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It's not actually the purpose that ties TianEr to XY, but the method. TianEr, being a prostitute for so long, was longing for a husband that could give her the life of an ordinary woman, while XY, as opposite, being alone most of her life, was looking for a companion to keep her company. What was the point of tian er and chuanzi, if not setting up a parallel? What was the point of XY telling shiqi about that? They basically serve no other purpose other than that.

Also, the way I see it, XY started to be honest with Jing and actually trying to make things work between them only after XL's rejection from QS's town, when he killed FFB and spoke, yet again, with TianEr. She never opened up to shiqi about her past traumas, she never warned him about what kind of woman FFYY is and as far as I know, even Jing mentioned a few times that he is aware that XY is affectionate towards him out of pity and kindness.
Again, that's my way of seeing things and as you rightly noticed, I am not disagreeing with your pov just for the heck of it, I am really trying my best to be unbiased. To me, Jing is the one that XY tried so hard to love, while XL the one that she tried so hard not to, but to no avail.
Also, IMO yellow emperor was the only one who knew about what was going on behind close doors, the only one who was aware about both CX's love for XY, but also about XY's love for XL.
What do you make of the crystal ball and what's your take on the fact that XY was able to answer yes when XL asked her if she is willing to marry shiqi, but she resisted saying the person who she most wanted to spend her life with? To me willing is more like a compromise, while wanting is something beyond that.

IMO, XY-Jing's relationship is a parallel to TianEr-Chuanzi's relationship,while XY-XL is a parallel to Aheng-QiYo's one. XY once told Jing that TianEr is willing to give Chuanzi fake attention in order to get real affection from him, so after a lifetime passes, her fake might become real too.
As I said, IMO what XY was looking for in Jing was not actually a husband, but a companion and I believe that's why she delayed setting a wedding date, unlike Jing, who wanted to get married asap.

I personally don't believe XY delayed her marriage to Jing because she was waiting for XL to save her or change his mind, but I don't believe she did it for the reasons you mentioned either. I agree that her engagement to feng long and the long engagement to Jing was due to different reasons, but the bottom line is that Jing was eager to marry her asap, while she wasn't. As I mentioned before, 43 years is a lot even for deities and we know that for sure because yellow emperor warned her that it's going to take a lot of time and not just a couple of years.

If she had grown up and that's the reason why she chose to wait, as you said, than what about jing? He wanted to get marry the sooner the better. I understand that you are a jing fan, but I can't really undertand how her delay sits well with you.
My personal belief is that even though she finally let go of XL after he made things clear to her in Qingshui Town, she wasn't ready to marry Jing not because she still had some hopes for XL, but because what she actually wanted from jing was not a husband, but a companion, so she waited until she couldn't have the marriage postponed anymore. In fact, as you noted, she wasn't waiting, she was living, she never gave me the impression that she wasn't content or that she wanted more out of the rrelationship. The fact that even after their wedding TH decided not to give them the wedding night kinda suggest the same thing, IMO. I don't know if you read once promise, I haven't, but I really want to know what yellow emperor meant when he told her that she is very similar to her mom. In what aspects?

I don't really understand your point, you are clearly not open to discuss YaoJing and you're telling me to wait for the drama to finish airing, yet you are very active on the main page discussing YaoLiu and giving insight. You find lots of gaps in the lovers bugs, but you easily reduce the 43 years wait to "XY just wanted to finish her medical project" as if it's just a tiny detail that doesn't count much. If this explaination makes sense to you, than fine, but I personally believe there's more to it and I am still curious to understand what did yellow emperor meant by that, especially since I dind't read once promised and clearly the answer and XY's delay it's linked to her similarity to her mom.

I personally am not convinced, but judging by your defensive attitude, I believe you aren't either. Last I remember, you did question something about XL and I believe I did my best to give you my opinion nicely, if my question about Jing bothers you and you only enjoy talking about XL, than please feel free to ignore me, since you're obviously not up for a YaoJing discussion. 43 years is a lot even for deities, as pointed out by yellow emperor, so what does her medical project has anything to do with her marriage to Jing and and what did Yellow Emperor mean when he told her that she is so similar to her mom in this aspect? I ask these questions because I am genuinly curious and I honestly don't recall this to be a discussion that was brought up again and again.

Lovers bugs aside, I am genuinly curious what explaination does YaoJing have for XY delaying setting a wedding date to Jing for 43 years.

From chapter 38

"“The voodoo bugs are living creatures! Back then is not the same as now! You can beat a baby tiger to death but can’t you win a fight with a thousand year old tiger demon?”

So we do know that the bugs are living creatures and they did grow bigger in time.

Could a heartbreak bug be used to save lives? If XY's bug turned on XL's bug, how do you belive he managed to save her?

"The Lover’s Bug keeps two people’s lives connected, which means when one is injured as long as the other is healthy then the injured person will survive."

"If the Lover’s Bug turns on each other then both people will die. Which is why the Lover’s Bug also has another name, the Heartbreak Bug.”

I don't really understand your question / view. What exactly are you saying, that the bugs did, in fact, turn to the heartbreak ones, because XY loved Jing, but since XL was so strong, he had the power to take control over them and that's why they didn't end up getting killed by them?

If this interpretation sits well with you, than fine by me, but if I was a Jing's fan, I would have honestly been bothered by XY's answer.

I am not talking about her choices, that's a different topic, but about the different types of love you mentioned in the previous post. To me her answer to her mom doesn't scream love, but compromise.

"Why does it have to be him?”

Xiao Yao said “Because only him, no matter what happens, he will never leave me.”

XY's answer to her mom, when she asked her why does it have to be Jing. In which category of love would you fit her answer?

I agree, that's how I interpret that scene too. However, what I didn't like at all is how in the drama XY thought of Jing during her coma for 2 or 3 times, while in the novel there was no mention of him at all. She thought of CX once, iirc, but never of jing, not untill XL mentioned him, the night he revived her.

This instrumental gets me every time. Not sure why, but I always think of it as the mercouple's song.

IMO it's obvious that the answer to the last question is XL and not Ye Shiqi / Jing. If the leaked script is real, they even have their bugs glowing in unison during that scene. In the novel XL did ask XY about both Jing and Ye Shiqi and XY never thought of / mentioned Jing during her coma.

After XY finally got togheter with Jing, why did she postpone her marriage to him for 43 years? Jing was so eager to marry her. When they finally got married, TH didn't even give them a wedding night, because XY had passed out drunk, lol.

I disagree too. All of them got what they wanted, but at the cost of losing love, except Jing. Before marrying Jing, XY asked Xing Yue if now that she got everything that she wanted she is happy and Xing Yue's answer was that she can't say whether she's happy or not, just that she is satisfied. Guess her answer is valid for all of them.

Yea, lol. Curious what that scene with Jing and the snakes is about.

Oh, finally. Thank you for confirming! Saw the trailer, too much of Jing, if you ask me. Not too excited about that.

So is it legit? I only see a picture, can't find the trailer.