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This comment section is open for different opinions, and it's perfectly fine if people don't agree with each other. It’s just like talking to a friend about a show you can have different perspectives, and that’s what makes the conversation interesting. As long as no one is insulting each other in a negative way, there’s no problem with expressing our feelings or critiques about the drama.

Sang Yan’s unconditional love for Yi Fan doesn’t make him a “simp.” It’s a reflection of his emotional maturity and deep connection with her. His love for her is shown through his patience, his care, and his willingness to be there for her, even when she’s distant. He understands her trauma, and he’s giving her the space she needs while still supporting her unconditionally. That’s not weakness It's strength.

Yi Fan has her own journey, and while she might not always express herself openly, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t love him. She’s dealing with a lot of inner turmoil and trauma, which makes it difficult for her to show affection the way he does. But that doesn’t mean she isn’t putting in effort in her own way. She’s healing, and she’s taking steps to work through her past, which eventually leads her to be more open and vulnerable with him.

It’s not about one person doing more than the other it’s about the different ways they love each other. Sang Yan’s love is patient and consistent, but Yi Fan’s love grows over time as she heals and learns to trust him. There’s a balance in their relationship, even if it doesn’t look the same for both of them at every moment.

The male lead is never a doormat in this story. When a partner truly understands their significant other, especially one who’s dealing with deep trauma, it's not about being weak it's about being supportive. This is what makes Sang Yan such a strong and emotionally intelligent character. He doesn't just react to Yi Fan's actions, he sees through them and chooses to be there for her.

I understand that you might have a different vision for how the arc should’ve played out, but I don’t think the direction the drama took ruined the immersion. The emotional depth and growth of both characters are what drive the story forward, and sometimes, showing vulnerability, especially from a male lead, isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t take away from his strength or character; it highlights his commitment and understanding of Yi Fan’s struggles.

Having Sang Yan be more emotionally open and patient with her doesn’t make him a doormat it shows that he’s emotionally mature and willing to invest in the relationship despite the challenges they face. If yifan still pushed him when he came to look for her it would be out of character and very weird.

Same here !

I know, right? He’s such a wonderful character, one that can never be forgotten. Definitely one of my top comfort characters. I also love how he teases her a lot, even before they started dating. It just adds such a fun dynamic to their relationship 💗

I disagree with this. Loving someone unconditionally doesn’t make someone a simp; it’s basic human decency, especially when it comes to relationships. There’s nothing wrong with being supportive and understanding, even when things get tough.

I get that Yi Fan's actions may have hurt Sang Yan, but her struggles, especially her trauma, played a huge part in her decisions. It’s not about disregarding his feelings it's about her feeling unworthy of him because of everything she’s been through. If the director has pushed her to be more self-sacrificial, it’s because her journey needed to be about healing.

Sang Yan wasn’t a simp in the first 23 episodes; he was showing emotional maturity and caring for Yi Fan, despite the difficulties. And even if the separation trope is painful to watch, it makes sense for Yi Fan’s character, as she needed time to heal and grow. If the roles were reversed and Sang Yan had been the more complex one with the same struggles, I would understand him needing space too.

It’s great that Yi Fan finally opened up completely to him, and Sang Yan accepted her without hesitation.

And yes, highlighting Sang Yan’s green flags has been amazing. He’s not a simp, he’s just genuinely emotionally intelligent and supportive, which makes their dynamic so much more meaningful.

Same here, he’s such a wonderful character.

For me, I also understood why they went this route. No one likes the separation trope in relationships even if it’s just for two hours, it still hurts. But as you’ve pointed out, that was part of their intention. Additionally, Wei Yifan starting to focus on her dreams could help her too. I really hope they can find happiness after the uncle arc without any more miscommunication, or better yet, they need to open up more. The drama did show Sang Yan’s emotional maturity, but many people here dissed it, claiming the male lead is a simp. I don’t see it that way at all.

Yes, I agree with you too. It was sad, but it showed how much emotional maturity Sang Yan has. He’s such a good character. The separation was difficult, but it really added depth to their emotional journey.

I get where you're coming from, but I have to disagree a bit. The drama has already made significant changes to the original novel, even before the separation. The six-month time gap for Wei Yifan leaving was added to give her the space to rediscover herself, and it made sense for her character since she believed she wasn't good for Sang Yan. If the drama hadn’t taken Yifan’s storyline in a darker direction, I would agree with your point, but given how the characters have been developed differently, a separation between them would definitely spark debate especially considering how Sang Yan’s character has been portrayed in the show.

I totally get why you'd be disappointed, and you're absolutely allowed to feel that way. But I don't think the drama ruined everything. As for the characters going back to square one in Episode 24, I don’t think that’s the case. It seems more like they are continuing to evolve in a different way, working through their personal challenges.

That's true. Regardless of who initiates the separation be it WYF or SY the trope invariably sparks debate. I'm glad it's all resolved now; we just have the uncle's subplot to conclude.

Yes, I agree. When I first read it, I had no issues with it, but seeing how the drama adapted this scene, I ended up liking it even more. I just think some people tend to generalize when a man loves a woman unconditionally, labeling him as a "simp," but in reality, he has more emotional intelligence than Yi Fan. It really highlighted their different dynamics.

I also agree with you too, they both have their flaws.

I agree with you, the drama adaptation has been good so far. Yi Fan’s arc was already changed from episode one, but the real debate started when she left him that decision felt flawed to some, which left a bitter taste for them. I can understand their perspective, but I also understand Yi Fan. If the story had included Sang Yan leaving her instead, there would have been another debate about why he made it about himself, and some people wouldn’t have been happy with that either.

I see what you mean about the novel’s arc feeling superior in that sense, but I think the adaptation works in its own way. Instead of focusing on ignorance, it highlights how Sang Yan was always aware and present in Yi Fan’s life, just in a different way.

They don’t really change it back, but they do add some parts of the novel to the drama.

The past few episodes have definitely taken some creative liberties, and as a novel reader, I get why you have mixed feelings. The changes, especially with Sang Yan not going to Yihe, might be what’s making things feel off for you. But honestly, the drama has been making changes since the beginning don't mind the new changes to the plot.

Yes i do agree with what you said too.

she never said you created an account, she said she was arguing with someone who created an account to hate on the female lead that is what she meant.