I am sad to see people justifying seona, doha and her mom egostic nature on other sites 🥺.
Please don't hate me :(, but I've made some points to 'justify' their behaviour, not because I was ok with their blaming or not apologising, I was just trying to make peace with it :(
I see some people got so upset and frustrated that Seon A and Do Ha didn't apologise to Dusik. I was no exception, well, at first. It didn't help that I know some people who never apologise, literally, like never ever. Those words 'I'm sorry', 'I apologise' etc. just don't exist in their book. Though it can be explained by psychology (there are lots of online articles about it if you're interested), it's still beyond me why one wouldn't apologise when they are obviously in the wrong.
But anyway, the thing is, in an attempt to feel more at peace, I realised that actually neither Seon a nor Doha knew exactly what happened. They never knew Dusik's side of the story, the one he told Hye Jin. I don't think Dusik'd ever explained himself to them. Of course he wouldn't. We all know that Dusik thought he was the one at fault so it'd make sense that he didn't think it was his place to justify it, for lack of a better word.
So all Doha and his mum knew was the fact that Dusik was the fund manager who Doha's father trusted with their money and was taking advice from, and hence caused him to lose all the money and the tragic events that followed. And all his 'hyung''s wife knew was that if it weren't for Dusik 'mistake' causing Doha's dad to attempt suicide, her husband wouldn't have been in the car in the fist place and then he would still be alive. So back then, or even now they still think Dusik was somehow responsibile, though not directly, or that if he had done a better job, their loved ones would have been saved.
Of course that doesn't make their blaming Dusik right. It's hard to call this 'right' or 'wrong' I think, given the circumstances and states they were in. But given the fact that they didn't, likely still don't know the whole truth, I no longer blame them as much nor I feel as frustrated as I did initially. I just wish that the writer found a way to make everything crystal clear to everyone, not just Hye Jin.
I just don't like it when misunderstandings are not properly cleared up, which often leaves room for frustration and resentment. But maybe, just a wild guess, that leaving things in that little grey area was the writer's idea because that's just life. Things are not always black and white. And whether you like it or not, there are always people who judge you and/or blame you without knowing your side of the story. They act or react according to the version they create or are told, and we can't always blame them or expect them to make an effort to know ours as they have their own struggles, which maybe we also aren't aware of. But there are also people like Gamri and Gongjin villagers who don't know what's up but trust and care for you enough to support you all the same, or some like Ji PD, who'd try to walk in your shoes despite having their own struggles, or someone like Hye Jin, who loves you, cares for you, and would make the effort to ask, to listen to your story, to understand, to offer comfort and stay close by your side, though they don't always know the right way to, just yet.
I'm just reading some comments to prepare myself for what's to come. Why my eyes are wet? I haven't even started today's episode yet? Gosh I'm so not ready :(
Hello there, good to see you here :). Are you trying to fill the void left by Homecha's ending this week? Did…
Btw, I liked Ep1 too but I'm on the fence about this one cause not sure I can handle a show revolving around toxic relationships right now. But I will watch a few episodes and see how it goes.
liked the 1st ep, I hope it will maintain the quality till end. pls no adultery pls 🙏
Hello there, good to see you here :). Are you trying to fill the void left by Homecha's ending this week? Did you feel guilty while watching this too :P
out of these, I started one the woman (after getting heartbroken from ep 14 ending lol) . it's nothing extraordinary…
I cried like a baby throughout the first 2 episodes featuring the past (killing, deaths, ironic tragedy of fate, so yeah heartbreaks).
10 mins of the present towards the end of Ep.2 has a lighter and playful vibe but it's too early to tell. It's a romance but also revolves around politics, so political conflicts and schemes are expected and tragedies are ensued. The manhwa has a sad ending from what I heard, so unless they change the ending here, our hearts would be broken at the end.
On a positive note, the pilot episode is amazing and truly captivating. The young cast who played the younger ML, FL plus side characters nailed their roles, especially the young actress playing the twins, she was phenomenal.
The pilot episode and the young cast, especially young actress Choi Myung Bin, set the bar too high imo so while Ep.2 was still very good, it seemed a bit lacking in comparison. E.g, the transitions between scenes and from past to present were a bit off, making me confused here and there.
I hope Ep.3 is better but I loved the young cast and miss them already. In Ep.2, the present had a different vibe but we were given only a glimpse of it so I'll give this drama a couple more episodes to decide whether to continue. I really hope I'll find some reasons to stick around.
I see your point and I don't like this trope either.I was just thinking, irl if a city girl moves to the countryside,…
Maybe I wasn't very clear, and if I understood your points correctly, I don't think mine was much different. I was just looking from a different angle, which, as I said, put aside Hyejin's relationship with Dusik and the possibility that this career vs. love trope being used to advance the story as @mango lassi suggested, as I just wanted to offer another way to look at the roles such an introduction of a job opportunity may play apart from the career vs. love trope some were talking about and opposed. The writer's intention wasn't clear yet so I didn't want to comment much on that.
What I was saying is, one day, sooner or later a city girl like Hyejin will miss her life in Seoul, and will probably question her decision to move to Gongjin since her heart isn't entirely there yet or it is but she just doesn't know it yet. Ep 10 did show us how she'd come to love the village, its people and of course Dusik, but it didn't touch on anything career wise, which at the end of the day is also part of her life, regardless of how she sees it and what about it would make her content and happy. So by introducing the job opportunity, regardless of how big it is, i'd give Hyejin a chance to reflect on her past decision lest she'd be filled with what-ifs later, when it may become even harder to go back, also for her to think long and hard about the future which would likely present her with similar opportunities, and so along the way she'd realise where and with who her heart truly belongs.
So, for me, it's also Gongjin vs Seoul, but taking into account all possible aspects, career included as it's simply one of the important factors that she would need to consider along with other aspects when making such a big decision. Whether it really is important and to what extent, is for her to evaluate.
And of course I'm quite sure they use this to highlight her growth, I just meant that it could serve other purposes too, so maybe some against the idea can take their focus somewhere else and make peace with it.
Hope to see some of you here on the hike up Jirisan next weekend too ♡
But anyway, the thing is, in an attempt to feel more at peace, I realised that actually neither Seon a nor Doha knew exactly what happened. They never knew Dusik's side of the story, the one he told Hye Jin. I don't think Dusik'd ever explained himself to them. Of course he wouldn't. We all know that Dusik thought he was the one at fault so it'd make sense that he didn't think it was his place to justify it, for lack of a better word.
So all Doha and his mum knew was the fact that Dusik was the fund manager who Doha's father trusted with their money and was taking advice from, and hence caused him to lose all the money and the tragic events that followed. And all his 'hyung''s wife knew was that if it weren't for Dusik 'mistake' causing Doha's dad to attempt suicide, her husband wouldn't have been in the car in the fist place and then he would still be alive. So back then, or even now they still think Dusik was somehow responsibile, though not directly, or that if he had done a better job, their loved ones would have been saved.
Of course that doesn't make their blaming Dusik right. It's hard to call this 'right' or 'wrong' I think, given the circumstances and states they were in. But given the fact that they didn't, likely still don't know the whole truth, I no longer blame them as much nor I feel as frustrated as I did initially. I just wish that the writer found a way to make everything crystal clear to everyone, not just Hye Jin.
I just don't like it when misunderstandings are not properly cleared up, which often leaves room for frustration and resentment. But maybe, just a wild guess, that leaving things in that little grey area was the writer's idea because that's just life. Things are not always black and white. And whether you like it or not, there are always people who judge you and/or blame you without knowing your side of the story. They act or react according to the version they create or are told, and we can't always blame them or expect them to make an effort to know ours as they have their own struggles, which maybe we also aren't aware of. But there are also people like Gamri and Gongjin villagers who don't know what's up but trust and care for you enough to support you all the same, or some like Ji PD, who'd try to walk in your shoes despite having their own struggles, or someone like Hye Jin, who loves you, cares for you, and would make the effort to ask, to listen to your story, to understand, to offer comfort and stay close by your side, though they don't always know the right way to, just yet.
10 mins of the present towards the end of Ep.2 has a lighter and playful vibe but it's too early to tell. It's a romance but also revolves around politics, so political conflicts and schemes are expected and tragedies are ensued. The manhwa has a sad ending from what I heard, so unless they change the ending here, our hearts would be broken at the end.
On a positive note, the pilot episode is amazing and truly captivating. The young cast who played the younger ML, FL plus side characters nailed their roles, especially the young actress playing the twins, she was phenomenal.
I hope Ep.3 is better but I loved the young cast and miss them already. In Ep.2, the present had a different vibe but we were given only a glimpse of it so I'll give this drama a couple more episodes to decide whether to continue. I really hope I'll find some reasons to stick around.
What I was saying is, one day, sooner or later a city girl like Hyejin will miss her life in Seoul, and will probably question her decision to move to Gongjin since her heart isn't entirely there yet or it is but she just doesn't know it yet. Ep 10 did show us how she'd come to love the village, its people and of course Dusik, but it didn't touch on anything career wise, which at the end of the day is also part of her life, regardless of how she sees it and what about it would make her content and happy. So by introducing the job opportunity, regardless of how big it is, i'd give Hyejin a chance to reflect on her past decision lest she'd be filled with what-ifs later, when it may become even harder to go back, also for her to think long and hard about the future which would likely present her with similar opportunities, and so along the way she'd realise where and with who her heart truly belongs.
So, for me, it's also Gongjin vs Seoul, but taking into account all possible aspects, career included as it's simply one of the important factors that she would need to consider along with other aspects when making such a big decision. Whether it really is important and to what extent, is for her to evaluate.
And of course I'm quite sure they use this to highlight her growth, I just meant that it could serve other purposes too, so maybe some against the idea can take their focus somewhere else and make peace with it.