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Generally, if you rest, you let the dishes pile up and you don't clean it. Ha Ra saying 'Let's do it later' is a tactic used by many a spouse to make their partner do the work they don't want to do. Washing the dishes, doing the laundry etc. Because they know their partner can't wait, so instead of helping, they make an excuse so the partner does it anyway and they get to throw in a 'I was going to anyway' to make it seem like they have some semblance of generosity. - I'm guilty of doing this too.

Exactly. It comes down to personality. Ha Ra is an unyielding personality who fell in love with Eun Beom a person who has a generous personality. Opposites attract, after all. If Ha Ra had been with someone just like her, they would be fighting constantly.

This is why I understand Eun Beom. I've seen this kind of problem in marriages a lot, and what the writer has done is flipped the gender.

I had a client once. She did all household chores and child rearing because her husband would be exactly like Ha Ra. Make excuses, put other things first and then let it all be, because in his mind, it all gets done anyway. Spoiler alert: she was the one who was doing it all, even while having a full time job. Every time she brought it up with him, they would have HUGE fights over simple things that didn't matter because no matter what, HE HAD TO WIN. He loved her like crazy, she loved him too, but he just had to win because to him, it was almost like a game. Ultimately, she started choosing her battles because even if she was right, it was exhausting. He was never exhausted by fighting. It was invigorating for him, but it drained her.

As the years continued, she started accommodating him more and more so they could fight less and less. It was peaceful. She did all the work. He lived ignorantly and happily thinking that if she needed help, she'll tell him. They watched the movies he wanted to watch but never the movies she wanted to watch - Because, and I kid you not, he would act like Ha Ra. They spent more time with his friends, while he didn't join her for her meet ups with her friends. She became less of herself everyday. Going home was exhausting. Living in that marriage where she did the work of two people yet was unable to have simple comforts was exhausting.

So, because she was unhappy, she asked for a divorce. The guy flipped. Said he never saw it coming. He said he'll change, but he didn't understand what he ever did wrong. He refused to grant the divorce. She was adamant. He got the parents involved. They went to couples therapy. But he never understood that it wasn't just one thing. He didn't understand mental load no matter how many times she explained it. She was suffocating in this marriage. She needed an out NOW.

So, she cheated. She got caught. He granted her a divorce after the ugliest year of fights between them.

A year after that, he realised after living by himself and having custody of their children half the time how he knew nothing about his kids and about her. He realised how small he made her feel by taking up the space and how he needed to compromise. That winning is not a thing in marriage.

They are currently living happily together with their two kids. But they are still legally divorced and they don't plan to get married again.

He realised that having the legally binding document caused him to start taking her for granted, and if they are not married, he won't fall into that trap once again. The fact that she could leave anytime, that nothing was binding her to him, made him realise that he needed to step up and do his part to keep her in this relationship. Now they share their chores 50/50. He looks after the kids just as much as she does. He takes care of them frequently so she can prioritize her career. It's a complete change from how he used to be. He grew up and stopped acting spoiled.

This is not what happens in all cases. Most men rarely understand where they go wrong.

I have to say, out of all the reasons Kdramas have given us regarding the same plot, this is the most down-to-earth accurate reason I have ever seen.

Because it's real!!! This is the reality of marriage. Especially in Asian countries.

Eun Beom is a catalyst for what women go through once they're married.

I was thinking the same thing. If he was an abuser, she could have used it at the beginning to get sole custody. The court would have granted it pretty quickly since most judges side with mothers unless they are proven to be unfit. The fact that they used it as a last resort means something for sure.

Actually, we know nothing about the case regarding the fracture. Did he shove her, she fell and fractured her wrist because of how she broke her fall? Were they physically fighting at the time? If so, who started the fight? Was she attacking him at the time and was this self defense or vice versa? Without knowing the particulars, you can't call him an abuser. To qualify as an abuser you have to show consistent behaviour of neglect and/or violence.

Besides, abandonment is considered child abuse.

So, by law, the mother abused her child by abandoning the child. While the father hasn't abused the child at all. He has never hit the child. In fact, the child is happy and healthy in the father's care. There has been no evidence to prove otherwise.

One could argue that giving custody to the mother, who is a flight risk, is opening the child to being abandoned once again.

As a lawyer, her job is to fight for the best interest of her client. It really doesn't matter what she thinks of him.

This is such a great GRAB-THE-POPCORN-IT'S -STARTING kind of drama.

I think you're right. My suspicion is that he's obsessed with Chi Yeol.

The person who murdered the student is not the same person who overheard the conversation. If it was, they would have shown the face. It's the typical kdrama distraction.

I actually think she's not sneaky, but ignorant. The thing is, she's rich, but she holds no value in money and other items. Things like clothes, cars, her apartment, the artwork she likes were given to her, so she doesn't know the true value of hard earned money. As a result, it's easy for her to pass along things she has bought to others because to her, money means nothing. If it did mean something, she would understand how it makes people who don't have money feel when someone shows off ignorantly how unimportant it is. - I know it's hard to believe, but I've seen people like this. The more you don't ask for financial help, the more they want to gift it to you because they think you're a good person who is not friends with you just to get money out of them.

They are basically giving you something that is worthless to them. But they won't hold it over your head either, for the same reason. It's a sign of extreme priviledge.

Was watching ten episodes of tension, unadulterated yearning and barely concealed chemistry worth it?

Why, yes; yes it was.

I hope you do. It's not for everyone, but if you like the subtle nuances of life, you will like this.

The directing and acting in this series is phenomenal.

Every nuanced subtlety is as loud as a gong. Their emotions are palpable and the classicism depicted is undeniable.

I'm honestly really enjoying this drama.

Slice of Life with a lot of everyday awkwardness.

RIP Uncle Mafia. You grew on me.

Honestly... Way more entertaining than I thought it would be.

Yes, it's the highest rated drama that has comedy (as minor it may be), but not the highest rated comedy drama. Had the tag 'romance' been added simply because one of the princes fell in love during the course of the drama, it would also be the highest in the romance genre as well, even though the storyline takes up 3 episodes.

Similarly, Alchemy of Souls is primarily a fantasy drama that is inspired BY Korean history, clothing, houses etc., so to classify it as historical makes no sense either.

Basically, sometimes the genres that are tagged don't fit.

I saw that. I put the article through google translate and it says the drama is a 'historical drama with a black comedy tone'. - So the tone of a dark comedy is being used to tell the story of a historical drama.

Dramas are multiple genres, that's fine. It's just weird for a drama to be classified as primarily comedy when there was barely any, and it is clearly a historical political drama.

If the MDL classification goes by the most primary genre it fits, it should be:

1. Historical
2. Political
3. Drama
4. Comedy

Unfortunately, this list has shown that MDL is faulty in its classification based on primary use of genre.