I remember MI Jeong say in episode 5 (i think), that she thinks her mom is unhappy because of her children. And so she said that when something bad happens, it's okay as long as her mother doesn't find out. So maybe, MJ really tried her best to keep her heartbreak a secret from her mother. Because she knew that would break her mother's heart, too. And it did.
I know not everyone would agree or relate, but I felt so much for CH when he asked if do people really need to have a goal. Can't we live just for the sake of living? Can't we just exist just as it is and not for anything in the future? I totally related to that. And it must have taken great courage for him to quit his job of 8 years with no particular prospects for a new job. Sometimes quitting needs as much courage as trying something new.
And the mom... the mooooommmmm! We'll find out in episode 14 the immediate aftermath of her death, but that was just painful. It always felt like she was the one thing keeping the family together. With her gone, all the things that she held together will slowly unravel.
Gu coming back to Sanpo after almost 3 years, it must have been a shock for him seeing how it all changed and how the Yeom family turned out. I believe, he had always had the Yeom family as his anchor, a distant anchor, but somewhere he felt safest. Maybe, in his most private, secluded thoughts, he might have considered Sanpo home and the Yeom family his family. It must have hurt him as well.
I get what you mean. Is it because of society-imposed gender roles? Is it because we have been conditioned that…
You know what, it's okay. It's okay to meet other people's expectations (to a degree that doesn't compromise your person). And it's okay not to meet other people's expectations. It's okay if the first date/meeting doesn't end up the way you expected. And it's okay if it does. It's okay to take it in steps and it's also okay to give it all at the get go. And that's the whole point. It's okay. Whatever works for the person is okay and they should not have to apologize for that.
I'm also guilty of doing the whole holding back to not come off like I'm too excited about a (not necessarily…
I get what you mean. Is it because of society-imposed gender roles? Is it because we have been conditioned that in a heterosexual relationship, it is expected for man to make the move? Why do we sometimes treat relationships like a game? A push and pull? And I also agree with KJ when she said that why can't she just give it her all when she likes someone. Why does she have to make him anxious? I never understood that but somehow it's something common. Is it because we generally tend to put up walls? Or is it because we usually take our time to show the parts of ourselves that he hide behind the "social filter" that we use all the time when we interact with others? There must be an answer somewhere. It's probably complex and multi-faceted. These things are never just one dimensional.
Or maybe there is not one correct answer. Maybe it's just different for every person, in different situations, with different relationships.
This is exactly how I saw it… and it really hurt me when he left. I still cry about thinking how she must have…
That break-up talk in Gu's kitchen was one of the most devastatingly amazing and heartbreaking break-ups I've ever seen. And then MJ crying... so painful! Kudos to the writer and director for creating that scene the way they did. And ten thumbs up to Kim Ji Won and Son Seok Koo for the wonderful acting!!!
This is a very interesting take of a therapist on MLN eps 1-6. It's about 20 mins long but so worth it.https://www.instagram.com/tv/CdJ_znOlArQ/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
Another video from her. The first half is about a scene in Our Blues and the second half she mainly talks about MLN episode 9-10, mostly about that suicide cliff talk between Gu and MJ. TW: depression, suicide
I know some are saying that they feel the relationship between Gu and MJ seemed too one-sided, with Gu showing more or expressing more "worship" than MJ. At first, I thought that I agreed to this. Going through the past episodes and Gu doing all these different acts of service like treating her to a meal, long jumping just to get her hat, being her sounding board, waiting for her at the station and walking with her, driving her around, making ramen for her, etc. True, very true. These were very evident actions of Gu showing his "chuang" towards MJ.
But then, I went through the episodes again, and now because I was consciously looking for it, I started to see how MJ reciprocated this and it's actually difficult for me to put into words, but here are some of the things MJ did that I interpreted as her revering/worshipping Gu: > She never denied their relationship. When KJ saw them and started suspecting them and just being KJ-snipy about it, MJ just took it like a pro. When CH found out, no denial there. When her mother asked why she went to Gu's house - she said it. "We're dating." > MJ never demanded Gu to change, alcoholic dude and all that he was. MJ even said that sometimes he looked like a homeless guy but that never bothered here. She accepted him for who he was, ratty clothes and all. And at this time, all of them didn't know anything about him. He could very well be a criminal in hiding, a poor guy living a precarious life. But, she accepted all of that. > She didn't care what wrong things Gu had done in the past. Even when Gu told her about what happened to the woman he used to live with and the obvious guilt he felt, MJ said "I still think you're okay." MJ only cared for the Gu that he was now.
Overall, I think this was exactly what Gu needed in his life at that time. He's a mess. Feeling guilty and lost and betrayed by his life in Seoul, he just needed someone to see him for who he was. Gu is the type of person who would deal with his shit when he's damn ready to deal with it and MJ never rushed him.
And this degree of acceptance, when someone appears to be in the lowest of their low is not some easy sh*t. It requires a brave, strong soul to deal with all that and MJ was all there for that. And in my book, that is some serious worshipping there.
The scene where Father Yeom was giving Gu his pay before leaving showed 2019 monthly schedule on the white board. If that scene from a past episode of Gu leaving the club at the turn of the year from 2021 to 2022 is the "present", then we are looking at a 3-year time slip. But the preview for ep. 13 keep showing Gu with his 2022 look and Mi Jeong still in her "2019" timeline. Why does that bother me so much? It could be nothing. Or it could mean everything. Is this show going to break my heart? Even if it does, I'll just curl up and cry for a good month or two and then slowly try to recover from the damage.
Either way, this series is just amazing. Started watching it with zero expectations and I was just swept off my feet.
Episode 12 just... That scene in Gu's place where they were practically breaking up and saying goodbye was so painful. Son Seok Koo's expressions and acting and everything were just so spot on, I could feel Gu's pain. I'm not sure what it was that he wanted to hear from Mi Jeong, but I think he at least wanted her to be angry at him, to probably lessen the feeling of maybe guilt (?) for leaving. Or just maybe anything other than sadness that he knew he was giving her. And then Mi Jeong crying, standing against the window inside Gu's dark, empty house was just heart wrenching, I cried with her.
That scene during the funeral, I can't help but think that Mr. Baek dying would just be another stone that would weigh down on Gu's guilt. And that might just ruin him completely.
I am liking where CH's storyline is going. And can I just say that running scene? That was brilliant! I loved it so much. It was a much needed sensation for both Gu and CH. Are they running away from something or running towards something? Both may be true.
And I feel happy for KJ. I am a bit biased to a KJ-boss relationship but TH seems like such a great guy and his calm complements KJ chaotic tendencies. And his kid was surprisingly more mature than my first impression. That short conversation between father and daughter showed more maturity than TH sisters' conversation did.
Ahhhh.... I am rambling but I need to get this out of my system after watching this episode because, ugh!!! So. Much. Feels!
And the mom... the mooooommmmm! We'll find out in episode 14 the immediate aftermath of her death, but that was just painful. It always felt like she was the one thing keeping the family together. With her gone, all the things that she held together will slowly unravel.
Gu coming back to Sanpo after almost 3 years, it must have been a shock for him seeing how it all changed and how the Yeom family turned out. I believe, he had always had the Yeom family as his anchor, a distant anchor, but somewhere he felt safest. Maybe, in his most private, secluded thoughts, he might have considered Sanpo home and the Yeom family his family. It must have hurt him as well.
I am so excited for episode 14! Dang it MLN!
It's okay to meet other people's expectations (to a degree that doesn't compromise your person). And it's okay not to meet other people's expectations. It's okay if the first date/meeting doesn't end up the way you expected. And it's okay if it does. It's okay to take it in steps and it's also okay to give it all at the get go. And that's the whole point. It's okay. Whatever works for the person is okay and they should not have to apologize for that.
Or maybe there is not one correct answer. Maybe it's just different for every person, in different situations, with different relationships.
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But then, I went through the episodes again, and now because I was consciously looking for it, I started to see how MJ reciprocated this and it's actually difficult for me to put into words, but here are some of the things MJ did that I interpreted as her revering/worshipping Gu:
> She never denied their relationship. When KJ saw them and started suspecting them and just being KJ-snipy about it, MJ just took it like a pro. When CH found out, no denial there. When her mother asked why she went to Gu's house - she said it. "We're dating."
> MJ never demanded Gu to change, alcoholic dude and all that he was. MJ even said that sometimes he looked like a homeless guy but that never bothered here. She accepted him for who he was, ratty clothes and all. And at this time, all of them didn't know anything about him. He could very well be a criminal in hiding, a poor guy living a precarious life. But, she accepted all of that.
> She didn't care what wrong things Gu had done in the past. Even when Gu told her about what happened to the woman he used to live with and the obvious guilt he felt, MJ said "I still think you're okay." MJ only cared for the Gu that he was now.
Overall, I think this was exactly what Gu needed in his life at that time. He's a mess. Feeling guilty and lost and betrayed by his life in Seoul, he just needed someone to see him for who he was. Gu is the type of person who would deal with his shit when he's damn ready to deal with it and MJ never rushed him.
And this degree of acceptance, when someone appears to be in the lowest of their low is not some easy sh*t. It requires a brave, strong soul to deal with all that and MJ was all there for that. And in my book, that is some serious worshipping there.
Either way, this series is just amazing. Started watching it with zero expectations and I was just swept off my feet.
That scene in Gu's place where they were practically breaking up and saying goodbye was so painful. Son Seok Koo's expressions and acting and everything were just so spot on, I could feel Gu's pain. I'm not sure what it was that he wanted to hear from Mi Jeong, but I think he at least wanted her to be angry at him, to probably lessen the feeling of maybe guilt (?) for leaving. Or just maybe anything other than sadness that he knew he was giving her. And then Mi Jeong crying, standing against the window inside Gu's dark, empty house was just heart wrenching, I cried with her.
That scene during the funeral, I can't help but think that Mr. Baek dying would just be another stone that would weigh down on Gu's guilt. And that might just ruin him completely.
I am liking where CH's storyline is going. And can I just say that running scene? That was brilliant! I loved it so much. It was a much needed sensation for both Gu and CH. Are they running away from something or running towards something? Both may be true.
And I feel happy for KJ. I am a bit biased to a KJ-boss relationship but TH seems like such a great guy and his calm complements KJ chaotic tendencies. And his kid was surprisingly more mature than my first impression. That short conversation between father and daughter showed more maturity than TH sisters' conversation did.
Ahhhh.... I am rambling but I need to get this out of my system after watching this episode because, ugh!!! So. Much. Feels!