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Replying to LykeItRuff Mar 23, 2022
I would agree, but what are you gonna do when it is so baked into the culture as it seems to be in Japan. And…
I don't know why you are acting the way you are, but I'm done with you. YOU are acting very arrogantly and missed COMPLETELY the point I was trying to make. But you know what? I don't give a shit anymore, because it's not worth it. Talk about not taking bullshit kindly.
Good. Bye.
Replying to LykeItRuff Mar 21, 2022
I would agree, but what are you gonna do when it is so baked into the culture as it seems to be in Japan. And…
Ok, I'm confused now. Why are you getting so pissed off? I'm not sure why you're taking my comments this way - you seem pissed off at my saying that research (and anecdotal stories) are out there about how bad domestic violence and child abuse has been (and to some extent still is in the US.) I'm honestly not sure why you're saying that that is making jabs at you. It isn't, actually.
If you don't have personal experience with severe domestic violence, then GREAT! I'm honestly grateful for that, because getting abused is horrible and I don't wish it on anyone. But the fact that you seem to be taking this whole thing very personally is weird to me. I thought we were having a conversation, a back and forth, but all of a sudden it took a turn that I'm confused about.
Here's my point #1: you originally made some strong statements about Japanese culture and society, and I countered, without actually totally disagreeing with you, that this country ALSO has had a serious history of domestic violence and child abuse. Misogyny and intimate violence happens everywhere, all over the world. You said it was "baked into the culture" and I would caution you not to decide something for an entire culture based on a tv show or two, or even ten. Because it's everywhere, even if you don't see it. Does domestic violence happen there? Yes. Does it happen in other countries? Yes. Does it happen here? Yes. Who cares if it's the same exact scenario or not? Violence is violence, abuse is abuse - who gives a shit if it's a sword or a belt or a fist? J*sus. The impact is the same. Women have been expected to be housewives and often get the brunt of familial expectations in this country not that long ago as well, and still in some circles here. That was the point of my earlier comment.

Point #2 Do I know if this SPECIFIC incident ever happened in the US, like with swords, etc? No, of course not. But have women ever been forced to do things they didn't want to do because of an abusive and misogynist husband (which includes groveling and pleading and begging)? YES!! I don't even know why this is a question.
It's not "assertions" for me - it's having lived in this world for long enough to hear and read about what goes on sometimes behind closed doors (and having had a little firsthand experience as well as working for six years as a social worker as well as studying it some in college.)

Which brings me to my last point: You said you disagreed that violence against children here is not as extreme, and I disagreed with you. You yourself said that you might be wrong and that "I'd have to do a lot of research to find out." I was simply affirming that there is research out there that could help you come to a conclusion and you got pissed off and told me it was my job. No, it's not. I'm not going to provide research for you - it's actually NOT my job to do your work for you. There's lots of information out there about this topic, but I'm not Googling it for you.
Replying to Nauriya Mar 21, 2022
In EP#10 QW brother in hospital is wearing 13 de marzo t-shirt, a fucking 330 euro t-shirt. and their father worked…
In the trailer for the next episodes, Lu Xun is wearing a Young King Young Boss sweatsuit, which is his own clothing line (Z.Tao) :-)
Replying to Last Empress Mar 21, 2022
so after their break up he never spoke to her again until the car accident where he saved her by getting hit by…
Please put these comments under a spoiler tag - some of us haven't gotten this far yet.
Replying to LykeItRuff Mar 21, 2022
I would agree, but what are you gonna do when it is so baked into the culture as it seems to be in Japan. And…
I would say it wasn't very long ago that women here were largely relegated to subservient housewife roles, and even now it still continues in some households, like I said before. The severity of violence was largely the same, and I think it's been well-researched and that research is very accessible. And that's just violence against women. When it came to violence against children, that was just as prevalent and severe here (and again, the research is very accessible.) (Not to mention I have heard a lot of harrowing stories myself from friends and acquaintances so it's not just anecdotal either.)
And domestic violence can cause a parent to stand by while other members of the family are harmed, for reasons such as fear and shock/numbness.
(I would recommend that you put your comment under a spoiler tag and I will as well.)
Replying to Popcxqueen Mar 21, 2022
Because many of us still like him.
You should already know the answer to this - there's both no definitive answer and lots of answers why someone is drawn to another person, whether it's in real life or on a screen (or in your earbuds or speakers.)
Replying to LykeItRuff Mar 21, 2022
Being an ignorant American, I had never heard of GreeeN until now but I'm glad I have. I enjoyed this film very…
Your comments about Suda are 🔥🔥🔥🧨 and completely spot on. Have you made this comment into a review as well?
Replying to LykeItRuff Mar 21, 2022
I would agree, but what are you gonna do when it is so baked into the culture as it seems to be in Japan. And…
I hear you. As another American though, it wasn’t so long ago here that that was also the norm (and still is in some households.) It’s not like this in every family in Japan, and I think that education and advocacy the world over has its benefits.
Replying to GoodRick Mar 21, 2022
Should I watch this? Is this any good? Seems to have a very bad rating on here for K-drama standards.
Some of us are really liking it so far, but many others aren't.
Replying to UncreativeName Mar 20, 2022
I can only describe this show as "really confused." I think I'm going to watch it through to the end since I've…
"but in reality a lot of the stuff must be cold, boring, uninteresting science that comes out as recommendations"...hmm, don't tell that to the people working for The Weather Channel (or any similar organization in any country) where they're using some of the newest technology to predict and analyze weather and climate patterns that literally kill people (and everything else that lives on the planet.) Hardly cold, boring and uninteresting science, for those who study it and love it and depend on it for their livelihoods.
Replying to Sophia Mar 20, 2022
Yeah I dropped it back at episode 7 or so
I'm curious why you're still here commenting if you dropped it on episode 7?
Replying to XXI Mar 20, 2022
We shouldn't be surprised by his shameless behavior, but it irritates me seeing him talk to her & wanting advice.…
I have personally witnessed a conversation exactly like this (my best friend's ex) and let me tell you, it is awkward and uncomfortable and unfortunately not out of the realm of possibility of actually happening.
Replying to Its haarssh Mar 18, 2022
I think i know the reason why they just showing bromance cause maybe the director is not good in romance genre…
You should cite your sources before saying something like this here. We should all start to do better with spreading rumors without having a credible source to back it up.
Replying to oNbody Mar 17, 2022
How did the ML get this main role? He is more like an annoying side character, his acting makes me really confuzed.…
In a 42-episode drama, it should be expected that immature characters would improve and grow between episode 6 and 42....and yes, his character improves a lot. Also, Z.Tao is actually a great actor, imo, as well as a superstar idol, so he nails this kind of role. (There are other issues with this drama, like editing and production however.)
Replying to Sterba Mar 17, 2022
She is into 2ML till episode 20-25 i think i dont ve ry remember it the drama is good but without watching the…
This is a spoiler, please put a spoiler tag on it, thanks
Replying to Tom Mar 16, 2022
Still loving this. The complication in regards to marriage was needed, because it speaks to how the main couple…
I agree!
Replying to ciudaddedios Mar 15, 2022
Don't understand the hate on this drama, it's perhaps, if not the best, one of the best currently airing. It shows…
I'm really liking it so far as well!!