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I meant she keeps pushing his button to make sure that he will still stand up to her. Not specifically about the wedding.

Oh my god, the Grandmother just does not learn...I guess she's too old to change.

I think RSB is testing LJL - you can tell she was loving his manly temper tantrum before the hot 💋scenes. She doesn't want a doormat for her husband.

At least 1 episode, ok? 😂 My poor LJL baby needs to have a long temper tantrum, and RSB needs tp pamper him A LOT!

Pausing episode 29 to vent for a second. I’m really not loving how the show has turned “female empowerment” into RSB going full mean-girl mode. I’m all for a strong female lead, but at this point I just want LJL to ice her out and move on. I don't understand why she kept leaving him out of her plans. It's not as though he would ruin them!

I guess that’s not a bad thing either but poor thing will have to suffer first 🥲

Yes, everyone is still responsible for their actions, but I also think it’s worth reflecting on why people turn out the way they do.

Ep 28 - Scholar Bai 👏👏👏

No one is denying that what he is doing is wrong and no one is claiming that he should be excused.
I am just saying that some of us may still feel sympathy for the character. You may not, but I do.

Just finished ep 27 and oh wow, RSB is still the ultimate mastermind. Hah, LJL, you better catch up! While I love the queen that she is, I wish they would work together against their enemies instead of her using him as part of her plan. I hope they start being a proper scheming couple soon!

Also love the new development for the second sister!

Yes, we do agree that he must be held responsible for his actions. At the same time, he isn’t the first “villain” whose circumstances have led some viewers to feel sympathy for his plight.

I think you may be misunderstanding my point. I’m not saying his actions should be excused—he absolutely should be held accountable. What I’m saying is that I can understand how he came to be that way.

Side note: It’s interesting you brought up sociopaths, since it’s long been understood that sociopathy is shaped by both nature and nurture. In that sense, parental influence can play a significant role in how someone develops those traits.

In a lot of families, kids grow up following their parents’ influence almost automatically, without really questioning it. When those parents are morally compromised, that influence can run deep and linger for years. That’s why dramas so often feature morally flawed or outright toxic parents—it’s a trope people can relate to. It feels real because one can undertand how a parent’s values, for better or worse, can shape a child’s choices long after they start to think independently. Especially when the parent is a constant figure in their lives, and controlling them in different ways including materially.

Ah, so we have been chasing a red herring...Some viewers have moved on to the next suspect and I think they could be on to something.

You’re right—I’m not excusing his actions. Still, he might have turned out differently if not for his father. While he is an adult and ultimately responsible for his own choices, it’s hard to deny that upbringing and substantial parental influence can profoundly shape the decisions a person makes.

I am glad I am not the only one but I wish I was! I don't want the bestie to suffer, even if she does seem to have great chemistry with Gong Huai Cong.

Yes, the feeling of pending doom 😭

I hope you're right because I don't want the bestie to suffer any heartache but to me, he seemed way too sweet. There are moments when I felt his actions or expressions were kind of sus.

Good point! It's sad that it always come down to the parents :(

I must be paranoid from watching so many dramas. I keep getting cheating husband vibes from the bestie’s husband. Things are going so well for our main couple, I’m stressing about the other one 😅