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The ship is a minority compared to the ML’s prior ships but what’s making us borderline delulu is that they have a lot of coincidences even over a year after they’ve filmed this and their interactions are just very different compared to prior leads. Their co-actors and TBT crew tease them too.
I just hope they truly found a friend in each other as they seem to really click.

True. What I also liked about TBT is how it showcases typical Asian family dynamics where, regardless if we’ve fought or had disagreement, we continue to live in one roof and remain filial, then just go on our lives until we forgot the pain that such discussion gave us.

And I understand that this trait is hard to accept for foreigners. Asians typically do not cut off family. We just try to adjust our living conditions to not step on the touchy subjects.

As a person who’s been raised by wonderful set of parents, FL recognized in Suhye that cutting his Dad off was more detrimental to him. Remember she witnessed how Suhye is when sad, how his emotions completely overpower him.
So when she finally saw the sign of him wanting his Dad back to his life again, and how healthier it made Suhye (he talks about his emotions more, even the painful experiences), then who wouldn’t jump on that chance?

Really excited for this drama!
That conversation in The Truth S3 about Xu Ruohan and Zhang Ling He (plus Zhou Keyu still scratches my brain!) 😂
How come Linghe knows there are a lot of kissing scenes in this drama is still a mystery to me.

But why would Xi Fan focus on his Dad when her priority is Su Ye? Remember that Xi Fan only proactively worked on the two’s relationship when SuHye began fully showing his readiness to work on his relationship with his Dad— asking Xi Fan to take care of him while staying in the hotel, telling her more about their backstory, etc.
It was just a bonus that Xi Fan separately met the Dad and she had a different good impression on him that she realized there’s a chance that they’re both in a better place emotionally now to let them interact more and start becoming a family again.

Su Hye’s actions alone was a sign for Xi Fan that he already made peace with his past and that alone should be Xi Fan’s priority— whatever SuHye decides for his own. Had Su Hye acted otherwise, definitely XiFan wouldn’t instigate on anything that would hurt him.

What I’m saying is, you’re definitely talking two complete different asks here. One that involves Xi Fan, and one that’s mainly between SuHye and his Dad.

Although they relate to each other, XiFan’s involvement should mainly be about whatever SuHye has decided for himself.

So whether his Dad has apologized for his past actions or not and whatever the consequence of such, should only concern SuHye.

From what we’ve seen, there were definitely conversations shared between Suhye and his Dad, all leading to him hurting but eventually maturity made him realize that his Dad was also young and had to make adult decisions that may have been too much for him.
Albeit it took him years, his Dad always acknowledging the fact that he fuck*d up was somehow what Suhye accepted as his own version of apologizing to him and his younger self.

I’m not trying to defend the Dad but no matter how overbearing he is, in all the moments that his marriage was brought up, he didn’t shy away from talking about his late wife and his shortcomings. He can even talk about it with his FIL who was equally accepting of the past and how they could all just learn from it.

That scene after the four of them had dinner for the first time wherein SuHye and XiFan talked about how there’s much of the story the younger SuHye must have not known, was a sign in itself for SuHye to finally let go of the grudge and to start accepting that he must have seen his parents’ marriage in own his own lenses only. That perhaps, the love that his parents shared may not be the traditional and common kind but the love that they can manage at that time.

Overall, Xi Fan wasn’t the one who pushed for the reconciliation. It was in fact SuHye but just needed an external help on how to navigate that.

The apology part may not be like how the Westerns do it, and culturally, as you said, there must have been a difference as to how we’ve digested their story, because as an Asian, there was already numerous apologies through the different ways that his Dad was trying hard to still be a part of Su Hye’s life. He truly f’ed up that New Year’s Eve though, even forgot his own son’s birthday, but in some other ways he wanted to still be there for him and SuHye knew that, was just in denial for years though I’m happy that he truly stood his ground on the subject. He waited until he is truly ready to start entertaining the thought of his Dad being an active part of his life again.

And I don’t understand why you have to bring the ex on the equation when they’re completely different situations who involve different parties?
Again, Cardiologist He’s bad parenting skills — only involves Suhye.
Yan Heng being a bad boyfriend — only involves Xi Fan.
Those who are involved should be the only ones whose opinion should matter.

In Yan Heng’s case, Xi Fan made peace about the situation, exactly why she had forgiven him and moved on from him completely. Even didn’t want to wait for his apology until he came back and started wrecking her life again without her consent.
But ultimately, Xi Fan still forgave him as her own way of loving herself— so that she could be more present in the present without unnecessary baggage from those painful chapters of her life.

As I’m explaining, maybe the cultural difference lies in you wanting the apology to be expressed through words. Literal I’m sorrys and I apologize.
But apologies could be expressed in other ways too. Asians usually express it through actions.

Yan Heng’s apology was seen through him ultimately accepting Xi Fan’s decision and removing himself from her life forever.

Dr. He Senior was seen through constantly keeping up with SuHye and being actively there for his son’s relationship with Xi Fan (note, in the wedding, it was implied that he had met Xi Fan’s parents multiple times; he was actually always been there, notice how his dialogue always involved the FIL, his late wife with the grave and her tulips, and hanging out with Li Jie’s family, it’s just that SuHye completely blocked him off from his everyday).

I truly understand your point. Though I liked how Xi Fan navigated around the touchy father-Dad thing. She wasn’t pushy about it especially at the start, even just allowed Su Hye to talk about it when he’s finally ready. And there were moments when she’d notice that even if Su Hye still wants to share more but he’s struggling to express his thoughts about it so she’d distract him just to open a new topic.
That to me was respecting where he’s at.

But as soon as she’d recognize that Su Hye also craves to patch things up with the Dad, especially now that he can close that painful chapter considering he’s now found the love of his life (and he clearly no longer wants to dwell on negative feelings) and his Dad too has a new partner/family to take care of, that’s when Xi Fan became proactive about bridging the gap, moreso that his Dad also feels the same way as Su Hye.
Both of them wanted to start anew, just needed a third party to orchestrate it as they both need guidance on how to navigate that new chapter.

Grandpa really did help but something’s missing, Grandpa needs an equally enthusiastic person to help him work it out. Xi Fan’s presence is indeed refreshing— not privy to their past, and very thoughtful and likable, who’s also good at making others feel seen and heard.

This scene just makes you understand him more, he’s been on autopilot since this moment, wanting to help his Mom by him learning TCM himself.
He couldn’t save his Mom but he can still save thousands more under his care.

And that’s why his confession as to why he started liking Xi Fan has become more poignant. That attending patients for him is just an obligation that he had to do (because then again, he’s been wanting to help people since he was a child), until he met Xi Fan who reminded him that life could be made enjoyable and fun too.

I actually think they really needed the time to truly have a good start. Xi Fan still badly needs healing, and honestly, Su Hye does too. SuHye, no matter how mature and independent, really had to set firmer boundaries, especially with the people he deeply care about. So having him decide to let go of his strong desires for Xi Fan and just let nature take its course was refreshing. Also, doing all that after finally putting an end to his push-and-pull with his Dad was something worth seeing. Had they started when they still had apparent baggages might make their foundation shaky. For me, letting them bare it all before they became official led to a stronger friendship which is essential for a relationship.

I’m just glad that early on, they already showed us Yan Heng’s Dad who was equally awful, if not more.
It gave us a glimpse of his upbringing.
The fact that he’s second-born with a Dad who is entitled must have been hard for Yan Heng, and that also explained why he was so pressured in making his latest start up successful.
Too bad he didn’t have a great personality to begin with that the pressure brought out the worst parts of him.

I’m really happy XiFan got out.
And before anyone criticizes XiFan for putting up with him for 7years, please understand that our girlie was brought up in a loving home and Yan Heng was her first relationship. Plus, she’s the norturing type.
She didn’t recognize that YH was already sucking her soul out in those 7yrs. Perhaps she really just wanted to protect YH from his family and give him the love and support that he’s been craving for all his life.
And this is why people like YH loves preying on this type of people as they get satisfied emotionally and physically. Their needs are met.

I’m just happy that XiFan finally found a loving host to norture and pour love into. Note that He Su Hye had to mature fast and grew up being so independent. Definitely his soul had been craving for a loving and norturing hear such as Xi Fan’s. And look how XiFan just effortlessly makes Su Hye feels so
loved and adored. She truly healed parts in him that he never thought will ever get healed.

right??? k-dramas just aren’t the same anymore. it felt like most of the recent releases lost the “k-drama soul”.
Oh well, thank God for C-dramas 💗💗💗

Oh you’d be surprised, the screenwriters screwed up this one. Kim So Hyun got depressed after this as she struggled a lot with her character. It started out good until she could no longer understand her a few episodes after.
She only revealed this years after she took a break from filming. I think her final blow was River Where The Moon Rises where they had to refilm almost the entire show because the ML- Kim Jisoo left the production due to a bullying scandal.

Many downvoted this when Kim Ji Soo got replaced.
As if it’s the production’s fault that he got into a controversy that made him go into hiatus.

Why are you so defensive, it’s not like I’m hating on LuSi?
Some fans really just couldn’t engage in a nice conversation. Check how others responded so you could somehow adjust how to take different views from yours.

I have yet to watch it in full but the drama’s clips are all over my feed and fyp. I’ve basically watched 70% of it at this point

Thank you for the comments! It’s somehow encouraging to finally start this soon. Really appreciate it. 💕

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I really want to watch this but the way Zhao LuSi acts the adult era of her character is just off— doesn’t appear authentic and you can really tell she’s acting all the way through.

I miss the times when she could act naturally, like her character’s skin is her own.

awwwe it says invalid source. is this about the car kiss?

Hi, here’s a TikTok edit about it but still no source cited. https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSDphahKq/

Been wondering why THE BEST THING is visually stunning. Apparently, Director Randy Che is a cinematographer too.
Really loved TBB and I’d definitely be checking more of your works, Sir! 🌸