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Agree with @JulesL 100%, his behavior is inconsistent and illogical. I also believe making a decision FOR someone without their input IS disrespectful. As to judging the character, isn’t that what we all do here? It is of course each viewers perspective that is all.

Exactly

A breath of fresh air and inspiration! Truly brave to actually create something new, lol

I think you had a thorough and well thought out explanation. I was pointing out that Hallmark productions would be the sugar coated candy fantasy options for those who couldn’t handle realism. It was tongue in cheek. I hope you understand I didn’t mean you were seeking this material. 🫶🏻

We can agree to disagree. I believe talking about the situation which they had already been doing and continuing to stick together is the realistic scenario and how human minds would work. This choice he made is atypical and not how the human mind works. It is therefore Fantasy but in cdramaland this behavior is supposed to show he is deeply in love with her. Does he respect her enough to let her make her own informed decisions? Obviously not. He knows better in his mind.

Completely agree. IMO the best stories and acting are realistic

Your commentaries are always spot on!

Exactly, I’ll protect you (the way that it suits me) whether you like it or not! Ridiculous! How could she forget all this later?

Sigh, Cdramas luv tragedy this is the way it is, stick to modern Cdrama romances and you will be happy. This is about overcoming adversity.

Lol

You have gone above and beyond in your explanation, lol! The short answer is that life is hard and cruel and innocents die all the time. Still happens today. Of course, you can opt to watch Hallmark or family rated productions if you choose.

Trope , I’m doing it for your own good. I’m trying to protect you so I behave like an A##hole to you. Don’t worry I’ll say I’m sorry later and be nice to you and you’ll forgive me. Cdramas love this toxic “masculine” behavior. Not very complementary to the women in these stories…. All is the way it should be in dramaland. Never changes, never new,

I agree with you, regardless of what is posted one can simply ignore what they say or block them. It takes the “fun” out of the provocation (if that is the intent). Responding in kind, just keeps it going. Free speech is just that, free to say anything even if it is nasty. This is within some behavior parameters e.g. no swearing or no threats. If MDL tries to chase these people down and chooses to delete their accounts that becomes censorship. That means the site becomes biased or is accused of bias and that could forever change how MDL is viewed including its relevance. Nothing is perfect and no one can have everything their way. Welcome to the real world.

Don’t they always? This is a cdrama after all

Also keep in mind in rl she would be even smaller. It isn’t a lie that being on TV/Film adds 10 pounds. Who knows what these women are doing to their bodies long term. The stress on your organs etc. …hope it’s worth it.

Bwahaha yep

Near the very end

The ML was once in love with Qiu Shui Yin if that is what you are asking. He remains duty bound and maybe still in love with her while he tries to save her child. This is what is written in the novel. He doesn’t actually realize he cares for FL until eight years have passed (while he is chasing down the elusive ingredients for a cure). In the book they never actually have any real romance. They do enjoy each other’s company when he returns about once a year bringing one of the ingredients for “the medicinal cure”. In actuality the FL didn’t think he would persevere in these searches. She was just trying to give him hope as the child’s illnesses are congenital from his premature birth and cannot be cured. Both the FL and ML pine away for their lost loves for years unable to truly move on from them. For me this is a bit much and stretches the bounds of reality. Of course, there is tragedy surrounding both of their first loves perhaps this keeps them unable to truly recognize their feelings for each other before, of course, it is too late. Tragedy tragedy tragedy.

Lol

You will find later he did not commit suicide. There is a reason he doesn’t tell anyone.