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I understand. I totally agree with you about WSW and CC. it is a very toxic relationship. If it were a straight relationship, viewers would be declaring that the girl should get out of the relationship and quickly.

You said you have only watched to episode 10 or half the drama. Keep going as I would love your take on the ending.

I just finished Addicted and felt they just needed one more episode to wrap up several relationships, but otherwise it pretty much felt like the end at 15. jmo

Hey, have you watched the Korean movie, A Frozen Flower? I would love your take on it. It has BL elements in it. But prepared it is a sad ending.

I would love more recommendations as I haven't really seen any strong well written and acted BL productions. Thank you.

Thank you so much for the explanation. I am new to BL dramas and am still learning about how relationships work in them and their tropes. I understand the whole top and bottom (dominate and submissive) aspect of them. However, for me, that doesn't seem like an equal relationship, especially for someone like WSW who was new to bl love. CC was a dominate or top which makes WSW have to be a submissive or bottom. WSW wanted to be on top sometimes and CC wouldn't let him. This is not an equal relationship. Wang Shuo was the perfect lover for CC as WS was a submissive through and through. WSW wants to be both top and bottom which is an equal.

Also, I know what grooming means and depending on the situation it can be positive or negative, especially when it comes to love. Because WSW has no clue how bl relationships work he needs to be taught and he is taught by a submissive, because that is what will attract CC. However, once WSW has fallen for CC, he realizes that it is an unequal relationship, but CC tries to groom him into the perfect lover by giving WSW everything that he wants. This is not an equal relationship and it is not love. It is like a man who keeps giving a girl presents, the bigger the better, to get her to stay with him. In the end, when CC goes to prison he breaks up WSW because he is no longer in control of the relationship. WSW becomes the top person and happily sells off his family home for CC. CC can't stand this because it means that he is now the bottom and dependent upon WSW. CC has lost the top position.

When CC gets out of prison, the first thing he does is buy back the family house and gets the tree back. This looks like a gesture of love, but in reality it is to take back the dominate position. Sooner or later WSW will want more power in the relationship and CC, always wanting to be on top, won't yield. It is why CC and WS were such a good match as WS was a submissive through and through. He never challenged CC for top position, and notice that relationship didn't work out as it was clearly an unequal relationship. WSW challenges CC for top position which he should.

The second couple are more equal in their relationship. Guo may be a calm top, but he is also willing to be the bottom as well and builds JXS up to also be the top instead of always being a submissive.

In a healthy relationship there always must be some give and take. CC does give, but it is only because he wants something in return, to be on top. That kind of relationship will not last.

Thank you again for the explanation and discussion. Happy drama watching.

Thank you so much for the recommendation. I am still new to BL dramas and all of their tropes. I will check out Stay with Me, and I understand about sad endings. There are many dramas that have stuck with me because of the ending.

Thank you for the discussion.

I noticed you watched Addicted which is by the same author. What did you think of it? I have three more episodes.

Not sure what definition of friends with benefits you are using. Are you saying that the two boys are friends as well as equal lovers or are you saying they are friends and whenever CC wants sex, they have sex?

For me, CC and WSW are not a real couple as CC is too dominating and controlling. You know that WSW wants the relationship to be different, but it never is. No matter what CC does for him or how romantic the gesture, until CC allows WSW equal status of being on top, the two will never be a couple. For me, because WSW was straight at the beginning, this "love" story is basically CC grooming WSW to be his submissive play thing and he does whatever is needed to keep WSW with him. jmo

I agree. CC and WSW's relationship will never be at an equal level as CC is too dominating and controlling. Unlike the second couple who were very equal.

I had the same reaction about the first couple. For me, their relationship felt more like a friends with benefits type of deal. Now, the second couple's love story was so beautiful. They felt like a real couple. I loved the drama though.

Yes, why did Shao Shang choose Lou Yao over LBY at the beginning? LLtG uses the three parts of persuasion (ethos, pathos, logos) with the characters. LY represents pathos (doing something based on emotions). At the time, Shao Shang was 15 and LY was 18. They are closer in age. Both have a great deal in common and both have dreams of getting out of their homes as both are oppressed by their families. The two are on the same page when it comes to their definition of love. The problem is LY doesn't challenge SS to be different. As you said, he just follows her around. Everything in their relationship is based on feelings. Shao Shang even says, "I do what feels right. This is right." Yet, LY was good for her and her for him. She made him feel confident. He made her feel safe and secure with food. Remember she has an issue with food. This is the first time in Shao Shang's life that she has cared about someone other than herself. Their relationship proves that she can love someone. You may not have felt it, but it was there. The drama asks what is love and how do you show it? Just because there was no physical demonstration of love doesn't mean it wasn't there.

At the beginning of the drama, how do SS and LBY meet? Shao Shang rats on her great uncle out of revenge on her grandmother who has made her life miserable. She is law and order. At the same time, LBY seeks justice for his family. He represents ethos (law and order). Why should SS have to love LBY because he saves her multiple times? As a general, it is his job to keep the country (people) safe from rebels and bandits. The drama asks is there really love at first sight? LBY concentrated so much on his revenge that he completely shut Shao Shang out of his personal life. He kept the biggest secret of his life until the day he killed the guilty party (a day before they were to get married). Even though Shao Shang guessed the secret, he still hid it from her. They were not even on the same page of what love means. It's why she left him. Why should she love someone who hides things from her after he has made such a big deal about husbands and wives being of one mind?

Yuan, being a scholar, tried to argue with logic. He represents logos. Love is not logical, so he will never win her heart. You can't help who you fall in love with.

This is just a start of the many wonderful things about this drama.

I will write some more tomorrow on The Double, but this will get you started. You really need to watch LLtG again through a different lens as you are missing out on an exemplary drama. Joy of Life is an excellent drama as well.

I love your recommendations and have watched many of them, but none of them compare to LLtG. The impact that LLtG has had on the storytelling of dramas over the past three years is enormous. Many dramas have imitated it and even interpreted its meaning (The Glory and The Double). The story uses the three parts of persuasion to drive its messages on discipline, revenge, love, favoritism, nepotism, filial piety, and youth marriage. The film work and direction is top notch with its meaningful camera shots to enhance the story, in addition to the use of a mirror as its story structure and other literary elements to convey meaning.

Joy of Life has its strong points as well. The film work is amazing as well. The satirical aspects of the drama work really well with the social messages it is trying to convey on love, power, and enjoyment of life. Its creative use of sci-fi in a historical setting is top notch.

Both are equally great dramas. It just depends on what you are looking for in a drama.

Happy drama watching.

What do mean no wedding scene? The wedding scene was in the first part when LBY takes Shao Shang away from Yuan when they are reenacting what happened between the aunt and the scholar. But this is no ordinary couple, so an ordinary wedding would go against everything Shao Shang and LBY worked for. The wedding scene starts at 32 minutes in in the last episode. The two are out under the stars in a military camp acknowledging HBY's family and the empress. Then, they proceed to say their vows. Both are dressed similarly to when they first met. The wedding is just for them, not for everyone else. I thought it was a beautiful wedding. jmo

While I love Zhao Lusi, this drama is full of illogical plot points. First, if the mother had the boat ready to go, why didn't both of them just jump on and go. The mother wouldn't have been able to save her job anyway. Secondly, when Duanwu tries to get the blood-stained pearl back, where does she think she is going to go on a ship that they won't catch her? These two things happen in the first three episodes. Are there anymore illogical plot points. jmo

I understand about the baby voice in Hidden Love, I finally had to turn off the sound in order to finish it. But after I finished the drama, I wondered why she spoke in that childish voice for most of the drama. I found the answer and it wasn't to make her sound cute.

I see that you are new to MDL. If you click on Lusi's name above it will give a list of her dramas, movies, and TV shows. It will also show where you can watch them. If you have any further questions just ask and welcome to MDL.

Loved the rich use of literary elements, especially the juxtapositions between the rich and the poor through a window.

Since I couldn't watch the prequel, I thought I would watch this as I love Michelle Yeoh. My thoughts though, never become a member of the Iron Way clan, death will always follow. Out of nine members of the clan over half are dead by the end. However, great movie and great fun.

Loved this movie as it is very different than the martial arts movies from Hong Kong that I have recently watched. It is more like the dramas now where the women were fighting for their right to be women and equal to men. This is different because in the other Hong Kong movies the women knowing martial arts is just a given. No one bats an eye at it. So it was strange to watch a movie that portrayed women as weird knowing martial arts. Now, in the end the way the woman won was by just being herself.

Beautiful movie with a very interesting ending.

You are the second commenter that I have chatted with who has read The End of Eternity. The End of Eternity does not give a right or wrong way of doing something when it comes to the use of nuclear energy. It simply allows nature to take its course after Noys and Harlan send a letter to the person who discovers nuclear energy and Eternity is destroyed.

The same goes for Hidden Love. The drama does not come right out and say that the age of consent law is wrong (that would be foolish), nor does it say this is the right way to handle age gaps, especially when a person is 14 or 17. It simply gives reasons why the pairings of 14/19 and 17/22 should be thoroughly thought about before jumping into a full blown relationship which could include sex as the person would be of age. If the writer had followed the novel Hidden Love, Sang Zhi would have been 13 when the two first met. She would have been a minor in every sense of Chinese law. The fact that they changed her age to 14 allows the writers to examine the age of consent law without judgement of it being right or wrong or that this is the right way to do something. Let nature take its course.

As for the period scene phone call, you have fully supported what I was saying through your explanation. DJX is literally not her brother. By him saying, "I am not her brother," it allows the possibility of him being her boyfriend. If he had gone ahead and bought the pads and clothes for her without Sang Yan, it would have solidified that DJX indeed only thinks of Sang Zhi as a sister. Sang Yan has already given him permission to be her brother, not her boyfriend. That identity has been shut down for the time being. The fact that he doesn't buy the pads without Sang Yan shows that he is establishing a different identity to her. Your conclusion isn't wrong, it is the perception a viewer has after that that allows for DJX to either be her boyfriend or brother. Again, it depends on how comfortable the viewer is with 17/22 year olds hanging out together.

Thanks for the discussion.