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Hi, how nice to see you commenting on this article too 🥰 I really do not rememer that character from AKO at all, but then I dropped it for some reason too (I do not know why, it just did not fitt my mood). Funny you should mention the lead in SWDBS, I write about that in part 2 of consent that focuses on K-dramas but I talk about it from a deciet point of view not so much a punch line. But the use of the LGBTQ communinity that way is deffenetly problematic and should probably be talked about more but it feels more like a common trope in western shows than asian ones I can only think of 2 (of wich I havre only seen one) amoung the dramas/movies I have watched.

I really liked how real the portrayal in Mad for each other was, and was conflicted about hen the ML crossdressed, it did guive Samantha more screen time but did feel a bit like a joke (same with the cop in SWDBS), but looking at both shows as a whole they did rather feel progressive than opressive in my moderatly trained eye.

Any way thank you for reading and sharing your thaughts!

Sure, I just saw it, and yes it was long it may take a while for me to read it and reply, if It takes more than a week feel free to send me a reminder though 😊

Thank you for your thoughts I think it is a fan culture thing and hopefully not something they mean litterly but I honestly do not know. I still love the tropes, I ll admitt that but see problems with watching them without awareness I am so happy to see several people writing that ths article raised their awareness so one step at a time I guess...

Great, I hope you will like it🥳

Aww, thank you Kie, you are the one who got me started I am so happy I replied to your post back then 🥰

You are welcome, thank you for commenting and showing support for my article 💜

Thank you for this comment, It shows that even I who consider myself well educated on this matter still have more to learn so this made me so intrigued I am going to try to learn more about it (if i don't forget too) do you know where I can find that reaserch? It really does sound interesting. Anyway I am happy for your support 👍

I tried watching Meteor Garden twice but dropped it even though I love the K version (even though it has it's issues). Sometimes it just gets to be too much. Thank you for complimenting my writing I am having a lot of fun and love writing these there are plenty more to come... ❤

I have noticed that too and it has been bothering me for a while now, I don't remember the drama but their is a c-drama where they are at a hotel could be love scenery but I am not sure and she is first a bit worried and then gets dissapointed followed by her actually taking initiative. Any way thank you so much for your thoughts and for reading mine too 🤗

Thank you for your comment, your body your rules 👍

You are so welcome, thank you for commenting ❤🎈 thank google translate that I could read it too 🧐 I love technology 💃

Thank you for commenting,as you said it is certainly not only a problem in C-dramas, but I do see more and more people talking about it as well as behavior being called out compared to when I grew up. So there is hope ☺

I think people have different deffenitions of rape, in my eyes it was a clear case of date rape while others call it sudduction so I guess that could be the reason. He first tricks her to spend the night in the same room promisies he won´t touch her but them mounds her like a dog while even though she said she did not want too, some people think that it was okay since they where all good the next day, I am not buying it and rather see that as problematic, because it shows that this type of behaviour is acceptable and that a no is a yes.... they do not show her saying yes or even showing the least bit interest in the act in the schene but is short and not very detailed. Add to it his controling nture and you have a relationship built on control desguised as love for the untraind eye.

Thank you sweety, ❤ it is on it´s way

you are so very welcome, Thank you rfor your coment, some day, I am sure there will be, because the more people talk about it and ask for it the higher the demand for such content will be so I am feeling a slight shread of hope... 😎

You are very welcome, thank you for your kind words, and for understanding my message of loving and critisizing at the same time very few things in life are all bad or alll good,❤

Thank you for your input. I had my issues with above all the secound male lead in Perfect and casual as well as had it in and edited out part about the diffrence between contracts and consent (I kind of regret editing it out now) but agree with you about you are my glory-

i am really enjoying this discussion with you, so please do continue commenting and writing your thoughts, it helps me both understand your point of view as well as my own. so no I do not think you are attacking it at all, I am just trying to understand gaps in the way I express myself and how it is perceved (some of the commetns got me wondering)-

Askig for more dramas calling it out does not mean I want to forbid it just that I rather have more of it. I do not really see it as a guilty pleasure, like I really enjoyed Addicted not as a rom-com but as an interesting portrayal of a toxic relationship. Some rom coms will be pure fluff but have elemnts that just feel unnessesery and can easely pass by and be perseved as romantic for the untraind eye, theesee are not eather guilty pleasures in my mind but I am afraid that if that is all a person watches, and does not see it being called out there is a risk of getting the idea that that behaviour is acceptable like the drunk kisses in forever love.

Some dramas will have a sid eof assult that takes over the enjoyment if it gets too much like in professional singel which took away the fluff for me , also some may not see the behaviour as problematic and that is fine for them but I wnat to empower those who are or may be subjected to such behaviour in real life , telling them it is okay to say no and that it is not acceptable behaviour. obviously not you becouse you do understand both the difference between fiction and real life but if i look back at a younger version of myself i needed more people to tell me that, and feel it can not be told enough..

I do not really know where I am going with this, this is not really a solution oriented peace more a look that happens just so you know it is not okay in real life (sorry if I am repeating myself) I think some of these should probably come with some kind of warning tag I guess but will settele with making people aweare of the behaviour so they recognise it. I have no intention to impose a teaching responsabilaty on the writers eather, just wishing for more consent...

Did this make it clearer or more confusing?

Sorry I missed this post yesterday. I'm sure the relationship can, my intention with this article is to make viewers aweare when they watch, and to use these to explain the consept of consent in a hopeflly accesable way so that when people do see this behaviour they will not just let it pass by as romantic and in to relationship goals outside of the screne.

I honesstly do not know why eather but since this list is open for interpertation I guess any reason goes 😉