monstersnroses

I've been in a very LTR with a BF who deferred to me in just about everything. I led the family, I made the decisions, I was strong and mature etc.

After that, now I WISH I was this FL. It'd be like a happy beautiful dream. I'm sorry but I'm so freakin sick of playing "strong woman" all the time. Now when a man says "I like strong independent women", all I hear is 'I want someone to be my mom". When a man says "I want a relationship where we are equals" all I hear is "I can't handle being responsible for anyone but myself and haven't grown into being a real man yet."

Because of that relationship, now I look for fiery strong men who don't hesitate to take responsibility and make the decisions, and I comb through MDL perpetually looking for possessive/overbearing ML dramas. Calgon, take me away! :P

The last first date conversation I ever want to have is "Where do you want to eat?" "I don't know, where do YOU want to eat?" "I don't know where do YOU want to eat?" Lol, just friggin take me somewhere for godsake. If you can't even make a decision about something like a first dinner date, I'm just not interested. Been there done that.

This is one of the main reasons I like asian dramas over western dramas, there are so many "grab em by the wrist" moments, and asian women in general often prefer a stronger man. I have lots of good male friends where our dynamic is more as equals, and that's fine too, it's just not sexy to me. I wouldn't ever date them, just be friends.... because to me it's not attractive. It doesn't make my heart race.

She's adorable and funny.

OK so I test out like rabidly insanely smart on tests, I've always been this way. I've dated lots of people dumber than me, and have lots of good friends dumber than me, for me it's not a requirement for a person to be intellectually quick and talented for me to have a satisfying enjoyable relationship with someone. If I waited to find people the same level of smart as me or higher to be interested in, I'd mainly have no friends and would have a lot of trouble finding anyone to date.

Also, dumb people can still be smart sometimes. Just because they're dumb doesn't mean they're ALWAYS dumb, and lots of people can be really dumb but have huge emotional intelligence which I appreciate a lot in a person I'm close to.

For me, one of the big things I look for in a person is that they can make me laugh, and I can make them laugh. I'm attracted to people who can always find something fun or amusing to do and are full of energy. I like optimistic positive people too, who aren't always being critical or a debbie downer.

Smart people can be very refreshing to talk to it's true. I like connecting intellectually with people. But smart people can be a real pain in the butt sometimes. So there's pros and cons to both smart people and dumb people. To me, quality of character has nothing to do with that.

The only truly smart BF I ever had used to laugh about how smart I was and say "You're so hot,your brains are as useless as tits on a bull." And that pretty much sums up how many men feel about "smart women". For a man looking at a woman, smarts are kind of down there on the list of things they look for, oftentimes. Men like beauty, sexual confidence and self esteem, kindness, being able to cook the food they love the most, treating them with deference, making them look good and supporting them in front of their friends and family, not being critical or harsh, honesty, lack of guile... all of these things usually (or, often, if you prefer that term) men place a higher importance on than smarts. For some women, that might not feel fair, and maybe it's not, but it is what it is. Of course there are also men out there who are attracted to smart women first and foremost, but they don't necessarily represent the majority of men.

It started off so sexy and good that in the middle as it started going downhill, I just noped out. Not gonna watch LJG do that. I thought it was sadistic to sit there and watch a happy sweet FL slowly become broken and traumatized beyond repair. Like watching a show about someone slowly crushing a little bird to death.

I will watch this with an open mind, but boo-hoo that WZY is not the 1ML, he's hotter than lava.

His next 2 projects he plays a support role. That's insanity. I'm hoping all this small-time stuff is just to build his portfolio, and he'll start to get higher profile 1ML roles soon.

I am here because I watched EPL this week, and was totally blown away by Wang ZuYi. Immediately had to watch everything he's been in. He's so fire I swear if I stare too long my retinas are gonna burn. And SUCH an incredible actor as well. His looks are so expressive.

The spongebob scene had me laughing so hard, omg... :P

That's like the understatement of the century :P

And his next two projects he's a supporting role, that makes NO sense. If I was a male actor playing a 1ML role, I wouldn't let ZuYi anywhere near me! He's too hot and too good an actor, no one can compete. I wouldn't want to be compared to him onscreen.

omgggg check out Extremely Perilous Love, Wang ZuYi is hot as fire and talented on a whole other level from most actors. He's like the chinese Lee Soo Hyuk. This guy is going places. He just came out of nowhere, and he's ultra-fantastic.

I'm also waiting for subs. I just discovered Wang ZuYi this week, and I'm completely addicted. I need to watch everything he's ever been in, and then rewatch it all 1000 times. Lord is he hot, and his acting skills are just fire.

This was so good. It's not my usual type of drama... the ML and FL get together pretty quickly, and then the whole drama is about them overcoming obstacles and challenges together. Normally I don't really dig those kinds of romance dramas, but this one was really good.

The plot/storyline was fantastic for a short-episode series, lots of twists and side-stories, I didn't FFWD anything at all, which for me is unusual. The FL was friggin awesome. Beautiful actress, beautiful demeanor and voice, sweet laugh and smile, very talented at acting. The role she played was an FL who is sweet and smart (with the glaring exception of that one part about how she doesn't recognize her own husband when he appears with a different hair color, which is hilarious). Soundtrack was great, no issues there. The aesthetic was very beautiful, good use of reds and whites, hair and costumes were lovely.

The main reason to watch this is the ML. Wang Zuyi is going places. He's just this amazingly talented actor, and so handsome it will stun you and if you stare too long your retinas will burn, because he's just that fire. He's been compared by many to Lee Soo Hyuk, and I also think he has that hypnotic, sumptuous, graceful, sexy LSH aura about him, like many others do. It's just impossible to take your eyes off him. He has the ability to convey a LOT with just his eyes, not something many actors can do. It's worth it to watch this just to watch Wang Zuyi act.

I have to say, I liked WZY's role in Extremely Perilous Love much better, and it had more range and depth. But he's good in this drama too. I gave it an 8.

Nice cope.

Apparently yeah you all are still kids here, because you're all either attacking her or defending her, when none of you were there and you don't know what happened. It's the height of childishness to FEEL as though you have to take a side, and then throw shade at anyone who didn't take your side.

All of you taking a side at all are speculating. Speculation should be rational and as impartial as possible. There is nothing wrong with speculating on what might have happened, as long as your ego doesnt get so wrapped up in your conjecture that you can no longer entertain the possibility that you MIGHT be wrong, and can no longer be civil to people who don't share your ideas. Which is what most of you in this comment thread are doing, on both sides of the issue.

None of you were actually there. Would it kill you to just not have an opinion on something? Or at least to not engage your feelings as you speculate? Yall just throw ad hominem attacks around at eachother like candy at a parade, dragging down every conversation you're in to its basest levels.

Do you really expect any intelligent or respectful conversation to spring forth from a comment in which you've pre-emptively told anyone who might disagree with you to 'get over yourself', and that they're "all still kids here", and implying that if they don't share your opinion that that must mean they "cant separate fiction from reality"...? While at the same time openly admitting that you "cant help but FEEL like these rumors stem from envy and jealousy". The irony of it is mind blowing.

Bad plot, bad acting, terrible OST, this was a complete pile of garbage. I rarely give ratings under a 4, but I'm giving this a 2.

I was getting bored until the Fish Attack scene in the kitchen, when I suddenly sat up and thought "WHOA... now we're getting somewhere!" But alas, that was the highlight of the entire show. After that it just goes back to being boring and stupid.

Overall score: 3
Fish beatdown: 10

Yet another drama that proves my theory that anytime you see an MDL rating for a modern-setting chinese drama, you should automatically take 1.5 off of the score to get the REAL rating.

Same as every other horrible chinese modern romance drama: tacky, fake-seeming everything, bad acting, bad soundtrack, preposterous plotlines, vapid dialogue, and all potentially sexy moments stomped on by "whimsical" music and an overly prudish sense of propriety. There's a kiss scene in here where the ML actually kisses his own thumb in an attempt not to make actual contact with the FL actresses mouth. Nothing redeeming about this show.

I don't know who gives out these 10's that skew chinese dramas in particular, but I have a feeling it's an army of fake accounts. How is it possible that shitty c-dramas consistently get scores as high as CLOY or ELOD, when that's not the case with k- j- t-or tw- dramas.

Yet another drama that proves out my theory that if you want an honest rating on a modern-setting chinese drama, you should ALWAYS automatically subtract 1.5 points from the MDL rating.

It's cheesy (in a bad way), the musical score is emotionally tone-deaf, everything is tacky, the acting is terrible, the story is meatless, the dialogue is shallow and laughable, and from start to finish its filled with bad romance cliches and tropes.

I gave it a 4, only because the ML is so fire. He's not even that great of an actor, but he's just fire anyway.

There's no romantic element in this, no kisses or spice. There's no real love or intimacy. The series keeps you strung along like any minute you will get a nice kiss or a vulnerable and honest moment between them, but you won't.

Me three!