Have just binge-watched first 10 episodes. I have to pause every time they accidentally trip-kiss to allow for my shoulders to release the cringe reaction. And yet, I continue to watch.
Thanks for the article and discussion. I've given it some thought and I've concluded that love is love...BUT....
These scenarios become immoral when one party abuses their position of trust to further their own romantic/sexual interest. It's the same for teacher-student, age gap storylines. Where one or both parties are children then it creeps into grooming territory.
This is where the "Go Ahead" couple lies. They are childhood friends, they never share a home or a parent but in pretending to be a family, ML has a certain amount of authority over FL. So while they are not siblings, it still feels icky. He's controlling and overly dependent on FL, which furthers ick factor. Personally, I don't like romanticising childhood sweethearts either for this reason.
Incest is icky because family is *supposed* to be a safe space, where you don't have to be afraid of coming to harm or subjected to unwanted romantic/sexual advances. Dysfunctional families exist though, both in reality and drama, where the family unit is NOT a safe space. The synopsis for "My brother loves me too much" sounds icky, he both abuses his position and shatters the poor girl's safe space.
Even where the relationship is between two consenting and informed adults, it would be prudent to keep it discreet, not just taboo and subject to external judgment, they cannot escape each other if the relationship breaks down. In the same vein as dating a good friend, it is difficult to return to the original relationship.
I feel sorry for those couples that independently find each other (as consenting adults) only to discover they are blood related, now that's a tragic story line!
The tragic part of "Kill me, heal me" was when Ri On said if Cha Do Yun had been a better brother, he wouldn't have to be. That was when the icky emotions (he's obsessed with her) flipped to sympathy.
Dramas are great for discussing these moral dilemmas and discovering where our own and each other's boundaries lie. I will continue to watch them.
When writing this article I actually did some research on what happened in real world. There is a case on step…
What about when older people marry their in-laws, making their married children step-siblings. Do the younger couple have to preface every introduction with "we got married first!!"? Is that still yuck?
Not true! The characters in Go Ahead are vehement about being a family. That's kind of the whole point of the…
My views on this is somewhere in between. I don't get the same sibling vibes between LX-LJJ as the more adopted sibling relationship between ZQ-LJJ. Here I agree with BlackBallon.
However, I do agree with Laura, that the story was trying to push the whole you don't need to be official to be family, so there was no need to make LX-LJJ a couple. Besides that, they had a whole load of other issues that were not healthy.
If my life was a drama, it'd be something like "Hello! Me" or "Twenty again", a middle-aged protagonist jaded by life looking to rekindle some passion, not romance, I mean purpose in life. Finding myself in awkward situations, out of my depth and an embarrassment to my children. But of course being drama land, I find that the world is actually a lot kinder than it seems and I help connect other jaded people find their passions! Happy ending!
The show would feature lots of convenience stores and street food. There'd probably be some quirky Halmeonis in it too.
(I love watching school and college dramas too because they are so far from my experience irl. I prefer the drama to stay in drama land.)
Great article. These acts of non-consent/aggression shouldn't be censored, they make the conflicts and absurdity of drama land, but yes, they should definitely be called out, and those that condone it (perp's supporter) should be called out too.
I started this straight from stumbling upon the first series. I normally don't like starting shows that have not completed airing yet. I couldn't resist. It's a good laugh!! I've watched an hour's worth on YouTube, about 4 or 5 episodes?
I assume I've not missed anything skipping the two "movies"?
Why is no one shedding light on the romance portion?Can you please be kind and tell me 1.How is the romance between…
I feel like the romance is secondary to the mystery plot.
1. The romance between the leads is sweet and respectful. Some people have commented them as 'slow burning' or 'zero chemistry. There is little sexual tension if that is what sort of chemistry they mean *shrugs* 2. Not reeeally 3. 25 4. Nope
They switch back. They don't show the returning face but chop in flashbacks for the umbrella scene. The assumption…
It's been a while since I watched it. This was my interpretation.
The Seo family spend some time reconciling after an operation to save Eun Jae using stem cells from KKJ. It's implied in the miracle story that this is when the switch back would likely occur; 1st switch- EJ saves KKJ in the accident, 2nd switch KKJ saves EJ from illness.
It's not explicit whether either of them hold immediate memory of the body swap. KKJ either retains or regains this memory and returns to Da Ran after allowing some time for Eun Jae to digest his losses.
Still not getting the ending, so did they never switch back? Not really feeling this drama Da Ran with Kyung Joon,…
They switch back. They don't show the returning face but chop in flashbacks for the umbrella scene. The assumption is that KKJ will age to look like Eun Jae.
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These scenarios become immoral when one party abuses their position of trust to further their own romantic/sexual interest. It's the same for teacher-student, age gap storylines. Where one or both parties are children then it creeps into grooming territory.
This is where the "Go Ahead" couple lies. They are childhood friends, they never share a home or a parent but in pretending to be a family, ML has a certain amount of authority over FL. So while they are not siblings, it still feels icky. He's controlling and overly dependent on FL, which furthers ick factor. Personally, I don't like romanticising childhood sweethearts either for this reason.
Incest is icky because family is *supposed* to be a safe space, where you don't have to be afraid of coming to harm or subjected to unwanted romantic/sexual advances. Dysfunctional families exist though, both in reality and drama, where the family unit is NOT a safe space. The synopsis for "My brother loves me too much" sounds icky, he both abuses his position and shatters the poor girl's safe space.
Even where the relationship is between two consenting and informed adults, it would be prudent to keep it discreet, not just taboo and subject to external judgment, they cannot escape each other if the relationship breaks down. In the same vein as dating a good friend, it is difficult to return to the original relationship.
I feel sorry for those couples that independently find each other (as consenting adults) only to discover they are blood related, now that's a tragic story line!
The tragic part of "Kill me, heal me" was when Ri On said if Cha Do Yun had been a better brother, he wouldn't have to be. That was when the icky emotions (he's obsessed with her) flipped to sympathy.
Dramas are great for discussing these moral dilemmas and discovering where our own and each other's boundaries lie. I will continue to watch them.
However, I do agree with Laura, that the story was trying to push the whole you don't need to be official to be family, so there was no need to make LX-LJJ a couple. Besides that, they had a whole load of other issues that were not healthy.
The show would feature lots of convenience stores and street food. There'd probably be some quirky Halmeonis in it too.
(I love watching school and college dramas too because they are so far from my experience irl. I prefer the drama to stay in drama land.)
Thanks for the fun article x
I assume I've not missed anything skipping the two "movies"?
1. The romance between the leads is sweet and respectful. Some people have commented them as 'slow burning' or 'zero chemistry. There is little sexual tension if that is what sort of chemistry they mean *shrugs*
2. Not reeeally
3. 25
4. Nope
:)
The Seo family spend some time reconciling after an operation to save Eun Jae using stem cells from KKJ. It's implied in the miracle story that this is when the switch back would likely occur; 1st switch- EJ saves KKJ in the accident, 2nd switch KKJ saves EJ from illness.
It's not explicit whether either of them hold immediate memory of the body swap. KKJ either retains or regains this memory and returns to Da Ran after allowing some time for Eun Jae to digest his losses.