No! I don't blame her at all. I don't blame her for calling it off or allowing herself to be seduced over and over. She said their relationships is addictive and it's playing out that way on screen.
I guess what I find most surprising about this drama is that--of the two--Luan Nian is actually the more insecure one in the relationship. Don't get me wrong, they're both insecure, but he's the one throwing tantrums, pens, and umbrellas.
Shang Zhi Tao seems to always have one foot out the door, ready to leave, expecting it all to end, so I do understand why Luan Nian is insecure. She has already walked away from him three times since they first hooked up (right after their ONS she said it was a mistake and then avoided him; then again after his ski trip she called it off; then in the last episode when he called her submissive and cheap she walked away and blocked him). Only this last time does he seem to realize that his words were/are hurtful and try to make amends (but he's never directly apologized).
This is now a pattern. They spend some time together; he becomes insecure / feels unsafe or confused; instead of communicating his feelings, he lashes out ("You left your bag in my house on purpose." "You're delusional." "You're cheep and submissive.") She then leaves him/breaks it off. He chases her until she relents. The cycle starts again.
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This show is exceptional.
I wonder if the ending will be as "tragic" as the novel. . .
This show has gone off the rails and I am HERE FOR IT!
He apologized.
It's the end of days. REPENT!
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Addiction is never healthy.
Shang Zhi Tao seems to always have one foot out the door, ready to leave, expecting it all to end, so I do understand why Luan Nian is insecure. She has already walked away from him three times since they first hooked up (right after their ONS she said it was a mistake and then avoided him; then again after his ski trip she called it off; then in the last episode when he called her submissive and cheap she walked away and blocked him). Only this last time does he seem to realize that his words were/are hurtful and try to make amends (but he's never directly apologized).
This is now a pattern. They spend some time together; he becomes insecure / feels unsafe or confused; instead of communicating his feelings, he lashes out ("You left your bag in my house on purpose." "You're delusional." "You're cheep and submissive.") She then leaves him/breaks it off. He chases her until she relents. The cycle starts again.