John Smith

It does make a difference that you cried. I hope you were crying not because you were scolded, but because you felt bad realizing what you said was not nice. I did not go to kindergarten and was in the second grade at six, so I would have known better, but not sure what they teach or what you might have learned, so I cannot speak on that. You are anonymous and this is a niche site, so I do not think you have to worry about your future career. Without a full list of past wrongdoings, I find it hard to excuse some general past wrongdoings. Wrongdoing can be as trivial as putting the wrong plastic in the recycling bin or as terrible as well.. terrible stuff.

Finally you decide to open up about the way you have been treating others. It only took half a century. I hope she will be a better person and forgive you, and I hope you live to be 150 to give you the time to apologize to everyone else if it took you this long to start.

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It is a very complicated matter. It is probably where lawyers and public relations specialists earn their pay. Another point to consider is that we probably have all been bullies at some point in time, but that does not mean we are bullies for the rest of our lives does it? As it deals with the article, unless more people come out with public statements, evidence, proof, or he admits it, there is so much that is unknown. I do hope at the end of the day, it works out to where both parties can be satisfied with the outcome and that the public can accept it. If it raises awareness about bullying and changes are made, that would be great, but I will not hold my breath.

That is easier to say but harder to do. I say it is okay to discuss uncomfortable topics if you are willing to be respectful about it. Drama lovers are well known for being passionate and that probably includes not just dramas, but actors and events that surround dramas and actors. I think what can happen with discussions and comments about articles and events, is that they start off as being drama-related comments and morph into comments personally about the an event that has nothing to do with the article, or that it becomes purely issue-related and any sort of context about the article and event is lost or disconnected. If you know which discussions are about the article, about the actor, or about the subject, then it is much easier to find healthy discussions to participate in.

I agree. It is one of the reasons I got a subscription, because you never know when they will pop up.

Worst surprise birthday party ever? Were it not a scripted drama, that could have went wrong in about a dozen different ways.

This is a site for Asian drama lovers, and usually the news articles are those surrounding dramas and celebrities. I have to admit that the best dramas draw me into the story and I find myself emotionally invested in those comment sections. I can imagine where these articles on the site can appear like dramas with actors and the lines between reality and drama become a bit blurred. Would I be such a bad person if I came to this site because I loved dramas and my comments would made in an effort to see more dramas, and not necessarily made for the goodwill of the public? Most comments are moderate no matter which side they lean on. Very few are really outrageous. I feel comfortable saying that the reactions on the site are different versus anyone receiving a knock at the door and having this situation thrown in their laps.

It appears to be more complicated than that because how do you determine equality if we are all different. You could be equal in 99 aspects and differ in one. Who is making these decisions about equals? Is bullying strictly an active word where you check boxes and call someone's actions bullying by their intent? Or is a person still a bully if the intent is not there, but the other person sees their actions as bullying? If you bully someone but never apologize, are you still bullying them until you do? If someone is feeling bullied, but do not tell the bully, what are they supposed to do? What if seeking help and either not getting it or getting the wrong help causes more harm or has unintended consequences? I am beginning to think that since rocket science is based on science and math, it is easier to understand than bullying and how to deal with it. Plenty of rockets out there, but still struggling with bullying.

Without being there, almost everything secondhand should be categorized as "nothing is as it seems." I have noticed that even those that make comments critical of the actor here, few actually go as far as saying they should never get work again. With so few unknowns, readers have to weigh what they think they know, how they feel, and what they think should happen. If I am going off of the article and his statement, I would say mediation, joint statement, public acceptance or forgiveness, and move on. If it is a pattern of behavior, or if either/both parties are being deceptive, then it becomes so much messier for everyone. You really want these situations to get resolved in a way that is beneficial to everyone to lay a foundation for change in society, or at least offer some groundwork on how to deal with them in the future.

I do think you are the one that lacks perspective. Do you really think this is about one incident that happened in elementary school? Even if you tell yourself that are willing to believe that his statement has some truth to it, you should be able to tell that it was not about a fight when he was 10. This is about trying to appear right even when he admits he was wrong. It is about claiming innocence previously, then admitting some truth to the claims. It is about getting ahead of any future incidents that may arise. It is not about the victim as a victim, but about him as a victim.
Also, fighting (pushing, punching, kicking, assault) should not be considered normal or acceptable. Kids, teens, adults, to elderly. Yes, boys can fight, but it should never be justification for fighting itself.
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I would hope in the quality discussions that take place in the comment section, they could expand a reader's point of view. Obviously, the individual comments here will have no direct bearing on the parties in the article. Maybe a reader or commenter will be able to relate, or will feel compelled to make a difference, or at least ask more questions about how they see themselves, see others, or perceive the world around them. I think that possibility exists.

Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. I think the one thing that is pretty evident is that there is no "one type" of Asian drama lover. (I actually never expected to enjoy Asian dramas until I watched my first one.) From age, education, location, life experience, political/social leanings, it is all over the place. It is not surprising that the responses follow suit. Like you, I am not the biggest fan of these rumor and gossip news articles. I still read most of them nonetheless. Partly because I like to know that celebrities are human too, and partly because it generates some interesting responses.

I thought they liked each other when they were young. Then came the traumatic accident and she forgot him, but he remembers her. He kept her photo, and she became a good luck charm/guardian angel/motivation/first love. Back to the present and he gets called back and probably feels that no matter how she is now, the young FL is still in there somewhere. Plus she is beautiful, rich, and while stubborn, has qualities he obviously likes. She may be difficult, but if she wanted to, she could have gotten rid of him but she doesn't. I think they are drawn to each other, but each have issues they need to overcome to find their happy ending.

I never felt the drama dragged even though the romantic aspect is really slow to develop. I do wish for more couple stuff because he is charming and passionate, and she is gorgeous and passionate.

Whoa. I said closest. I honestly would not want to see a real romance in a drama unless it was a bio or slice of life story. I think we both are watching the drama, but it is clear we both expected and experience different things. I see romance and you do not, so inevitably we clash when it comes to the drama's assessment. I actually enjoy reading comments that differ (sometimes greatly) from my point of view. There could be a slight chance (like 0.01%) that I might not know it all and try my best to learn something. Maybe more than 0.01%, but the main point is that engaging in discussions about drama help me enjoy the drama more.

Did you take the time to apologize to those you fought or bullied? Was it immediate or did it take some time? You could offer firsthand insight if you are still in contact with them, and feel they would give truthful answers. You seem to have a cavalier attitude about it, but I am curious.

I think that this drama's main couple is probably the closest you will get to a realistic romance versus the unbelievable stuff you will see in those 24 episode Chinese romantic comedies. Would I like to see them in Dating In the Kitchen, Once We Get Married, or Make A Wish? Sure. Would I like to see this tagged with fluffy and steamy kisses? Sure. That is not what this drama is and, not what anyone should have expected. I do think that viewers of dramas get used to certain things, and when things do not happen at a certain time or in a certain way it can be aggravating. I have finished episode 24, and it is clear the main couple are working towards a happy ending. I also appreciate that there is no sudden change in attitude and personality that forces something that the drama seems to make clear both are not ready for. It is easy to fall in love and do all those cute lovebird things when you are in college and your homework is the biggest worry. Enjoying romance, let alone falling in love when you have personal, business, and family issues is not quite that easy.

I do not think bullying discriminates based on age. I also think being jealous does not mean you do not have the right call someone out on their behavior. I think one fact does not make a truth, and the truth does not always lead to justice.

Articles about rumors, controversy, incidents, statements, or misstatements make us want to immediately pick a side. True/false, yes/no, right/wrong, etc. I think we have to also ask ourselves "can both be true?" or "can both be wrong?" or perhaps "there was truth/deceit before, but is that still the case now?" At the end of the day, we probably just have to accept a truth rather than know the truth.