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Same here … it’s for the youth. There are so many shows which cater to all age groups but this is clearly targetted at 15 to 24. The arcs very focused on early adult life experience. Thing is I love shows aimed at the early twenties for example the one with Xu Kai about gaming and 2521 both so complex and nuanced but this one is just I don’t know. Maybe this is what you get when you get older authors writing for younger audience. They the older authors dumb it down to toddler levels. I personally thing that young adults are very complex and mature and evolved people especially the gen z now

I learnt my lesson with hotel del Luna. I felt her character growth was too juvenile or teenage girl like and to me it was not fitting for authors who are so much older. She remained a twenty something virgin throughout the series and for a 1000 years and It did not sit well with me. It’s just to me felt like the validation of “Carl Jung’s” thinking that women are only valid if they are young and pure. I was so not into it. Also the sisters stories go into an endless for loop similar to programming with no break, they just go round and round.
For me the best arc of a woman spanning generations who has lived that long was Pachinko. She was young, she was old, she felt happiness, she cried, she protected her people. Hotel Del Luna was too juvenile. Even when I was in my early twenties I wanted books and shows with more meat. And since then I have stopped expecting anything with depth from Hong Sisters.

I see a lot of people here being judgemental about those people who are upset with the cast change of the female lead. If people are upset they are valid and they are in the majority of books or drama lovers who think like that. The only time I have seen looks being drastically changed is if the character goes through a transformative process example Vecna, Voldemort or Darth Vader or if it’s early on in the show. In my mind I cannot recollect any story or legend where the character has changed.
And this is not even the first time the Hong sisters have done it, they did the exact same thing with the drama Big and as far as memory serves, people were also very upset back then too.

Exactly I don’t even agree 100 💯… I agree 1000 percent. Stupidest production decision ever. In fact as an avid book reader, I must tell you even authors don’t do that. Characters don’t change appearance drastically within book series unless it’s a villain like vecna (I know I keep throwing stranger things references everywhere). In hunger games Katniss was brunette and I was so so so disappointed when they cast Jennifer Lawrence who is a blonde. If people like a story be it a book or a video, people will draw the character in their mind and one cannot mess with that. It’s literally book author 101. But Hong sisters are weird don’t trust them unless the drama is over, since they love to throw a curveball at the last moment.

I think what they meant or speculating in terms of plot, is that the showrunners were planning to cast a rookie actress first (This is what happened initially, I remember reading the casting news) instead of JSM, just so audience did not get attached and could deal with the face swap. But that was of course not what happened since the rookie actress was not chosen. I do get that point, just like you said it’s not like reading a book so face swap is gonna be jarring for all of us.

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So do you still have defined benefits instead of defined contribution? Also, Wow I love the country that you are a citizen of 😊

Yes agree. I do understand that about the pension, since I spent so many years calcuting the payouts 😀. The thing is even if women sometimes do earn well, the sum assured value can be lower since there are disruptions due to maternity leaves or because women retire earlier. In many counties including china, women actually retire earlier. So it’s a combination of so many factors why women grapple with poverty 1) earlier retirement age 2) maternity leave disruptions 3) capital loss due to taking care of older spouse 4) extremely long life expectancy and so on. Which is why I feel that financial planning should be taught to women when they are in their twenties to make them realise how long I mean literally how long women live. You can check out data almost all people living over the age of 100 are women around the world. And how to ensure that they live with dignity of life intact when they are old.
Of course since I work with the numbers I am also trying to do proper financial planning for when I am older. It’s so inspirational being together for 25 years. Children are a huge blessing indeed 😊👍

Yes it’s true that women in Europe are so much better placed then other parts of the world. South Asia is pretty bad where I am originally from. And you are echoing exactly what I was saying that women living alone have financial difficulties since the pension they receive is a smaller fraction. I just wish more women were aware of these issues of marrying an older man. Just because you are financially comfortable now does not mean you will remain so, especially since women tend to live very long.
All the best for your love story, I am sure it must be so much fun for you 😊. Also it’s great that you are able to offer support to your mom in law 😊

Actually what I was talking about was the social trend of marrying older men and the impact it has on women in many parts of the world once they are alone. There is a lot of social stigma (in widowhood) and a host of other things, which I have been exposed to due to my job of seeing these older women. Link https://borgenproject.org/fighting-the-global-burden-of-widows-in-poverty/
So I was just saying that I wish marrying younger men was possible as a counter to these social economic problems. Of course age is not a barrier in love, I am merely speaking from an academic perspective.
It’s actually not possible in many conservative cultures to marry someone younger for women. They have to face society’s criticisms. Women like Gong Hyo Jin, are an inspiration for countless Asian women who are so bounded and restricted by the culture they were raised in. 😊😊😊
PS : love your personal story you shared 😊😊😊

The time that women are lonely is actually not 5 or 6 years globally it’s above 10 years and more often it’s more than 2 decades. Again it’s a matter of perspective but a women before she is 55 can still marry again, she has options but the older you get it become worse.
Marrying an older man also means a long time spending caregiving as well often up to a decade. So if one ends up marrying a much older man three things happen 1) you are happier when young, under 45 because you are financially stable 2) once you are 55 onwards you have to start caregiving since your spouse is Unwell 3) 60 plus until you probably die at 85 you are alone and widowed and probably poor now since your accumulated wealth is now lost due to years of medical spending
Trust me on this, this is literally the life story of most women I have come into contact with due to my day job. I was a pensions/ insurance analyst
There is actually an old Russian fairy tale where god asks two couple “do you want to be happy when young” or “ do you want to be happy when old”. Both couples chose differently and their lives are different.
At the end of the day it’s a matter of choice really 😊.
Ages 60 to mid 80s is a really really long time in life it’s 1/3 to 1/4 of someone’s life. You can check out pew research to see if I am speaking facts on single households above 60
So if one does marry an older man please invest in annuity income, as well as personal long term care, disability insurance, since they will have to take care of these things alone when their time comes. I know it sounds morbid but it is what it is

I wish it was more socially acceptable for women to marry younger men, Also young girls now who think it’s awesome as a social convention for women to marry older men it’s not awesome. Any younger woman is eventually bound to get old and actually quite old at that since a girl who is in her twenties now will live until her 90 for sure (increased life expectancy).
The global rate for women being alone after 60 is actually pretty pretty high. Men on an average pass earlier than women by about 6/7 years and marry women on an average 4 to 6 years younger. (Statistical numbers that I have had access to as a financial analyst).
All of these translate to women being very lonely in their later years often more than a couple of decades even, especially when they actually need someone around the most. Also they live in poverty because for many countries laws, pensions sometimes are only paid out as long as the person is alive, if the person passes the spouse just get a fraction of it.
I have actually been part of awareness campaigns for older women (as a part of my job) and it’s gut wrenching to see how sad, lonely and often poor so many older widowed women are.
All of those problems would have been just not there if we saw more marriages of women marrying men of similar ages or probably a little younger.
Just my two cents from a purely socio-economic perspective.

Totally for real. This was even more cringy than the cheaters couple in FLAW.

I do agree but the master of her craft is the author and not us. A good storyteller can draw out multiple points of view with even a few heartfelt moments. For example - Eddie Munson’ death and that scene only took a few minutes but I confess I was extremely upset and shaken.
Here I am trying to say is that the author was not very balanced with her storytelling approach since she only focused on the protagonist. There is technically nothing wrong with it but I as a viewer connect emotionally better when there are multiple points of view for example “dear my friends”. Given my own life experiences with my friends parents as I mentioned I wanted probably a little bit more of those struggles do but again that’s my own experience I guess. So for me and my own perspective this drama did not have the impact that I was hoping for.
PS: her storytelling approach reminds me to how the author approaches storytelling in “Elmer the elephant” and its experiences. I think I have seen this type of technical approach to writing in many children books especially by authors such as Roald Dahl

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I am a huge rewatcher. Unfortunately the only drama that I found good enough to be rewatched this year was stranger things. So if you like this so much go ahead and watch. I did the same. I rewatched until volume 1 season 4 and then rewatched again when volume 2 landed, each time the impact as different. If you like this drama you can go ahead 😊😊😊

Totally, you used the right word. “Prop”. I have been fishing in my mind for it. 👍

This is what I feel about this drama. It’s missing something. It’s mostly from an inside out perspective, which is what an autistic person feels. But how does the non autistic person feel as a friend or partner or parent has not been explored.
When I watched the “Beautiful Mind”, not only did it delve very deeply into Russel Crowes’ mind we got Jennifer Conollys struggle too. I wish there were more scenes about how the father struggled to bring her up, the totally hopeless days when the child appears so unresponsive.
A few of my friends have siblings who are autistic. I have had my friends parents cry in front of me, saying some days are hard. Some of these friends have terrible relationship with their parents because their parents want the siblings to do more, since they themselves are getting older and may not be around forever. Other times these friends let go of their own choice to love and live, because they want to be 100 percent there for their siblings.
It takes a village, a person who is special and who is healthy has not achieved it on their own but also due to the love and support of the people around them. In a drama about autism I am amazed how the writers have conveniently not covered it.
Any social issue based drama needs to be more nuanced and cover things from multiple perspective and not just the titular character.

I liked the pairing in flaw, but hated the glorifying of the cheaters. The leads had zero scenes. Sometimes we don’t realise how bad a writer can mess up a story despite ok acting and decent direction. The writer of FLAW was on some other weird planet. I start ranting whenever it’s about this writer since she messed up where stars land also

Next will be a drama where the fl will turn into a glass slipper