Its a common misconception that all gay men are completely unattracted with women. It doesn't make them bisexual.…
Its not just about a label, its hard to explain. I am not saying there are no bisexuals. But there is this notion, that anyone who is also has some attraction to women is most likely bisexual, and that is not correct, that's all. Not all gay men are immune to the beauty of women. Before I 'came out' I felt a lot more interested or sometimes attracted to women. But ever since I became ok with my sexuality, I found over the years such interest in women gradually dying away almost naturally. That leads me to believe that a slight interest was magnified to a great extent by the need to be straight. You can very close friend to a girl, and if you maybe slightly interested, but you magnify your feelings to think that you totally like her. I think that's what happened to Teh in case of Tarn. Also Teh's interest in Yongjian since very childhood is much more than just a role-model that has been already shown. That leads me to believe that he is gay. Anyway, this will become clear in Part 2.
Also, saying that Teh is gay might be wrong because he clearly had feelings for Tarn, he might be bi/pan, rather…
Its a common misconception that all gay men are completely unattracted with women. It doesn't make them bisexual. Watch this interview of Neil Patrick Harris and Oprah.
Btw, I have also dated women as a teenager and genuinely liked it, exacerbating my confusion when 'coming out'. But I really don't think I am bisexual.
It is really a story of 'gay' teenage love. It is 'not' the best Thai BL ever. The only thing common with other Thai BLs is that it is in Thai and it involves two boys. The commonality ends there.
The usual intricacies of a romantic relationship is much more complexified when the characters are gay. A usual saga of of attraction, reciprocation, jealousy, missing, pain and joy is compounded by the the very questioning of the feeling itself, the fear of public reaction, the shame of self-definition, the guilt of not fulfilling familial expectation, the inexorable hesitation to come to terms with your self even when it is staring flat at your face. The author seamlessly melds them together presenting to us a story of gay first love in all its intricacy and splendor.
The purity of feelings and sexual desire is stained by the nagging feeling of shame and the constant questioning of your sexuality. You question your orientation and grasp at every little incident to prove that you are not gay. This is 'first hesitation', hesitation to come out to yourself. This was presented throughout this series and ended with Teh's confession to Hoon.
Now comes the 'second hesitation', the hesitation to come out to society. As Hoon said, "you have the right to decide who to like and nobody has a say in it." How much time it takes to understand such a simple truth! This is the 'second hesitation', hesitation to be openly gay. Such a simple truth is so hard to realize. People still waste time hiding and hesitating even after 'coming out' to themselves, letting others know they are gay. This is what was a play here in this last episode, unforeseen by all the viewers. Teh sorted out his feelings but still has to deal with this 'second hesitation'. Bas was not embarrassed to be seen in public with Oh. It is clear Oh values it quite a lot. Teh understands his feelings for Oh more clearly now, but he will still have issues with being openly gay. I suppose, this would be the tension between them in part 2; Oh's desire to have a open relationship and Teh wanting to keep it under wraps.
This also interestingly shows the diversity within the gay community where it is relatively easier for some to come out than others. I also learned to look at things at other gay people's perspectives, which I had not considered so much before. It is really a serious lgbt love story rather than a simple love story. Eagerly looking forward to Part 2
I mean the episode was very different to the teaser, I am very pleasantly shocked!
Yes, totally different pacing. I don't really get why Teh didn't go after Oh after sorting out his feelings. Did he really think Oh had moved on! I suppose it was the same childhood hesitation about who makes the first move, but feels a little strange. When Oh asked, "What about us?', he still couldn't say it. Well at the end, they gave us a HE but Teh's problems are still not resolved. The song at the end ir really nice though.
Finally getting a chance to watch the subbed version: the confession, the breakdown of Teh, the handholding, coming out to brother, what a volley of powerful scenes. How many ways can you say masterpiece! "But he's a guy, how can I like him? SInce I was born, I thought I could only like girls Liking each other seems weird. What will I tell my friends, all of whom date girls......"
Its almost a pass-through ritual gay men have to go through, but who had ever expressed the agony of it in such simple words!
HOW ARE Y'ALL FEELING? I'M SOBBING!Btw, was part 2 planned from the beginning or set up last minute due to the…
There was comment quite sometime back, where it said someone asked Nadao whether there is more after the 5 episodes and he said yes. So, it should be planned beforehand.
Not all gay men are immune to the beauty of women.
Before I 'came out' I felt a lot more interested or sometimes attracted to women. But ever since I became ok with my sexuality, I found over the years such interest in women gradually dying away almost naturally. That leads me to believe that a slight interest was magnified to a great extent by the need to be straight.
You can very close friend to a girl, and if you maybe slightly interested, but you magnify your feelings to think that you totally like her. I think that's what happened to Teh in case of Tarn. Also Teh's interest in Yongjian since very childhood is much more than just a role-model that has been already shown. That leads me to believe that he is gay. Anyway, this will become clear in Part 2.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fATegRW2EE4
Btw, I have also dated women as a teenager and genuinely liked it, exacerbating my confusion when 'coming out'. But I really don't think I am bisexual.
The usual intricacies of a romantic relationship is much more complexified when the characters are gay. A usual saga of of attraction, reciprocation, jealousy, missing, pain and joy is compounded by the the very questioning of the feeling itself, the fear of public reaction, the shame of self-definition, the guilt of not fulfilling familial expectation, the inexorable hesitation to come to terms with your self even when it is staring flat at your face. The author seamlessly melds them together presenting to us a story of gay first love in all its intricacy and splendor.
The purity of feelings and sexual desire is stained by the nagging feeling of shame and the constant questioning of your sexuality. You question your orientation and grasp at every little incident to prove that you are not gay. This is 'first hesitation', hesitation to come out to yourself. This was presented throughout this series and ended with Teh's confession to Hoon.
Now comes the 'second hesitation', the hesitation to come out to society. As Hoon said, "you have the right to decide who to like and nobody has a say in it." How much time it takes to understand such a simple truth! This is the 'second hesitation', hesitation to be openly gay. Such a simple truth is so hard to realize. People still waste time hiding and hesitating even after 'coming out' to themselves, letting others know they are gay. This is what was a play here in this last episode, unforeseen by all the viewers. Teh sorted out his feelings but still has to deal with this 'second hesitation'. Bas was not embarrassed to be seen in public with Oh. It is clear Oh values it quite a lot. Teh understands his feelings for Oh more clearly now, but he will still have issues with being openly gay. I suppose, this would be the tension between them in part 2; Oh's desire to have a open relationship and Teh wanting to keep it under wraps.
This also interestingly shows the diversity within the gay community where it is relatively easier for some to come out than others. I also learned to look at things at other gay people's perspectives, which I had not considered so much before. It is really a serious lgbt love story rather than a simple love story. Eagerly looking forward to Part 2
"But he's a guy, how can I like him?
SInce I was born, I thought I could only like girls
Liking each other seems weird.
What will I tell my friends, all of whom date girls......"
Its almost a pass-through ritual gay men have to go through, but who had ever expressed the agony of it in such simple words!
I posted a little critical comments about Bas. I take it all back. I didn't understand his personality :(
NOW, I WANT A FULL_BLOWN SEASON 2
I DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS.