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I mean if I was Watarai, I would have stopped the moment my partner was not responding... I wouldn't have made it last that long.

PS: I wasn't particularly traumatized per say, but I just wanted to gather my thoughts in the moment. I had no time to think if I wanted to or not... I wasn't even into the guy in question. He was really good looking though, so he got away with it given how young I was... Wouldn't have been that smooth if he wasn't that good-looking.

Also, he knew exactly how to make me kiss him back willingly or not. I had lots of other partners after that one... And from experience, he was definitely professional level. I just didn't know it at the time since I didn't have any experience.

Ultimately, this is a drama that caters to a Japanese audience. If you think the kissing scene looked natural, that's fine. I sure do not but to each one their own.
This has nothing to do with disrespecting other people's cultures. If you're expressing intimacy, make sure it doesn't look cringe. No one is expecting a whole make-out session from Japanese people anyway. I think most MDL viewers are well aware of these cultural differences.

The issue is that this the finale of the drama, and from the way it's been filmed, they're sending the message of "romantic kiss" when it's clearly more awkward than romantic.

Yeah I know... I wasn't expecting it to be THAT long though... But the ML and the FL look really good, I might give it a try. (I'm a sucker for the beard, though the ML's slightly too thick imho. I wish Eastern Asians weren't beard-racists but alas!)

I'm just a bit afraid of starting something THAT long and then having the whole show removed from Youtube before I finish it. It happened with other shows I started on the platform so I'm always a bit weary about it.

I'm still very much enjoying Dynamite Kiss though... I don't think the drama took a nose dive BUT they sure could have done a lot of things better. I understand people's grievances.

Yeah well still skeptical on that one. I explained why in the answer to Jero just above.

Ok ok... If you say so... I haven't read the novel.

It's just really funny to me because the first time I got kissed, I was so surprised that I didn't have time to close my mouth and my partner literally threw his tongue in it without leaving me with any chance of escaping no matter how much I tried. Once the tongue was in, he was basically in control of when the whole thing ended so to speak.

Yet in all these "surprised kisses" especially the Japanese ones, they always have they mouth tightly closed and that to me is SO unrealistic. When you're surprised, your mouth naturally opens even if it's just slightly, it's not closed like that.

The little peck they had just after was actually much more natural, because Hioki was literally really taken by surprise hence the kissing noise.

BUT OK. I'll give them a pass this time and will see if the specials make up for it.

So... I checked it out... 51 EPISODES of MORE THAN 2 HOURS EACH?

And I thought Chinese dramas were long...

Watarai: "I'm trying to have a real kiss here! Please, make an effort, I'm feeling really pathetic right now!"

Hioki: "Nah, sorry. Japanese fish kiss only."

Apart from this dreadful kiss, this was certainly the cutest BL of the year.

But Japan? Please, if one of your actors is not comfortable with kissing, just spare him, AND US, and just film them from afar. It's not like anybody is expecting Thai kisses from Japanese actors. Their kisses already suck most of the time with straight shows, I've long learned to kill, burn and bury and hope on that front.

Yeah but it still doesn't make sense. When you speak with someone you're familiar with, you might occasionally use words in another dialect or language - I should know I'm the child of 1st generation immigrants- but you don't entirely switch language.

If you use one particular language with someone, you stick to that language all the time, yet these characters, sometimes they speak in cantonese with each other, at other times in Mandarin. That's just plain stupid. They should have stuck with one language especially since there's no logical reason as to why they switch.

HA!🤣🤣🤣

Ep 8 ==> Poor Li Wu... You're supposed to train your English listening skill, listening to some mp3 files pronounced by somebody who clearly hasn't mastered English pronunciation properly. But I'm going to pretend that this is not engrish pronunciation but english. Hopefully these scenes don't last too long, it makes my ears bleed.

Funniest thing is that the ML's pronunciation is better than the file he listened to, to better his pronunciation. Ridiculous.

Seriously, they could have had a native speaker read a couple of sentences. I'm sure it doesn't cost that much. Will I EVER find an Asian drama in which the English isn't cringe as fudge?😭😭😭😭😭

Honestly they're only 4 years apart. That's barely anything in terms of age gap. It's more the vibe that she emitted that just clashed with the ML in my opinion. They just didn't match which is why that ship never sailed in my opinion.

The romance was the weakest point of the show, they should have removed it altogether.

I personally didn't mind her "block of ice" personality when she was into her scientific stuffs but out of it? Well I agree with your comment.

That was also my first time watching this actress and sadly it didn't made me want to see her more in anything else, but I watch shows mostly for their stories so you never know, I might come across her again if I'm interested in the story she acts in.

I love Cheng Lei but his kiss scenes have been meh so far. It's all playing with the camera angles. Hopefully he delivers this time since Bai Lu is known for her great kisses onscreen.

Oh my... That comment 😭 As much as I love this drama, you really hit the nail on the coffin on this one. This drama has the best ML ever paired with the most useless damsel in distress ever. It would have been a 10/10 for me if Da Rim had just a little bit more spunk. I'm not even asking for a lot!

So Noble idiocy coming next week.

Well hopefully only for one episode. Still love this series but I so wish we didn't get the usual last ditch breakup.

Well had to force myself watching the last 4 episodes. I should have dropped this but I hate to drop a show so close to the end.

Honestly I think the biggest flaw is that the romance moved too fast which led to having no story to tell even before we reached the middle of the show... Hence throwing cliché plot device after cliché plot device: new star outshining the old, stalker fan, private picture stolen, useless fake love triangle, death of family members etc... All in 11 episodes. It's difficult to connect emotionally with anything when everything moves so fast.

I'm guessing the manga is much more slower pace-wise.

Whoever cast Smart and Boom together deserves a rise though. The drama is bland as fudge but the whole show is carried literally entirely on their chemistry.

I can't understand how this one got 8.6 on MDL... It's not the first time that happens but honestly apart from the chemistry everything is so mid, I fail to see how this is not obvious to everyone.
Still debating if I give his one 5 for SmartBoom's performance ( hoping to see them together again in a better project) or if I go lower...

I see myself in your comment indeed albeit with 8 years on top. It's not really a matter of not wanting to, more a matter of time.

Though I have to add... Personally seeing my mom, and the amount of regrets she has about her life, I'm very much at peace with not getting the kids nor the husband if it doesn't happen. Age doesn't matter when it comes to finding a partner... but for giving birth... I probably only have 5 years left... though I know someone who had her first child at 50. But I'm gonna assume I'm among the majority so probably complicated past 45.

My mum often tells me she really envies how free I am. In spite of how old she is... She still has a child at home. I have an older brother who was discovered to have some serious mental illness very late so sadly my parents still have to care for him even though he's way past 40.

It's endless worry on their part because neither I nor my younger brother get along with him for a variety of reasons so my parents worry that if he doesn't become financially independent by the time they're gone, who knows what's gonna happen.

Not gonna lie. I worry more about my parents physical and mental health. Him? Well. Let's just say that some behaviors cannot be excused just because you're sick.

That's a strong reminder: Having kids is FOR LIFE. In most cases, things go well, but if one of them has some mental issues, it's your whole family that suffers... Not only you, but your other children as well. And the state can only help you so far WHEN there is help AND the person that needs help is willing to save themselves.

When somebody is bent on ruining themselves, you can literally lose your whole life trying to save them. Most people would learn their lesson and give up... But parents? Well there's the sane ones... And then there's mine. No sense of self-preservation when it comes to their children, especially my mother.

ANYWAY. On that front, none of my parents ever bothered me with getting married and all that jazz... though I know the whole family have been pestering them about my case nonstop. Should take care of their own a*** instead of being busy bodies for no reason.

No women can handle having a husband, kids and do all the things you want to do. It's either you make sacrifices on YOUR LIFE or your family suffers from it especially the kids.

Even money doesn't help. Look at all these actresses. It's either they don't act as much as before OR they have 20 nannies and their kids barely see them.

Having children means you have to make sacrifices because you think it's worth it. If you're not ready to, better not have any. There's nothing worse than selfish parents getting angry at their kids for merely existing and behaving like kids do( i.e they're cute when they behave but my God when they don't...), and telling them how much they hate their lives because of the sacrifices they did for them. As if the children asked to exist.

Not even entering the realm of people who can't even be responsible for themselves and are having children.

Anyway, I wish us both to achieve our respective dreams or at least die trying ^^ whichever these dreams are and even if they change shapes as you go.

You can't have everything in life, the only thing you can do is make sure you have as little regrets as possible.

Yeah well. That still doesn't mean anything. I used to have gay friends myself and went to those as well.

Also asking something about one being gay or not is extremely rude. When you're assumed to be heterosexual, people do not ask you quite a lot of questions gay people are subjected to. That's telling you about how rude and out of place these questions are. Not answering said questions is just saying a message "You don't ask straight people, you should not ask gay people either". That's it.

There's no problem if he is indeed gay, but throwing rumors about somebody being gay just because they've seen him in a gay bar is stupid. When you befriend a gay person, you usually get the whole group of friends with it, given how most of them frequent the same associations etc . due to discrimination. You naturally end up hanging out in the same places.

1. Your mother is French. By right of birth, you're entitled to have the French nationality. The procedure is actually pretty simple. In fact, I would argue you might already have it without knowing. My parents did all the paperwork for me to have malagasy papers without me knowing since both have both nationalities... Never knew it. Learned about it recently discussing with my mum about the rise of fascism and all of that jazz. She told at the last resort, I can go back there...Even though last time I set foot in that country was 25 years ago and I don't even speak the language.

2. If it was just racist comments, I could deal with it no matter how annoying it is... But the issue is not only getting a job.. It's also about getting a place to live... An issue you just can't avoid. I'm mixed actually. I've taken a slightly lighter shade than my father, so black or brown I guess. But my little brother has taken my mother's skin color and basically my grandfather Yemeni features. Needless to say, with all the discrimination against Muslims, his face doesn't help. He's been a full fledged civil servant for over 10 years now but still lives in a 9sq meters room. Not because of money, but simply because of his race and outward assumed religion.

Some other white colleagues of his who are less well paid actually got bigger places even though they arrived later. You can always find worse though, one of his colleagues has been renting R BnB's for years... It's ruining his finances but what can he do? Nobody wants him. At least my little brother's got a room... even though the toilets are shared and outside his room.

All these racists talking about us "playing victims" have absolutely no idea what we're going through. I had the same problem before I got my place... 15 days left and I was literally going to be thrown out from the accommodation I was living in when my work found me a place. Literally a miracle. Albeit a very expensive one.

3. Can't give you advice on that one. I usually watch TV series only when I eat. Otherwise I just don't have time for anything else. My life is just working. This month, I'm going to my parents for a whole month... And I plan to rest. I haven' t done that for over 10 years. Usually I use my holidays to study even more.

I sometimes reduce the amount I do daily but I never stop. Even before when I was employed, I'd still be able to shove 4 to 5 hours of study a day. It's more a matter of military discipline. Waking up around 4 am to study and doing the rest in the evening.
It's hard but feasable... You just have to flush any hope of having a private life down the toilet... I personally don't care, I'm more interested in what I want to do than having kids and a husband. It's also complicated to always explain to family members you're not available because you "have plans". But that's just me. it's not for everyone. The price is very high.

Otherwise yeah, I think taking it a bit slower is wiser.

4. Oh I have my own method for learning languages don't worry. There's what I call "passive learning" and "active learning". Acting learning requires full focus, passive learning is something I do literally in all my free time except when I exercise. But that's a whole other endless subject so I won't go into details.

Except during COVID, I never stopped exercising. I wish I could walk more but sadly no time... So I stick to 1 hour of Body Attack followed by 1 hour of Body Pump at the gym + 1h15 mn of walking ( to go to and from there ^^) I don't know if you know those? (Body Attack: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eT7nh9WmhnI ; Body Pump: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7gwt-fuceI )

Anyway, it's actually really intense. Threw up the first time I did Body Attack a couple of years ago. Both are enough to maintain a fairly good level or cardio and muscles...

Once I no longer need to study languages as much, I'll go back to exercise more... I used to have an average of 10 hours a week( again I'm extremely disciplined) but sadly can't do it anymore. It's mostly the cardio that really suffers from it though, I haven't lost that much muscle mass though my aim is to start calisthenics at 50 at the latest 😎

Openly gay? He's never stated he was.

Oh my...
There would be lots to say about your answer but I'm gonna try to really keep it short.

1. Given your mother is French, you have the French nationality hence the benefits. I'm not really sure a European with no French papers can get those.

2. Orléans and its suburban cities are indeed in no way comparable to Paris... But the job your sister does can literally be found anywhere... The issue is more when you seek highly qualified jobs. In that case, unless you're working from home, you're stuck with big cities, Paris being the most expensive but to name a few Bordeaux, Lyon, Marseille, Aix en Provence etc.

EDIT: Forgot to add, groceries are also more expensive in big cities... It's not just the rent.

Being black and having lived in the countryside when I was younger, I'm also stuck with big cities regardless of the job. I went through a fair dose of racism when I was younger and I don't want to subject myself to it ever again which is why a city sounding like Chapelle Saint Mesmin is a no-no. Maybe racist, maybe not. No time nor energy to check.

3. Good luck with languages. For me it's not a matter of being useful. I just learn what I want. But my aim is always to be as fluent as a native which is the case for English... But, for the rest of the languages I'm learning... I give myself 2 to 3 years for Korean to up to 6/7 years for Thai and Chinese. Not particularly worried, I'm extremely disciplined... It's also not the only thing I learned on my own so.

4. Sadly I try to at least maintain a minimum of 6 hours of sleep a day... I just can't manage to indulge in more with all the things I do. Had to cut back on exercising as well so I only maintain 2 hours a week... (especially to avoid back pain, bodybuilding is literally not something you can neglect.) I'm still in the middle of trying to find a publisher for my work but money being scarce, I need to get back to classic employment...

Which means, sleep is gonna become an even bigger problem because yes, I'm not cutting back on languages and other stuffs. I did it with a full time job before, and I'll do i again until I'm fluent. I've sacrificed too much for too long to give up in the middle.