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On My Stand-In May 23, 2024
Title My Stand-In
Probably an incoming unpopular opinion ahead (read with caution lol, disclaimer that I am not attempting to justifying Ming's wrongdoings to Joe, more so trying to understand for myself and anyone else why I find his character so interesting):

Am I the only one who doesn’t hate Ming, and wouldn’t consider it to be a sad ending if Ming and Joe ended up together? At least as of now, especially from what I’ve seen currently and how I can imagine the direction the rest of the series might take. Let me expand.


For context, I went into this drama not expecting very much, and felt extremely sceptical of the trope of the ‘stand-in’ it uses, because one of my pet peeves in romance dramas is the ‘transfer’ phenomenon. If you haven’t heard that term before, it’s basically a psychological term about how a person (let’s call them A) will ‘imprint’ on someone else (person B). So to have a ‘transfer’ regarding someone else, for example, would mean that person A might have liked a person in the past (person C), and then meet someone new (person B) who resembles that person (C) in some way, and purely because of that, person A starts to also like or believe that they genuinely like person B. The problem with transfers is that they typically are rooted in a person’s (A) unwillingness to let go of the past person, and don’t truly love/hate (whatever emotion it is) the new person (B). This drama, reverses that trope.


This will link to why I find Ming’s bond with Joe to be more genuine than I’ve seen be believed on here (just based on a few comments tbf). My theory is that, ironically, it was Tong all along that was Joe’s metaphorical stand-in from the start. Why? We see a short flashback of Ming going to the cinemas and seeing the ad/clip of ‘Tong’s’ back, doing a martial arts scene, but we only see his back. That very shot/scene is what made Ming feel entranced by Tong and motivated him to seek Tong out with his sister for an autograph. He even mentions it himself to Tong. However, I believe that the ‘back’ that Ming saw, was Joe’s and not Tong’s. Ming « fell in love » with Joe’s acting/aura/presence on the screen first, but mistook him for Tong who is the ‘known’ actor of the film he saw. So all along, his feelings for Tong are somewhat illusory, and obsessive. Tong, who in my opinion gets off of happily at the notion of someone being infatuated with him, simply strings Ming along (and uses him), as we’ve seen. In my opinion, Tong represents the side of Ming that was raised in a classist, materialistic family that rather obsesses about ‘spectacle’, in a way that harms Ming in the long-term. That kind of lifestyle or way of life makes him petty, distrustful, overtly and unreasonably jealous, and aggressive. Behaviours that manifest very evidently when Ming sees Joe with Sol, but particularly in correlation to scenes in which his affinity for Tong has been strengthened (Tong only sharpens the conditioning Ming has been raised through, that of being sceptical and always needing things to go his way, and fuels this, either by being in his direct company or feeding him seeds of doubt indirectly). Tong represents attachment and obsession but not love. Particularly the scene in which Ming renders Joe unconscious and keeps him captive is the most blatant example of Tong’s influence, which brings out all of the qualities of Ming that reflect the wealthy and entitled background he is born from and still lives off from.

Ming’s interest in Joe is different in my opinion, and the series carefully points to this in a nuanced way. If my theory is correct about Ming having been drawn to Joe first, rather than Tong, and the feelings that were initially meant for Joe came to be directed toward Tong (and became twisted due to that fact), we can assume that Ming’s feelings for Joe are more…instinctual. They awaken something in Ming. And to me this is perfectly shown in their first interactions: Ming hugs Joe from behind, believing he is Tong, but if my guess turns out to be true, he subconsciously went toward Joe and embraced him with the original feelings that he felt at the cinema (when he truly ‘first’ saw him), rather than the other way around, which the series makes us believe at first glance. Then, in their interactions after, Ming is consciously reluctant to open up to Joe (showcasing the walls he has up, even toward Tong), but is still intuitively interested in Joe, wants to be around him, and cares about what he is up to. In my opinion, he sets unfair and unequal conditions in their relationship at first because of the self-défense mechanism he has kept up (someone with his background would find it difficult to trust and be vulnerable with someone else easily). This is why the most crucial interactions between Joe and Ming, in my view, are the scenes at Joe’s home. We see that Joe had said that Ming had fulfilled HIS dream to come back to a lit home and with someone welcoming you back warmly. I believe this is something Ming has long craved as well for himself, and Joe expressing this, and being the way he is, makes Ming feel safe and allows him to become more open, more intimate, more honest, more ‘himself’.

I feel that Ming struggles to fully understand these sides of him, and has even more difficulty communicating it to others (especially Joe), but that his gentler moments show indeed the equal, and dare i say, even ‘healthy’ potential of this couple. We see this from the last scene of this episode. Instead of Ming indulging in luxuries for someone of his status, or succumbing to some kind of greed, he has pertained to what he has truly desired all along in his heart: a warm home, where he can lead an honest and loving life with the person who sees him past his social persona of the rich, pampered, entitled and obsessive kid. This is symbolised by the fact that he has continued to live in Joe’s home, waiting for him for the last two years, which reflects his commitment and earnestness which he had gradually developed for Joe, even before. I think what people get (understandably) confused or feel betrayed by, is the scene in which Joe realises he has been a ‘stand-in’ for Tong by Ming, especially during sex (because this is somewhat what Ming consciously believes for himself too). For me, I saw it more so as, on one level, the revelation of what I just mentioned about Ming’s prior conscious intention (which evidently is form of betrayal to Joe), and on another level, it is a defining moment of transition, where Joe is still somewhat clinging on to Tong (because of the feelings he first felt for him at the cinema, which could really be Joe again), but also clinging still to what he knows and about his way of going about things (through manipulation and violence).

So a transition from that, into the growing feelings, appreciation, and warmth Ming did start to exhibit at Joe’s house (the symbol of vulnerable space). We see this through Ming buying the couple mugs with THEIR names (Ming and Joe), or the meaningful moments of genuine happiness that Ming feels in the simple, non judgemental moments between the two of them. This is something his sister comments about, that seeing Ming with Joe is surprisingly pleasant because it is the fist time in a very long time since she has seen Ming happy and so smiley (this is one of the biggest external piece of evidence to the idea that Ming’s « feelings » for Tong have a very different nature to his feelings for Joe). And we see this very clearly in the scene in which Joe bought a watch to Ming (and which I believe we see him promote now two years later on the poster he is). That scene is extremely significant because it shows the shift and differences of Ming alone with Joe compared to with Tong or how he is used to being. The watch is a gift from Joe, who believes it to be the « top » watch in terms of ‘quality’ and price, something we see Ming ALREADY HAS (and doesn’t have particular personal feelings toward). The top watch he has reflects his status, his wealthy background and the expectations on him by others and himself (to be considered societally the ‘best’, but in a rather vain way). However, Joe’s watch isn’t the top watch in a societal, classist sense, but it holds more value to Ming because it represents Joe’s sincerity and that matters more to him. The watch, which is typically a common symbol of time, also reflects, in my opinion, the difference in how Ming spends his time. By taking Joe’s watch and wearing it, his way of using time is also more personal and sincere, wanting to lead a life of authentic connection with someone on the same wavelength as you. In his act of taking of his old watch, which was the ‘top watch’, Ming leaves behind his old lifestyle, or at least takes on more step toward exiting it (the life of vanity and falsehoods). So all these signs of Ming’s genuine interest, endearment and feelings of care for Joe are sprinkled there from the beginning, and the series deliberately is setting a constraint between his potential for warmth and healthy sincerely with the baggage he still has from his past through Tong and his family (something he both feels and is to some extent very much controlled by).


The series has really made me invested, and that has really been invigorating for me (as I binged the episodes today) because I haven’t really felt that as much with a lot of BL series lately - not that there aren’t don’t get me wrong, just that it feels like fewer have my engagement than usual. And to me, the series’ strength at this point (excluding the very good acting etc) is the writing, so I am very hopeful that for the parts of Ming that would require a form of redemption, or improvement, that the series would allow him to have that arc by the time that Joe and him supposedly get back together (if they do). In the case where my interpretation is close to the series’ intention, then i believe that although it doesn’t make the previous scenes justified, that it would be very much possible for Joe and Ming’s relationship to take on a healthier, more mature turn, where their relationship would become more patient, communicative and understanding, just like the interactions they shared in their own shared home.


I’ll probably end my train of thought here, but would really like to hear if anyone disagrees or agrees with my opinions, would be happy to hear from anyone hihi. Thank you to those who read this whole e s s a y, i’m appreciative of that :).
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I really liked the premise of this story and the way some scenes were shot in the first half of the series with how intimate they felt. However, did others also feel underwhelmed by the ending, like they were waiting for something to happen and it didn't quite occur?

I realised as it was ending, watching our leads, that what bothered me throughout the series is how unresponsive Takashi's character seems to be. He's very meek, and doesn't express his feelings all that much. That's fine, as a character trait, but in this context, it felt like Miyata was battling and trying to keep their love alive by himself. To me, that was the point of their relationship at the beginning: that both misunderstood and would not be as willing to be vulnerable with one another. So the progress that I was expecting happened with Miyata's character. That's why he was such a joy to watch on screen, how he learned and changed, and reached out to Takashi first at the end. But to me, this happened partially one-sidedly. I say partially because I know that Takashi also expressed to his mother that he wouldn't take over the household, and wouldn't give up on his love. That is true, but in his interactions with Miyata himself, there seemed to have been no growth.

At present, to me, it's Miyata holding their relationship together like glue. With how they hinted at the way that Takashi would always hide his more vulnerable state, i was honestly hoping we'd get one of those 1 to 1 conversations that were so prevalent in the first half of the story, where they would talk earnestly. And as a climax, I was hoping that Takashi would cry in front of Miyata or open up his heart in some way about his regrets, his worries over the years, and his yearning. Yet that didn't occur and I thought that was a shame because it really stunted the series, and left it with a lack-luster taste. An impression akin to when we saw the two as highschoolers and it wasn't certain that they would be able to sustain a equal relationship with one another. So yeah, those are my thoughts. Was wondering if anyone agreed with my reasoning or not, leave a response, i'd be happy to see ;) and thx for anyone who read this far!
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Replying to Liltsu Feb 2, 2024
Hi, it’s not stupid at all, i think they’re very valid questions since the series leaves a lot of things quite…
Sure thing! Here’s a reminder :>
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Replying to Liltsu Feb 2, 2024
Hi, it’s not stupid at all, i think they’re very valid questions since the series leaves a lot of things quite…
I'm glad it helped😊 i added a slight comment to my original post on the theme of fate that the series deals with too
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Replying to lolaytaro Feb 2, 2024
i may sound a little dumb, but i was left with a few questions when i finished the series. maybe i missed some…
Hi, it’s not stupid at all, i think they’re very valid questions since the series leaves a lot of things quite open ended or open to interpretation. I’ll try to answer them based on my own understanding, but apologies if i make any dire mistakes:

-only one person remembered him because the « god » of that world/the senior switched the temporary ‘writer’ to be yeowoon instead of myungha. I think, on a symbolic level, it’s supposed to represent how both of them, myungha and yeowoon, have a desire for the other to be happy (and how this happiness is dependent on their own choices, trying into the theme of whether fate exists/can be changed -> the final message of the series seems to lean into the notion that one's fate is in one's own hands), and also as a crucial signal to myungha that the reason why he could not sustain his relationships is because he did not love himself. This is also reinforced by the way that yeowoon represents someone that myungha closely identifies with, sees himself in, further insisting on the idea that his desire to make yeowoon happy at heart does show that he wishes he could make himself happy too.
Ps: technically, the manager(?) also remembers, but i believe it’s meant to show how the world at that point was sort of clunky and mismanaged, and also to guide yeowoon into remembering myungha (whilst still understanding how myungha is from a different world by seeing how sangwon and kyunghoon dont remember him).

-same logic as the previous answer.

-to answer this one i will have to answer your final question a the same time. Here we go: basically, from what i understood, Myungha had died, but got a final chance at life because he regained the desire to live and love. So he returns to his own world. However, Yeowoon is still in his world. The reason they can communicate, in my opinion, is because on a literal level in the story, the two worlds are connected. On a metaphorical level, it’s both symbolic of the bond people form with fictional characters, and specifically in this series, representative of how myungha finds parts of himself in yeowoon, so they share a unique connection (therefore they can call each other, reflecting how they are able to reach each other due to their strong feelings).

-so lastly, myungha and yeowoon are able to meet in the updated ‘real world’ because their two worlds converge into one! A few people pointed out how this is shown through the editing really wittily, because when they reunite, the frame style changes from how it was in the ‘game world’ to how they shot the scenes in the ‘real world’.

I hope that helps :)
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On Pit Babe Jan 22, 2024
Title Pit Babe
"I remember, every time you wore these gloves, you like to pretend to smile and think you're the coolest." - Babe about Charlie.

When i was making an edit on the last ep, i really liked the details in Babe's words about Charlie because i felt that, up until now in the series, although we see Babe and Charlie spending time together, i thought that we didn't get to really see in the story what it was that made Babe love Charlie. What it was about Charlie that made him love him so much as compared to Way or someone else he'd had a relationship with. I also thought Babe and Charlie's relationship was immature, especially more at the start (which i still think somewhat now). So getting to hear Babe's thoughts on what he noticed about Charlie that would endear him and make him adore him, really widens the perspective on their relationship. Even if it is just a detail, it does so much.

Here's the Charlie x Babe edit i made if anyone would be curious to see ^^: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeMG3ywJ/
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Replying to pransluvr Jan 21, 2024
Title Pit Babe
omg we're mutuals on tiktok ?!
We are??
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On The Sign Jan 9, 2024
Title The Sign
Just wanted to get some insight from other people who watch the show. I noticed that there was a conversation about The Sign on ’twitter’, and some people were calling out those who had previously complained about the imaginary sex scenes.

The point was being made that others shouldn’t be watching the series for the sexual scenes only, as the series is much more than just that. And whilst I agree with the point about how people shouldn’t slam down a series because they demand sex scenes (when it shouldn’t be a necessity for bl stories), i don’t agree with accusing anyone who criticises the imaginary scenes to be unreasonable. I think there is a distinction that needs to be made between faulting people who watch BL solely for sex (and who then complain when it’s not up to their standard or when there aren’t any such scenes) with people who are criticising these scenes for other reasons. I’m part of the latter. I really don’t mind if there aren’t any sex scenes or kiss scenes whatsoever (my favourite BL is literally ”Word of Honor”), but I don’t like the way The Sign used the imaginary scenes.

I mentioned on twitter that the reason for this, is because i find that the series itself uses sex scenes as bait to cheaply keep viewers watching. I say ’cheaply’, because they could have prefaced both scenes with a clear visual indicator that they were dreams (ex: showing that Tharn was already sleeping beforehand), etc. Because, ultimately, the way the scenes were implemented sort of took away from the impact the actual scene of intimacy had. I also thought it took away a lot of screen time that could have been used efficiently to develop other elements of the series; like explaining the mythology further or just giving us downtime moments with the main cast as a group. I think the imaginary scenes just added frustration and stalled the actual romantic development of the characters (especially with how long they were). So now, i find that Phaya and Tharn’s relationship was rushed.

I mean, think about it, Tharn was unyieldingly stubborn toward Phaya for 4 episodes, and refused to listen to him even when Phaya was clearly extremely distressed (which, btw, i found extremely out of character of Tharn given he’s been shown previously to be emotionally mature and empathetic). Then they get to sit down (without any real trigger, given the previous obstacles) and they open up to each other leading to the intimacy scene. I don’t really care much for how explicit or well shot, or not, it was, or even that there was one, it just felt empty. If it was so easy in the first place, the conversation would have happened in episode 5, which, through reflection, makes it seem even more like the conflict between them was dragged to an extreme. I say this as a person who usually really likes internal conflict a lot in stories. Otherwise, i really do like The Sign, i just think we should be able to be open to criticism toward the media. In any case, what do you guys think? Do you agree/disagree with me? Thanks for anyone who read this rant lol
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Replying to HaiLuoYin Dec 31, 2023
Title The Sign
*sigh* this is definitely one of the best series airing in the second half of the year, but this episode was frustrating.…
You put everything i was thinking and frustrated about into the perfect words!
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On The Sign Dec 31, 2023
Title The Sign
Do we know for sure that the series will be 12 episodes? Im just a bit worried about the pace of the story, because they've really drawn out other elements (mainly of action) for the last few episodes and have quite seriously stunted the romance for a 12 ep series. Since we're already half-way through with so much to unravel, it might come across as though the romance will be wrapped up in the next few eps and might then be rushed or feel incomplete. The pace at which they're currently going would be perfect if the series was 20 episodes long, or at least 14/15, so im just wondering if there werent actually more (since it feels like it)? Unless the next few episodes end up being longer in and of themselves like the last episode which had a 5th part? Or maybe hopefully they'll really tidy up the loose threads seemlessly to develop the romance more (that would be difficult to pull off tho). Otherwise i really really like this series and hope the upcoming eps will live up to the premise
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Replying to Jonnan24 Nov 10, 2023
Title Castaway Diva Spoiler
I agree! I think it's quite obvious (also ep4) but Bo Geol definitely gives up that he knows something. He knows…
True I’m so curious as to how they’ll explain that, and of course, i’m happy if Bogeol truly is Kiho as that does make for an interesting twist and that would make me invested to know more, but i’m just worried they wouldn’t be able to justify everything that has occurred so far if he is indeed him (esp as he clearly seems to have his memories intact). I replied to the first person who replied if you wanted to hear more of my perspective, if not, thank you for taking the time to read my first comment and replying :D
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Replying to coldicedchoco Nov 10, 2023
I beg to differ1. That is not Woohak's drone but the company's. Bogeol's also into that field. He does video editing…
hi! thanks for your response, I made a long reply to the first person who wrote back, but I responded whilst also countering/adding on to your points in mind (i refer to them and answer them with my own thoughts throughout), in case you were interested in reading <3 thank you for taking the time to write it out :)
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