I'm sad everyone's bitching about the schedule instead of talking about how cute this episode was because I was kicking my feet and squealing through the whole thing. Yeah it sucks to wait for 2 weeks but this drama is turning into one of my faves of the year.
I love Ray so much and he's my favorite character so seeing him in the finale getting little to no development was so dissapointing. They should have never done the stupid fucking Boeing storyline and instead should've done the rehab/therapy storyline and show how he changed and REAL CONSEQUENCES. Because for me therapy and facing his trauma were the only real consequences he needed to change his behavior and make amends. The way they went about his character was just so underwhelming and the way they dropped arguably the most important nuanced story in the whole show (his addiction and trauma) like is nothing is beyond me. They could've made a real impact and he would've went down as one of the best written/complex characters in any BL ever but nooo. ugh I'm annoyed lol. I could go on an entire rant on how the failed his character and by proxy Sands and his relationship with him but I ain't doing all that on a YouTube comment. I still love him and I'm glad he has his happy ending but damn...
Boston got the right ending 100% idk how tf are ppl disagreeing on that. Like the show never said that he would end up alone for sleeping around he ended up alone bc he's a bad person. I think people forgot in the span of three episodes everything that happened prior. BOSTON IS A BAD PERSON!!. He's cruel, manipulative, he's amused by seeing other people in pain and he feels no remorse or regret for anything he's done. Feeling sad bc he lost ev0erything and everyone is not the same as feeling remorse. And even Nick let him go gently and told him not to blame himself or change his view of love he just told him he chose himself and to have a good life. And don't get me wrong I LOVE Boston but he wasn't going to change in 2 episodes like bffr.
Top and Mew HAVE ALWAYS been a snooze fest loooll. I actually only really enjoyed their scenes in this episode jajaj but still the weakest couple and actors on the show.
That hostel is dissolving in three months😂 aint no way is gonna succeed
Seriously, am I the only one who absolutely HATED Ray?!? He was such an asshole to Sand like ALL the time, always…
And he never really changed. Aside from not drinking (but he's a perfect candidate for a relapse) he was still toxic and manipulative all the way to the end (that business in the pool was awful, like he couldn't just have a conversation with Sand about Boeing?)
Nobody's talking about Kiho's father still being out there stalking him. I'm waiting for daddy to pop up like Freddy Krueger and it's giving me anxiety 😨 those abuse scenes were effing intense and we're getting more in the future for sure.
Thank for sharing your perspective. I have had some similar life experiences and I understand what you're saying.…
Just one thing I want to make clear, I absolutely do not let Sand or Boeing off the hook for behaving poorly. Sand in particular, breaking his phone so that he could steal the recording off of Nick's phone is literally criminal behavior. it Every character on the show displayed toxicity, even the softer ones like Mew and Nick.
Regarding Boston, healthy polyamorous relationships require a lot of open communication and a clear discussion of boundaries. For example, I've known couples who will only have threesomes. They've agreed not to go off on their own to have sex with another person. There's nothing shameful about being in a poly relationship but a healthy relationship does not consist of one person having sex with whoever they want before reaching an agreement with their partner and without regard for their feelings. That was Boston's big fuckup. Not that he hooked up with Boeing. It was that he did it unilaterally without talking to Nick about what their agreement was going to be for the duration of their relationship. And until Boston learns to be more considerate of his partners, no, he shouldn't be in a serious relationship.
A perspective on Ray from a 29 year-old person with diagnosed C-PTSD.Trigger warning: mention of su*cid*. I love…
Thank for sharing your perspective. I have had some similar life experiences and I understand what you're saying. The problem I had with Ray is that he was never held accountable for his behavior, not within the universe of the drama and not by the fans.
Ray's behavior in the pool scene was incredibly toxic and manipulative. He never thought about how it might hurt Sand or even Boeing who honestly did nothing wrong except try to get back together with his ex. Ray also didn't change much over the course of the drama. He stopped drinking but as I unfortunately know from experience. there's something called being a dry drunk, where you're not using but your behavior is still selfish and harmful. His behavior toward Sand stayed emotionally manipulative and borderline abusive to the end but it was framed as romantic by the drama.
The fans kept making excuses for Ray's character because they love Khaotung (valid because he's a fantastic actor), they love the ship (valid because First & Khao have amazing chemistry) or they romanticize trauma (😬). Having a trauma history doesn't let you off the hook for your treatment of other people. In fact, holding people accountable is an act of love for the person who is using/acting out because it's only when they suffer consequences that they have the incentive to change their behavior. Tbh I was kind of freaked out seeing clearly very young people describe Ray's behavior as romantic when irl that kind of controlling/manipulative behavior is a huge red flag and a danger to anyone who's in a relationship with that kind of person.
Almost everyone deserves love. But they don't deserve endless chances with no consequences. It bothered me that Jojo didn't make that clearer in the drama because (imo) Khao is a fan favorite and he didn't want to piss people off.
Had to rewatch it because I kept seeing people call Doona a red flag and I was confused like maybe ep 1 and 2…
She wasn't toxic or mean, she was lonely, traumatized, burned out and depressed. Not a red flag but a fragile person who needed a lot of love and care.
it's pictured that way because she thought she was kissing the SML, but in fact it was the ML
I think there may be some significance to what happened because we're seeing flashbacks of everyone in the Joseon era, like maybe it wasn't just a drunken accident that she kissed the second male lead
I love Ray so much and he's my favorite character so seeing him in the finale getting little to no development was so dissapointing. They should have never done the stupid fucking Boeing storyline and instead should've done the rehab/therapy storyline and show how he changed and REAL CONSEQUENCES. Because for me therapy and facing his trauma were the only real consequences he needed to change his behavior and make amends. The way they went about his character was just so underwhelming and the way they dropped arguably the most important nuanced story in the whole show (his addiction and trauma) like is nothing is beyond me. They could've made a real impact and he would've went down as one of the best written/complex characters in any BL ever but nooo. ugh I'm annoyed lol. I could go on an entire rant on how the failed his character and by proxy Sands and his relationship with him but I ain't doing all that on a YouTube comment. I still love him and I'm glad he has his happy ending but damn...
Boston got the right ending 100% idk how tf are ppl disagreeing on that. Like the show never said that he would end up alone for sleeping around he ended up alone bc he's a bad person. I think people forgot in the span of three episodes everything that happened prior. BOSTON IS A BAD PERSON!!. He's cruel, manipulative, he's amused by seeing other people in pain and he feels no remorse or regret for anything he's done. Feeling sad bc he lost ev0erything and everyone is not the same as feeling remorse. And even Nick let him go gently and told him not to blame himself or change his view of love he just told him he chose himself and to have a good life. And don't get me wrong I LOVE Boston but he wasn't going to change in 2 episodes like bffr.
Top and Mew HAVE ALWAYS been a snooze fest loooll. I actually only really enjoyed their scenes in this episode jajaj but still the weakest couple and actors on the show.
That hostel is dissolving in three months😂 aint no way is gonna succeed
Ray's behavior in the pool scene was incredibly toxic and manipulative. He never thought about how it might hurt Sand or even Boeing who honestly did nothing wrong except try to get back together with his ex. Ray also didn't change much over the course of the drama. He stopped drinking but as I unfortunately know from experience. there's something called being a dry drunk, where you're not using but your behavior is still selfish and harmful. His behavior toward Sand stayed emotionally manipulative and borderline abusive to the end but it was framed as romantic by the drama.
The fans kept making excuses for Ray's character because they love Khaotung (valid because he's a fantastic actor), they love the ship (valid because First & Khao have amazing chemistry) or they romanticize trauma (😬). Having a trauma history doesn't let you off the hook for your treatment of other people. In fact, holding people accountable is an act of love for the person who is using/acting out because it's only when they suffer consequences that they have the incentive to change their behavior. Tbh I was kind of freaked out seeing clearly very young people describe Ray's behavior as romantic when irl that kind of controlling/manipulative behavior is a huge red flag and a danger to anyone who's in a relationship with that kind of person.
Almost everyone deserves love. But they don't deserve endless chances with no consequences. It bothered me that Jojo didn't make that clearer in the drama because (imo) Khao is a fan favorite and he didn't want to piss people off.