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Way too long for no valid reason, the story was pretty simple and it still fell short.
The acting were not the greatest. The two lead were pretty bad, incapable to create real spark. I have not a minute felt compelled to their story. He was looking as an actor looking at himself acting. Never synchronized with the others. For her I am pretty disappointed as I realized after watching her in 3 different thing, she is basically always the same character but here it was blatant it was ill-fitted. Beautiful woman but limited range.
I had some expectations for the legal cases but they were not interesting to me. Not the side of law I am interested. Way too many clichés. My two motivations to watch this: Zhang Ruo Nan and legal content fell short!
Too many blatant misogynistic representations or signs and some little insidious ones were also snicked. Everything felt already seen somewhere else before. Does originally isn’t a valid criteria in Cdramas?
The night takes were beautifully executed and made but they enlightened only the parts of Shanghai that are brand new, very modern and not authentic. The sets were pretty and classy they selected really nice places (W hotel, office, restaurants) but as everything was so immaculate, without any stunts or real passengers; that kind of production choice made everything felt so fake.
Chen Xiao Yun was here for me the only positive, the violent scenes with the ex were badly written and acted but overall I did appreciate her style (hair/clothes), the way she carried herself throughout the drama.

Thanks. I didn’t understand all the negative comments about her being desperate. I found her a strong, beautiful and caring character. I believe sometimes you know in your gut that something feels wrong and the deepest truth is hidden behind and needs to be unveiled.

Surprise came as in many countries there is a party all night up to the next morning sometimes

True. Couple can have that ceremony without registering the wedding. I wonder how they manage to secure that people don’t have two brides or two husbands.

Good to know as I didn’t know whose country was sharing the tradition and who didn’t. Where I am giving money can be badly interpreted. Fiancé doesn’t money for example when in he meet his in laws maybe flowers or a bottle of wine for the mother and father if the introduction is taking place at home but that gesture is for anyone with proper education when invited. How long does the wedding event lasts in Philippines? Do you have fun?

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So you projecting your own , standard it’s ok
but others it is not. It sound peculiar to not see that different usage, culture impact judgement. That right and wrong-doing are the same pending on where you live and beliefs.
You are also very certain that every person voicing or a hint of questioning is a man. You are also certain that all
concerns are coming from misogynistic reasons. You are also very certain that you interpreted correctly every intentions of the author. So I let you to your certainties.

I know 1995 Outbreak with Ebola virus there is another one?
2011 Contagion can be another source of inspiration it was good.

I don’t fancy his look but acting should not solely be connected to looks, very good actors are bad looking, romances should portray also regular looking people. I have seen beautiful romances with less pretty actors and it make the story more realistic, authentic, raw and genuine. Having just pretty faces despite of talent make dramas shallow , empty or even fake.
Based upon Korean standards for male leads in a romance, the idleness of writers and directors, fan’s expectations, his inability to give the best on that genre he doesn’t have everything needed.

We are prone to judge based upon our culture, beliefs and own experiences. People are reacting when things are unfamiliar or contrary to their own values.
Many people that watch KDramas can come from traditional countries or can have traditional values and so have different expectations for what women and men can do.
And others lately are coming from more modern countries and have more modern values.
In my attempt to explain that dating culture varies strongly from place to place. I never said it would have been better if the man was the one going on several dates. When I mentioned imbalanced it was to say one has decided to pursue the other one to venture elsewhere. That imbalance can be one of the reasons people raise disappointment.
It is not how it works in many countries.
Concerning Korea based on what Korean
teachers have shared decision is made on
first date to pursue or not. Basically you have to close one door before opening another one if you are not a player. They are not going on several
dates at the same time, pursuing several
persons at the same time. Koreans are way too jealous for that. Here as he shown interest and was not seeing other people he is on the back burner waiting for his fate, waiting to get pick by someone. That isn’t an agreeable position, nobody wants that seat. Waiting to be compared to others. In his position I would never have give her a minute of my time or accept someone that comes back after weighing other options.
Accepting the date itself like in many place it’s already the promise, a sign of interest itself. “Casual dating” doesn’t even have a translation in many languages and is not something everybody do.
You meet once you decide to see again or not, if yes you try the relationship if it’s failed you go to someone else.

Thanks. I am more about trying to understand cultural differences and how they impact our take on life

I don’t know about Japan but yeah in Korea and China people give money as a sign of appreciation. During weddings they collect money for the couple and you are really judged if you don’t give something substantial. In China there is an app red envelope to give money to friend, girlfriend, family. Relationship with money is very different than in Europe. In KDramas when they say all the time “It was expensive” we should translated more it’s valuable / quality because the word carry both senses for them.
Not every part of the wedding here is for everybody ; dinner the night before really close family is mostly done now as everyone is coming from far away. The day of the wedding if your just an acquaintance you are invited for church/city hall and a drinks, friends and family you
add the dinner and party. The next day again it’s for close relatives. Yes guests can leave early if they feel like it.
Where are you from?

On Bilibili with English subtitles

In my country it’s around 3 days, between dinner the night before, the ceremony is usually a Saturday afternoon, followed by a cocktail, a seated dinner, a party until earlythe next morning, following day another casual gathering for lunch picnic, barbecue…the full event is for sure more expensive than one hour rental and a buffet.
I think something guests have to pay for their lunch ticket but I am not sure how many do it in Korea. Guests have also to pay 2 times once for the couple and another time just for the bride as apparently husband’s family as they are keeping the register and collecting the money sometimes keep the money so an envelope for just the bride is a safety that can be apply.

On Instagram several Koreans made videos of them going in and out from weddings. Apparently it’s for efficiency. Most weddings aren’t on weekdays and hotels give very little slot for the event so ppalli ppalli 😄

The joke of the year I am the same generation he is. I am not speaking about my personal taste or expectations about who should be leading dramas. Observing the Korean industry I see the kind of
opportunities actors in their 40s get vs actors in their 20s.
Only huge stars are going to have a few opportunities to be lead men in romance after 40.
Most actors in their 40 are supporting actors. Romance is the genre that feature the most young people so it isn’t a good call for someone his age.

Koreans go to wedding during theirs lunch breaks: 30-minute ceremonies, you give money- you get an hotel lunch buffet and it’s over, no party, no dance…we discussed about that with my Korean teacher. It’s very boring, he said he is so unhappy to spend so much on gift/wedding donation for so short events.

That’s true love 🤣

This drama makes me feel so dumb and humble …the pace isn’t crazy, there isn’t that much characters but I have absolutely no idea after 7 episodes what’s going on, who is who, what are their motives, who is dead who is alive. But I keep watching 🤣🤣🤣
Did someone swapped my brain while I was sleeping?

Never mentioned difference of standard between men and women. He would have done the same audience would have raised even more concerns. Again you go on casual dating/vs dating which doesn’t exist in most countries. It’s s a very American thing. So what might look normal to you or clear and the way to proceed isn’t for others. In most place people don’t do that. American way isn’t the international standard.