As You Stood By

5 brilliant episodes

The good:

-this is a drama with an important topic and for about 5 episodes it was more than brilliant. Lee You-mi's performance alone was so outstanding as victim of heavy domestic abuse, I really hope she gets every award possible for the role.

-for the first half, the drama managed to capture the fear and emotional extreme situation of victims of domestic violence - and for a change (which was good!) it showed that domestic violence is not only happening in low income, low background areas (how it is depicted most often) but also in high society, where abusers use their power and money to cover up their crimes easily.

-some things were shown very realistically- for example that Cho Eun-su, herself traumatised by a violent father figure in her childhood, could do any sort of artificial self-defence training as much as she wants, when the actual real danger situation occurs with a very violent real attacker, who is much stronger than her, she has no chance to fight him for many reasons. That's an important lesson for women if you want to learn how you might really have a chance defending yourself against a real attack - and it's none of the artificial fight sport trainings, as they are that - artificial, with opponents who only do a certain set of artificial attacks and moves, and stop when it starts hurting.


the bad:

- from episode 5 on many things didn't make any logical sense anymore and logic was thrown out the window for the sake of creating cliffhanger situations and thriller elements by the writers.

-it didn't make any sense that Jang Gang looked exactly ( as in more a clone than a twin) like No Jin Pyo - and on top, he is in the very same area of Seoul AND for a very strange resaon to start with Cho Eun-Su sees this very identical person while trying to retrieve a stolen luxury watch. Propabilities for this are simply zero. As for the character of Jang Gang, they could at least have worked with small prostetics, like changing his (veeeery distinctive!) ear shape and giving him false teeth. A character like Jang Gang with his background does certainly NOT have super white, straight perfect clean Hollywood teeth. As he is shown as a heavy smoker and with a criminal street past, he would not have these perfect teeth at this age in any universe.

-While, as always, Jang Seung-jo delivered an excellent performance in both roles, the figure of Jang Gang didn't make any realistic sense to me. The switch from being a submissive, quiet, stuttering low job worker to full blown, crazy laughing psycho? (And this crazy laughter was stolen from 'my name' genius psycho role Do Kang-jae by the way) Nah, sorry. If that guy had been that kind of uncontrolled psychopath, he wouldn't have worked for a long time for Jin So-beak before and he wouldn't have stayed hidden and low profile in general. Also he really did have a family (wife and child) in Shanghai as can be seen in the airport footage shown, so he comes back to threaten Hui-su and his whole demeanor changed? Nah, someone like that, if he would go back to blackmail her for more money, he would act at least normal to stay low and get the money - like he did before. To act out like a crazy person in the middle of the city doesn't make sense and was just written like that to create a fear and danger situation for the two women.

-Also factual mistakes began to show - when Jang-Gang comes back to threaten Hui-su, while he does have the dead man's phone, why would he suddenly have the door passcode to the appartment? If so, he would also have the pass code to the safe. So again, this situation of Hui-su hearing the beeping code of the door and a man just entering her place was just written to create horror and fear, but without brain, as the guy wouldn't have had the pass code.

-While Jin So-beak was a fantastic character for himself, his connection and will to risk his own life, business, everything for the two women didn't make sense either? Why would he do that? Was he attracted to Eun-su from the start? Well, after a while, honestly, nothing came of it, so in reality, a guy like him would simply have lost interest in her and her situation. The drama never explains his motivation to any degree that would make sense of his actions. The fact that 20 years ago he lost his son (something he and Hui-su have kind of in common but he finds out very late anyways) was not a motivation for all he did then.

-the police sister of the villain - didn't make sense in many situations either. So what position did she actually have as an officer? How is it possible she can spend almost all her work time alone (and not with at least one colleague) doing all the things she does? That wasn't realistic at all.

- my biggest problem comes in the end: so, to give this ( as it is a Netflix production after all) a forced moral message, they ruined the end for me. Both women admit to their crime, give apologetic and 'wise' statements in court - and don't even tell the truth? The truth was, yes, they had PLANNED to kill a man, but, (which was realistic) he found out about that plan, and what actually happened was that HE attacked both women brutally and was about to actually kill Eun-su, when Hui-su, in actual SELF-DEFENSE! - killed him to prevent him from killing her friend. In every normal universe, a defense lawyer would have brought this up and followed on it to reach a not guilty-verdict - and it would have been the truth! Instead they create this Kindergarten-morality, and Hui-su saying she killed her husband?

-And it gets worse! Eun-so has her turn too to tell the jury how 'guilty' she is - and says something I find highly problematic. She actually blames herself in retrospective, as in when she was a very small child and had to endure her violent father beating and abusing her mother- and she says and implies that little children are at fault for reacting with ignoring such situations when they are over? NO! Little children NEVER have ANY fault in howEVER they react to such super traumatic situations! It is a very wrong, and dangerous message to tell any victim of also former domestic abuse, that it was in any way their fault when they were just small children.



Result:

Stellar acting performances, especially by Lee-You-mi, a good start of a storyline with a very important topic.
Sadly for the sake of creating thriller and tension elements, the writers threw logic out of the window in many scenes from episode 5 on.
While this would have had great potential for important messaging to try to enable and encourage victims of domestic abuse to at least try and get help, they ruin this message in the end by letting the two women repent like sinners and give off messaging that is the opposite of encouragement.

And yes, I get it, they can't end such a story on the note that the women get away completely unbothered because they would probably get legal trouble concering encouraging people to kill their violent spouses.
But they would have had a chance to show that even IF the women get to court, they CAN get a good defense lawyer who, in such crass cases of abuse and a killing in self-defense, (maybe even adding temporary insanity due to not only her own life being in acute danger, but also her having to watch her abuser killing her best friend and life anchor) could have reached an acquittal instead of a prison sentence.

Acting and idea 10 - storyline decline and very questionable messaging 3. - I'd still give it a 6 because of the partly very good acting performances.

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As You Stood By Shines with Heart and Realism

As You Stood By stands out as a gripping, emotionally resonant drama that dives into the dark realities of abuse and power within Korea’s patriarchal system. Its strength lies in raw, fearless storytelling and exceptional performances—Lee Moo Saeng’s intimidating realism and Jeon So Nee’s quiet resilience are unforgettable. Yet, like many K-dramas, it ultimately conforms to the “moral rule,” resolving injustice neatly through predictable punishment and redemption. While the conclusion may comfort viewers with moral closure, it softens the harsh truth that, in reality, both the innocent and the guilty endure lifelong struggles beyond any scripted justice.

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Marriage Behind Closed Doors

I usually don't like watching triggering things or things that are honestly graphic with abuse in them, but I decided to give this a try.
I watched it all in one day, and honestly, I felt so heartbroken for those who actually go through this type of abuse.
It's filled with intense emotions every second in every episode has me on the edge of my seat.

In this Korean drama, you see two best friends who are afraid of violence, one is trying to escape from her past trauma with DV, and the other is trying to escape her marriage with DV.

This K-drama really does show a lot of what could happen behind closed doors without anyone knowing.
Overall, it's sad to think that this could be a reality in someone's marriage or relationship. It's a good watch, but be careful if you're sensitive to these types of abuse topics.

(My second review I've ever written)

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Walk on By

This had so much potential. Yet, it was ridiculously executed.

Wife is abused by husband. Wife’s bff stepped in and decided to help bc bff’s mother was abused, and her client at the department store committed suicide due to abuse. Bff decided to be the heroine after turning away the other women in her life who suffered greatly.

2 women affected by domestic violence plotted revenge- kill the husband. Cool, right?? No. The idea was cool- then it became a comedy.

They had no idea what they were doing. Female bad ass-ism became sloppy murder, followed by stupid identity swap (how convenient) and more messy messy webs. Instead of a message about female empowerment, they fucked up the murder plot and had to be saved by another male over and over again. Even the male character was questioning why they were both so fucking stupid.

What should’ve happened- no identity swap. They plot the murder, executed it well, no suspicion. Wife learns to cope with her trauma, builds herself back up. Sister finds evidence, in the end, decides not to turn the wife in because she realized she also contributed to his murder by not acknowledging what he did wrong.

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As You Stood By (2025): A Masterpiece of Social Realism

Rating: 10/10 (A True Gem)

As You Stood By is not just a thriller; it is a profoundly moving and essential piece of storytelling that confronts the difficult realities often silenced within modern, yet deeply patriarchal, Korean society. This drama fearlessly places the toxic marriage and the epidemic of domestic violence against women at its core, offering a raw, unflinching look at victimhood, complicity, and the desperate search for liberation. This is a rare gem, deserving of every accolade for its bold thematic approach and flawless execution.

Exceptional Performance and Realism

What elevates this series is the absolute conviction of its cast. The entire ensemble delivers performances that are 100 times better than expected, making their characters feel intensely real and multi-layered.

Lee Moo Saeng is phenomenal as the CEO. His portrayal is a compelling subversion of the typical drama antagonist—he is a "thug CEO" who is actively working and managing his business, lending a palpable sense of reality and gravitas to his presence. His character is noted for feeling distinctly authentic, serving as a powerful force in the narrative.

Jeon So Nee is incredible, portraying a character and performance that feels deeply grounded and real, commanding the audience's empathy and attention as she navigates her complicated role in the unfolding chaos.

Lee Yoo Mi and Jang Seung Jo deserve special recognition for their intense portrayal of the abusive marriage dynamics. Their chemistry, though toxic, powerfully conveys the devastating psychological and physical toll of domestic violence on the victim and the victim's ultimate desperation.

Overall, I really liked this short 8-episode drama. It doesn’t waste a single second on nonsense — everything feels purposeful, sharp, and emotionally grounded. The pacing was great, and even the ending, while not the ideal “happy escape,” made sense. Given how much chaos unfolded, it was impossible for the leads to get away with everything once more people started finding out about the murder. Still, a part of me wished they could have.

What did bother me a little was the misleading synopsis. It says “Jin So Baek, the powerful CEO of Jingang Firm, becomes aware of their intentions and offers his support, becoming a strong ally in their dangerous mission.” That’s not quite true — he only becomes their partner around episode 6. Before that, the main crime, including the murder, was committed by the two female leads.

Jin So Baek’s character was fantastic, though. Strong, calm, and complex. But one decision confused me — when he got Jang Gang’s other phone in episode 6, the one with evidence against the female leads, he should have taken it. Leaving it behind only helped Jang Gang find the grave later, which felt like a small plot slip.

Another thing that stood out was how far Jin So Baek went to help these two women. He risked everything — even doing things that could easily make him an accomplice. I get why — there was definitely a subtle romantic connection with the first female lead and a deep emotional bond with the second, tied to his loss of a child. But the drama never said it outright. There were no words, no confession, not even a kiss. Her eyes often gave away those hidden feelings, but I wish the show had given us some closure on that front — a hint that they might have become something more.

The ending, showing all three of them in Vietnam, felt more open-ended than satisfying in that regard.

Still, As You Stood By is an amazing drama. It delivers a powerful message about the lasting impact of domestic violence, and every actor performed flawlessly — a true 100/100 in acting and emotion.

Final Verdict

As You Stood By is a work of art that demands to be seen. It succeeds where many dramas falter, providing a story that is not only thrilling but genuinely meaningful. It is a cinematic triumph that handles its heavy subject matter with incredible sensitivity and impact. A true gem that words struggle to describe, this drama easily earns a perfect 10/10 rating.

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EVERY STORY DESERVES TO BE TOLD!!!

Every story deserves to be told. Every problem deserves to be seen and understood because that’s how we enlighten people about what’s really happening. Yes, domestic abuse is a serious issue, but that doesn’t mean we should stop sharing these stories. Too many people still feel like they’re suffering alone. The more we speak up, the more we remind them: you’re not the only one, and you’re not invisible.

Drama review:
Everyone delivered seriously, I loved every bit of it!! That scene where the officer snatched the cap off that clueless detective head so the press could get a clear shot of her face? Iconic. We need more stories like this. Domestic violence survivors deserve to know they’re not alone. Sometimes, all it takes is one brave person or one decisive moment to change everything. Keep speaking up. Keep walking forward.

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sad but mid

first few episodes were excellent. the portayal of domestic abuse is pretty explicit and shocking, but it was necessary for the plot. i enjoyed the planning of his murder and his actual death very much. just what he deserved.

but, the rest of the story is literal hot garbage lol wdym this random doppelganger is a psychopath??? actually, why did we even go the doppelganger path??? i thought he was like a long lost brother or something but he's genuinely a complete stranger and that's just ridiculous. his character made no sense. the sister in law character is despicable and had absolutely no redeeming qualities but i guess it just runs in the family. i think i might have actually enjoyed this more if this was a story of overcoming the fear and escaping him to then serve revenge rather than a murder plot because people can't just murder their abusers and find doppelgangers to try and get away with it... so. they literally had the random rich gangster character right there. they could have used him to form that plotline. but, murder!!! wow!!!

also holy shit the scene where his dead body appears in the rain with his eyes wide open is pure nightmare fuel, actually got a scare out of me

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A story we have to talk about

First of all, this is definitely not a series that everyone can watch, as it deals with domestic violence.

Eun Su and Hui Su are two friends who have known each other since childhood. Each of them carries their own life trauma, but everything changes when a major event occurs.

I really enjoyed the series and the characters of Eun Su and Hui Su. You grow attached to them and genuinely empathize with their situations.

What I liked the most is how the series shows that domestic violence affects not only the victim, but also everyone around them. People see what is happening but say nothing, and that is what shocked me the most. Unfortunately, this reflects reality: abused people are often abandoned and not believed by those around them, not to mention the police.

The scenes where Hui Su is beaten by her husband are extremely violent, but the actors and the entire production team did an amazing job making them feel as realistic as possible.

Regarding the relationship between Eun Su and So Baek, I saw many comments hoping they would end up together, which really surprised me. Personally, I saw their relationship more as a father-daughter bond or a mentor-student dynamic. Yes, their first meeting is very strange, but it’s not like they were flirting or anything.

The negative point of the series, in my opinion, is the doppelganger plot. It honestly annoyed me. It was predictable, and I felt like it took something away from a series that was otherwise very strong.

Despite that, it clearly remains in my top.

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No Way Out: A Portrait of Suffocation

A gripping commentary on the hardships and cruelty many women endure. As You Stood By delivers a powerful depiction of patriarchal relations that suffocate and render life a space that routinely subjugates, suppresses, and systematically denies traumatized voices any escape from the repetitiveness of their hell-like experiences.

While the story is not ground-breaking, its realistic portrayal, grounded in restrained and convincing performances, creates heightened awareness. The drama is not an easy watch, particularly in the first five episodes. Because the acting is executed remarkably well, the viewer empathizes deeply with the character suffering from domestic violence. One feels the anxiety, fragility, hopelessness, and claustrophobia she experiences. Lee You-mi masters her role by credibly conveying this anxiety-ridden state, while the surrounding cast complements her performance and forms a strong ensemble.

What further intensifies the discomfort and grittiness of the drama is the excellent cinematography, which understands how to visualize psychological tension and emphasize emotional states.

The length of the drama is largely well handled. However, the doppelgänger storyline fails to reach the quality established by the earlier episodes. Although the trope of doubles is an intriguing narrative element, it remains underdeveloped and at times convenient.

One aspect that ultimately feels unrewarding is the repeated emphasis on combat training. These scenes suggest Eun-so’s growing understanding of self-defense, yet in moments where such skills would be necessary, she never overcomes a male attacker. The drama misses a strong opportunity to grant her a redeeming scene in which she decisively confronts the violence directed at her.

Overall, the drama is deeply unsettling. It offers a relevant commentary on domestic violence, control, and surveillance, issues that remain widespread and well documented across the world.

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