Do u even use instagram? Its not a thing u can do by accident it's a multi step process
People are downplaying the abuses taking place in the "porn" industry
The performers, most of whom are women, are drugged into states of artificial arousal and emotionally manipulated into performing acts that normally violate a person's boundaries and standards of propriety
The scenes might be staged, but the acts are real, as are their repercussions, both immediate and long-lasting
Probably wanted to post it for "close friends" and didn't click right..oof. Seems like a very obvious mistake,…
It's difficult to believe that the dissemination of this material was accidental. The excuse that it was meant to be shared privately with his "friends" doesn't make the material less immoral or offensive
"Imagine coming across a porn parody image of your workplace, most if not all people would forward either the image itself or a link to it just for 'shock value' or because they think it's funny"
The cultural normalization of misogyny has reached a point where people find humor in images of women being "raped to death" and share them with their co-workers. Yet we are demonized for saying, "that's not okay?"
Rape is no laughing matter. If you're free to laugh at women being raped, I'm free to laugh at you being insensitive fools
We’re not overreacting or being hasty with our judgment. We think poorly of others, because they give us no reason to think highly of them
Ask yourselves why you're okay with depraved, misogynistic "humor" in any context. It's your action that needs adjusting, not our reaction to it
You’re all defending "porn" like it’s the holy grail of entertainment. Newsflash: it’s not
"Porn" is almost always a pleasure palace for men and a dungeon for women, who bear the brunt of its gender inequalities. It’s not "misandry," "xenophobia," or "nazism" to take issue with that. It’s basic decency
If only he had accidently posted gay porn instead, he would've been hailed a hero.
Society begs men to conquer, violate, and assert their dominance over women's bodies. It’s hardly the stuff of legends to follow that script
Two men or two women finding pleasure in each other's company flips the script and makes society uncomfortable. It's a heroic act, a noble pursuit for the brave at heart
girl there is like zero trans representation in korean media so picking apart the *one* time a trans character…
"... there is like zero trans representation in korean media "
"Trans" identifying characters have been appearing more in media and finding a receptive audience among conservatives
Conservatives have discovered a new weapon in their arsenal: the "trans" card. They push gay or non-conforming individuals to adopt a "trans" identity, essentially shoving them back into the closet with a different outfit
Viewers shouldn't get worked up over the NSFW bits being toned down in this adaptation. Actors and actresses aren't live-action "porn" stars on demand to bump nasties for anyone's enjoyment
Let's keep the bedroom gymnastics where they belong: in the bedroom, behind closed doors
There are many sexual conversations and scenes in the novel. I wonder if they will reflect this in the series.…
"Straightness" isn't brave or taboo, it's a societal expectation so powerful that any deviation from it is treated as a taboo
"Straight" identifying people are following the script and taking the path of least resistance. They're members of the world's largest and longest-running cult. Governments, religious institutions, and society at large conspire together to recruit the young into this cult, instilling them with the compulsion to violate/be violated by the body of the opposite sex, breed conformity, and ensure a steady supply of laborers, taxpayers, and consumers to keep the engine of capitalism humming along
True bravery is two men or two women (ideally, two A-list celebrities of the same sex) locking lips and getting busy, on the big screen, for the homophobic majority to see. Now that takes serious balls, or ovaries
The girl who gets pregnant does so at age 16 (not 17) and events of this drama happen (initially) 20 years later…
"... the plots were like those of porn not actual porn"
Only someone who’s consumed enough porn to get a PhD in it could find similarities between this story and a pornographic one
If I'd had the power, I’d have been first in line to outlaw "straight" porn/sexual content, so don’t come at me with your "this is porn-like" conspiracy theories. This is as far from porn as you are from a functioning frontal lobe
Yeah but it does its best it might as well be weird as fuck. If these were straight characters noone would watch.
Most people are chugging down the boiling heap of "straight" garbage that's presented on a silver platter like it's the finest wine. Take away all the unhealthy dynamics and sexualized/pornographic scenes in "straight" media, and there'd be nothing left but a blank page and the cheap smell of body spray
The same people calling this gay story "weird" would be drooling over it if it were "straight"
"... actors in their 30s acting like real men in their 30s instead of 12-year-old naive babies, - they might curse when they are angry, they might smoke cigarettes, they might not be perfectly nice all the time, they kiss ..."
A man in his 30s can be a sweet, shy, baby-faced gentleman who only curses when he stubs his toe (or drops his ice cream cone), and refrains from puffing on cigarettes (or bothering women). At least in fiction
There's no shortage of jerks in real life, I don't need to see them in fiction. If you're eager to see jerks in action, step out of your house and take a stroll down any city street. You'll encounter more than your fair share of rude, inconsiderate men. Fictional men should be better, more upstanding examples of men
"... they kiss their girlfriends passionately for real and not stop frame - how refreshing ..."
"Kissing" on screen is an unrealistic, uncomfortable sham. They're not "kissing for real." Cameras are rolling, a director is barking orders, and a team of makeup artists is hovering nearby to appease your bizarre "straight" fetishes. Stopping the frame spares the actors and actresses, and protects the audience from being subjected to a repulsive display between men and women
"... (all new so called feminitst please don't watch this!) a story of a bad boy boyfriend who kidnapps his ex-girlfriend on her messed-up wedding day. Is that politically correct these days? No - do I love it? YES ..."
Men who engage in the occasional kidnapping spree should consider seeking therapy, or a one-way ticket to the nearest maximum security prison. Real feminists wouldn't endorse and romanticize kidnapping, nor should anyone else
I'm not required to give every actor or actress a participation trophy. This actor sometimes stands out above the rest, it's not a knock on anyone else's skills, man or woman. You're inferring misogyny where there isn't any, that's on you
and that why women would always choose the bear … just saying
Not all women, unhinged liberal women are oblivious to the danger of choosing a strange man over a bear. Their liberalism has dulled their survival instincts
Media is a powerful that dictates and gives lessons, not to a lot, but rather many young individuals early in…
"Media is a powerful that dictates and gives lessons ... and sets really unrealistic and many a times dangerous situations ..."
Are you going to sue Disney for making children believe a "kiss" can break a curse and mice can sew ball gowns? Or "straight" media in general for centuries of spoon-feeding its viewers rose-colored glasses? Happy BLs aren't the ones playing fast and loose with reality, it's a crowded playground out there
Don't confuse media for a villainous dictator or a sinister entity intent on always corrupting the minds of its viewers. The mind-altering potential of media is limited to those unable to differentiate between the fictional and the factual
It’s not always media’s job to be the nanny of society, wiping the drool off people's collective chins and keeping them from wandering into the land of delusion. People need to take responsibility for their thoughts and actions
"... has the potential to mess up someone's life"
Happy gay fiction is a sugary treat for the mind. It's not going to mess up anyone's life unless they forget there are other nutritious options
"Queer" media has long been dominated by tragedy and ambiguity. It's time for the scales to tip in favor of lighthearted romances, fluffy fun, and celebratory champagne flutes
"People need to understand and empathize the real problems and real situations of the characters"
Because gay lords know our real-life problems pale in comparison to the problems of fictional characters ...
"You'll be surprised to find many manly muscular partners to be dominating in person but submissive in bed"
There’s no instruction manual for how to be gay. One couple might have a feminine bottom and a masculine top, another might have a masculine bottom and a masculine top, another might have two flamboyant, versatile divas, etc. Accusing any arrangement of heteronormativity disregards the harmony or balance that exists in it
A feminine bottom/masculine top arrangement is a rejection of heteronormativity, presenting a relationship between two men that affirms a man's femininity and creates a new paradigm of what it means to be a "man." It's as irrational to claim that the arrangement is heteronormative as it would be to claim that a traffic light having a green light (go, active role) on top and a red light (stop, passive role) on bottom is heteronormative
"... where, if you replace the submissive person with a woman, you'd barely notice the difference ... two extremes of straight-washed fantasy and hideous reality ..."
Feminine, submissive men aren't "straight-washed" or less of a man. They're men comfortable expressing a side of themselves that you and society tell them not to
There's room for different kinds of men, dominant, submissive, or versatile. A submissive man is as much of a man as a dominant, burly lumberjack with tattoos and a bad attitude who chops down trees and eats nails for breakfast. The difference is the lumberjack would beat you up if you asked him to tidy up the living room
A relationship between a submissive, feminine man and a dominant, masculine man isn't a heteronormative "Mills & Boons romance," it's a homosexual romance that deconstructs gender roles and shows submissiveness isn't a trait restricted to women. The trait is found in women and men
"Straight" identifying people have rom-coms and cheesy endings, why can't we have GLs/BLs/gay stories and happily-ever-afters? Happy gay stories are "vital and important." They're a ray of sunshine in an otherwise stormy situation. Seeing ourselves on screen in healthy, loving relationships is a source of hope and affirmation in a society that dismisses or devalues our experiences
You're complaining about BLs/gay stories being too happy for you, you'd better start demanding that "straight" stories end in breakup, divorce, and financial ruin. That's the realism "straight" identifying people deal with
"... Does it have a happy ending? I will not dignify that with a response ..." "... Does it deal with these issues well? Urgh ..."
You enjoyed interviewing yourself, didn't you? Put it on your resume, it's not every day I see someone full of themselves and in love with the sound of their own voice
The performers, most of whom are women, are drugged into states of artificial arousal and emotionally manipulated into performing acts that normally violate a person's boundaries and standards of propriety
The scenes might be staged, but the acts are real, as are their repercussions, both immediate and long-lasting
The cultural normalization of misogyny has reached a point where people find humor in images of women being "raped to death" and share them with their co-workers. Yet we are demonized for saying, "that's not okay?"
Rape is no laughing matter. If you're free to laugh at women being raped, I'm free to laugh at you being insensitive fools
We’re not overreacting or being hasty with our judgment. We think poorly of others, because they give us no reason to think highly of them
Ask yourselves why you're okay with depraved, misogynistic "humor" in any context. It's your action that needs adjusting, not our reaction to it
You’re all defending "porn" like it’s the holy grail of entertainment. Newsflash: it’s not
"Porn" is almost always a pleasure palace for men and a dungeon for women, who bear the brunt of its gender inequalities. It’s not "misandry," "xenophobia," or "nazism" to take issue with that. It’s basic decency
Two men or two women finding pleasure in each other's company flips the script and makes society uncomfortable. It's a heroic act, a noble pursuit for the brave at heart
"Trans" identifying characters have been appearing more in media and finding a receptive audience among conservatives
Conservatives have discovered a new weapon in their arsenal: the "trans" card. They push gay or non-conforming individuals to adopt a "trans" identity, essentially shoving them back into the closet with a different outfit
Let's keep the bedroom gymnastics where they belong: in the bedroom, behind closed doors
"Straight" identifying people are following the script and taking the path of least resistance. They're members of the world's largest and longest-running cult. Governments, religious institutions, and society at large conspire together to recruit the young into this cult, instilling them with the compulsion to violate/be violated by the body of the opposite sex, breed conformity, and ensure a steady supply of laborers, taxpayers, and consumers to keep the engine of capitalism humming along
True bravery is two men or two women (ideally, two A-list celebrities of the same sex) locking lips and getting busy, on the big screen, for the homophobic majority to see. Now that takes serious balls, or ovaries
Only someone who’s consumed enough porn to get a PhD in it could find similarities between this story and a pornographic one
If I'd had the power, I’d have been first in line to outlaw "straight" porn/sexual content, so don’t come at me with your "this is porn-like" conspiracy theories. This is as far from porn as you are from a functioning frontal lobe
The same people calling this gay story "weird" would be drooling over it if it were "straight"
A man in his 30s can be a sweet, shy, baby-faced gentleman who only curses when he stubs his toe (or drops his ice cream cone), and refrains from puffing on cigarettes (or bothering women). At least in fiction
There's no shortage of jerks in real life, I don't need to see them in fiction. If you're eager to see jerks in action, step out of your house and take a stroll down any city street. You'll encounter more than your fair share of rude, inconsiderate men. Fictional men should be better, more upstanding examples of men
"... they kiss their girlfriends passionately for real and not stop frame - how refreshing ..."
"Kissing" on screen is an unrealistic, uncomfortable sham. They're not "kissing for real." Cameras are rolling, a director is barking orders, and a team of makeup artists is hovering nearby to appease your bizarre "straight" fetishes. Stopping the frame spares the actors and actresses, and protects the audience from being subjected to a repulsive display between men and women
"... (all new so called feminitst please don't watch this!) a story of a bad boy boyfriend who kidnapps his ex-girlfriend on her messed-up wedding day. Is that politically correct these days? No - do I love it? YES ..."
Men who engage in the occasional kidnapping spree should consider seeking therapy, or a one-way ticket to the nearest maximum security prison. Real feminists wouldn't endorse and romanticize kidnapping, nor should anyone else
I hated the review, only because I love to keep my brain cells intact
On the bright side, we can find common ground in our love for BLs despite our countries' irrational aversion to anything gay related
Are you going to sue Disney for making children believe a "kiss" can break a curse and mice can sew ball gowns? Or "straight" media in general for centuries of spoon-feeding its viewers rose-colored glasses? Happy BLs aren't the ones playing fast and loose with reality, it's a crowded playground out there
Don't confuse media for a villainous dictator or a sinister entity intent on always corrupting the minds of its viewers. The mind-altering potential of media is limited to those unable to differentiate between the fictional and the factual
It’s not always media’s job to be the nanny of society, wiping the drool off people's collective chins and keeping them from wandering into the land of delusion. People need to take responsibility for their thoughts and actions
"... has the potential to mess up someone's life"
Happy gay fiction is a sugary treat for the mind. It's not going to mess up anyone's life unless they forget there are other nutritious options
"Queer" media has long been dominated by tragedy and ambiguity. It's time for the scales to tip in favor of lighthearted romances, fluffy fun, and celebratory champagne flutes
"People need to understand and empathize the real problems and real situations of the characters"
Because gay lords know our real-life problems pale in comparison to the problems of fictional characters ...
"You'll be surprised to find many manly muscular partners to be dominating in person but submissive in bed"
There’s no instruction manual for how to be gay. One couple might have a feminine bottom and a masculine top, another might have a masculine bottom and a masculine top, another might have two flamboyant, versatile divas, etc. Accusing any arrangement of heteronormativity disregards the harmony or balance that exists in it
A feminine bottom/masculine top arrangement is a rejection of heteronormativity, presenting a relationship between two men that affirms a man's femininity and creates a new paradigm of what it means to be a "man." It's as irrational to claim that the arrangement is heteronormative as it would be to claim that a traffic light having a green light (go, active role) on top and a red light (stop, passive role) on bottom is heteronormative
Feminine, submissive men aren't "straight-washed" or less of a man. They're men comfortable expressing a side of themselves that you and society tell them not to
There's room for different kinds of men, dominant, submissive, or versatile. A submissive man is as much of a man as a dominant, burly lumberjack with tattoos and a bad attitude who chops down trees and eats nails for breakfast. The difference is the lumberjack would beat you up if you asked him to tidy up the living room
A relationship between a submissive, feminine man and a dominant, masculine man isn't a heteronormative "Mills & Boons romance," it's a homosexual romance that deconstructs gender roles and shows submissiveness isn't a trait restricted to women. The trait is found in women and men
"Straight" identifying people have rom-coms and cheesy endings, why can't we have GLs/BLs/gay stories and happily-ever-afters? Happy gay stories are "vital and important." They're a ray of sunshine in an otherwise stormy situation. Seeing ourselves on screen in healthy, loving relationships is a source of hope and affirmation in a society that dismisses or devalues our experiences
You're complaining about BLs/gay stories being too happy for you, you'd better start demanding that "straight" stories end in breakup, divorce, and financial ruin. That's the realism "straight" identifying people deal with
"... Does it have a happy ending?
I will not dignify that with a response ..."
"... Does it deal with these issues well?
Urgh ..."
You enjoyed interviewing yourself, didn't you? Put it on your resume, it's not every day I see someone full of themselves and in love with the sound of their own voice