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I've noticed Xu Ruo Han always has great chemistry with her leading men, she's not afraid to sell it and go all in for the small moments and kisses and I find it makes a lot of difference to the authenticity of the romance.

This is so incredibly off base and frankly offensive, I for one could not care less about the drama's views , literally what reason would there be for that? I've been a drama fan for years and this is a comment section where the entire point is for us to have respectful discussions and voice our own opinions about said dramas, how is doing exactly that suddenly cause for such remarks? Just because we disagree with you doesn't mean we're incapable of understanding the narrative or we have some ridiculous nefarious reasons to tank the drama.

I also get your point just let me point out this is just speculation/hope for the future but what's actually been the reality is completely different. I'm not usually one for pessimism but with the writing so far I highly doubt they're suddenly going to make it a balanced equal dynamic after 18 episodes.

I genuinely don't want him to scream at her or treat her badly in any way that's not at all what I'm saying, all I wanted was maybe for him to take a step back, prioritize himself like she's doing to her life and for her to make some effort to chase him the way he's been doing.

For there to be even a semblance of balance in their efforts to take care of each other because with 2/3 of the show done it's not even close, everyone going on about how they want their own Dr. Ye means one thing, that they want to be treated this way but they would never want to be in his shoes, the person always giving but never receiving.

Him saying "love yourself i'll do the rest" essentially means and ( it's what's exactly been happening) you put yourself first and I'll also put you first so who's going to put him first? Shouldn't it be we'll put each other first while also not neglecting our own well being?

For me the bigger issue lies in 2 things, first the way he reacts to all of this as if he's a saint and all he's allowed to do is put her first no matter what and the second and most important is that he's not afforded the same writing, we don't get an arc where he's the one struggling ( the drama's not over but you know we won't) and she reacts with the same selflessness and support, their entire rlsp revolves around her needs and him fulfilling them. It would completely fine otherwise because people make mistakes but you grown from them but if your entire dynamic is so incredibly one sided that's impossible.

For me it's rather that it feels like the main characters subscribe to a different set of rules, she's allowed to be flawed and human and hurt him multiple times because of it (which all makes sense from her pov) but he can only be perfectly in love with her and endlessly patient and never make a wrong move despite also having previous bad experiences. Almost the entirely of the effort and care flows from his direction and especially for a drama that's discussing unhealthy relationships that kind of feels off.

Same but judging by the writing so far I think it's always going to be him loving her way more and her just reacting to it.

You guys are doing enough admiring for all of us 😂 What I want is the FL to admire and love him as much as you do.

I loved Road home they had such a gentle loving vibe and the way GX was the rare incredibly supporting and loving FL we rarely get to see in cdramaland was beautiful.

You guys crack me up with these comments, I always watch from the pov of falling in love with the fictional couple and their love and relationship instead of the ML so I don't find myself wishing he was real or to get someone like him but it's so funny to watch you all thirsting for him like this.

The vibe of this drama is so relaxing and heartwarming, the cinematography, the music, the focus on traditional healing all together to create this lovely soothing world which is so refreshing. The only thing keeping me from fully loving it is how unbalanced the romance is, I'm hoping in the next episodes it's XF's turn to show her love and support for SY but unfortunately that seems like wishful thinking.

I think I was expecting too much, like you said he is definitely going to protect her "love yourself and leave the rest to me" is very romantic but also shouldn't they both love themselves and love each other, why is it too much to ask that a grown woman in a relationship also takes care of her bf like he does. I would've loved to see her support him now but that would be wishful thinking, it's going to be him doing 99% like has been until the end.

Yeah there's not a lot that have mutual and equal relationships; 90% of cdramas are the exact same as this one with the most unbalanced unequal relationships you've ever seen. If you don't mind costume cdramas than Blossoming love and Divine tree both had very equal rlsps.

Falling into you, fake it till you make it, you are my glory and road home are like the 1% where the effort and love felt equal.

Yeah, I also think the difference is when the MLs used to treat the FLs like trash it was before they fell in love they were just assholes in general and when they did fall in love they became the most caring protective people who would do anything for her but now the FL treats the ML like trash from start to end even if she doesn't she almost never makes any effort and all the work is from ML's side.

Agreed and also with this being a cdrama I think there is close to a 0% chance that she will be the one to win him over and chase him later. He's going to keep making 99.9% of the effort . What's also messed up is yeah she has trauma from her ex but the ML is completely different and is treating her a thousand times better than her ex did on the other hand the ML has trauma from his ex except in this case the FL is doing the exact same thing to him like...

Exactly, there's no balance and it's practically every drama, the ML is always perfect and obsessed with the FL and the FL is flawed and gets to do whatever she wants and always put herself first while he's a simp who can't breathe without it being about her. Like who thinks these are normal relationships and like you said most girls wouldn't even want this, yeah we all want kind protective people but not only do they make them too pathetic but also who treats their significant other like this? If you love someone, especially someone who treats you like a queen then you would want nothing more than to treat him with the same love and respect and put in as much effort unless you're a psychopath.

The double standards in these dramas are really something, FL is allowed to be a messy person, put herself and her career first, deal with her trauma (all good things), hurt the ML repeatedly but he can only be perfect to her, he can only give and wait endlessly, always put her first, make all the effort, never get upset or behave towards her like a real person with real feelings.

Thank you, yeah that kind of set up is basically 90% of cdramas so I'm very cautious about what I choose to watch. I very much prefer something like Lighter and princess or You are my glory where it's 100% equal and mutual and the comments here and on twitter were giving me the impression that this is the usual dynamic.

May I ask is she deeply in love with him? I want to watch this but the comments are making it seem like she had a crush and there was a misunderstanding btw them and now he's just getting traumatized left and right for no reason. I know the basic premise but what I mean is this the typical cdrama romance where the ML is the one way more in love and making all the effort while the FL does whatever she wants because I'm fed up of that setup.