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Promise sounds like they promised to get married or something. The conversation where she asks him to give her a class was the most off-hand convo and then she adds him back on WeChat like she's doing him a favour. She was in the room when the other girl asked for coaching and acted like she didn't care. You know what? Maybe she doesn't care and it's everyone else (plus Yan) blowing things out of proportion. That could be it.

just kinda? hella toxic.

What did I miss? Why are Nanfeng and Zhi acting like Yan did something wrong when she's the one who blocked him? Should that explanation not come first?

Thanks. I was ready to drop it.

Dammit

At what episode does a rock drop on Mamman? Felt sorry for her at first but she's starting to get on my nerves.

Her character is an airhead though.

At what point does the FL get her shit together because she thinks she is smart but she's moving with so much naivety and immaturity and it's pissing me off.

Those vampires slow af. Or maybe everything slows down when Joss is onscreen.

The FL is so playful. Love her.

Oh my bad. I thought the reason you could respond to comments on this site was to engage others. You know, like you did with the original comment you replied to.

Honestly you're the only one I have seen making this comparison. Nobody else seems to be assed about it. Faifa's niceness is his red flag and they made it plenty clear that he's problematic in his own way and there are plenty comments pointing it out as well. So this your angle is coming off as projection to me.

Was going after the uncle and getting into a fight with him foolish? Yes. Because he could have gotten badly hurt. Am I glad he did it? Hell to the yeah.

This is so well said. Romance is great but it's not a fix-all. I think a lot of people have fallen into that drama trope of once the leads get together all their problems disappear and expecting that Yifan getting with Sang Yan would automatically fix her life and don't get why she doesn't do it. Babe is fighting for her life. Sorry to Sang Yan.

This is a fantastic comment. Atp I thought all the adaptation did was butcher the novel given the comments from others who read it. Nice to know they made the story better in a lot of ways.

I see the word "simp", I block. It's the law now.

I love the sensitivity with which the writer handled the SA conversation Yifan had with Sang Yan. The drama has done a fantastic job with the subject.

It just struck me that that bastard was the reason Yifan had to give up dance. Proud of teen Yifan for standing up for herself and reporting to the police.

"...and when she returns, most of her trauma will be resolved as if she received strength from the Buddha"

But she's not back yet. The drama hasn't show what happens after yet.

"But now, she knows exactly what happened six years ago and how much he suffered because of it."

In what episode does she find out exactly how much he suffered? I must have missed it. Because I'm under the impression that while she has probably realised he remained in love with her, she is still in the dark about the extent of his heartbreak.

The director this, the screenwriter that pls shush. if at this point you don't know a novel and an adaptation are completely different animals I don't know what to tell you. stop thinking of adaptations as an extension of or copy of your fave book. it's not.

The best part of this drama for me is that it shows that falling in love does not heal trauma. It's not some magic wand. Am I mad at Wen Yifan? Yes. Do I empathise with and understand her? Lord yes. Do I feel bad for Sang Yan? Yes. Whose fault is this whole mess? The sexual assaulter and Wen Yifan's family. Those are the people to blame.

Some people never open up about sexual assault/rape. Some people take 40 years. Some take 2 years. Some take 2 days. Some take hours. Any woman who has experienced sexual assault will tell you that there is an element of self-blame that takes a long time to overcome, if you do. In Yifan's case that self-blame was compounded by her family also blaming her. It's internalised. She sees herself as the problem. And the only way she knows to fix things is to remove herself. So to make sure Sang Yan does not get hurt she thinks leaving is the only option.

It's easy to put all your sympathies with Sang Yan because you're watching the drama and seeing his POV. Yifan does not have that luxury. She doesn't know how much he suffered and how much that man loves her. Much in the same way Sang Yan did not know everything she went through all those years. What makes him a great character though is that he doesn't blame her. That's invaluable.

As an adult, the FL should do whatever the hell she needs to to protect herself and the ones she loves from her sexual assaulter.

You said they didn't interrupt because "Dad was allowing her speak and express herself to Yan" and I'm pointing out that they didn't interrupt because they were shocked. Correlation does not imply causation here. (I do agree though that the doctor shouldn't have interrupted. It would have been better to let her read him for filth and get it off her chest. Not like it'd have gotten through to him. That man is deaf to anything but his ego. Which is why I'm also not too mad the doctor stepped in.)