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This is my second Chinese drama filmed in Thailand, and both are airing at the same time.
To My Shore is a Chinese BL drama filmed and aired in Thailand, which makes sense because BL dramas can avoid Chinese censorship by filming overseas.

But then there is Speed and Love, which is a straight romance drama and was also filmed in Thailand. That made me wonder, is it common for Chinese actors to go to Thailand to film?
I understand why To My Shore was filmed there, but since Speed and Love is not a BL, why did they choose Thailand instead of filming in their own country in China?

Thank you

I’ve been to Thailand twice and I’m going again in a couple of weeks, and let me tell you, Thailand is extremely hot even during the cool and dry season. These actors were filming in long pants, in a foreign country, without knowing the Thai language, and still delivered such incredible performances. I’m already sweating just wearing shorts and a T-shirt.

Just one more question. Jiang Mu learns from her mum that Jin Zhao is not her real brother. When they reunite in Thailand, does Jin Zhao already know that Jiang Mu is not his blood sister and that he’s adopted? Or does he not know yet? If he doesn’t know, then it wouldn’t make sense for him to develop feelings for her. Did he always know he was adopted, or does he find out later in the series?

Thank you so much for the prompt response. I’m starting episode 1 and I’m so excited.
Thank God they’re not blood-related. I’ve always loved the childhood-to-lovers genre.

Can someone spoil this for me? Is episode 14 their first kiss?

I agreed with you and I said this many times on other series.

Watching dark or controversial content does NOT mean we support it. No one watches a serial killer movie and thinks, “Wow, I want to do that.” Fiction is a space where we confront uncomfortable truths. It lets us explore trauma, redemption, and the darkest parts of humanity, not to glorify them but to understand their weight and impact. That’s the purpose of storytelling: to create tension, challenge empathy, and hold up a mirror to society’s ugliest sides.

If we only accepted stories with flawless morals and perfect characters, we would lose Breaking Bad, Dexter, Joker, The Godfather, Scarface. Entire genres would vanish.

They are adopted cousins and not related by blood. But even if they were biologically related, watching a story that explores incest does not mean we support or normalize it.

Consuming fiction is not the same as endorsing the behavior it depicts. It means we understand the difference between fiction and reality, something some people in these comments seem unwilling to separate. Millions watch Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, or The Handmaid’s Tale, which are filled with rape, murder, assault, and worse. Does that mean all those viewers “support” those acts? Of course not.

Storytelling has always tackled dark, uncomfortable, and even controversial topics. If you cannot separate fiction from real life, that says more about your perspective than about the show itself.

Thank you

Thank you

For anyone who’s read the novel, did You Shu Lang actually sleep with the escort he ordered in episode 10, or was he just trying to anger Fan Xiao after discovering the hidden cameras? Did he really sleep with the escort, or were they just in bed pretending and waiting for Fan Xiao to burst in?

Fourth rewatch, so you watched the drama four times without skipping a single scene? Wow. I can usually only watch a drama once, especially with so many titles waiting on my watchlist.
I also noticed you dropped Fated Hearts. For me, Fated Hearts is actually better than this one.

Give me a few more days and I’ll let you know. I’m only up to episode 17, with 21 more episodes to go.

That’s your opinion, but in my view it has a great plot, excellent martial arts fight scenes, and strong acting. I’m completely addicted to it. I’m halfway through and loving every minute.

It may not be your cup of tea, but it’s definitely mine.

Most Chinese dramas are like this. They usually do not have their first kiss until episode fifteen or sixteen. For me, that slow burn is exactly what makes them so addictive.

This year we endured so many red flag Chinese BL. Revenged Love. ABO Desire. Kill to Love. Yet none of them prepared me for the quiet devastation of To My Shore.

What FanXiao did was not love. It was cruelty disguised as obsession. Using Professor Huang, Bai Ting, and even YouShuLang’s own brother to corner him was already unforgivable. Installing cameras everywhere, even in the bathroom, stripped him of the last thing a human being owns. His dignity. His safety. His right to exist without fear.

YouShuLang’s life has never been easy. He grew up as an orphan, scavenging for food, surviving on hope alone. He was lucky to be adopted by a kind woman, yet even then he was surrounded by cruelty. Bullied by people his own age and judged by adults who should have known better. Then his mother passed away, and he was left to stand on his own again.

Still, he endured. He studied. He worked. He built a life with his own hands. A career he was proud of. A small apartment that meant stability. A car that symbolised freedom. Every step forward was paid for with effort and pain. And then, in a single moment, everything collapsed. His career destroyed. His home sold. His car gone. Reduced to waiting for a bus, carrying the weight of a life that no longer felt like his own.

When he said, Fan Xiao, you won, I am tired, it shattered something inside me. Those words carried exhaustion, defeat, and a pain that comes from watching years of hard work disappear in an instant. It is the kind of tired that goes beyond the body. It is the tired of the soul.

YouShuLang, you have always been strong. Stronger than anyone ever had the right to demand of you. You stood tall even when the world kept pushing you down. And even now, broken and worn, you are still standing. We are all here with you. Because a heart that has endured this much pain deserves peace. And one day, the kindness you were denied will find its way back to you.

Hioki’s costume is so cute. Everyone keeps thinking it is a cat and he has to explain over and over again that it is actually a wolf. He is so adorable that even we cannot imagine him as a wolf at all.

Only one episode to go. My Sundays will not feel the same once this series ends next week. I am really going to miss it and we truly need a season 2.

What a plot twist. Mawin is Than’s son, not Akin’s.

I don’t think Than cheated. He loves Akin so much.

There has to be more to this.

And I like the second couple, they are fun to watch.

I agree, and he’s so young too just 23 years old. Those negative people online are probably just jealous of him. His acting skills and maturity are far better than many older, more experienced actors. I can’t wait to see his future series.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I always put a lot of effort into my writing, and sometimes I even watch the episode twice so I do not miss anything.

Can we talk about how heartbreakingly good a person YouShuLang is.

FanXiao’s second elder brother offered him an enormous sum of money to frame FanXiao. $10 million baht. Enough to change a life. Enough to give him revenge. Enough to destroy the man who hurt him. Yet YouShuLang rejected it without hesitation. Even after everything FanXiao put him through, he still could not bring himself to ruin another person’s life. That is the kind of goodness that quietly breaks your heart.

YouShuLang was brilliant at studying, full of promise, yet he gave it all up to support his younger brother. He left his own dreams behind and ended up working in jobs far from his field just to survive. And what did he receive in return. Ingratitude. Hatred. A brother not even related by blood who despised him for being gay and blamed him for their mother’s death. Even so, YouShuLang was willing to sell his own apartment to help pay off that brother’s debts. Love, even when it is undeserved, seems to be his curse.

He helped his ex boyfriend LuZhen escape trouble with Ms Shi. Without YouShuLang, LuZhen would have been ruined. When Ms Shi asked LuZhen why he broke up with him, the tears said everything. That was his greatest regret. No excuses. No explanations. Just tears. Sometimes tears speak louder than any confession.

The most painful part is that YouShuLang helped the three people who hurt him the most. His ungrateful brother. His ex LuZhen. And the man he believed was his true love, FanXiao, who ended up wounding him deeper than anyone else. Life is unbearably cruel to kind people.

After all the sacrifices, all the quiet kindness, fate still struck him mercilessly. He discovered the truth on his own. That FanXiao was the one who molested him that night. The betrayal was unbearable.

When YouShuLang finally confronted FanXiao and started hitting him, it felt like years of pain exploding all at once. The punches were raw and desperate. Even more haunting was the detail that he used the gloves FanXiao bought him. FanXiao did not fight back. He did not dodge. He stood there and took every blow, letting YouShuLang release the anger he had carried for so long.

As for FanXiao, I know he is a red flag. Yet the cruel words he said about YouShuLang in front of his friends never felt entirely real to me. People often joke cruelly about the ones they love, hiding tenderness behind mockery. I believe his love for YouShuLang was real, even if he destroyed it with his own hands. After this episode, we see the truth of his family. A mother left to die. A brother trying to frame him and send him to prison. A broken home that shaped a broken man. It does not excuse his actions, but it explains the darkness he carries.

Just when YouShuLang quits his job and tries to walk away from FanXiao to protect himself, the cruelty continues. He has no idea that FanXiao orchestrated yet another plan with Professor Huang to deceive him again. Even in distance, the pain follows him.

Yet another devastating episode. My heart aches for YouShuLang, a man too kind for a world that keeps taking everything from him.