Haha, yes, by (un)popular demand!Thank you for being so sweet and promoting my other reviews below! ❤️ You…
Lol. I've been away from MDL a lot over the past few weeks, but yes, I have been following the debates on both My Stubborn and HIC2. I'm slightly heartened that more people are calling out the homophobia of HIC2 than not; on the other hand, I'm baffled that anyone should take My Stubborn literally or seriously. But then, people take BLs way too seriously, and I don't even take myself seriously: so, what do I know?
I saw the trailer for The New Prince. I wonder if it's worth watching, if only for a review.
Maybe Sassy watched it for the good reason and maybe it is your reason that’s bad?
Aesthetic standards are not absolute. They are relative. I am curious to know why you liked the show. But I don’t think anyone should appoint themselves arbiters of what is or isn’t the “right” or “good” reason to watch a show.
The only thing that finally united all of the community lmao.
Lol. Usually, I get significant backlash for calling out censorship or dialling down of gay intimacy in the name of cuteness and chastity: and while I imagine that there are still many people who’d do the same with Heesu, it must have been a truly egregious instance of straight-washing and/or queer baiting in the show to create such a rare consensus here. If it unites people against homophobia, I’ll take it!
I will only add this note (for others): if you are one of the people who loved this show and want to defend it on what you perceive as its merits, please do so. But if your eloquence only aspires to dismissing legitimate criticisms as “hating”, and shouting at people to go watch something else, or worse, perverting concerns about homophobia as desire for “soft core porn”, you’ve already lost the argument, and are part of the problem.
Awww… that’s very kind of you to say so! Thank you.You can easily watch this on a rainy afternoon, and is…
I didn't see them as complaints at all! I see them as an expression, from a very open person, of what words and a sense of humour can do under difficult circumstances, and how, in a world that is relatively keen to impart meanness and cruelty, you felt it was important to convey appreciation. For all of which, again, thank you. Being British, I’m constitutionally incapable of handling praise: so, thank you is as far as my eloquence will take me! :)
Awww… that’s very kind of you to say so! Thank you.You can easily watch this on a rainy afternoon, and is…
I’m so moved and touched by your comment that I don’t, ironically, know what to say. Thank you so much. I am a writer by vocation, and though I feel rather overwhelmed (and shy) by the power you attribute to my modest words, you can imagine how delighted it made me. After all, this is why one writes.
That said, I am greatly saddened to hear the circumstances in which you have found yourself. My own mum almost died recently, and my husband and I have both have our mental health issues, so I sympathise to a great extent, nevertheless, I cannot imagine how the news of your partner’s diagnosis must have hit both of you. You seem to have a lovely and strong relationship — what a rare thing! — and I hope he, just like you, can find a way out of it. It also seems like you have a good support network in your extended family, which is heartening to hear.
Sending you lots of hugs and strength from London & NYC!
Awww… that’s very kind of you to say so! Thank you.You can easily watch this on a rainy afternoon, and is…
Lol. Sounds high octane.
Meanwhile, thanks in part to your kind words, I got back into reviewing having quit it for a while. The occasion is a show called My Stubborn, and it stubbornly refuses to make sense. I think and hope it’ll become a so-bad-it’s-good camp classic.
Woah. This is so creative👏👏👏👏 Absolutely brilliant! Made me cackle so much😂I just have one question…
Lol. No offense taken! I wish I was high on something to make my writing life somewhat smoother — alas, I have a condition that makes all recreational smoking impossible. But that condition is also what makes my brain what it is. So I’m fine with the trade-off.
Also, as Vixen points out, sardonic humour is my default mode of existence. I have yet to write a straightforward review. :)
The basic answer is "because if Sorn just said he liked him and wanted to be with him up front the series would…
Also, I’m sick of goodness and maturity, aren’t you? Since when did we start expecting people, much less fictional characters, to be paragons of moral purity all the time? There would soon be no story left to tell.
GROOMING: a process where someone builds trust and emotional connection with a target to manipulate for gain,…
Also, people forget that power dynamics are inherent in any relationship: whether with our parents, siblings, bosses, or partners. Power can be used for good: parents teach us to be kind, richer siblings help us out in a bind. Parents can also be abusive, and siblings use their wealth to belittle their kindred.
Complete mutuality sounds nice in theory, but neither our biology nor our sociology permit it. Hence laws. Also, some of us love power dynamics in a sexual relationship, and find both an older man’s submissiveness and a younger man’s dominance — just to subvert expectations — erotic. I would hate my older partner to be accused of grooming, and I know that my younger partner would be infuriated if I were accused of the same.
GROOMING: a process where someone builds trust and emotional connection with a target to manipulate for gain,…
Well said, as always, and I doubt anyone could have put it as convincingly and as forcefully as you have. If only people were willing to question their own assumptions and prejudices, and be open to persuasion. Alas, I have seldom (if ever) seen that here.
I should only like to add one more thing. Accusing older gay men of grooming younger people is one of the oldest homophobic tropes out there, one that has been used again and again to deny us our rights and to justify societal violence against us. A person who’s aware of the history of our persecution would know better than to throw around such an accusation lightly. Yet, these people who claim to love BLs and claim to be our allies have no problem portraying gay men as evil with no just cause. With allies like these, who needs homophobia?
Honestly, some of you are taking way too seriously a show that is not at all meant to be taken seriously. It is shaping out to be a masterpiece of pointlessness and silliness.
Meanwhile, while I’m heartened to see so many of you come to the defense of an innocent little show, don’t give too much oxygen to the people who take themselves so seriously that they have forgotten how to fart. It’ll only feed into their censorious self-seriousness.
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I saw the trailer for The New Prince. I wonder if it's worth watching, if only for a review.
Aesthetic standards are not absolute. They are relative. I am curious to know why you liked the show. But I don’t think anyone should appoint themselves arbiters of what is or isn’t the “right” or “good” reason to watch a show.
I will only add this note (for others): if you are one of the people who loved this show and want to defend it on what you perceive as its merits, please do so. But if your eloquence only aspires to dismissing legitimate criticisms as “hating”, and shouting at people to go watch something else, or worse, perverting concerns about homophobia as desire for “soft core porn”, you’ve already lost the argument, and are part of the problem.
https://kisskh.at/profile/sasameyuki1950/reviews
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That said, I am greatly saddened to hear the circumstances in which you have found yourself. My own mum almost died recently, and my husband and I have both have our mental health issues, so I sympathise to a great extent, nevertheless, I cannot imagine how the news of your partner’s diagnosis must have hit both of you. You seem to have a lovely and strong relationship — what a rare thing! — and I hope he, just like you, can find a way out of it. It also seems like you have a good support network in your extended family, which is heartening to hear.
Sending you lots of hugs and strength from London & NYC!
Meanwhile, thanks in part to your kind words, I got back into reviewing having quit it for a while. The occasion is a show called My Stubborn, and it stubbornly refuses to make sense. I think and hope it’ll become a so-bad-it’s-good camp classic.
Also, as Vixen points out, sardonic humour is my default mode of existence. I have yet to write a straightforward review. :)
Thank you for being so sweet and promoting my other reviews below! ❤️ You watching anything else at the moment?
Complete mutuality sounds nice in theory, but neither our biology nor our sociology permit it. Hence laws. Also, some of us love power dynamics in a sexual relationship, and find both an older man’s submissiveness and a younger man’s dominance — just to subvert expectations — erotic. I would hate my older partner to be accused of grooming, and I know that my younger partner would be infuriated if I were accused of the same.
I should only like to add one more thing. Accusing older gay men of grooming younger people is one of the oldest homophobic tropes out there, one that has been used again and again to deny us our rights and to justify societal violence against us. A person who’s aware of the history of our persecution would know better than to throw around such an accusation lightly. Yet, these people who claim to love BLs and claim to be our allies have no problem portraying gay men as evil with no just cause. With allies like these, who needs homophobia?
Here’s what I believe is going on:
https://kisskh.at/profile/sasameyuki1950/review/450672
Warning: requires a sense of humour.
Meanwhile, while I’m heartened to see so many of you come to the defense of an innocent little show, don’t give too much oxygen to the people who take themselves so seriously that they have forgotten how to fart. It’ll only feed into their censorious self-seriousness.