Diva70

I get where you are coming from but I personally feel if its meant to be despite the odds it will happen. When people ask me about my relationship with my husband I tell them we were two imperfect people who were perfectly fit for each other. I just hope if DoHoe and Jeonge do part ways it will be amicable for both.

Waiting until the finale was driving me crazy so I have comprised a back up plan:
Saturday - The Eighth Sense
Sunday - Love In the Big City
Monday - The Time of Fever
Tuesday - Jazz For Two
Wednesday - Last Twilight
Thursday—- Yayyyyy

I agree but unfortunately I come from a generation and culture where therapy was viewed as a sign of weakness especially for males. You can imagine how happy I was when I attended a religious convention and one of the most prominent religious leaders addressed the subject of therapy in his message and affirmed its
benefits.

I have a question? What is the best way to deal with trauma? Is it best to bury it in the deepest parts of your soul and reconstruct a whole new reality like I feel Da Hoe does? Or is it best to acknowledge the pain and confront what transpired head on which is what I feel Jeong did? Is there some kind of middle ground that will allow both parties to coexist in a happy and emotionally healthy way or will the reflection of that past trauma prevent either one from ever coming from out of the darkness? I am anxious to see how the writers address the issue.

Each time I rewatch an episode I find something in it that touches my heart. It is so gratifying to see a series which dares to show the harsh reality of physical abuse. It is not romanticized or watered down. As stated from the start this was not unique to De Hoe dad. It was an accepted way of life. The fact that Yeonge ‘s mother was a pastor only amplifies its normalcy. I can directly relate to the resentment and hate DeHoe feels. I remember visiting a friend as a teenager and

watching her grandfather have her stretch out her hands and striking her hands with a wooden ruler until they bled. Wooden paddles were proudly used in the classrooms. Ironing cords and leather belts were used with no
apology. To see De Hoe
address the issue is a major step in the series. He asks the question how can one think hitting is justifable. There are still people who literally believe the biblical verse spare the rod and spoil the child is a direct command from God with no exceptions.
This is why Yeonge would not have called his parents. I understand both Do Hoe and Yeong. Hopefully by the end of the series the curse will be broken. When Do Hoe was talking to the mother my concern was for the child and what repercussion he might face when his father learns about the meeting . I know this is meant to be entertaining but I like how they have interwoven this issue into the storyline.

I agree. I decided to binge watch from the very beginning and for me it gave me clarity on alot of my questions. Frankly i had forgotten some key details from the first three or four episodes. I too am looking forward to next week. One thing I must do is see if the sountrack from this series is available. The music is awesome.

Yes I think this is why HH called Dohoe and said they needed to talk.

Two weeks ago I was enthralled with Love in the Big City. My new obsession is Let Free the Curse of Taekwondo. Loving the twists and turns. Cant believe next week is the conclusion.

Wow! We really are on the same wavelength. I was just thinking the very same thing. I watched ep 5 & 6 three times. Then I went back and rewatched ep 4. My discontent from last week was completely changed and I thought I wish they had released all episodes at once like Love In the Big City. Having two episodes a week has been a big plus but I understand and agree with your assessment.

Wow! You really laid your cards on the table. I appreciate and respect your candor. Personally I have viewed over a hundred bls within the past six years and there were many that were much worse than the ones you cite. I have watched each one listed above and all but one is on my rewatch list. That in no way makes your analysis any less valid. I too have had bls that I dropped after the second episode but apparently I was in the minority given the decent ratings. Take care.

I hate to admit it but I generally dislike bls with girls too. The best ones I can think of are Last Twilight and Semantic Error. The female characters in these series were very positive.

I am still enjoying this but I do wish they would give Samantha the chance to play other roles. She has been typecast and I just feel she has the talent to handle more mature roles.

I agree. There is something deeper going on with him. Yes, he has the great car, fancy clothes, a thriving business, a lawyer friend with benefits and a fancy apartment but the only time we really see him smile or seem happy is when he is with Hoe. I worked with a colleague once who said her first marriage looked perfect from the outside. She had all the material trappings of a perfect life but in reality she was miserable. It was only when she got the courage to leave all that behind that she was able to discover true love and happiness. I dont think Do Hoe has the kind of courage it would take. He was a coward ten years before and he seems to still be a coward. Maybe that’s what he means when he tells Yeong that he can’t be what he wants him to be.

It does remind me of To My Star and To My Star 2. While I enjoyed both and thought they were well made neither one made my rewatch list. I can only take so much pain and suffering. Lol. The jury is still out on this one. Next week will determine if it goes on my rewatch list. I actually like The Eighth Sense and Jazz for Two better.

Yes, I have a young relative who ended a long term relationship for that very reason. They were even engaged to be married but she said it had just become too exhausting. Relationships are hard under the best of circumstances but when it gets to the point where you find it becoming
overwhelming and just too much to handle I agree it time to pull the plug. I have already watched ep 5&6 three times and both Hoe and Yeong need to take a break. Hoe also needs to find the balls to break away from whatever hold Hyeon has on him. Theirs is clearly a toxic relationship. Unlike with yeong hoe
always looks drained and beaten down when with Hyeon .Its as if he is resigned to keeping Hyeon. It feels like Hyeon knows
something about
Hoe and uses
that to keep him . I would be popping pills and drinking whiskey too if that’s what I had to live with every day. Hyeon even says they are always together. That is not love.

You mention a key point…why would want sleep with the person that bullied you. It has been proven that unfortunately sometimes people who have been abused or bullied either end up being abusers or bullies themselves. Likewise sometimes they end up being with the same kind of people. This is what they are used to. It seems natural. Breaking the cycle of toxicity is not easy for some.

What a wonderful analysis. For me the measure of a really great series is when someone takes the time to articulate his/her viewpoints and to stay focused on the key elements and characters depicted. I personally enjoy reading the various perspectives. Thank you again.

You make some good points. I know people who came from a poor background. Now they are doing well. Their material things have become their comfort blanket. They want nothing to do with anything that reminds them of the times when they were without. It is like looking at a reflection of what they they fear the most. I really feel sorry for Yeong. He is trying so hard to forget the past that he has built this materialistic fortress . I think even his relationship with Ho is another part of his having to create the appearance of success. Not only does he have to have the house and the cars but he needs the perfect lover. It is all camouflage . Yes, Yeong is in need of some serious help. You dont take pills like that just because you are tired and overworked. With all these issues this could have easily been 12 episodes. Watch how he responds when the student tells him how he is trying to get accepted into the most prestigious academy. Yeong appears sincerely concerned and
visibly moved. His reaction feels personal. Again, this is so good on so many levels.

Very honest and realistic assessment. You cant fit a square peg in a round hole…at least not without doing some serious damage. Some people are just not meant to be together. Actually if they dont end up together I am okay so long as we dont get a horrific car accident or someone jumping off a building. People decide to go their separate ways with no rancor or bitter feelings. That would be an ok ending for me. I am just happy that at some point they were able to at least acknowledge their feelings for each other. That kiss outside the studio was on fire!

I love this so much I had to rewatch. It leaves me with only one question….Is their love strong enough to withstand the sacrifice?
It is clear to me that they cannot continue on the same track. Is there a middle ground that will insure lasting happiness. In a way this reminds me of the bl Love, Life on the Line and Where Your Eyes Linger. It also reminds me of myself. When my soulmate and I fell in love I had to make a life changing decision. Although we grew up in the same neighborhood our lives had gone in totally different directions. My circle consisted of high society, sororities, fraternities, potential doctors, executives, judges, fancy parties, cheese and wine. His circle
consisted of guys who worked at the steel mills, the post office and attended night college, beer and popcorn. I chose him . I gave up my lifestyle. Was it the right choice for me? Hell yes. I would do it all over again. Sometimes I still run into friends from the old days. I am not envious at all. I chose the path that was best for me and for him. Yeong knew Hoe felt uncomfortable at the dinner. The others were not being rude or unfriendly. They were just being themselves. If I like riding in a Benz and you are ok in an old beater does that make me a bad person. I dont think so. Yeong likes designer clothes. Hoe is blue jeans and tennis shoes. That may seem superficial to some but they should not be taken lightly. When we got engaged and started apartment hunting my then fiancé eagerly took me to the place he had selected. I would not get out the car. If I didnt like the outside or even the
surrounding area I knew I wouldnt like the inside. He didnt wince or even blink an eye. He just said ok let’s keep looking and took me to dinner. That is the kind of compromise that is needed for a healthy long lasting relationship. I dont know if Hoe and Yeong have reached that point or if they ever will. I look forward to next week. Like Love in the Big City I am excited to see how this ends.