Kinara

Actually the male is self aware of who he is and that is what I like about it and he actually understands the female more than the female does him. She never communicates with him and just expects that he does what she wants. If she wants what his dad wanted from his mom - all of it - then this relationship will not work. It if she can meet him half way then it will work. And I am emphasiszing on the female because she is the one who has unrealistic expectations of the male . She also needs to decide how much he is worth for her because she is very indecisive. As for the male I feel like given the chance he will prove himself but the problem is that the female is very impatient and wants everything g yesterday.

Well her problem is that she still does not know what she wants - she just has this version of love in her mind. when I say I hate the female - I mean I don’t like any of her decisions so far- they are too impulsive. And she should not have agreed to marry the male again so quickly and backtracked again. She hurt him too at this point.

Yeah female sees the male with a filter of her own- that’s the issue in this drama

The male also needs to be comfortable being himself to a certain extent in a relationship - no one wants to be a different person than they are- that puts too much pressure just like it did the first time around in their relationship

As for ‘Meet yourself’ it was too bland and storybook like to be realistic and the scenarios are so different to compare

Yes that’s exactly what I think - the female cannot love him as he is and she has some ‘ideal’ version of a partner in her mind that she wants. She is still very immature and makes impulsive decisions. At this point I actually feel bad for the male because of her wishy washy behavior. I am actually glad he chose to break up with her the second time rather than going in circles with her. She is not sure about what she exactly wants

I don’t think what female is asking for is a healthy relationship- she wants the relationship to go according to her expectations- that is not right either. There needs to be middle ground beteeen these two. Instead what she is asking for is a totally different person and she is still making hasty decisions and blaming the male for everything

Female definitely needs character development - i don’t blame the male anymore after this second breakup. She is very wishy washy- why did she agree to marry him again if she was not sure? She repeated the same mistake again. Only on the surface she seems to have grown. I also feel that her expectations for the male are very unrealistic. He tried to work on it and is changing you can see that but her expectations never change. She cannot accept any of his flaws and any part of him as he is- so for now the break up is the best thing. She needs to think through what exactly she wants

She is not mature enough to be with the ML- that’s my verdict for now

In fact at this point I have decided that I hate the female’s character - she is pretty much two timing him with the lawyer

Yes he is misunderstood . He loves the female in his own way . The reason he let her go the second time around is because her expectations are too high to meet. He has done the right thing because the female wants a completely different version of him and no human being can provide that. I can also go so far as saying that the female says she wants an equal relationship but then she is forcing him to be someone that he is not . In this situation it will not work

Agree Gu Nanting was way better than this guy

Yeah she does not need that love and care from the second male but she needs to learn to work things out Bette with the male and yes learn to accept and both need to compromise. The male is not going to change overnight it has to be a gradual transformation and she definitely needs to communicate better with the male

I am not saying she should spell it out but she shouldwork with him rather than sulking and storming out everytime

Yes I agree that it is not entirely ML’s fault. His understanding of love is very different from the FL. And she can definitely be better part of the transformation so both can understand and grow together. But right now they are both speaking a different language. That is what bothers me about this drama. You need 2 hands to clap

He seems to have gotten a lot from his mom it seems - that’s what I gathered from the conversation with his dad

Otherwise they will keep going in circles

Exactly - he is definitely emotionally stunted but he is not bad and she did not set any expectations first time around, never said anything and gave everything. She even insisted marrying him even though he had not got over his previous relationship. She made crucial mistakes too. But these two have to communicate better. He is emotionally stunted and he is not psychic to know what she is thinking and what she wants
When you love someone you have to embrace some of their flaws but she has a vision of someone and something entirely different from who he is and that is from the beginning. He needs to make an effort yes but she also needs to try and understand him more.

Everyone is just blaming the male - yes he is clueless but I think the FL is making mistakes too- she is not honest about exactly what she wants from him. The communication from her is really bad. She also needs to accept some parts of who the male is if she loves him and wants to be with him

I feel like the second male does not understand her