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The drama is pretty obviously not trying to show Si-Eun as the image of the "good wife" and the drama also made it obvious that the opinion of the "drama" is that Si-Eun is lacking in the sex department (whatever the cause).

"[...] maybe her husband’s desire to be sexually adventurous would have been reciprocated if it was discussed beforehand."

That was specifically shown to not be the case when they were discussing/arguing about going to the motel. The wife refused and she only started trying to change once the husband asked for a divorce.

Pi-Young was def. shown as the "perfect" wife by the drama. The older wife had all the "homemaking" skills but lacked in the sex department. The younger wife lacked in the "homemaking" skills but was youthful and sexy. The middle wife had both. I honestly think this was very obvious by the writer - the writer purposely placed the two "lacking" wives on each side.

Pi-Young clearly states that her mother not letting her father meet up with Pi-Young resulted in his death as he had to secretly meet her at school where he died in a car accident. That's not an opinon but a fact. You can rewatch episode 2 if you don't remember the exact interaction.
Pi-Young is clearly mad about the mother depriving her off a relationship with her father. Yes she does also blame the mother for her father having an affair (after the mother is excusing herself) but she also clearly states that the mother not forgiving the father was her right but her keeping father-daughter from each other was wrong. The opinion of Pi-Young is not that the affair is the cause of her losing her father. Pi-Young clearly has the opinion that an affair is not an excuse for a spouse to keep the children away from their other parent.

"It means that patriarchy as a system allows men more freedom and power."

That was not what you wrote. You alluded to the opinion that men are not bound by social expectations which is not true. In every case where women are bound by social expectations then men are also bound by social expectations. The fact that those social expectations leads to more "power" do not change that fact.

Also it's simply not true that men are not blamed for cheating.
Yes men are more likely to be forgiven by their spouse but that's because women are more likely to forgive their husband. Men are less likely to forgive their wife.
Yes men are also less likely to be defined by their cheating but they are blamed for cheating - they are just let off easier afterwards.
Men generally do not attack each other for being cheaters as much as women try to bring other women down for having cheated. Men know that women in general care less about whether a man has cheated in the past than men do. That's why men in general do not put other men down due to this fact as it's useless to try to get points from women by doing so. Women know men care more about this and will therefore use this to bring other women down.
There are other instances in life where women get a pass more easier than men - this is simpy due to their different biology.

"It’s a fact that men are rarely held to account, as a group or as individuals, for their inconsiderate and selfish behaviour."

That is simply not true and making a broad statement on this is 100% wrong. This depends on the selfish/wrong action being done. In general women are more likely to get less time in jail for the same crime done by a man.
Women are also more likely to be excused for physical violence than men. A woman can hit a man and people will ignore that. If a man hits back 10 men will come to her defence.
Heck an example of this is shown in this exact drama. The wife hits the husband in the face until he starts bleeding. This fact is pretty much ignored entirely. The mother of the lawyer just mention it but that's it. Had a man done this to a woman then this would not be ignored especially not by the viewers.
The world is full of double standards when it comes to men and women because they are biological different so people will judge them differently depending on what they are doing.

The oldest wife was not epitome of the "good wife". What she "lacked" was shown early in the drama when she refused to go into the hotel/motel with her husband. She was "lacking" (from the perspective of the husband at least) in the "sexy" department.

Pi-Young was the image of the "good wife" or "perfect wife".
What she was mad about was not that her mother couldn't forgive her father. What she was really mad about was that her mother let her hatred for the father result in Pi-Young not allowed to have a relationship with her father. What she said to her mother was harsh but there was truth in her words (at least about depriving her of a relationship with her father).
I'm guessing in the 2nd season she might do the same with her daughter though when she finds out about the affair of her own husband.

Also it's simply not true that only women try to succeed in identities defined for them by society. This is true for both sexes. I do agree men are more "likely" to say fuck it and do what they want but that's not because society has no expectations for men. Men are just more likely to take risks in life (due to testosterone) and starting an affair is a "risk".
In real life women also cheats and the cheaters in this drama could equally have been the wives. The oldest wife could have met someone and cheated. The same with the other wives. In this drama the writer just decided that the husbands would be the cheaters.

I felt sorry for two of the wives but the wife of the lawyer was bound to end up divorced/cheated on no matter what man she'd have married. There is no way in hell anyone would stay married to her. I mean her husband is sick and she's pretty much forcing him out of his bed to sleep on the couch - what a crazy b*tch. Heck she even started nagging him while he was sick on the couch. If her husband was ugly (and therefore not be able to land a better woman) she might have gotten away with that shitty personality but with a husband that good looking then him ending up with some other woman was 100% in the cards.
Also what her husband did might be fucked up (having an affair) but what she did was criminal (hitting him).
I felt sorry for the older wife (with two children) but her husband was better looking than her (partly due to her own fault) which is always dangerous in a relationship. And she was a bit of a "prude" which is shown early when she refused to go to a motel with her husband.
I still felt very sorry for her and nobody should go through that pain. This woman did so much for her husband and kids and luckily the kids were there for her.
The psychiatrist is the most fucked up. His wife was both pretty and treated him very good. I could see why the two other guys might end up having an affair (even if it's fucked up and wrong) but that guy...
At the end then cheating is still wrong and they should have divorced instead but when the husband with 2 children wanted a divorce (before they knew he had cheated) they ended up guilt tripping him into staying and not divorcing.. Heck even after finding out about the affair the wife still wouldn't let him divorce (due to their children) and told him to just keep having an affair instead. This is not to say anything bad about the wife as she just wanted to protect the children but just to show that him divorcing before having the affair was not as easy as it seems.
The only reason he was let go was because the daughter found out about the affair.

You should only sit through this drama if you are a guy or if you are a masochistic woman (partly joking but also being serious). Majority of dramas are written to "satisfy" women and so if you are a guy or just want to see a different drama then this drama might actually be refreshing to see.
The best advice to give is that if you are a girl/woman then you should probably just wait for the 2nd season to end and based on that decide if the drama is worth your time. That might still be the case as the drama can still end up turning more female viewer friendly by focusing on the wives next season and how they move on.

I never wrote that how the husband acted didn't fit his character.
I specifically wrote in real life. If you are going by "within this drama" then that's not in real life anyway.
A couple of month has gone by so I don't remember the drama 100% but what I wrote was that in real life the guy would have done the other girl 100%. This is a drama though so the writer decided to not have the husband be with that other girl. In real life though after everything that happened to him? 100% he would do that other girl.
Also it's not the same wrong. There is a difference between cheating someone that has cheated you and cheating someone before they've cheated you.
The only reason a guy in real life wouldn't go with that other girl would be because he found her disgusting or the girl didn't actually want him. If a guy has a girl wanting him and is not ugly while his wife is cheating on him - 100% he's not turning down the other girl. If someone claim they would then I'm sure they are full of shit.

I wrote "cheating" - not "sex trade". There is no way in hell majority of the good looking dating/married actors have not cheated on their girlfriend/wife.

If you speak to me for some time you will still not know more than what I want you to know about me or my feelings. In reality we probably know less about people than we think.
You would probably know the overall type of person I am but you'd never know my political opinions on everything etc.
There is no way you'd know enough about me to make a device that would react exactly like me - it's simply impossible.
Also the device never spoke to JS. The device spoke to HW and SW and from them learned about JS. That's second hand information and second hand information about other people is never 100% correct.
I can accept the device "evolving" and changing based on people talking to the device. The device however would not become JS.

Yes exactly. The most important factor is that HW hasn't really "known" JS for 10 years. Just because he knew her very well 10 years ago that doesn't mean that JS is the same 10 years later.
Heck even if JS was cloned perfectly 10 years ago. If the clone was frozen down and then activated after JS death then the clone would not know how JS 10 years later would react to situations because JS 10 years later is not the same as the clone anymore.

You have to suspend your disbelief. In reality the AI would never be able to know what JS would feel and there is no way in hell that the AI would be able to reveal anything about JS that was not already known by the people having talked to the AI.
The logic in the drama is that HW and others speak to the AI about JS and then the AI figure out what JS would do based on all that information. That would never work in real life though because.
1. The information are second hand and not directly from JS.
2. You would never be able to give that much information about a woman you haven't met for 10 years to actually know how they would be like after all that time. Heck the only way to make this work would be if humans never changed and/or learned from their actions in the past but kept doing the same again and again.
Just because JS said or did something before doesn't mean JS 1 month later
- let alone 10 years - would say the same in the same situation.

You have to suspend your disbelief. In reality the AI would never be able to know what JS would feel and there is no way in hell that the AI would be able to reveal anything about JS that was not already known by the people having talked to the AI.
The logic in the drama is that HW and others speak to the AI about JS and then the AI figure out what JS would do based on all that information. That would never work in real life though because.
1. The information are second hand and not directly from JS.
2. You would never be able to give that much information about a woman you haven't met for 10 years to actually know how they would be like after all that time. Heck the only way to make this work would be if humans never changed and/or learned from their actions in the past but kept doing the same again and again.
Just because JS said or did something before doesn't mean JS 1 month later
- let alone 10 years - would say the same in the same situation.

If this had been a movie the show would be less draggy because a movie is far far shorter than a drama. This works in movies because you don't have to wait weeks and weeks for something to get going. You have one movie and then everything is spilled out over a couple of hours. If this drama aired one episode everyday then maybe that would work.

Am I the only one finding it crazy that the 2nd male lead is only two years older than the ML? He seems at least 5 years older than him - it might be his voice. That and maybe because the ML has a "young" (childish?) looking face?.

Yea I agree. I also hoped that MSH would just be there to help him get over the death of his wife. I feel that it's obvious the writer has intended for her to fall in love with him but how they will explain him falling in love with her (if he does)? I don't know.
We haven't been told yet what mistake IW made so you didn't miss that. What we know is that he did something (told a "childish lie") that had something to do with the death of HW mother.

I think if that storyline ends up being messed up the fault might be on the drama being cut. Also I agree with the device thing being ridiculous - you really have to suspend your disbelief. I still liked the story though because I liked the overall "feel" of the drama but unlike you then I really couldn't care less about the leads because I don't like the ML - I simply cannot relate to that character.
I think the story being cut will be good for those that are watching the drama for the two leads since that will obviously force them to focus the story more on them and less on other plotpoints.

When you have a lot of free time because of virus outbreak and therefore no work and no real company (isolation) this happens. I think we all know they are just drama characters. I don't really think we are getting deep over just the characters themselves but more about these questions in relation to real life.

He didn't have a crush on the girl - he was in love. We are not talking about him asking his fiance to not hang around any guy.
Also are ethical concerns really "harmless"?
I never wrote that ML is dangerous (I don't think so) though - I wrote I think he's pathetic.
I mean secretly stalking a person and secretly taking pictures of said person is also harmless as long as the person never finds out but doing that can still be pathetic.

You are assuming a lot of plot points that you don't really know yet. You don't know whether JS had a life of her own or not before being depressed. JS being friendly with FL so quickly also doesn't really mean anything much. JS needed to quickly be friendly with FL for the story to work in the first place - the story would drag otherwise.
My first guess was also that the husband did something because he wanted the love of the FL but whether that's the case has yet to be seen in the drama.
I think you are wrong about the husband never truly trusting his wife though. He told his wife the truth because he had started to trust her love for him but felt he was wrong based on her reaction of only worrying about ML (in his opinion).
In the end you might very well be correct about the husband being pathetic etc. but in my opinion him asking his wife to stay away from a guy in love with her to the point that he's leaving his studies in the US and flies to Korea right away is reasonable.
Whether you are correct or not about the husband also doesn't really matter in the case of whether ML is pathetic and acted in a creepy manner. They both can be pathetic at the same time. My comment was about how the ML was being pathetic.

That guy was not just a friend he was in love and the husband knew that. If you let your spouse hang around their "friend" you clearly know is in love with your spouse then you are dumb as hell and deserve to be cheated on. This is not only about trust but about being real and accepting that we are all humans and if you keep close to temptation then at one point anyone might fall.
Also telling your spouse not to meet someone is not the start of domestic abuse. He didn't tell her to keep away from everyone - he told her to keep away from the guy that was obviously in love with her.

If ML real goal was just to remind JS of him then he could just have send her a text message with that sentance and she'd have gotten the meaning.
Also the only reason he found out about her being depressed was because he manipulated FL into meeting her and recording her in the first place. In reality then she might just have been a bit sad that day and not depressed.
You think it's just a coincidence that he wanted to record her voice and that he ended up using it for the AI?
Heck even if he was just trying to get her voice and had no intention of using the voice for the AI - I don't agree but for the sake of argument I'll go with it - then him doing that is also pretty pathetic and creepy in itself. He's going out of his way to get the voice of a girl who married some other guy instead of him 10 years ago. You don't think that's pathetic?
JS being fine with everything afterwards doesn't change whether the actions of the ML were creepy and manipulative or not.

That's because the husband was smart enough to tell his wife to keep away from him. Moon Soon told in episode 1 that she's been hearing about JS for nine years. He had a stranger "secretly" record her voice for him to use for the "AI" without asking for her permission. He went after her as soon as he had any scent of her again after 10 years even though she's married and he pretty much manipulated a stranger to manipulate (trick) JS into meeting up with him.
I mean just look at all the shit he does in the first episode. He has Moon Soon work in the studio so she can get in "contact" with FL. Then Moon Soon asks FL to do something for her with the sole purpose of getting FL in contact with JS. Then afterwards they have FL record the voice of JS for ML without actually telling JS the true reason. And lastly ML manipulate FL to have JS meet him.

You did and then you claimed that the show couldn't be boring. Your comment was arrogant (in my opinion) because your comment read as if people thinking this drama is boring are objectively wrong. How would you know what other people feel while watching this drama? You wrote your opinion as if it was a fact and not an opinion and that's why I felt it came out arrogant.
Also you write that not liking the drama because it's slow is a lazy criticism but why is that? The pace fitting the story (in your opinion) does not mean that people have to enjoy that pace.
The truth is I haven't even watched the drama - I was reading comments to figure out whether I wanted to watch. I might agree 100% with you that the drama is good and the pace perfect but that doesn't mean that other people are wrong for not thinking so.
I mean I bet you've disliked a drama/movie before where people claimed that not liking that drama/movie was because people just didn't understand the drama/movie and were too dumb to know how good the drama/movie is? That's how your comment felt like.

The ML is kind of pathetic. I mean sure you didn't get your first love and she married some other guy but the world doesn't end with that. I could understand being sad for a bit but not being able to move on for that long time? Come on.
Also the way JS ended up dying was just.... I donnu I couldn't even feel sorry for her because her death was just dumb and I felt she was kind of cruel towards her husband. I felt sorry for him even if he might have caused the death of the mother of HW.

In my opinion then that's a very arrogant comment. We are all different and for some people this drama might be boring. Whether the drama is boring or not is not an objective truth. If you don't think the drama is boring then that's your opinion but to act like that it's an objective truth that the drama is not boring is wrong. Also a well made show can be boring too.