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At first a really thought Duan JR could have a thing for QQ but right now I’m pretty sure XR is more than interested. But she isn’t there (yet?).

Correct my earlier guess: QQ will be (is) XR love interest.

We started to early because when we catch up so soon we have to wait….

Exactly, wich was 11 years ago.

Yeah that’s her debt. To me unbelievable that you will take a loan out for your parents and pay for it. But I was wondering more about how he is 2M in debt and can’t pay her the 8M as stated in the divorce settlement.

I’m guessing QQ wil become his love interest.

Sometimes I think it’s getting better and then the next scene it’s fully blown up again 😂😂😂

I don’t understand the debt at all. First I thought it was a business debt she was unaware of. But he doesn’t own a business. Later she explains to her parents that the house is his from his parents. But no explanation about the debt. Is it even real? Or a trick from garbage ex? He lives his life like nothing is wrong.
The parents are so disgusting. All they want is money. And the mistress, I really have no words for her.

I’m getting started and on ep 4. I really really dislike the FL family. Even more then the garbage husband. The mistress comes in second. Normally I’m all for blaming the cheating party alone but she is a different level of evil. They truly deserve each other.
I’ve read al lot of comments saying they dislike FL. I really don’t. Sure she made a choice to support her husband and don’t work. I don’t blame her for that. She did what she thought was the right choice at the time. And after ten years of being devoted (wich is really not easy!) she discovered her husband isn’t the man she thought he was. She was in shock, her whole life a lie. It takes time to wrap your head around that kind of revelation. But she came around really quick. And was decisive in the divorce. Ok she is really being bullied by her family. But to me that’s not being a doormat but being emotionally blackmailed because they took her in. I learned by watching many Chinese drama’s that children should be endless grateful to parents that they are born and raised on a different level then I’m used to here in Europe. When you are raised by people who are not biological related it seems you have to service and cater them whenever, wherever and with whatever. I really hope FL can break free of this society set rule but to me she is no doormat.

I’m on ep 2 and I was wondering if his hair styling would get better after the middle eastern wind 💨😉😁

I agree with you for the most part. But for me he still shows red flag behaviour. Besides the misunderstandings, not communicating with her, never asking alway assuming and the way he never actually apologizes in words. That all can be his insecurities and the influence of Rong ands Fei. But ep 4 while walking home he calls her unmotivated, lazy, spoiled. For me that’s when he lost me. Because he chose to say those words all by himself.

It’s on going, 2 eps a day till we reach the end at ep 36.

I don’t think the comments are about paying/money but the way the commenters feel about this. He first tricked her in to buying dinner for the team with him, then choose a fancy restaurant, order a lot of expensive dishes. on top of that he ‘forgets’ his wallet and let her pay for it all. After the harsh treatment from SML and from ML himself (caused by his misunderstanding but still) viewers want her to be treated as a princess.
To me that scene is about connection and easiness. ML his teasing (fully aware of her being able to pay easily) creates a bond between them. Later he buys her clothes and gives her his wallet to play. That shows it’s not about money, it’s about equality and trust. It’s also a contrast with SML who is always insecure about money and always what to be equal. Like paying back the hospital money with interest.

The girl who fell in love with ML at the party is the adoptive daughter of FL father. The daughter of the woman who is later explained as the reason for the divorce between FL parents. The old friend with only a few years to live (still and again). So the ML thinks he is asked to meet the FL wich he is eager to do so. But the FL didn’t notice ML at that party, doesn’t know him at all and never had a meeting planned. After ML accident the girl who wanted to meet him never shows up in the hospital so ML has a grudge against her for that. Still thinking it’s FL. That misunderstanding hasn’t been cleared up yet as of ep 10.

Ep 1: 3:52 ML gets call from friend Jiaqi. Jaiqi asks ML to come to Wuxi to meet a girl. She fell in love with ML at first sight at his (Jaqi) mother party. Jaqi says to ML that the girl is really stunning and Nie Chengyuan’s daughter. Flashback from ML to the party: ML staring at FL (5:05). Love at first sight for him. He suddenly agrees to the meeting. Next scene ML is in his car to Wuxi to meet her and has an major accident. Spoiler below.

I missed the co-worker lady. or do you mean one of the ladies who were talking in the bathroom?

For me SML isn’t a almost perfect character because of his lack of communication skills fueled by a mega inferiority complex. But if you mean perfect in sense of education (top class) and looks (although handsome not my style) I hear you!
But then again ML is far more perfect! Genius scholar, really handsome (yes, my type 🤭) compassionate en genius doctor, succeeding in 2nd career and upper social class with money (if you care for that). ML wins the competition with a landslide!

Hi there! I’m the one in no one 🫣. I really could like the SML. Not because of his looks, he is not really my type, ML is ☺️. I really wanted to give him a chance because I felt his mega inferiority complex in the words not said but also felt his attraction and like for her in his actions. To me in first few eps of show he is a really struggling and grey character. Feeded by Rong’s schemes he makes poor choices and doesn’t communicate at all. The turning point for me is the walk home conversation in ep 4. His affectionate gaze doesn’t soften the harsh words (unmotivated, lazy, spoiled) anymore.

Thx Anya for your insights! I must say I really like that show is more ambiguous (for me at least) the the book when it comes to like or dislike SML. I like that he is a really grey character who takes clumsy actions but can’t express himself properly because of his inferiority complex. So Rong is manipulating his little brother in the novel. The manipulation is there in show but for me more trough the roommates.
There was one scene I didn’t really understand. Watched it twice because of the sub speed 🤭but made no sense to me. SML mother is pushing him to Rong and making some kind of comment about owning her. Did you understand with your knowledge of the novel?

I saw somebody’s comment who said he/she/they really liked the SML as a minority of the people here. So, you are not alone, me too. At least partially. There are actions that show affection. Like handing in her resume for her, helping her with her thesis, protecting her from behind at the bus stop. He really wants to be close to her. Applying to a job near him, pretending not to have money for a cab so that he can walk her back really show affection. But his words doesn’t. That’s why I was conflicted between like and dislike. I feel his inferiority complex. The push from his mother to Rong (feels like some kind op debt wich I really didn’t understand, so anyone?) who has the same background. The financial gap is huge. Takes a lot stronger man to handle that. But I didn’t dislike him. He was just poor at communicating and she keeps misunderstanding his intentions because he doesn’t state them clearly. But Rong knows and in some extent the other ‘friends’ do to. For me that alone makes them toxic. They are totally buying Rong’s quasi innocence front. Nobody told her Rong is in love with SML and nobody told her I think SML likes you. The scene about the missed telephone call was just really highlighting that for me.

So I read a lot of comments saying they didn’t like that the 4 first eps were all about the SML but for me I really was hooked from ep 1 and needed them to get to know her and her story with the SML. I als saw a lot of comments that say they don’t understand why FL likes SML. And I agree to some extent. It isn’t really shown except from her immediate liking him in white, with shorter hair in the snow. But if they had shown more of them together it would have taken more then 4 eps and that would leave the ML out of the story for too long. So I treat her liking as a given without reason.

So back to the beginning. After my initial like of the ML, at least recognizing his like for her, what changed my like in to dislike was the walk home scene in ep 4. His words: calling her unmotivated, lazy and spoiled were really really harsh and uncalled for. Even delivered with those affectionate eyes that give away his like for her. He really and totally lost me there.

And in comes ML! I’m so looking forward to today’s eps!