Alila Nguyen

very true. she has the foresight and wisdom that comes with age. though not many old ppl have that wisdom unfortunately! I also like HaiKou’s grandfather, and I adored the actor. first time I saw him in reins of assassins, and I love his acting there!

oh, for sure, I’ve been in that position, rather living alone than being emotionally abused everyday!

I understand where you come from, but you don’t seem to get it’s ingrained in our cultures. in Asia, at least for Vietnamese and Chinese, we don’t have these sort of teachings (treat your children with love and respect to build a stronger, more resilient human being, and that your bad behaviours would cause great harm and damage the kids). our parents did the best that they can or know of. their shortcomings made them human, and as children, we need to understand why these shortcomings exist. you can hold them accountable or be accountable yourselves for your own actions. you can’t keep blaming your parents on their shortcomings for your future shortcomings. part of growing up is being matured enough to grow out of your parents shortcomings and be better yourself.

the flaws and insecurities of your younger self means you have rooms to grow, you don’t need to, shouldn’t feel like you need to be perfect since young age, nor just because your parents are different, meaning they love you less than the other parents love their children.

I hope you understand what I’m trying to get at. my mother was terrible to me, n I dislike her a lot when I was younger, but as I grew older, and other told me what happened, im more pitying my mother. I have never used the lack of motherly love as reasons for whatever. and it’s true I grew up with a grandmother like SiYi, she rarely as complimentary as SiYi’s grandma. point is part of how we grew up, should just be part of who we are, not all of who we are. Who we are is who we chose to be.

haha, thanks and nw! many of us will experience similar things, some got stronger, some, unfortunately, let it cloud their hearts. all we can do is be positive for each other 👍

I would say it slow down around 9, probably why the rating dropped, but it’s slow down only if we are only focusing on the youngsters, it’s not slow down for the adults, it’s a slice of life drama with a huge cast, not just our 6 youngsters. we get to learn the perspective of the adults, why they are the way they are, how they are stuck at the difficult time, n how each of them tries their best to get out.

the hair comment made me 🤣🤣🤣🤣

it’s doing well at the tv rating, but does not if you count online rating, discussion, etc. also just look at how BL’s promote MM and this, very different. no CP, no constant douyin to retain the heat and discussion. (not saying she did anything wrong, before anyone thinks I implied that), it’s a serious drama, targeting serious matured watchers, who might not appreciate douyin and CP selling

what’s CVB btw?

sometimes, a scumb4g of a mother will always be a scumb4g of a mother unfortunately 😔 the grandma is just such a good person. she moved me to tears when she said: I owe her for giving me such beautiful granddaughter. there’s need to be an appreciation post for the grandmother 😖

how I read that situation: she barely there for him and the family. no point in hanging on to someone who wants to go, best to let it go, your family will be happier

lol, sadly That’s just the Asian mom’s thing. they believed in “if you hate someone, gives sweets, if you love someone, gives sticks”, which means if you love someone, you would be a lot stricter, to teach them to be the right person. in regards to why her mom said she’s not beautiful, she’s right though, n it’s important to let XFH face the truth, as Chinese/asian ppl are very cruel in regard to this. again, coming from experience, I have ppl (old, young, a person I have never met, someone I’m buying food from for the first time), straight up, first thing they told me was: oh, you are so fat or why are you so fat (even a 5yo if u could believe that). but I guess like XFH, I’m so used to it, I’m ok with it. do I like it? no, but I won’t lose sleep over those comments. what’s important is the second part of that conversation: no matter what, my daughter is most beautiful. trust me, shes a lot better than my mother 🙄🙂

yes, SiYi does like the ML. it’s a given considering the setting. they are all best friends and grew up together. they have supported each other practically their whole lives, if they don’t have feeling, now That’s strange lol! (at least, I’ve been there, and I also crushed hard on our neighbours’s grandson 😅😅😅)

in BL’s words: top half is cut, bottom half is fold into a wig
https://x.com/lionheartbase/status/1899419378929807811

I think FH meant to toned down as she grows older. Also isn’t it the ppl who arrogant are the one most insecure?

Wow, you need to put this reply in the thread! It’s so detailed. When I read about what YueMi said about the debt being even, that stabbed my heart a bit! Knowing how much she loves TQ, she must feel utterly heartbroken for hurting him. Kinda wish that was in the drama, but I agree with you how the drama was better than the novel in so many ways. Actually to change the script that much, while able to come up with a story that bind the key elements of the book into it, I’m amazed at the result lol. What a great scriptwriter!

lol, it’s 2007, not 1990s. also you might not heard dental is quite cheap in Asia lol. and with high competitions, they tend to do price war and that also drive the price down. Also you think they go for regular check-up, lol, no, not really. many Asian probably put them in, n delay the in between check-up as much as they can lol. plus relationship pricing, if you know someone, and they owe you favours, that can also lower the cost. also considering the restaurant owner has a mobile phone, XWH has a flashy bike, FH has bracers, not sure what XC has, but it seems each of a family can afford 1 expensive item.

if you are a westerner, you might think it’s really expensive, but Asians do manage to save, they just eat less. Trust me, the number of times, I think someone is poor, yet they can afford items that I consider expensive and not going to buy is like daily occurrence 😅 if they need to make it happen, they will.

it’s not 6 characters, it’s 6 families. I think the scriptwriter said there are 18 lol

Uhm, I don’t think he has feelings for FH, he treated her well, and look out for her as a friend. romantic wise - we are not there yet. I would say atm, he’s infatuated with SiYi when he was young, and that crush carried into the current time. however, we also started to see to him, it’s kinda just a crush. he’s not really into that mindset, he’s too busy with his family and his situation to worry about love and what’s not. he sees protecting SiYi as his responsibility, and must that needed to be included in his future. for FH, he just naturally protects her. for SiYi, it’s a must - do it. as you can see, FH would think about what trouble SiYi and actually be there for her, think for her without SiYi appears in front of her. for XWH, if he sees it, he will act on it. but he does not give it much thoughts. like how FH would let SiYi handle her business, it’s a respect but also being thoughtful and know what SiYi feel in general about this thing. which circle back to FH being a sensitive and thoughtful girl. while XWH would want to intervene, because he feels like he needs to. he doesn’t think nor understand SiYi in that sort of depth

tbqh, I don’t see a lot of current hot guys in cdrama as hot, until they acted well in a role and charm me. otherwise, they are just a face that my brain don’t register as anything. it’s a pity that ppl don’t give this a chance before judging the actors. 😔

gosh, someone pls X that mom, pls! how can such a mother exist! making my blood boil! 🤯😑😑😑😑