I've watched several interviews with these guys. What personal issues about his life are they asking about, just…
Yeah...it sounds trite, but the life of a celebrity, especially an artist who is likely to be much more sensitive than the average person, is NOT always easy though it may seem to the world they have everything they could want. That's why I hope Sam and any of the other actors are being provided with ready access to counseling and other mental health services that can help so much. But then you've got the stigma surrounding mental health issues in Asian society in general and it becomes tough. If it were to get out that Sam was seeing a counselor or some-such, the press would go nuts about that. .ugh.
Why doesn't Sam just say "no comment?" All the "fanservice" physical stuff, most of which as far as I've seen…
It's not a part of actors' lives in the U.S. film industry except in the instances where actors' PR departments are the ones pushing the story to begin with for publicity. I never saw anything remotely like the fan service in the Asian/BL biz until I discovered BL was even a thing.
Hello for my part I truly tried to think about it, and to think about the way I feel. And I think that this scene…
I guess I'm weird...I LIKE being made to feel uncomfortable at times during plays, movies, series, television, books, whatever. The back and forth of emotions is what makes drama,, drama!
You can feel the emotions through the screen. That's what makes their kisses so great.
Oh, that. Yeah, a lot of people want to watch totally boring dramas during which no human behavior is exhibited that disturbs their comfort zone. And they don't want the rest of us seeing anything they don't approve of either.
It's these sorts of grey scenes that make me wish writers would do more about consent and not just leave it up…
What about all the people who DON'T feel violated at all and yet later are told they most certainly were, and why the hell don't they feel ashamed?
I was molested by a medical doctor when I was 13. Knew pretty much what was going down, while at the same time it seemed surreal. I was kind of like "oh, well I guess THIS is going to happen..." It seemed weird because the entire time this was happening, the guy just kept chatting about this and that, as if NOTHING was happening. So..what happened, happened. Nothing done was physically assaultive or injurious. I did not regret it. I was sort of glad it did happen. But most of all, I hardly thought about it at all after a few days had passed. I told no one, ,certainly not my parents. My mother would have had a stroke. lol
Inevitably, a few months later the dude was caught doing the same to another guy my age through some kind of sting operation and he was drummed out of the profession. I don't know if he did jail time. It was a long time ago, before it was considered the equivalent of mass murder to do such a thing. Don't get me wrong: the doctor was WAY out of line to do what he did, especially to a kid about 30 years younger than him. BUT I was in no way traumatized, I hardly thought about it again, I didn't have nightmares, or guilt feelings or end up raping boys myself. It just wasn't that big of a deal. I think that perspective was a healthy way for a young boy to process the incident. Much more so than to beat myself up over it, "blame" myself for it, or pretend to be marred for life when I wasn't.
When I hear or read the attitudes of people like you, I am very thankful you weren't around when I was 13 to make sure I knew how deeply violated I was and how I should suffer deeply over it.
I have to disagree, the scene was heavily romanticized. BL series are romance dramas... this show will almost…
Seriously, do you imagine yourself to have some kind of vote on what goes on in dramas? You don't like it, don't watch it and tell others not to watch it too. It's the idea that your type of commenter has some right to control what the rest of us see and hear that is most annoying. In Tonhon, when the mom made that comment, I rolled my eyes because it sounded so artificial and was plainly included for you and the rest of the PC crowd.
The biggest giveaway to your mindset is your use of the popular PC word "problematic." lol May be problematic for YOU but you are not everybody. You use it with the implication that things are either universally problematic or not, when instead they differ in that quality according to who is involved and who is evaluating.
I don't know if this is appropriate for the comments section but this whole episode discussion has made me think.…
Enjoyed your comment, cogently stated, though I completely disagree about the TT blowjob scene. If Type had not wanted it to proceed, it would not have. He's no weakling, and certainly not afraid to speak his mind. He was SEDUCED, which is not the same as being assaulted, despite many people saying just that for 20 years or more now. What Tharn was doing in kissing Types face and face and upper chest at first was very enticing and felt great...and Type allowed it to proceed. In my book, "allowing" if you are capable of "disallowing," is the same as consenting. God, sex and love would be so boring and mechanical if everyone had to keep saying "yes, it is OK if you do that next thing" over and over and over during foreplay and sexual intercourse or whatever one does.
With all these negativity, I’m afraid we’re gonna prevent a possible Season 3 from happening, which I really…
Are you kidding?!!! The production company and PR/mktg. departments of this show are LOVING all this drama in the comment sections! What could be better to stir up attention for the show and boost ratings? I'm sure there are a couple of paid commenters on this site who are paid to keep things interesting.
You really need to stop watching BLs. Or admit that you enjoy the very conflicts and behavior you rant against and just go with it. For god's sake, let it go. The romanticizing of rape is in your head. There was no rape here to begin with. There was an extremely popular daytime soap opera in the U.S. in the 80s in which a main plot point was that a young woman later fell in love with and married the very man who had raped her a couple years before. This show was #1 of all soaps, it made the covers of all national news magazines and around the world. The couple was beloved, as characters and as actors. You would have had a psychic breakdown.
This scene definitely made me uncomfortable (weirdly the hand over the mouth was the thing that really bothered…
I'm curious: Did your friend say "no" or otherwise vocally, verbally or physically indicate she was unwilling or uncomfortable? You don't provide much detail. If she went along with the proceedings as they took place, without any objection of any kind, how was her partner to know she was not into it? I guess if she lay there like a rag doll, that would be an indication. Did she do that?
I have two daughters, now grown. When they were teens we talked about this sort of thing. We agreed that girls are not meek, weak, delicate little things: if they are uncomfortable or just not into a situation, it is their right and responsibility to say or do something to make their feelings known, STRONGLY SO if necessary.
I was molested by a medical doctor when I was 13. Knew pretty much what was going down, while at the same time it seemed surreal. I was kind of like "oh, well I guess THIS is going to happen..." It seemed weird because the entire time this was happening, the guy just kept chatting about this and that, as if NOTHING was happening. So..what happened, happened. Nothing done was physically assaultive or injurious. I did not regret it. I was sort of glad it did happen. But most of all, I hardly thought about it at all after a few days had passed. I told no one, ,certainly not my parents. My mother would have had a stroke. lol
Inevitably, a few months later the dude was caught doing the same to another guy my age through some kind of sting operation and he was drummed out of the profession. I don't know if he did jail time. It was a long time ago, before it was considered the equivalent of mass murder to do such a thing. Don't get me wrong: the doctor was WAY out of line to do what he did, especially to a kid about 30 years younger than him. BUT I was in no way traumatized, I hardly thought about it again, I didn't have nightmares, or guilt feelings or end up raping boys myself. It just wasn't that big of a deal. I think that perspective was a healthy way for a young boy to process the incident. Much more so than to beat myself up over it, "blame" myself for it, or pretend to be marred for life when I wasn't.
When I hear or read the attitudes of people like you, I am very thankful you weren't around when I was 13 to make sure I knew how deeply violated I was and how I should suffer deeply over it.
The biggest giveaway to your mindset is your use of the popular PC word "problematic." lol May be problematic for YOU but you are not everybody. You use it with the implication that things are either universally problematic or not, when instead they differ in that quality according to who is involved and who is evaluating.
I have two daughters, now grown. When they were teens we talked about this sort of thing. We agreed that girls are not meek, weak, delicate little things: if they are uncomfortable or just not into a situation, it is their right and responsibility to say or do something to make their feelings known, STRONGLY SO if necessary.