He's truly shining in this drama, and it's fantastic to finally see him in a role that allows him to fully showcase his talent. If the series continues to follow the Chinese original closely, Sanha's character will evolve into a complex and deeply layered one.
Her dad…just bleh. He literally had only half of lung left and was able to run around and act a fool at his…
I think her father is being unfairly blamed for her mother's death, especially since the relationship seems to have had more complexity than just one person being at fault. In the flashbacks, it's clear that the father was willing to offer help and even suggested hiring assistance, which implies that he didn’t expect his wife to take on all the burdens of housework and childcare alone.
Her mother’s decision to stop playing the piano and take on everything could have stemmed from internal mental health struggles rather than pressure from her husband. It's possible she felt overwhelmed or like she had to prove herself, despite offers of help. Her eventual tragic decision, also took place in front of their daughter, which seems to show deeper mental health issues that went beyond her marriage.
Blaming the father entirely oversimplifies the situation, and it misses the nuance that there were likely mental health factors at play that contributed significantly to the outcome. This type of blame can overlook the complexity of relationships, where responsibility and struggles are often shared, not one-sided.
That’s good to hear. I’m a bit behind on the episodes and you are one of the few people on here that I trust.…
I was conflicted about the situation too, but at the same time, he had just found out the truth himself. He felt pity for her father and was clearly in shock. He knew he was wrong right away and apologized. The female lead was aware that her father had manipulated him, which is probably why she didn’t make a big fuss about it.
That’s good to hear. I’m a bit behind on the episodes and you are one of the few people on here that I trust.…
Episodes 18 and 19 were an emotional roller coaster for me, I was conflicted what to think about certain characters but at the end I think we finally got some missing pieces and better understanding of FL’s character.
That second couple chick is getting on my nerves she overreacts and flips out like the biggest drama queen. SQ…
Chen Zhu is so toxic, not just as a wife but as a friend too. I get the feeling she judges everyone around her by her own standards, and she’s literally made the situation between the introverted couple even worse. SQ seems to be under her influence, but as you mentioned, what kind of attorney is she going to be if she lets herself be that easily swayed by others?
Then there’s the scene where her husband was doing everything he could to make her happy—he even deleted his favorite game and planned everything exactly the way she’d want—yet she still looked pissed off. If by the end of this drama she hasn’t changed at all and they’re still together, that’s going to be a huge disappointment for me. She has no respect for him, and at this point, I’d even say she doesn’t like him at all. She treats him like her property, more of a toy than a partner. That woman needs to face some real challenges and snap out of her princess state.
I can’t believe I’m saying this, but Chen Zhu is actually making me more annoyed than that stupid nepo-intern!
After EP19: the character development is just chef's kiss! It's realistic, not rushed, and thoughtfully grounded in each character's backstory and personality.
Is the drama as bad as the rating suggests of mdl user are being extreme again 🫣
This drama is downvoted because of the flawed and quite authentic characters when it comes to romance. Those can be annoying or their actions can be toxic but there are also reasons behind it and character development is shown. 7.6 is definitely too low compared to its quality.
At this point, i really curious who does zhai lawyer likes
Honestly, after the date in episode 13, I started wondering if she might have feelings for Chengzhou. I’d love to see that plot twist! Even though they’ve known each other for a long time, we haven’t seen much of their interactions until now, but it seems like she’s been aware of both his fun side and his deeper qualities for a while. If that's true, it makes sense that she hadn’t made any moves before since he was married, but now that he's going through a divorce, she might see an opportunity. At the same time, she doesn’t come across as someone who would pursue him at any cost—she seems to be a kind of person more focused on happiness of someone she likes.
Wow SFL is a piece of work; she will lower herself to apologize to him? WTF? And then after saying she’s wrong;…
That’s a good example of toxic long term relationship. Even so he realized she’s been toxic to him, he became codependent over time.
Tbf, they’re te only couple right now I really hope won’t end up together just for SFL to realize she needs to work on herself first before entering any relationship.
I’m baffled by the negative comments here. The relationship between the main leads is portrayed in a fantastic…
I completely agree, and that’s what makes this drama so engaging—it portrays romantic relationships in a very real and relatable way.
After the last two episodes, it became clear that the second female lead doesn’t truly respect her ex-husband. Initially, I thought he was immature and inattentive to her needs, while she had her princess-like moments. However, as the show progressed, it became evident that their relationship was imbalanced. Even her friends pointed out how he was always the one to apologize and fight for their relationship, while she would throw tantrums.
This dynamic shows how the relationship may have been largely one-sided, with him putting in the emotional labor and effort, while she emotionally manipulated him, creating a power imbalance. Over time, his frustration likely built up, leading him to become resentful of her behavior, which contributed to their eventual split.
For those who are interested, the main couple from a psychological perspective (attachment styles) in a comment…
For me, the female lead and male lead perfectly reflect the avoidant and anxious attachment styles in their relationship, respectively. For anyone interested in the psychological aspect of those characters, I found some short descriptions:
Avoidant style (FL): The avoidant attachment style is characterized by a reluctance to rely on others and a strong emphasis on independence. Individuals with this style often prioritize self-sufficiency and may feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness or vulnerability, leading them to withdraw or distance themselves in relationships. They tend to suppress their feelings and can struggle to communicate their needs, resulting in challenges with intimacy and connection. This description perfectly fits the female lead, as she clearly has a hard time opening up to others about her deeper thoughts. Her strong statement regarding marriage further reinforces this, suggesting that something may have happened between her parents that caused her to lose faith in the permanence of romantic relationships.
Secure/Anxious style (ML): I believe the male lead initially exhibited traits of a secure attachment style, though he displayed some codependency issues at times. His parents’ healthy relationship likely influenced his perspective, making it difficult for him to fully grasp the female lead's point of view. However, things worsened when she moved to Germany, leading him to exhibit more anxious attachment behaviors towards her as he struggled with feelings of insecurity and fear of losing her.
The main characters are a textbook example of such a relationship: Relationships between individuals with avoidant and anxious attachment styles often create a push-pull dynamic. The anxious partner seeks closeness and reassurance, while the avoidant partner values independence and may withdraw, leading to misunderstandings. This emotional mismatch can cause the anxious partner to perceive the avoidant's need for space as rejection, while the avoidant may view the anxious partner's intimacy-seeking as suffocating, resulting in tension and insecurity.
To make their relationship work, individuals with avoidant and anxious attachment styles need to prioritize open communication and establish clear boundaries to respect each other's emotional needs. Additionally, mutual support, patience, and possibly seeking professional help can aid in developing healthier relationship patterns and fostering understanding. I believe that being a part of the TV show is their form of therapy.
You guys are no fun. I miss the day when I go in into the mdl comment sections and we talk about updates, bts,…
This is so true: "Does that mean only perfect human can experience love? Have you not met anyone in your life who you think make stupid relationship decisions but still stay in the same relationship?"
Sometimes, I feel like people expect characters to act exactly the way they want them to. But they can’t be predictable, because that would be boring. They can’t be too perfect either, because that’s unrealistic. Yet when characters have flaws, the ones who love them are often labeled as simps or foolish.
Honestly, I think this drama has done a great job so far in portraying romantic relationships in a realistic way, and I really love that about it. I saw a similar reaction with The Tale of Rose—people were upset because the characters had flaws or made bad decisions, but that was my favorite part of it.
I’d compare a good romantic relationship to a car: love is the fuel that powers it, but if you don’t take care of the rusty or worn-out parts, the car won’t go far. It might move for a few kilometers, only to break down on the highway—just like a relationship will fail, no matter how much love there is, if you don’t work through your own issues and resolve them.
The female lead made an important point to the male lead: he needs to focus on himself first before he can be a good partner. She shouldn’t have to take responsibility for all of his life decisions just because he wants "to do what she wants" or "be with her." He also has his own work to do, as he seemed too dependent on her in the past, which was a concern for her as well.
"i've been getting close to her under the guise of friendship" is fucking insane what an absolute scumbag
To be honest, I’m still wondering if he’s not testing the male lead’s impulsiveness. They honestly seem more like friends to me with FL, and he could just be meddling to protect her (or that's what he thinks he's doing).
(I still don't like him tho, *piece of trash* vibes :))
Her mother’s decision to stop playing the piano and take on everything could have stemmed from internal mental health struggles rather than pressure from her husband. It's possible she felt overwhelmed or like she had to prove herself, despite offers of help. Her eventual tragic decision, also took place in front of their daughter, which seems to show deeper mental health issues that went beyond her marriage.
Blaming the father entirely oversimplifies the situation, and it misses the nuance that there were likely mental health factors at play that contributed significantly to the outcome. This type of blame can overlook the complexity of relationships, where responsibility and struggles are often shared, not one-sided.
Then there’s the scene where her husband was doing everything he could to make her happy—he even deleted his favorite game and planned everything exactly the way she’d want—yet she still looked pissed off. If by the end of this drama she hasn’t changed at all and they’re still together, that’s going to be a huge disappointment for me. She has no respect for him, and at this point, I’d even say she doesn’t like him at all. She treats him like her property, more of a toy than a partner. That woman needs to face some real challenges and snap out of her princess state.
I can’t believe I’m saying this, but Chen Zhu is actually making me more annoyed than that stupid nepo-intern!
If that's true, it makes sense that she hadn’t made any moves before since he was married, but now that he's going through a divorce, she might see an opportunity. At the same time, she doesn’t come across as someone who would pursue him at any cost—she seems to be a kind of person more focused on happiness of someone she likes.
Tbf, they’re te only couple right now I really hope won’t end up together just for SFL to realize she needs to work on herself first before entering any relationship.
After the last two episodes, it became clear that the second female lead doesn’t truly respect her ex-husband. Initially, I thought he was immature and inattentive to her needs, while she had her princess-like moments. However, as the show progressed, it became evident that their relationship was imbalanced. Even her friends pointed out how he was always the one to apologize and fight for their relationship, while she would throw tantrums.
This dynamic shows how the relationship may have been largely one-sided, with him putting in the emotional labor and effort, while she emotionally manipulated him, creating a power imbalance. Over time, his frustration likely built up, leading him to become resentful of her behavior, which contributed to their eventual split.
Challengers ❌
Therapists ✅
Challengers are the most stable and healthy ones among those people 😅
(Yup, FL’s friend was a piece of trash before, but the way he helped both other FLs was just chef’s kiss)
Avoidant style (FL):
The avoidant attachment style is characterized by a reluctance to rely on others and a strong emphasis on independence. Individuals with this style often prioritize self-sufficiency and may feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness or vulnerability, leading them to withdraw or distance themselves in relationships. They tend to suppress their feelings and can struggle to communicate their needs, resulting in challenges with intimacy and connection. This description perfectly fits the female lead, as she clearly has a hard time opening up to others about her deeper thoughts. Her strong statement regarding marriage further reinforces this, suggesting that something may have happened between her parents that caused her to lose faith in the permanence of romantic relationships.
Secure/Anxious style (ML):
I believe the male lead initially exhibited traits of a secure attachment style, though he displayed some codependency issues at times. His parents’ healthy relationship likely influenced his perspective, making it difficult for him to fully grasp the female lead's point of view. However, things worsened when she moved to Germany, leading him to exhibit more anxious attachment behaviors towards her as he struggled with feelings of insecurity and fear of losing her.
The main characters are a textbook example of such a relationship:
Relationships between individuals with avoidant and anxious attachment styles often create a push-pull dynamic. The anxious partner seeks closeness and reassurance, while the avoidant partner values independence and may withdraw, leading to misunderstandings. This emotional mismatch can cause the anxious partner to perceive the avoidant's need for space as rejection, while the avoidant may view the anxious partner's intimacy-seeking as suffocating, resulting in tension and insecurity.
To make their relationship work, individuals with avoidant and anxious attachment styles need to prioritize open communication and establish clear boundaries to respect each other's emotional needs. Additionally, mutual support, patience, and possibly seeking professional help can aid in developing healthier relationship patterns and fostering understanding. I believe that being a part of the TV show is their form of therapy.
Sometimes, I feel like people expect characters to act exactly the way they want them to. But they can’t be predictable, because that would be boring. They can’t be too perfect either, because that’s unrealistic. Yet when characters have flaws, the ones who love them are often labeled as simps or foolish.
Honestly, I think this drama has done a great job so far in portraying romantic relationships in a realistic way, and I really love that about it. I saw a similar reaction with The Tale of Rose—people were upset because the characters had flaws or made bad decisions, but that was my favorite part of it.
I’d compare a good romantic relationship to a car: love is the fuel that powers it, but if you don’t take care of the rusty or worn-out parts, the car won’t go far. It might move for a few kilometers, only to break down on the highway—just like a relationship will fail, no matter how much love there is, if you don’t work through your own issues and resolve them.
The female lead made an important point to the male lead: he needs to focus on himself first before he can be a good partner. She shouldn’t have to take responsibility for all of his life decisions just because he wants "to do what she wants" or "be with her." He also has his own work to do, as he seemed too dependent on her in the past, which was a concern for her as well.
(I still don't like him tho, *piece of trash* vibes :))