I can't watch dramas like this after Mina Chan😥 Liking an artist and going to a concert once in a while is totally fine, but extreme fangirling, buying endless merch, and making someone your whole world isn't healthy. It can create another Mina Chan - and even if it doesn't, I don't think obsession should be portrayed as something cute or aspirational.
Let's remove the ghosts and the curse entirely, because they actually distract from the real question.
Imagine this in real life.
You meet a woman three times.
The first two meetings are brief. Once, you pull her away from a car. Fine - that's an emergency.
The next day, you go to her house to return shirt. During that visit, you grab her hand and drag her into another room. A few minutes later, you grab her hand again and pull her somewhere else.
At this point, you've known her for less than a day, you've met only a handful of times, and you have no close relationship.
Would anyone honestly call that respectful behavior?
Notice that I didn't even mention the curse. I don't need it.
Whether she avoids touch because of trauma, illness, personal preference, religion, or no reason at all is irrelevant. You don't need to know why someone avoids physical contact to respect the fact that they do.
"She only said 'keep your distance' afterward."
People don't have to announce every boundary before others should avoid unnecessary physical contact. Respectful behavior is not grabbing first and asking questions later.
Saving someone in an emergency and repeatedly grabbing someone during ordinary conversations are completely different situations.
You can like Gang Uk. You can think he's brave, kind, and a good romantic lead. None of that changes the fact that these specific actions ignored another person's physical boundaries.
Friendly reminder: even if you're not studying to become a prosecutor, "don't grab strangers you've met three times unless it's an emergency" is a pretty good rule to remember. 😉
Also, the romance defense doesn't apply here. In Episodes 3–4 they are not a couple, not close, and barely know each other. He is a stranger who has met her a few times. Judge the action in that context, not through the lens of a future romance that hasn't happened yet.
What are you talking about? When she was falling off a cliff and he tried to grab her? What show are you actually…
Episode 3: In her house he grabbed her hand and dragged to closet. Minutes later near his house he grabbed her hand again and dragged few meters to the side of the house.
Episode 4 he grabbed her hand saying it's first day so he doesn't care if month countdown starts again.
Call it a "romance trope" all you want, but physically manhandling someone who is actively trying to maintain distance is objectively poor boundary enforcement.
The problem is that you’re analyzing this without the actual context of the scenes.
This isn't just me personally being uncomfortable with a fictional trope. The character herself is shown going to extreme lengths to avoid physical contact - she literally falls into the ocean rather than risk touching him because she is afraid of what her condition can do to other people. That is not a subtle hint; that is the character communicating that physical contact is a serious boundary for her.
Also, "she should tell him her boundaries" ignores what the audience is shown. She does tell him to keep distance afterward. Her actions already show fear and avoidance. A person doesn't need to give a formal verbal statement every single time before someone can understand that grabbing their hand and dragging them somewhere is unwanted.
And "people probably bump into her all the time" is not really comparable. Accidental contact is not the same as someone deliberately grabbing you and moving you. Intentional physical contact requires a different level of consideration.
The issue isn't that the drama has a romantic trope. Fiction can portray anything. The issue is that the show frames behavior as charming that, in this specific context, ignores the character's fear, condition, and clearly demonstrated desire for distance.
I freaked out and she probably even more as she have some "mystic illness" so she can't touch people because they will become also "mystic ill" that see ghosts. Also few minutes later she tells him to keep distance between him and her that means she clearly doesn't want to be touched and someone to be in less than 1 meter close.
"Childhood friend" isn't a magic pass to ignore personal boundaries. Grabbing and dragging someone without consent crosses a line regardless of past history - especially when the character's explicit condition means physical touch carries high stakes.
I think they're just normal human characters that you see all around you in everyday life? nothing to do with…
Married man who has 2 kids go to other woman making kid and leave his family for other woman?
Maybe it's average nowadays. Last 12 years i rarely go outdoors and even when I do, I don't interact with humans. I usually don't talk even with cassiers, as most of times there's self cassier terminal.
Imagine this in real life.
You meet a woman three times.
The first two meetings are brief. Once, you pull her away from a car. Fine - that's an emergency.
The next day, you go to her house to return shirt. During that visit, you grab her hand and drag her into another room. A few minutes later, you grab her hand again and pull her somewhere else.
At this point, you've known her for less than a day, you've met only a handful of times, and you have no close relationship.
Would anyone honestly call that respectful behavior?
Notice that I didn't even mention the curse. I don't need it.
Whether she avoids touch because of trauma, illness, personal preference, religion, or no reason at all is irrelevant. You don't need to know why someone avoids physical contact to respect the fact that they do.
"She only said 'keep your distance' afterward."
People don't have to announce every boundary before others should avoid unnecessary physical contact. Respectful behavior is not grabbing first and asking questions later.
Saving someone in an emergency and repeatedly grabbing someone during ordinary conversations are completely different situations.
You can like Gang Uk. You can think he's brave, kind, and a good romantic lead. None of that changes the fact that these specific actions ignored another person's physical boundaries.
Friendly reminder: even if you're not studying to become a prosecutor, "don't grab strangers you've met three times unless it's an emergency" is a pretty good rule to remember. 😉
Also, the romance defense doesn't apply here. In Episodes 3–4 they are not a couple, not close, and barely know each other. He is a stranger who has met her a few times. Judge the action in that context, not through the lens of a future romance that hasn't happened yet.
Episode 4 he grabbed her hand saying it's first day so he doesn't care if month countdown starts again.
Call it a "romance trope" all you want, but physically manhandling someone who is actively trying to maintain distance is objectively poor boundary enforcement.
This isn't just me personally being uncomfortable with a fictional trope. The character herself is shown going to extreme lengths to avoid physical contact - she literally falls into the ocean rather than risk touching him because she is afraid of what her condition can do to other people. That is not a subtle hint; that is the character communicating that physical contact is a serious boundary for her.
Also, "she should tell him her boundaries" ignores what the audience is shown. She does tell him to keep distance afterward. Her actions already show fear and avoidance. A person doesn't need to give a formal verbal statement every single time before someone can understand that grabbing their hand and dragging them somewhere is unwanted.
And "people probably bump into her all the time" is not really comparable. Accidental contact is not the same as someone deliberately grabbing you and moving you. Intentional physical contact requires a different level of consideration.
The issue isn't that the drama has a romantic trope. Fiction can portray anything. The issue is that the show frames behavior as charming that, in this specific context, ignores the character's fear, condition, and clearly demonstrated desire for distance.
ML is huge red flag.
On top of that, her touch has serious consequences in the story: it can make others "mystic ill" and see ghosts.
And regarding the timeline: the childhood friend reveal didn't happen until after he was already pulling and pushing her around uninvited.
I'm only on episode 3, but this already feels so unrealistic. IRL, he'd probably be prosecuted for assault.
Maybe it's average nowadays. Last 12 years i rarely go outdoors and even when I do, I don't interact with humans. I usually don't talk even with cassiers, as most of times there's self cassier terminal.
Are we moving to western genre, where every character is bad?
And I like her appearance more than fl.
When i was at school nobody knew anything about parents of others and didn't care.
I like that fl is kinda strange, great fit for such role.