I agree with many parts about this but Jae Eon know sthat she is not the type to be in a casual sex relationship.…
I thinks we are losing each other is that even if it’s a misunderstanding you can’t show up to people’s homes without an invitation or without asking first. That is inappropriate and invasive. Whether you are a friend or boyfriend, whether you are in love or you are fighting. Even if she randomly disappeared he before he had already seen her with potato boy before he went to his Aunts house so he already she was okay.
She clearly wanted space from him and whether if her reason for wanting that space was valid or not he needs to respect her space until she’s ready to talk to him.
Jae Eon knows what he is doing because he confronts every guy she is interested in and wants them to feel threatened. He is very intentional with his approaches.
If he has reasons he keeps people from knowing about his family, Nabi also has her reasons too. She was clearly unhappy with him there and uncomfortable with him there. I don’t blame her as he clearly crossed a line.
I agree with many parts about this but Jae Eon know sthat she is not the type to be in a casual sex relationship.…
Similar to your initial comment you have not said anything I disagree with and I like that you analyze small details in a scene and take away symbolisms and messages from it. Here is a part where we differ- I think Jae Eon doesn't respect people's boundaries and forces himself in places he is not invited. He knows when someone is pushing him away and although at times he respects the person's decision, he doesnt remain consistent and always end up placing himself in positions where he makes Nabi uncomfortable.
I'll start with his first two attempts to kiss her which she rejects Then after they kissed she started to avoid him and while I agree with you that she jumped to conclusions and distanced herself without communicating with him. It doesnt excuse his Jealous behavior in attempting to get in between her budding relationship with the hoobae.
Whether you agree or disagree with the reason someone is attempting to avoid you, that doesnt matter. All that matter is that she doesnt want him around her and he needs to respect that. She has the right to choose who she want in her life and who she doesnt want.
Then she escapes to a different city to clear her head and be away from the drama for her own mental health. Admittedly she has mad a ton of bad decisions around Jae Eon while I agree that she should've communicated with him and confirmed whether he had a girlfriend... It still doesnt dismiss his intrusion in her time away from him.
The class group trip he has every right to be part of however her personal home is crossing a boundary. If I were in her shoes and my former Fbuddy came to visit me at my aunt's house without an invitation or heads up I would be panicking. Luckily the Aunt is understanding and Nabi didn't need to explain who Jae Eon was.
Jae Eon himself values his privacy especially when it comes to his own family he doesnt share many details. Nabi herself has never forced herself into Jae Eon's life like he does in hers. Even when she falsely assumes he has moved on her reaction was to give him space and distance. His reaction is to get in between who ever she she moves on with and interrupt it.
Another thing is that I think these characters very much know what they are doing even when they act like they dont.
Nabi knew he was a player and knew that it would never be able to work out between her and Jae Eon but she still wanted to try and maybe hoped it was different with her. I can even go as far as that she knows that she has awful tastes in guys and jumps into romantic entanglements with men that end up hurting her one way or another. This might be something connected to her growing up watching her mother's relationships with men.
Her ex bf cheated (On the same day she meets Jae Eon and is instantly interested) The hoobae used her as back up (Who she starts talking to/dating the same week she started ignoring Jae Eon after their kiss) Jae Eon ended things once he realized they had gotten so close that she tried to block him from getting punched.
Jae Eon knows that women stay attached to him even after he ends things. Just as he knows the rumors about him and just as he knew that Nabi liked him alot more than an F buddy. He just assumed wasn't going to care and move on like he has always been able to. The girl with got a tattoo of a butterfly Although she apologized the girl's brother was upset because she was still texting Jae Eon even when she had a fiancé. Even in the cafe when they met you could still see that she still had feelings.
He is too experienced with women not to know the effect he has on the women he messes around with. He is not a bad person in the least because I feel like every person in this drama (except maybe Sol) has a great amount of selfishness. Especially Nabi herself.
A good topic. Waiting for Love ft Marriage and Divorce Recap. It's a recap Right? I wanted to write it's recap…
It’s not a recap it’s basically similar to this article so I think you will still be able to do a recap since I only focus on specific characters of the drama
I found that a lot of viewers have the same opinion on the show and relationship as you do :) For me watching…
I agree with many parts about this but Jae Eon know sthat she is not the type to be in a casual sex relationship. He convinced her or more like wore her down into one. It doesn’t make her a victim because she went into it fully knowing how he is as a person. However it’s important to point out that she resisted and he knew she was resisting and even attempted to sabotage her resistance.
He also has a pattern of getting with women who remain obsessed with him after the relationship. 1. The girl at the club with the tattoo 2. The girl with the butterfly lighter 3. The girl with the brother who went to punch him at the campus
Also he was the one who ended it with Nabi and suggested they become friends again and when she moved on to someone else, he also attempted to come in between that.
He intentionally makes it hard for the girl. She ran away to a different town and he followed her.
She is not a child she should fully cut it off and threatens a restraining order if she has to. However she is still attracted to him and is (indecisive) struggling to cut him out which in turn results in her hurting Potato boy.
I literally went through almost the same thing when I was in college. The guy was also a year younger than me,…
Thank you so much for sharing this, I also have similar experiences with dating a guy like the male lead. At that age it is not fair to you to take on on the responsibility of dealing with someone’s trauma while you are still growing and cognitively developing on your own.
I am happy you were able to separate yourself from that toxic situation and from how mature you sound, it seems that you grew from it.
I love that the writers show Nabi and Jae Eom as people who dont make the best decisions which is fitting for a person whose prefrontal correct is still developing.
I enjoyed your article. I also think many of the reasons you listed as 'warning signs/issues/toxic behaviors'…
I love this!! I don’t approve of the relationship but I am obsessed with the show and I love Park Jae Eon because I know many Korean guys like him in real life but you never actually see them in dramas.
I don’t think you deserved to be criticized for your own preferences on enjoying a non conventional male lead or couple. We are all raised differently so it makes sense for people to have different opinions and I think you are justified in that.
I hope there will be more Male Leads like him in the future since he represent a flawed human who is still developing and growing.
Personally I am rooting for Potato boy because I like boring sweet and no drama in my relationships. Both she and Park Jae Eon need some therapy before they should seriously date people. But I would love to watch a drama of two damaged and toxic people in a relationship going through life. Ala “We fell in love in a hopeless place” or Joker and Harley Quinn way . It would be exciting to see.
From 8 episodes and even from earlier I think she is the "bad" one. Although some of it is induced because of…
She definitely ignores others advise to stay away from him, she even ignores her own better judgement.
But I think every time she cut him off she was justified. Especially when he was the one that ended their fbuddy relationship after his fist fight with his ex fling’s brother.
oh Please... Yaeh he is a typical male bastard. Doesn't konw what he really wants, but he wants EVERYTHING.Lost…
I don’t disagree with you that she is not a victim in the relationship but to say he is just doesn’t know what he wants is dismissing his behavior as an adult. When she distances herself he intrudes on her space and her life. Going as far as going to her Aunt’s house without an invitation. He lacks knowledge in boundaries.
That being said, I would love to read an article focusing on her toxic traits because she definitely has plenty
Whether you are a friend or boyfriend, whether you are in love or you are fighting.
Even if she randomly disappeared he before he had already seen her with potato boy before he went to his Aunts house so he already she was okay.
She clearly wanted space from him and whether if her reason for wanting that space was valid or not he needs to respect her space until she’s ready to talk to him.
Jae Eon knows what he is doing because he confronts every guy she is interested in and wants them to feel threatened. He is very intentional with his approaches.
If he has reasons he keeps people from knowing about his family, Nabi also has her reasons too. She was clearly unhappy with him there and uncomfortable with him there. I don’t blame her as he clearly crossed a line.
Here is a part where we differ-
I think Jae Eon doesn't respect people's boundaries and forces himself in places he is not invited. He knows when someone is pushing him away and although at times he respects the person's decision, he doesnt remain consistent and always end up placing himself in positions where he makes Nabi uncomfortable.
I'll start with his first two attempts to kiss her which she rejects
Then after they kissed she started to avoid him and while I agree with you that she jumped to conclusions and distanced herself without communicating with him. It doesnt excuse his Jealous behavior in attempting to get in between her budding relationship with the hoobae.
Whether you agree or disagree with the reason someone is attempting to avoid you, that doesnt matter. All that matter is that she doesnt want him around her and he needs to respect that. She has the right to choose who she want in her life and who she doesnt want.
Then she escapes to a different city to clear her head and be away from the drama for her own mental health. Admittedly she has mad a ton of bad decisions around Jae Eon while I agree that she should've communicated with him and confirmed whether he had a girlfriend... It still doesnt dismiss his intrusion in her time away from him.
The class group trip he has every right to be part of however her personal home is crossing a boundary. If I were in her shoes and my former Fbuddy came to visit me at my aunt's house without an invitation or heads up I would be panicking. Luckily the Aunt is understanding and Nabi didn't need to explain who Jae Eon was.
Jae Eon himself values his privacy especially when it comes to his own family he doesnt share many details. Nabi herself has never forced herself into Jae Eon's life like he does in hers. Even when she falsely assumes he has moved on her reaction was to give him space and distance. His reaction is to get in between who ever she she moves on with and interrupt it.
Another thing is that I think these characters very much know what they are doing even when they act like they dont.
Nabi knew he was a player and knew that it would never be able to work out between her and Jae Eon but she still wanted to try and maybe hoped it was different with her. I can even go as far as that she knows that she has awful tastes in guys and jumps into romantic entanglements with men that end up hurting her one way or another. This might be something connected to her growing up watching her mother's relationships with men.
Her ex bf cheated (On the same day she meets Jae Eon and is instantly interested)
The hoobae used her as back up (Who she starts talking to/dating the same week she started ignoring Jae Eon after their kiss)
Jae Eon ended things once he realized they had gotten so close that she tried to block him from getting punched.
Jae Eon knows that women stay attached to him even after he ends things. Just as he knows the rumors about him and just as he knew that Nabi liked him alot more than an F buddy. He just assumed wasn't going to care and move on like he has always been able to.
The girl with got a tattoo of a butterfly
Although she apologized the girl's brother was upset because she was still texting Jae Eon even when she had a fiancé. Even in the cafe when they met you could still see that she still had feelings.
He is too experienced with women not to know the effect he has on the women he messes around with. He is not a bad person in the least because I feel like every person in this drama (except maybe Sol) has a great amount of selfishness. Especially Nabi herself.
It doesn’t make her a victim because she went into it fully knowing how he is as a person.
However it’s important to point out that she resisted and he knew she was resisting and even attempted to sabotage her resistance.
He also has a pattern of getting with women who remain obsessed with him after the relationship.
1. The girl at the club with the tattoo
2. The girl with the butterfly lighter
3. The girl with the brother who went to punch him at the campus
Also he was the one who ended it with Nabi and suggested they become friends again and when she moved on to someone else, he also attempted to come in between that.
He intentionally makes it hard for the girl. She ran away to a different town and he followed her.
She is not a child she should fully cut it off and threatens a restraining order if she has to. However she is still attracted to him and is (indecisive) struggling to cut him out which in turn results in her hurting Potato boy.
It’s a whole mess.
I am happy you were able to separate yourself from that toxic situation and from how mature you sound, it seems that you grew from it.
I love that the writers show Nabi and Jae Eom as people who dont make the best decisions which is fitting for a person whose prefrontal correct is still developing.
I don’t think you deserved to be criticized for your own preferences on enjoying a non conventional male lead or couple. We are all raised differently so it makes sense for people to have different opinions and I think you are justified in that.
I hope there will be more Male Leads like him in the future since he represent a flawed human who is still developing and growing.
Personally I am rooting for Potato boy because I like boring sweet and no drama in my relationships. Both she and Park Jae Eon need some therapy before they should seriously date people.
But I would love to watch a drama of two damaged and toxic people in a relationship going through life. Ala “We fell in love in a hopeless place” or Joker and Harley Quinn way . It would be exciting to see.
But I think every time she cut him off she was justified. Especially when he was the one that ended their fbuddy relationship after his fist fight with his ex fling’s brother.
When she distances herself he intrudes on her space and her life. Going as far as going to her Aunt’s house without an invitation. He lacks knowledge in boundaries.
That being said, I would love to read an article focusing on her toxic traits because she definitely has plenty