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Hee Do and Yi Jin had one personality difference that would be EXTREMELY hard to make their relationship work when they become actual adults: Hee Do wants to share her feelings with her partner - be it good or bad. Yi Jin wants to protect his partner from the negative feelings and would rather keep them to himself. None of their approaches is bad, it's just different.
Here's the thing - not everyone feels better after talking about their serious problems with their partner and going into detail how it all affects them. I now, relationships about communication and trust, but no matter the relationship, people need to respect each other's differences. So just based on these two completely different approach of dealing with issues, how could they make it work? Either Yi Jin would have to force himself to speak about his struggles and then feel guilty about putting it all on Hee Do's shoulders (which would make his emotional state even worse), or Hee Do would have to worry all the time and feel like she is not helpful to Yi Jin, because she does not know exactly what's going on with him. One of them would have to suffer for the other to feel better.
Another thing - Hee Do wanted an equal partner, while Yi Jin wanted to support and protect Hee Do. From my perspective, this was also the reason why he did not tell her how bad it was in US. He once said during the show that it's okay for Hee Do to be impulsive, make mistakes, not know about things, coz she has him and him will take care of it. He is extremely empathic person and he has no idea how to deal with it. He felt like he has to stay in US to report on the awful reality, he felt like it's his responsibility - but that also slowly ruined his relationship with the love of his life. I don't think it's as simple as him choosing work over Hee Do. He truly felt responsible to be there, he felt like he needs to be there. Not "oh it's a good job opportunity" type of deal. Even if he decided to come back to Korean, he would not be happy, most likely he would feel guilty about leaving these people in the US and not trying to help them in the way he could -by telling their stories. I honestly don't think Yi Jin could have gotten a perfect happy ending with Hee Do and work.
At first their relationship worked even when he went to US, because the reality did not hit them yet. But the more time they spent separately, the more it started to bother them. Why we did not see the same issue with Go Yu Rim and Moon Ji Woong? Because of their background, less severe problems, their different personalities etc. Neither Yu Rim nor Ji Woong had a trauma because of the parents not being there for them . YEs, Ji Woong had quite a messy family situation too, but it did not translate as well to his relationship with Yu Ri as it did for Hee Do and Yi Jin. While Go Yu Rim's situation was serious (her being the "traitor" and hate she got after moving to Russia) she had a huge support circle from her family and friends. Yi Jin was alone and was always the one taking care of the others - it's not that easy to out of a blue start oversharing about your emotions, if up till now you had to keep them to yourself. Another thing - Yi Rim and Ji Woong match in terms of their expectations of the relationship - Ji Woong respected that sometimes Yi Rim has issues with opening up, while Yi Rim made an effort to slowly open up to him. On the other hand Hee Do wanted it all right now, and Yi Jin was not ready and willing to do that.
No idea if it all makes sense, but for me it does. That's why I never felt like the break up was rushed. I did not like how they presented some stuff in last episode (for example they ended it on good terms right after Yi Jin left to US, but then they made big deal out of that diary as if it gave them closer they did not get before that... but they did get that closure), but overall, I saw no issue with the break up.
The daughter first episode is like: I don't want to do ballet anymore. And then last episode: now I want to do ballet again. But all the rest of the episode she is there just to read diary.
I would say it's always wise to state one's opinion without adding an opinion on other people watching who might disagree.
Or how he literally threw a chair at Gorya's direction one time when he was angry and I'm just suppose to give him a pass coz he changed...
For me this show had many either too problematic ot just stupid scenes for me to truly enjoy it. Loved it at first, was saying how it might become my fav adaptation, but the while 2nd half is a massive disappointment.
And it's not because i just "don't know how to enjoy things". There are many dramas i enjoy this is just not it.
they will grew apart romantically, but still support each other from the distance and wish each other all the best.
That's the progress of this show 🙃
That's my point - you should not judge everyone by what you like.
Again, the idea that it's wise to assume a whole genre might not be viewers' cup of tea, just because they did not like one show makes little sense.
They were both wrong here. He should never try anything with her, when he knew she wants a serious relationship. She should be responsible enough for her emotions and cut him off right away when she found out he is a player. But acting as if he did no wrong and is not manipulative is just factually wrong.
Also... people in their 20' can be manipulative. Let's not act as if he was some 13 years old boy who did not know better. Give some credit to emotional capabilities of young adults.
I completely agree on the acting - truly good. I am so use to mediocre delivery in BLs, I was pleasantly surprised here :)
starting it now
and yeah, cliches are not bad, as long as they fit the story and are executed well, and this is how it went with SE :)