littlebluemonster

Haven't started this and I'm waiting for more episodes to be out first as well. But if this turns out bad, I'm just gonna rewatch Love Scout too. Hahahahah

Yea, I agree. I hope that's the case with Bei and Gong. I also think when MM asked Bei that if Da Sen was the one leaving her, would Bei still feel the same way and he kept quiet, that was quite telling. Bei cares more about his friend, which I think is natural, but we've also seen Bei call out Xiu for his affair and not many people can do that. So hopefully he'll speak up if he learns this side of Da Sen.

I kinda agree with you about Yu. I see many calling her out on her verbally abusive behavior and I also agree that she became quite unbearable. But it was also her choice getting into a relationship and marriage with Xiu. She chose him, so that's on her. She also has a choice to leave him and choose herself now, which sadly, she isn't doing .

I also think no woman wants to become that naggy, loud, verbally abusive wife. Most women turn out that way because of the husband. The wives become so stressed being the only responsible and practical adult in the marriage that those burden forced them into becoming naggy and frustrated.

I get how stressful it was for Xiu having to deal with her yelling and criticism. Nobody wants to be in a relationship like that. But again, all the responsibility was on her to keep the roof over their heads and put bread on the table. Xiu was helping her with some stuff, and he thought he was sacrificing his dream, but being in that marriage, it was also his responsibility to carry that burden. We all wish we could make a living doing solely what we love, but that's not reality. And Xiu refuses to accept that, leaving Yu being the one to compromise more, eventually hating her life too and becoming this miserable person.

And also all the beautiful promises they made to each other like getting a dog and stuff. I feel that she was being very valid stating facts about how having a dog isn't just fun. It carries the same responsibility as raising a child. She was completely right and realistic. They weren't in a financial situation or even have the time and effort to afford raising a dog yet. So I completely agree with her calling out Xiu for being childish. If he took up other jobs to help ease their financial burden, she probably wouldn't have become so unbearable.

But I've got to be honest, I don't like how Yu is acting now, even though I get why she's acting this way. I won't say she's faultless in the relationship either. I feel that Yu and Xiu are both better off setting each other free. Because while they may be loving and sweet as an unmarried couple, married life is different and I don't think they're a fit. Their relationship is still gonna be a huge mess if Xiu doesn't grow up and they don't work on their problems together. Plus, do they still love each other enough to want to stay in this marriage? I think Yu may still love Xiu, but I feel that Xiu may not love Yu anymore. Some people stay in a marriage not because they still love each other, but if they're both so miserable, what's the point in keeping the marriage?

I think that's the thing. FL found herself great guy and she knows she's a mess. That's why she's trying to be the perfect girlfriend for him, fearing that he'd leave her if he found out the truth about her.

Omg completely agree with you about Xiu. Hahahahah that's why I agree with Gong on Luan Luan's bad taste in men. Dude can't even make up his mind, making life miserable for both women. I like that Bei and Gong call him out on that.

You hit the nail on the head with everything! Also about Da Sen, he keeps acting entitled just coz he's been "in love" (more like obsessed) with Ming Ming for so long. He speaks as if he's this selfless lover who sacrificed so much for her, so she owes him. Even previously when Bei was telling Ming Ming not to betray Da Sen after everything he's done for her, it gave off the same vibe.

This also made me think. Before they officially got together, we've seen Ming Ming reject things from Da Sen, but Da Sen wouldn't back down and just got pushy. Does that mean all these years, Ming Ming was forced to accept things from Da Sen even after she'd tried pushing him away? Did she try making it clear with him? And if Da Sen even knew she was seeing someone else, why did he still act like he had hope in front of his friends? And why did Bei act like Ming Ming was doing Da Sen wrong when Ming Ming didn't even accept Da Sen yet?

I'm not sure if I understood it right, so please correct me if I'm wrong. Since the beginning, we've only seen how aggressive Da Sen was at pursuing Ming Ming, but we didn't get to see how much she was leading him on while still being with her ex. We've only seen her trying to push him away. This is where Bei's attitude toward Ming Ming doesn't sit well with me. Then again, I feel that Bei and Gong might not realize how unhealthy Da Sen's obsession is toward Ming Ming. All they see is how "loyal" and "dedicated" he was, thinking their friend was being so selfless. This also made me think if Ming Ming actually likes Da Sen, or she only chose to love him and be with him because she ended her relationship with the ex.

Also, remember how Yu He was telling Xiao Xi back then that Gong was very sly and he'd keep in touch with his exes and stuff like that? Sometimes I wonder how much of it is true, or rather, why does Gong still keep in touch with them? Because although Gong seems like a playful and sometimes flirty (though I feel that his flirting doesn't really mean anything most of the time lol), he's someone who doesn't cross the line and knows his boundaries. At least that's how it is when it comes to him and Xiao Xi and Bei.

He calls out a jerk if he sees one, even if it's his friend, eg. Xiu. (Love the nicknames he comes up for Xiu. 🤣🤣) He also calls out Luan Luan too. But it always results in her calling him out in return. I feel that his borderline is not being the other man, or not being wishy washy like Xiu if a third person came into his relationship.

When Luan Luan asked him if he's only innocent because he hadn't had the opportunity to take action with Xiao Xi, then he contemplated and kept quiet, that made me even more curious about his answer. Then again, perhaps his silence meant he'd actually consider betraying Bei and cheat with Xiao Xi if she proposed the idea. But I also feel that he wouldn't be able to stand being the other man in the long run, unlike Luan Luan.

But guys aside, I actually quite like seeing Xiao Xi and Yu He together! I hope they can become closer friends in the future, though I think it's unlikely.

And speaking of friends, An Miu gets on my nerves so much. I like that Xiao Xi didn't pretend liking her when Bei asked what she thought about An Miu. Love the way Xiao Xi handled her. Not to mention, I already don't like An Miu for her job and her justifying it. She's basically paparazzi.

Just completed Ep14. And my biggest takeaway from this episode was Ming Ming turns out being one of the most rational and least toxic one. I didn't like the way she was holding on to Da Sen when she hadn't ended her relationship with the ex for good. But as the story progressed, I realized Da Sen was also a major problem.

In the beginning, I thought Da Sen was just a pursuer, because we never saw Ming Ming referring to him as her boyfriend. But Da Sen had pretended they were already a thing at the group's first dinner gathering we saw. That honestly left me puzzled because I thought Ming Ming hadn't officially accepted him. Later on, we saw Bei telling her not to betray Da Sen. But technically, before Ming Ming even officially accepted Da Sen, her fault was leaving things ambiguous with him, sort of still giving him hope while she's still working on ending her past affair. After she's accepted Da Sen, she hadn't really done anything wrong.

The way she handled her conflict with Da Sen really changed my views on her. Da Sen was trying to guilt trip her when he's being borderline obsessive and quite violent. She wasn't gonna have any of that. Da Sen knew it himself. He feels inferior, he gets jealous, he gets obsessive, he's also kind of a control freak. And Ming Ming was right. If he minded those things about her so much, he could've just gone ahead and look for a girl without a complicated past. But he was obsessed with Ming Ming and wants her to live the way he wants. It's understandable how anyone would get suspicious when their partner is with their ex, but Ming Ming really didn't cross any lines and she made it very clear with the guy. She wasn't being ambiguous with him. And it's true she was caught in a tough spot and it was hard to turn down his offer. She was still building her new business. And as a startup, if the ex hadn't shown up to help, those clients would've posted bad reviews about her and that's gonna potentially ruin her business.

Perhaps to some people, they'd agree with Da Sen, because they think Ming Ming should keep a distance with her ex no matter what, even if it risked ruining her business. While that may be the best way sometimes, I'm with Ming Ming this time because she handled things professionally. Da Sen wasn't wrong for being jealous or angry, but he also took things too far with the way he reacted. Not to say that Ming Ming is completely faultless in their relationship though. It's impossible for Da Sen to completely trust Ming Ming like that. She's also gotta work on earning his trust. But if Da Sen's only way of trusting her again is controlling her, then that's definitely unacceptable. The way Da Sen "loves" Ming Ming is just scary and suffocating to me. Honestly, I feel that they're better off apart than together.

I do like seeing Xiao Xi with Gong, but sometimes I don't even know if I ship Xiao Xi with anyone. She's got chemistry with Gong and Gong definitely has some feelings for her, but does she feel the same about him the same way she feels about Bei? I doubt so. I feel that she truly loves Bei, and to her, Gong is just like the girl version of her other bestie Ying Tao. Someone she can be completely honest with without fearing she might lose them because they've seen the real her from the start.

I think Xiao Xi and Bei can actually be a healthy and happy couple once they both learn to trust each other and communicate honestly. I do feel how much they care for each other, but they are both the same. I feel that they're afraid to open up about themselves because they're afraid they might lose each other. I'm looking forward to them finally being honest with each other about their past.

And speaking of Gong, I do feel bad for him sometimes because I feel he's masking his sensitive heart with a carefree facade, even though that playful and somewhat frivolous side of him are also partly his real personality.

I absolutely agree with you about Bei. He tends to avoid conflict, probably due to his past relationship. He wants to keep things nice and peaceful, even though it's just on the surface, but that doesn't solve anything. Problems and misunderstandings will only pile up. And a relationship can never be only rainbows and sunshine, and I feel that Bei is just trying to keep it that way, masking his fear and avoidance with open-mindedness. He appears to be understanding when it comes to others or when he answers a hypothetical question, but I really wonder if he can walk the walk when it actually happens to him.

Finished Ep8 and I really enjoy the conversations between Xiao Xi and Gong. When Xiao Xi and Bei are together, it's like Xiao Xi is trying to be the perfect girlfriend, almost tiptoeing all the time. Even though Gong fell in love with the made-up Jiang Yi Fan, Xiao Xi can be her true self in front of him now. When Xiao Xi is with Bei, it feels so suffocating because it's like they're both trying so hard not to show any bit of flaws. But when you watch Xiao Xi and Gong, it's like you finally get to breathe. But the fear and suspicion between Xiao Xi and Bei make sense because the more you care about someone or something, the more you fear losing it.

Also, the irony with Bei being the greenest flag in this show feels almost unrealistic when most dramas come up with the perfect green-flag ML and most of the time we love it. Bei almost feels too good to be true that I'm waiting to see what his "flaw" would be.

So glad we've got a character like Gong to balance out all the deep and dark moments. He's just so funny. Did not expect Gao Weiguang to play such a role, and he's seriously nailing it.

Love and relationships are mentally draining, tbh. I'd rather have some peace. 😂😂 But this drama is so fun to watch. Hahahah

Just finished Ep3. In a way, don't you think Gong is just in love with "Jiang Yi Fan", which is merely someone Xiao Xi created and isn't actually her? Meaning Gong is just in love with this made-up person which Xiao Xi pretended to be, and it's not who she really is. I'm curious to see how this whole thing plays out. Everyone has different perspectives on love. It's interesting to watch.

That's a good take. I get where you're coming from, and I agree too. It felt like she really wasn't that kind of person at first, but maybe it's a way to show that when someone's pushed to the brink, they'd act out of character, or maybe even unleash the deepest darkest side of them. Perhaps everyone has that side of them, it's just that not everyone gets pushed to that point.

Sarah wasn't someone who'd kill, that's why her first instinct when she snapped back and freaked out was to ask for help. But she ran into the loan shark, I think he was the first trigger. He reminded her of what she worked so hard for. Then she saw the statue and the whole event, and instead of getting slapped by her conscience again, reality hit her harder. She realized that if people found out, she'd lose Boudoir for good. That's why she went back in to finish Mi-jeong off (though she wasn't thorough enough, lol, but that also feels realistic coz she wasn't a pro at it anyway).

Thinking back now, I really like this whole sequence of her going through different states of emotions from being calm and threatening at first, thinking she was still in control, to completely losing composure and regaining it in the end. I really love this show too! I definitely need to rewatch it to appreciate and discover more details.

Finally had time to binge the last few episodes over the weekend! This was such a fun journey and I'm so sad it's ended T^T
Also, one of the things that really stood out for me in the final ep was Tang Xiao Tian makes such a great villain. This is his 3rd drama I've seen and I've only seen him play good guys, but here, Xiahou Bo was such a j*rk. 😆 Tang Xiao Tian should really consider taking on more slightly darker roles because he'd nail them!

I feel that her burst of hate or anger towards Mijeong makes sense. Those strangers she helped and the loan shark she donated her kidney to, they were people who didn't hurt her. And the loan shark was even someone who gave her so much, and she knows he genuinely cared about her in the end. She probably didn't wanna owe him, so she gave him her kidney.

On the other hand, Mijeong was gonna ruin everything she built, including Boudoir. Mijeong was a threat and someone difficult to control. I think that's why she decided to get rid of Mijeong at that impulsive moment.

But who's gonna be willing to be the witness? No one. That's the whole point. And about her skills and calluses, the police can't force her to prove she owns the skill, and she's not obligated to prove it to them because they got no solid evidence against that. So in the end, proving those skills and calluses don't matter anymore as those aren't substantial evidence to prove she's not Kim Mi-jeong, because the most crucial evidence they need is DNA and they don't have it.

Well said! This was honestly such an intriguing story!

Love your take on this!! I feel like this show is so deep that it's also not easy for people to appreciate. Thank you for putting my jumbled-up thoughts about this show into words and making them make sense.

I didn't realize ML played Jin Fan in My Journey To You!!! No wonder I kept thinking he looked familiar 🤣🤣 I'm only finding out on Ep16 after I decided to google. 🤦‍♀️ His styling here looks so much handsomer as the fox demon compared to when he played Jin Fan. 😆😆 Also really love the rainbow fox tails. Hahahaha