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Who's taking bets if the Allen Ren is going to die in his drama yet again? 🙃

The optimistic view would be that this was a breakthrough event for him and he now sees the ramifications. And now he behave more ethically in the future because his perspective has widened. Of course, need to see if the writers land this properly in the finale. My judgement on the drama will hinge a LOT on the finale tbh.

I think I might in the minority for liking this drama much MORE for allowing the ML to have 100% done wrong in the past, and it's not a misunderstanding or people simply not telling each other stuff and withholding info for not reason. I really dislike breakups in my dramas based on not speaking up and allowing dumb misunderstandings. Or just bowing to selfish friends or relatives.

It's not a reveal that oh, the FL should have trusted him and believed in him because he's a misunderstood deserving rich guy who works so hard. (cue the smallest violin)

It might sound odd to other viewers, but I appreciate that it's a real conflict based on real things that happened, and the corporate boss guy DID do wrong and he SHOULD feel bad, so he does.

I agree that she shouldn't at all feel she needs to beg for an apology.

I guess though if he's begging to be forgiven and thinks he can just apologize and move on, then does he truly understand the gravity of what he did?

Begging and pestering her could be seen as pressuring her to forgive him... saying that what he did is forgivable. It's the inverse of her telling him, no I'm not just going to shout at you and be mean about it. This isn't something you just get scolded over.

I could forgive the person if I believe they truly understand why they were wrong and have changed, wouldn't act that way again. People DO grow and change. But I'd need to deeply believe that.

fr I think I'd feel empathy for any of my exes who lost a parent. and if I dated someone for years then I probably CARED about their parents. So it's normal to go to a funeral, have some basic compassion.

OK so you are actually aware that romance costume dramas are only 1 segment of Chinese TV... right?! There are tons of male viewers of Chinese dramas and tons of shows that are male-centric. This is like thinking America only makes female-centered programming because Brigerton is popular on Netflix.

This company is definitely toxic so I feel like it'll be better in the long run for FL to work somewhere unaffiliated. tbh I'd like to see the ML resign and start fresh. He should have to find a new director position somewhere else and then bring her into the new company. The only justification of a 2 year kdrama separation that I'll accept! 🙃

Her attitude about being fired (the upfront way) actually plays well to me because I personally have known execs who are good friends out of the office (in "real life") but 1 has fired the other for standard business reasons. And they are still close friends years later. LMAO I know someone who twice fired a close friend. (twice because after firing them 7 years ago, hired them at a different job and then later fired them AGAIN 🫠).

The truth is, once you've been a professional for 10+ yrs some people find themselves able to consider this stuff Just Business. So, as long as it's not underhanded, then you don't need to bring the conflict into your personal life. Yes negative emotions happen and no one likes to be fired. But you try to process those emotions and separate it. Because getting your job cut is a thing that happens to a lot of workers. Her fighting to stay positive and not let it mess with her head too much and ruin a relationship is actually pretty healthy imo. Jobs are replaceable but people aren't.

It makes sense to me that FL was feeling optimistic that she'll look forward and figure her career out, but love is pretty great! That's why it hurts so much to see her take another blow here.

I think the key is demonstrating to the audience that he really did grow and change, so that he now seems like someone who you could trust with others' feelings.

Go Ahead. I Know I Love You. Fake It Till You Make It.

There are several dramas where I loved every second but I objectively I know it's because it's hitting my personal fav tropes and story beats - not because the drama is top tier. In fact I realize for other people it's probably just ok and many parts are skippable.

There is great storytelling art (10/10) and also just stuff that align with your biases. 🤷‍♀️ The real question is: what do we rate for? Why do it? If the rating system is intended to help others, we should try to be objective. If it's just for ourselves because we think we'll forget what we thought, then rate by just gut feelings.

Happy ending for the main couple. It's basically a story of 2 good people who care about each other but in a failing marriage. In the process of divorcing, they get pulled into family drama and start understanding each other better. It just feels very "real" and relatable. No OTT dramatics and scheming. Just regular people with regular problems, written and acted authentically.

one of my favorite but you have to be okay with slow burn couple that don't get together until the end.

Wen Yifan shows up in the actual HL novel but not in the drama.

TBH I think part of that is the Hidden Love interpretation of SY is... a little off-center. What I mean is, reading the novel of HL and TFF it all feels like the same guy when you read the parts where he is interacting with his friends and his sister. It's the drama that has a slightly different feel. So what to do with the adaptation that focuses on his character? Mimic the HL drama more precisely or make TFF novel the priority? Perhaps if they'd known for sure that they'd film TFF they would have casted SY differently in HL but who knows 🤔🤷‍♀️

Yes my sister married just this type of man. Calm, well groomed, mature, solid career. Empathetic and attuned to her needs. But conventionally attractive, he is not. 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn't say that he's easy-going and playful archetype. He's "hard mouth, soft heart". Guy has a super difficult personality - so difficult to get along with that all his friends & family don't even believe a girl is chasing him lol. In Hidden Love, 80% of his interactions with his sister and friends is being sharp tongued. Shutting them down, hanging up, and ditching them. 🤣 Though it's shown that he does care about his sister and has a soft moment when she is truly in distress.

Hidden Love shows that in everyone else's perspective, he's Like That. But just as when his sister truly crumbles, he softens - during a lot of FF his love interest is clearly not doing well. This activates his caretaking hidden side. Caring for his beloved softens him and we see a different side of him. But except for his behavior towards the FL, he's still the same arrogant, mouthy guy who doesn't even care to see his apartment burning. 🤷‍♀️