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Teaser 2: https://youtu.be/HqER-5Doau8
Trailer: https://youtu.be/3Hzv4ekRufU
https://twitter.com/tx_nanitabe/status/1658230974319321088?s=46&t=zDqChy7bTkANTl7AHR0YZg
Trailer: https://youtu.be/5pEOtXGhvv8
Besides, he did say that it was complicated when asked about it.
Will she end up with Dr. Roy? I think we're gonna get one of those hopeful beginnings in the last episode. She needs to find her identity without a man attached to it. But I think they will find their way together again.
๐ฉโโ๏ธ๐๐ฐ๐ค๐ต๐ฐ๐ณ ๐๐ฉ๐ข ๐๐ถ๐ฏ๐จ ๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฌ๐ฉโโ๏ธ
๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฌ๐ธ๐ท๐ผ๐ฝ๐ป๐พ๐ฎ๐ญ
Doctor Cha has had all of 2 breakdowns during this affair situation. One, when she found out about the affair. Two, when she found indisputable evidence AND found out that the affair has seemingly went on long enough to have a 17 year old daughter together. And then it seems like we might have another one soon when she finds out that her ENTIRE family knew and she was the last to know.
And she only found out about the affair 2 episodes ago (in a storyworld timespan of less than a week). She's allowed to be distressed, especially as more and more information is revealed. This isn't a "woe is me"/"let the world hit me" situation. This is a woman who's world turned upside down.
๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ป๐ช๐ฌ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ป
Doctor Cha is a woman in her late 40s/early 50s who has been conditioned and told her ENTIRE life that her only purpose in life is being a good mother. Growing up, she watched her father mistreat her mother and be a bad person (we don't know in what capacity yet) and her mother sticking around because "that's what a good mother does." Then, when she got pregnant, she swiftly got thrown into a marriage with Seo In Ha. And from there, her newfound husband and constant presence Mother In Law berated and gaslit and mentally abused her for 20 years into thinking that the only life she can have is that of a housewife and mother, confined to the inside of the house.
She's used to being mistreated. Her MIL (Mother In Law) has been very vocal about disliking her and orders her around like a servant. Her husband hasn't shown her love a day that they've been married. No gifts. No flowers. No vacations. Not even a shared bedroom in over half the time they've been married. And apparently, she was never even shown off as his wife, despite him being an esteemed professor and surgeon who surely had fancy functions. And she's been neglected on several occasions, including life-threatening ones.
After her near-death experience, yes, she rejected some of this conditioning. Decided to chase her own desires. But this only undoes the conditioning related to her being worthless. This doesn't undo the conditioning (from her family, from her childhood, and from society) that family is everything.
And she's not sitting still doing nothing. She's getting the opinions of those close to her. She's looking up stories about divorce (which remember, she saw some pretty scary warnings away from divorce while doing this search). She's following him to get more information. She's saw a divorce lawyer. She decided to her next rotation in the same department as Choi Sung Hee. She's not just taking it. She's getting all the information and opinions needed to make an informed choice. Without making a scene.
Because a scene won't just impact Seo In Ha. It will impact her kids. It will impact her divorce case. It will impact her. It will impact her image at the hospital where she works. And she needs a plan for after the divorce goes through. As much as we would all LOVE a scene. In reality, it's not her best course of action. And now, she's probably also thinking about the other daughter, who is innocent in all of this.
Cha Jung Sook is a selfless character. Up until very recently, her value has always been only associated with what she can do for her family. And she still battles with this mindset everyday. It's something that her patients have been doing a great job at showing her otherwise. And there's been many reminders that times have changed. Both explicitly and with phrases like "in my generation, xyz." She's getting her footing and she's getting the information to make an informed and calm decision. She just hasn't made one yet.
People love to throw the word "divorce" around like it's a magic spell. It doesn't happen anywhere close to overnight. And there's a lot of things that get messy while divorce is in the works, even in the absolute best case scenario where things are amicable.
Also, another commenter said that there's no such thing as a "no fault" divorce in South Korea. If this is true, she needs evidence that he's at fault. And she is only going to get the best evidence if she doesn't cause a scene.