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Freespirit1221 This episode was so hard to watch. Somehow it felt like you were witnessing a part of your mother’s or grandmother’s life. It’s painful as I know that during that era, women would never dare to divorce their husbands once she had a child, even if the husband was totally a jerk and beat his wife on a daily basis. Even nowadays, I’ve still met a few women in my society with the same mindset. That’s why, even though I wish Oshin would leave her loser husband so bad, I know she would never do that. And it’s so painful to watch. 😔I also wish the best for all the great women who have been helping Oshin. I’ve always loved Taka and Someko, and I really appreciate what they’ve said to Oshin in this episode. And a big bravo to Someko for standing up against Ryuzo for Oshin’s sake. I love these women so much! Meanwhile, Oshin still thinks it’s her fault for hurting her husband’s pride. 🤦♀️ It’s understandable for women at that time to think that way, so it’s even more painful.
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In this episode, her grandson told Oshin he wished to marry someone like his grandmother. I think the screenwriter meant to praise her as a wife material, because Oshin was kind of a perfect woman who was both perfect at cooking, doing chores and working to support her husband while never complaining about her husband, but always being understanding and soft towards him instead. If they wanted to encourage women to be more like Oshin, I would never accept that encouragement. I’d rather be not good at anything and watching my dramas forever instead of getting married. My mother is kind of like Oshin, except for the understanding and encouraging attitude towards her husband. She is hot-tempered and considered ‘not feminine enough’. My father always takes her for granted and disrespects her, like Oshin’s husband. I don’t want to be like Oshin in this situation. Also, the grandson mentioned that nowadays women would divorce her husband if they were in Oshin’s situation, and he said the reason was about money. Well, I would divorce the guy at the moment I met his father and heard what he talked bad about his son’s mother behind her back in front of his daughter-in-law, or never got married in the first place.In the previous episode (episode 92), the cafe girls also discussed how Oshin’s life was hard after her marriage and all of them said that she should’ve stayed single and lived on her own instead. From what I saw, she totally had all the skills she needed to support herself, instead of having to take care of a male adult kid who was a controlling hypocritical loser.Anyway, that’s not the main point of what I was about to say. I mean, Oshin told her grandson that she was mistaken about what love was and didn’t know how a man felt. If this was really a message the screenwriter wanted to give their viewers, I would refuse to learn that lesson. Oshin did nothing wrong. She had done everything for the man she loved. What’s wrong is that she met the wrong man, who was an insecure patriarchal narcissist. I will leave some words here to strongly remind myself to never be like Oshin in this case, if later on this turned out to be the message the screenwriters wanted to tell us women.
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I knew it. My intuition was right. That Ryuzo is no good as a man. He’s such a hypocritical and insecure pathetic loser disguised as a ‘gentleman’. Ugh. 😑 I hate him so much. He even beat his wife while knowing she was doing the right thing for his own business that he was struggling to manage on his own. Then she had to apologize for humiliating him, because “he’s a proud man…” and his wife should be sorry for hurting his pride. This mindset was normalized in the old days and sadly, somehow I still see it in my society now. The elderly always say that if a wife is better than her husband, that family is ruined, as no ‘masculine’ man would want his woman to take control of the family and humiliate him in front of others. Another sad thing is that Oshin let her husband beat her. It’s actually understandable, when she grew up in an abusive family, when her father beat her and her mother, and then her father and older brother was using her for money. I think she’s used to it and doesn’t consider it as a big deal. She’s thinking that she deserves to be hit, because ‘she has hurt her husband’s feelings’. I’ve met some women like this in real life. They always make some excuses for why their husbands treat them badly. I actually just argued with my mom about this recently. The elderly still believe that a wife should be taught and disciplined well, so a husband has the right to ‘discipline’ his wife. I personally think there’s absolutely no excuse for a man to beat his wife. I’m so sick of it! Things are getting better and I hope we can get rid of this mindset forever soon.If this were a modern drama with modern values, I would sue the screenwriters for letting Oshin endure this man. In my opinion, Oshin should better off unmarried and run her own business. This jerk has come into her life and I’m sure he will ruin it. It’s so sad for me to see how Oshin always wanted to make it on her own and not suffer in marriage like her mother did, but now might end up following the exact same track. Anyway, I always feel that Oshin looks happiest when she’s around her supportive women. So far she had been protected, and helped a lot by wonderful women. She’s also learnt a lot of things from the women in her life. I love and respect most of the female characters so far. For now, I wish the best for the cafe girls and the hairdressing shop owner lady, and the young maid at the hairdressing shop.
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I said what I said. Oshin’s true love is always Kayo. She even said she would do everything for Kayo when they were 8. True love doesn’t have to be about romance, does it? Anyway, sadly, I think that mindset of serving husbands in Asian women still exists today. A ‘good woman’ is taught since childhood that she should obey and follow her father until she gets married, then after marriage, she should obey and follow her husband until he dies, and when one’s husband dies, one must continue to follow and obey her own son. That’s what I grew up hearing a lot from the elderly and even from school.
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Oh no… I don’t feel good about this. I feel that her life will start getting miserable from now on with that mindset, that her life will be devoted to her husband now… I also have a strong gut feeling that Ryuzo is no good. I didn’t like him from the first moment I saw him. Now he didn’t even come visiting his newly wedded wife’s home with her for being ‘busy with his business’. Her father was dying…I’m scared that he will make Oshin suffer a lot.
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“- A wife needs to know how to cook..”- I feel so sorry for our master… His wife is good at running this business, but she can’t cook very well…- I get fed the same foods everyday. She’s terrible!”It’s an old drama set in the old days so this can’t be helped. This is how a father talked about his wife disrespectfully in front of his son and wife and another man, and they all laughed it off together. No wonder a lot of Asian men are patriarchal. They must have inherited it from their fathers. My father used to do the same thing with my mom in front of me and my brother.
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This would be my last post about this asadora today. I’m scared about all the hardships that Oshin might be facing ahead, but I’m also happy for her at the same time. She’s always been a strong woman and she always knows what she’s doing. I’m sure she’ll be fine no matter what.Some of my favorite words from Oshin in this episode:- “One needs to make up one’s own mind. I chose this path myself… I’ll have no regrets!”- “She was prepared to forever protect her happiness.”
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Now this feels a bit like When Life Gives You Tangerines but the guy is opposite to Yang Gwang Sik…“You’d look great in the kitchen!” - If any guy says something similar to you women, please run as fast as you can. He’s a huge red flag!! And that shameless father and older brother of hers… Ugh! I dislike every man in this drama so far, except for the deserter man and the old man who saved Oshin’s life at age 7.
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Sorry I laughed so hard at this scene. Maybe it was the first start for the take-money-and-leave-my-son classic trope in modern K-Dramas later on. 🤣🤣🤣Bravo to Oshin in this scene! 🙌 Her reaction was perfect, and the old guy was in shock but he totally deserved it.That son from the wealthy family was a jerk anyway. I smell a strong ‘pampered son’ and ‘mama boy’ vibe from him. I have a feeling that Oshin’s life would be miserable if she married this guy. And he never brought up anything with her or asked her first, and suddenly just announced his controlling and manipulative mother that she would be his bride. I was like ‘wtf man’. Poor Oshin had absolutely no idea about this while being wrongfully accused of seducing her son into marriage by a stranger woman. 🤦♀️🫠Ep 73
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There were some difficult conversations in both episode 67 and 68, and they made me think a lot about my mom. Her life has not been easy. Like Oshin, she worked hard to support her family at a young age, not as young as Oshin though. She was also badly treated and used by her eldest brother and just cut off with him recently after. I’m so relieved now that I don’t have to meet that uncle and his children anymore at all. I never liked them in the first place and it was so frustrating to watch my mom get involved with them when they were just taking advantage of her all the time. I had some difficult conversations with my mom, asking her to leave my father several times. And she also said some similar words as Oshin’s mother, as she was worried she would become an issue if I loved someone and she would be a burden, an embarrassment to my marriage. How silly. Also, the way Oshin’s mom said she didn’t need anything other than her daughter’s happiness reminds me a lot of When Life Gives You Tangerines. I think this is another drama with strong messages about life, womanhood and motherhood. But I feel that this one is much heavier. Obviously, it’s an old drama released in the 80s. My mother also said she sacrificed her happiness for my own good. Anyway, both Oshin and her mother are strong women. Actually, I think a lot of female characters in this drama are strong women. So far I love most of them, but I haven’t liked any male characters yet.
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In this episode, Kayo stole and read Oshin’s letter and hid it from her, and went to the meeting place instead of her, after getting mad at Oshin and breaking off their ‘friendship’. At this point, I found Kayo so annoying.First, were they really equal ‘friends’ in their relationship, when she always acted like she was the boss? And indeed, Kayo is Oshin’s boss!Second, who gave her the right to read Oshin’s letter without her consent, if Kayo really saw Oshin as a friend, instead of her servant? Yeah, Kayo got mad because Oshin had been hiding her meeting with Kota, but why shouldn’t she tell anyone about her private meetings? She has the right to tell no one about her private life. Kayo has no right to meddle in Kota and Oshin’s relationship when he’s never hers in the first place. In fact, it was Oshin who met him first, and he only has eyes for Oshin.Also, this episode reminds me of an old story that my mom told me when she was young. Some guys sent a lot of letters to her, but her so-called ‘friends’ in her village back then hid everything, and she only found out the truth many years later. That’s when she stayed single for a long time.I guess these kinds of things happened a lot back in the days when mobile phones, the internet or social media didn’t exist yet. People would easily lose in touch with each other over a misunderstanding.
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“She never thought of herself, and she lived for her family. That's how a woman lives...For her family.The Old Madame words rang true to Oshin now.Oshin wanted more out of life...More than her mother or her grandmother.Oshin didn't want to find comfort in death.Oshin felt both pity and anger at what had happened to her grandmother.- I'll work hard, and I'll make a lot of money.- I don't want to be like Grandma... I don't want to have nothing when I die... I'll never be a sharecropper!Oshin was headed back to Sakata...But Oshin was no longer the same girl...She was growing up...”These words were like speaking to me. I was basically having the same thought when my grandma (my mom’s mother) passed away a few years ago. Although she didn’t die out of poverty, her family also used to be poor and she worked so hard her whole life to support her family, her late husband and children. She’d sacrificed a lot when she was alive. Everyone praised her life for her great sacrifices while I pitied her and got mad inside. This asadora was made in the 80s, but I’m sad that these words are still a fact in a lot of places today, including mine. A lot of people here still think a woman’s life depends on her husband, and after she gets married, her life will be completely different, and she will be the one who sacrifices a lot and still get criticized for not being a good wife material enough.Oshin was growing up so early, with this mindset, but I think that’s the spirit that she should have! And I’m glad that a lot of women in today’s world also have a better mindset. I was thinking of When Life Gives You Tangerines when I watched this episode today.
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“I deserve to die.” - these words came from the mouth of a 7-year-old girl who constantly abused and thought she deserved it. Anyway, I guess Oshin and Kayo will become best friends from now on. 🥹 If that’s the case, I think their big fight would be the best way to start a close friendship. 😅I love Kayo’s grandma a lot. She’s such a strong, smart, wise, righteous and kind-hearted old lady. I respect her. I’m glad that Oshin can stay and work for her. I think Oshin will learn a lot from her in the future.
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Meet Yourself Episode 37
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Beautiful episode.Little stories of different characters touch my heart. I have my new favorite characters. Everyone in this drama now has become my favorite. ❤️ Aunt Feng, Xia Qiang, 4 adorable little kids, Na Na, Xie Xia, Xiao Chun, Hu You Yu, Bai Manjun… Anyone is so special with their own stories.I literally cried at the touching moments between Aunt Feng and her son. Xiao Chun has always been a badass female character and she is also so cool in this episode. I was so worried that her ending would be different, like a lot of female characters in similar situations, but it was a relief that she didn’t disappoint me. I love her so much!
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Meet Yourself Episode 34
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“Since you’re not the one going this, you don’t have to care. The amount of stress everyone can handle is different. Don’t use your own imagination to easily evaluate the life that others experienced.”This episode has other heart-to-heart conversations with great messages. It focuses on my two most favorite characters in the drama, besides Zhi Yao’s grandma. :)
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