Sigh… Cang Juan… Loving and wanting Xiaoyao so much yet always holding back until he gets ahold of the world…
I have read the novel also and while she does say that that does not mean that her closeness to CX changed. It does not. That's why his betrayal sent her over the edge and caused her to commit suicide. She describes what CX did to her as being more painful than any form of torture she experienced because she never thought he could or would do something like that to her.
So no, in my opinion, him being her most important person does not change. It's just in the end she has other people in her heart and values them as well.
Sigh… Cang Juan… Loving and wanting Xiaoyao so much yet always holding back until he gets ahold of the world…
My personal take, feel free to disagree 😀 :
XY's love for XL does not stem from logic or reason so it's harder for her to draw lines with him. What I mean by that is, no matter how much she tries to fight the affection she has for him, at least in the novel, she always ends up losing.
As for not drawing the line, she does. XL does something in the novel to finally force XY to draw a line...she attempts to kill him but can't bring herself to and in the end just cuts off all ties which she later regrets.
I bring this up to say that honestly even if XL had kissed XY, while some things would have changed, many other things would not because of their fate. Her ending would have been the same as her mother's, heartache and death.
Sigh… Cang Juan… Loving and wanting Xiaoyao so much yet always holding back until he gets ahold of the world…
I do think that CX wanting what's best for XY and not wanting to limit her is a part of it. I agree that he also does not feel like he has the right to stop her from being with someone she loves.
But I didn't emphasis this same point with CX the way I did with Jing simply because CX holds more importance to XY than Jing does and he always has.
The two of them in the novel have been described as being super close and "viewing everyone else as outsiders". Even in the show, XY herself says that she would give up on Jing if he ever became CX enemy.
Since they are so close, he should have taken the chance to lay all his cards on the table including telling her about not feeling like he "had the right to stop her".
In my initial response I wasn't saying that CX should do everything to stop her from getting married but that he should have been honest with her about his feelings and then let her make the decision from there. That way at least he can live without regrets and not make grave mistakes.
Sorry, this is so long LOL. If you made it this far thanks 🤣
1. Why would Jing give Feng Long his blessing (although he was obviously reluctant) when he was planning on stealing…
Censorship. LOL
The Xiyan King in the novel is related to her by blood. That's her grandpa. Her mother was his daughter who he loved very much. When he sent her to war, he did not know that the events that occurred (her using the sun power which "killed" her) would happen. In the drama, although XY's mom isn't his daughter, she was a disciple of his wife who he loved a lot and he viewed her as his own.
With the Hoaling King, his love for XY's mom runs very deep. Also, he did a lot of really messed up things that led XY and Xuan to lose their parents and end up in the situation they were in. For instance, even though XY's mom cut off her finger to ask him to help her brothers in the war he refused and they died as a result. There's a couple of other things too. But yea, it's mainly guilt and loving XY's mom a lot which is turn lead him to love XY as if she were his own daughter.
1. Why would Jing give Feng Long his blessing (although he was obviously reluctant) when he was planning on stealing…
I try to keep an open mind when it comes to all the characters as they are all flawed and all do things that annoy me to no end.
I think the reason why some might be struggling with liking Jing though is because many people think that the hardships he is suffering could be easily solved if he grew a backbone or was willing to make more sacrifices.
And while I get that feeling because sometimes I feel that way (I go back and forth a lot between which characters annoy me tbh 🤣), as DramaAjumma pointed out a while back, XY is never willing to do the same for either Jing or XL in terms of making certain sacrifices yet she demands they do so in order to be with her and it's a bit...hypocritical.
1. Why would Jing give Feng Long his blessing (although he was obviously reluctant) when he was planning on stealing…
Many people will have different interpretations of the reason why but here is my take based on what I've read and watched so far in the show:
1. Because he really wanted to let XY go since he knew he did not have the right to covert her but in the end, he could not accept her being with someone other than him especially when he knew that she did not love that person and probably never would. So personally, I don't think he was initially planning on stealing FL's bride. I feel like these complicated feelings coupled with XL's "sudden" appearance and remembering XY's promise/the loophole allowed him to work with XL to steal XY away.
2. All the characters in this show have moments of weakness. That was XL's. You can see in that scene that for a moment he really considered "wandering around".
3. Character flaw meaning that this is one of Jing's negative characteristics. When it comes to his family matters, he always uses completely different approaches than when it comes to dealing with other things. It's explained more in the novel why he's like this but it's mainly because he wants to end the cycle of hatred in his family and feeling that taking/making certain actions will make things worse.
Sigh… Cang Juan… Loving and wanting Xiaoyao so much yet always holding back until he gets ahold of the world…
He gave his blessing for Jing and XY's wedding when he did not want them to get married. Despite their grandpa giving the okay, if he knew he could not accept her getting married to someone else, he should have just been upfront about that. Then when it's just them, he can explain to her why he can't accept that. There's a part in the novel where he tries to remind her of when she said she'd marry him but she doesn't remember. In that instance, he could have told her what she said and confessed. Xuan has had so many chances to confess to XY in the novel but chickened out every time. It's honestly ridiculous. He "lost" XY forever because he was never upfront about his feelings for her until it was too late.
Sigh… Cang Juan… Loving and wanting Xiaoyao so much yet always holding back until he gets ahold of the world…
I like Xuan but honestly I feel like he's .... a coward? (not sure if this is the correct word) when it comes to XY. Novel spoiler down below for my reasoning why.
I wish someone would make a long edit of all the couple-pair scenes. With just their scenes. For instance, all yaoxuan, yaojing, yaoliu, and yaofenglong. I might try to attempt it but no promises cause I've never made a video edit for a drama before 🙃
Can you guys remind me what chapter it is that XY slaps CX because of his war with GX aka Hoaling?
Lmao, I wish but that would be soo...unlikely... for so many reasons. Mainly GongGong's delusions. All roads lead to delusional GongGong. Messing up my potential yaoliujing.
Tbh, I've been super confused as to why people are acting like they'd be dating any of them in real life 🤣🤣…
I wasn't? I just stated my opinion just like you did. I'm not upset or offended or anything. This isn't that serious to me it's fiction. I just disagreed.
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So no, in my opinion, him being her most important person does not change. It's just in the end she has other people in her heart and values them as well.
XY's love for XL does not stem from logic or reason so it's harder for her to draw lines with him. What I mean by that is, no matter how much she tries to fight the affection she has for him, at least in the novel, she always ends up losing.
As for not drawing the line, she does. XL does something in the novel to finally force XY to draw a line...she attempts to kill him but can't bring herself to and in the end just cuts off all ties which she later regrets.
I bring this up to say that honestly even if XL had kissed XY, while some things would have changed, many other things would not because of their fate. Her ending would have been the same as her mother's, heartache and death.
But I didn't emphasis this same point with CX the way I did with Jing simply because CX holds more importance to XY than Jing does and he always has.
The two of them in the novel have been described as being super close and "viewing everyone else as outsiders". Even in the show, XY herself says that she would give up on Jing if he ever became CX enemy.
Since they are so close, he should have taken the chance to lay all his cards on the table including telling her about not feeling like he "had the right to stop her".
In my initial response I wasn't saying that CX should do everything to stop her from getting married but that he should have been honest with her about his feelings and then let her make the decision from there. That way at least he can live without regrets and not make grave mistakes.
Sorry, this is so long LOL. If you made it this far thanks 🤣
The Xiyan King in the novel is related to her by blood. That's her grandpa. Her mother was his daughter who he loved very much. When he sent her to war, he did not know that the events that occurred (her using the sun power which "killed" her) would happen. In the drama, although XY's mom isn't his daughter, she was a disciple of his wife who he loved a lot and he viewed her as his own.
With the Hoaling King, his love for XY's mom runs very deep. Also, he did a lot of really messed up things that led XY and Xuan to lose their parents and end up in the situation they were in. For instance, even though XY's mom cut off her finger to ask him to help her brothers in the war he refused and they died as a result. There's a couple of other things too. But yea, it's mainly guilt and loving XY's mom a lot which is turn lead him to love XY as if she were his own daughter.
I think the reason why some might be struggling with liking Jing though is because many people think that the hardships he is suffering could be easily solved if he grew a backbone or was willing to make more sacrifices.
And while I get that feeling because sometimes I feel that way (I go back and forth a lot between which characters annoy me tbh 🤣), as DramaAjumma pointed out a while back, XY is never willing to do the same for either Jing or XL in terms of making certain sacrifices yet she demands they do so in order to be with her and it's a bit...hypocritical.
1. Because he really wanted to let XY go since he knew he did not have the right to covert her but in the end, he could not accept her being with someone other than him especially when he knew that she did not love that person and probably never would. So personally, I don't think he was initially planning on stealing FL's bride. I feel like these complicated feelings coupled with XL's "sudden" appearance and remembering XY's promise/the loophole allowed him to work with XL to steal XY away.
2. All the characters in this show have moments of weakness. That was XL's. You can see in that scene that for a moment he really considered "wandering around".
3. Character flaw meaning that this is one of Jing's negative characteristics. When it comes to his family matters, he always uses completely different approaches than when it comes to dealing with other things. It's explained more in the novel why he's like this but it's mainly because he wants to end the cycle of hatred in his family and feeling that taking/making certain actions will make things worse.