly, avoiding it at this stage would be completely irresponsible.
And if she genuinely can’t handle the truth, then she shouldn’t be anywhere near a leadership role — much less out in the martial world fighting for “justice” — because that level of myopic naïveté is dangerous. She can’t just sit in self-pity forever, even if it’s unfair and valid. If she really cares about her cause, she’ll find a way to face reality and fight appropriately.
im not saying its not hard on her, or that she isnt in a tough spot, but she does need to wake up
Xiao Huan said it well - she is in the inner palace now, this isnt the martial world