John Smith

I have been surprised from time to time on here because people have tried to pass dangerously ignorant and inflammatory statements as opinions. I also have been offended by opinions that reek of malice or ones that are designed to instigate others. I do not like injustice happening, especially to those who I feel I share a connection with (like drama lovers). I think expecting others to always be respectful is a tall ask, but I think people know it when they see it. I think the place where our actions come from should be right is more vague. After all, the same place can look different from other points of view.

She did get treated with stitches from him while trying to protect him so she was technically a patient, but I meant the totality of their interactions versus one particular incident. I also used uneasy, and not wrong or horrible. I have seen many dramas with inappropriate relationships, contract marriages/cohabitation, and wrist grabs. Those make me feel uneasy as well, but I still watch. I have said many times I think the drama is pretty good, and I think everyone should give it a chance. Most of the time I do not think there is an age gap unless the FL jokes about it. Even then it seems forced because they look about the same age. I disagree that this is something groundbreaking, as it seems like many other Chinese romantic comedies I have seen. That does not mean it cannot be great, and does not mean that someone else might think it is the greatest drama ever even though I only think it is pretty good so far.

I think at the end of the day, there are at least three different types of comments. Ones that share facts, ones that share their opinion of something, and then ones that share their personal preference of something. The first one is pretty easy to understand and serves to add to our understanding and can clear up confusion. The second one should invite discussion, especially if it is implied that you are sharing an opinion and not just telling it to others. That is what I hope most commenters are because it can help you enjoy the things you like more if you can see it from a different point of view. Personal preference is different because there is no science to determine individual taste. To question personal preference is more than likely going to lead to a heated exchange with nothing gained.
A fact would be Xiao Zhan is older than Yang Zi. You can check public records to confirm that. The fact that there is only a little over a year difference is interesting because the drama here gives them a larger age gap. An opinion would be that Xiao Zhan looks older than Yang Zi. You can catalog photos of individuals as they age and point to specific traits that one or the other may or may not have. It may not be a fact, but it is possible to have a strong conclusion. Was he cast in part because he could look older or she could look younger? Is that what viewers like or is there a reason for that? Those are things you could think about. Personal preference would be thinking Xiao Zhan is the most handsome ML in drama history. He may be to you and not someone else. Even if it were possible to explain it in a way that someone else could understand, it does not mean that they use the same criteria. It is okay to want to share some things like that since it is a site for drama lovers. Do not be surprised if not everyone agrees or you get an opposing response. Those are the times to back away because those often lead to an unpleasant exchange. Sometimes people have a hard time identifying the comments they read, and emotions often can cloud their judgement and response. I feel that respect is the heart of the issue more than competition. If you try your best to be respectful in all your interactions knowing that you might not always be successful, and might not always get it back, then that would be a good atmosphere.

That is not very nice, but I will take your advice and do what I want. What I want to do is think that you are not representative of those who are enjoying the drama and want to share their appreciation of it. I also want to think that the cast of the drama would be disappointed in the way some of their fans treat other viewers.

Critical thinking and criticizing are two different things. When you share your thoughts about something, they can be questioning and analysis of what is positive, but also flaws too. That is critical thinking. When you point out flaws based on your emotions and direct them at a person, that is the form of criticizing most use. The former is difficult, but rewarding, the latter is easy, but can be exhausting.

I view student/teacher as more of an awkward relationship versus an age gap. At least that is how it was intended which is why I did not draw a direct parallel to it, but rather indicated a level of uncomfortable/uneasiness to it. For example there is no law preventing a student and teacher (intimate) relationship provided no other law or rules were being broken. Yet is generally frowned upon in society. I think the same applies for doctor and patient (even a family member of patient). I thought the whole situation was odd and shared it. I do not think I even said it was wrong or terrible.
Student and teacher was the first thing that came to my mind, and still does probably in part because she is a student. It is sort of like saying spell most, spell most, spell most, what do you put in a toaster? Toast. Are you sure? Yes, toast. Even though you really know bread goes in a toaster, it is just your mind is thinking most and toast rhymes.

I will reserve your comment for when others try to say that everyone here respects others' comments. It does not make me look bad, because I know that some commenters respond angry. But it probably hurts the commenter above who thought that this is a place where people with differing opinions can get along.

Correct, their relationship is not that of a teacher and a student, but of a family of a patient and a doctor. I agree, why do you make it sound so angry?

I thought she has said she really wanted to work offering legal aid for those who needed it. I thought that was what they are trying to do now with the website. I think a lot of what she says about being making money and becoming rich is to be able to make those dreams a reality.

I did not say their relationship is like a student and teacher. And I have no problem with the created age gap in the drama either. I actually think they look close to the same age and cringe a bit when they try to make a point of commenting about it because that is the only way I would realize they are trying to show an age gap. I am uneasy about how the relationship was written in its formation, but I think as two people, they compliment each other. Like you said, it is only seven episodes in, and characters will change, and I am sure the cast and crew will get better as well. I think if you read harsh criticism into my words, then that would be unfair to me and the drama itself. This drama has a lot of time, and a lot of potential left. I have said it is pretty good (fourth time now), and would recommend people at least give it a shot, even if one of the tags might usually scare you off.

Of course they do. There are many instances (in this comment section) of people having a problem with other people's opinion regardless if it is a genuine or non-genuine one (for whatever that means). Even if you take out the statements of personal preference (which many people mistake for their opinion), you still have a lot of people disrespecting the commenter for it. That is just how fans are. They are passionate. If everything a fan did was calm and level headed, then they probably would not be a fan in the first place.
I agree that people often have a misunderstanding about freedom of speech and that goes a long way towards some of the problems that commenters run into when trying to share their opinion. As far as feeling victimized, I think a lot of that comes when two or more people having a discussion while sharing opposing views, stop focusing on the subject and instead attacks the person.

I meant the reality of the drama as it airs now versus the drama's completion in late 2019. I agree that every person has their own expectation and reality, but I was not trying to include everyone, when in fact, it was no one in particular. It is only natural to have hope and expectations. I think the very nature of how Chinese dramas are released has a negative effect on the dramas themselves. i was trying to make a generalization about a particular segment of viewers. i think it is a compliment to think that a weakness of a drama is not the drama itself, but in the time of its release. I am not saying this drama is perfect, but I personally expected more given the hype surrounding it and I know I am not the only one. I think I am on record twice for saying so far the drama is pretty good. I am not holding a fan sign, but I am not going to throw someone's away either. I try to be fair in my assessment even though that is probably not possible. it seems those who like a drama I comment on point out what I did not like, and those who did not like it, focus on what I did like. I do not try to straddle the fence, but I try to share both sides of my thoughts. There are things I like and things I do not like for every drama.

Perhaps you are confused because that is not what I said. Please take the time to read my comment again. If you are still confused about what I said, I can explain it. I find it difficult to explain something that was not said.

Just finished the first six episodes, and I still think that it is pretty good, but has yet to do anything to show me it is a cut above other dramas in this genre. I really like Yang Zi's portrayal of Lin Zhi Xiao. She is very dynamic with her range of expression without being annoying. I find Dr. Gu's character odd and consider myself wise enough after reading the comments here, not to be too critical of Xiao Zhan's acting. I do think that if you are the type to find a student-teacher relationship uncomfortable, you might be uneasy at the main leads here, even though there is no movement on the romantic front yet. I find the storytelling a bit deliberate, yet I think the story itself is moving at a lively pace. Everyone should be hopeful that there is still plenty of story to tell.
I think this drama's ultimate competition is from the drama's expected release in 2020. Hype and expectations will probably never match the reality. The drama is not a 15 on a scale of 1-10, but it is definitely not a 1, or even a 5 out of 10 either. i think the main leads' popularity is more than enough to ensure that this drama will be a popular, and likely a success, but does not mean everyone will love it. I do hope that viewers who think they love it or dislike it will not do so at the expense of the other party.

Lu Xun reminds me of a character from a wuxia drama who has high cultivation and a presence which makes him seem almost invincible. Or like the bossy CEO from a drama without the weird phobia/problem and a nicer personality. I think it works for this drama because you want him to succeed after all the effort he has quietly put in over 10 years.

There is still half the drama left. I am not sure what will happen, but I think it is a lot easier to say you will not give in to temptation (Qian Wei's advice) when there is none rather than when it offered to you. Somehow I do not picture him being a good (platonic) friend to her and not harboring resentment towards Lu Xun.
On a related note, I hope that Qian Wei continues to encounter setbacks when she tries to use her knowledge of future events to her advantage.

Seat belt light on. Looks like this smooth flight (episodes 1-14) is about to hit some turbulence.

Did the world vote to add a few more days to the week because it seems like forever since the last episode.

I have seen the first three episodes, and it is pretty good so far. Nothing groundbreaking, and has not done anything to show me it is a cut above other dramas in the same genre. There is still plenty of time to go from good to great. It does have a lot of potential because there are some emotional stories to be told, and there is also room to create some really dynamic characters. I hope the story stays consistent and light (even though there has to be some melo).

I think so too since that is something you just cannot hide or plan for. I also think his reaction seemed to get much worse the closer it got to his trauma. He seemed annoyed at first, then upset, and finally anguish.
It still was a crummy thing to do to Ha Ri and in my opinion, a poor decision in the way the whole scene was handled by the screenwriters, especially with no background on how he dealt with it before.

The first time was when she suggested the rainy meet-cute in NY, and he said he did not like rainy days. Then, Ha Ri made it seem like she was more important than his parents' death. when she said he dropped everything to see her on a rainy day. Of course, she did not know about his past. This time it started raining while he was driving, which seemed to trigger the drastic response. I agree with you that it is definitely something about his parents' death on a rainy day that caused the trauma, not some fear of rain.
It rains over 100 days a year in Seoul and New York, and I doubt he falls to pieces every time it happens.

It still was a pretty lousy thing to do regardless of the circumstances.