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Glad you agree too!

I don't think it really was about age. They were just at different points in life. Dr Cha has done the family path, from getting pregnant, giving birth to raising kids and managing in-law relationships, she has completed that arc. It's now time for her to rebuild her forgotten self and while I would have really loved if she could have balanced that with Roy, in reality, she would have just resorted to putting herself second and doing the family/relationship path a second time and again losing herself, while being closer to the dream of having a true love.

As for Roy, those 11 years are 11 years of experience gap that you can't ignore. Yes, he's a great man, but he's only just started to discover himself and it seems as if he's had his first heartbreak, that being his family just wanting to reconnect with him in order to save their dying father.

Plus Dr Cha is already fulfilled in having both her children thriving. Her husband giving her her freedom and allowing her to keep the building was the beginning of her moving forward. Maybe in 3-5 years Dr Cha would allow herself to fall in love and have someone who would be her match in both life and extended family.

For me the ending stayed true to the character of Dr Cha as an empathetic and bright woman with so much love for family and life. Whilst the cheating is a big part of the drama, for me, it was all about her self-determination to fulfil all the things that she missed out on while starting her family. Although she clearly doesn't regret her family because she was genuinely happy, the moment now after being given a third chance at life is to be true to who she is, an adventurer with a penchant for helping those around her.

As for the cheating and the punishment, yeah sure, they were abhorrent people, but the reality is that these things happen and sometimes, as much as you can demonise the other woman or the husband, in truth, they were both weak. Weak people who needed someone else to validate themselves. And that's the bit where they have been humanised, because as much as you can say something is wrong, unless you are fulfilled deep inside, you can also find yourself making that mistake.

I do think that they repented enough and they were able to see how wrong they were. I also feel that In Ho did genuinely realise how much of an asshole he was and how much he took for granted his wife. He realised that he had lost a lot because he had no one now to celebrate with him.

In reality though sometimes forgiveness is all you can give because it's too hard on your heart and soul to be holding onto bloodied, broken glass...

Yeah but there was no guarantee that she would live and the baby would have definitely died. She had a form of aggressive cancer that spread so in terms of probability she would have certainly died.

Yeah that makes sense. Maybe he also couldn't be the man he could've been because his mother is so insufferable and dictates the household. In short, he just doesn't have the balls to fight for his family so that's probably why he sought another woman to make him feel like a man.

Definitely - to people who are "givers" it's natural to always want to give because you receive happiness that way. To pull back and to put yourself first is hard and unnatural.

Why do you think that? It feels too bittersweet.

It wasn't phrased like that, more so the implication that a divorce does not necessarily resolve Dr Cha's lack of self-determination and happiness as she has revolved her whole life around her children. That's why she says that she is for whatever decision she makes that will make her happy even if it is choosing to stay in the relationship. For real though, it's hard to say do this or do that especially when there is a family involved, and no matter how co-parenting goes, a broken family is still a broken family. This is the angle that her mum and friend is coming from, the impacts of a divorce on the family dynamic. They're not saying she's not justified, they're concerned about the aftermath.

She also made hints about knowing that it was her time, so whether she knew for sure, she didn't want to die at the hospital. At least she wants to live in a few moments of fantasy before passing away.

Exactly - the only thing that they can do is to advise strongly. It also depends on the notes that were taken which becomes part of the investigation.

You seem to have some reserved opinions. Divorce is not just a trend. It is an option for men and women to pursue based on their own personal situations.

I agree. She also has already decided not that she would go back on her word. She was just looking for a way to execute her plans. I also think that Dr Cha knows that her marriage is not entirely what other people see it as so knowing that from one act resulted in a marriage breakdown is embarrassing or even shameful. Plus who would have the face to show your mother that hey the family that I tried to create has broken down and be okay and not feel like a failure? Dr Cha seems to be only delaying the divorce until things settle.

That is Dr Cha's best asset - she has always been empathetic and understanding which brings her good luck during her times of hardship.

It shows the reality that even if you know your relationship has been dead for years, you wait hoping that the soil is enough to nourish it back to life, but that is only fantasy. Besides, if In Ho were to challenge her and drive her to the ground with divorce proceedings, how would she be able to financially afford that, and emotionally support the breakdown of her family? It's not easy for a mother to see that the home that she has created for her children is now destroyed and it's not something that she could have prevented. To me that is what the drama is showing, is the impacts of infidelity on family systems, and how hard it is for women to be the problem solvers of such problems.

Is it because the subject matter is about infidelity that the comedy doesn't work, or are you annoyed because infidelity is not a subject to joke about? For me, the comedy works to annoy viewers because infidelity is not a laughing matter and IH's actions are there to show that in reality, there are weak men like him who uses his only redeeming quality as being a comic or someone who knows how to make other people feel sorry for him, as a skill to be able to manipulate the situation to his favour.

For eg, the moment Dr Cha stood her ground he is no only able to be the aggressor so he pushes and pushes and when he faces a brick wall, he becomes a comic or makes himself look pitiful in order to trigger Dr Cha to surrender to him.

Did Inho always wanted to study art though?

I hate this trope.

She seems to be someone who has come from an unhappy family with conditional love so it is understandable that she has made herself in such perfect image, the aspirational girl who is smart, successful and has a loving relationship (at least on social media). Yet the reality is, the one mistake that she makes, maybe because she sees herself as a victim of her situation, her family's conditional love, and her first love cheating on her, she sticks to death with. So she relies on Dr Cha's past wrongs to propel herself as a victim so that there is reason for her to continue what she has already done, except the reality is different from her imagination, no matter how hard she fights as the situation is not something you just fight for to death even if it's wrong or justifiable.

I believe it's because he himself has no charisma and needs his wife, his children, his reputation and other objects to make himself look good because underneath it all, all he cares about is himself. And having two women, one who satisfies his desires, and another who is his societal pillar allows him to have the best of both worlds.

You have to consider the impact on the kids. Delaying the divorce does not necessarily mean that she will get back with him. She has already made up her mind; but in reality, she needs the help from her shitty husband to at least look after Jung Min while she looks after Irang. To displace the children as they are entering their adulthood after years of having a family is a great challenge. Family breakdowns and divorces are not easy to navigate and can actually impact you and your relationships and honestly to shift everything now whilst there are so many ongoing issues is hard. She is holding on by a thread so it is understandable.