Shidinje

I think the saddest part of all this is that the Boyfriend is not technically wrong. She has forever given the impression of a pushover, so he's working with that. I feel like if she actually talked and was assertive once in a while they could have built a solid relationships.
Cause asides from this marriage thing, all his suggestions are usually reasonable and for her good.
They definitely can't last like this, and he would have a hard time reconciling his gf of 2 years to some big mouthed outspoken girl once she comes out of her shell. It's a bit sad. He would have made a good ML with an impressive character development

Well, the romance is really minimal at the beginning. ML is a nice guy, FL was bullied a bit while in school, but he defended her and hung around a bit just out of the goodness of his heart.
And well, she had a crush on him. He became a little too attentive to her at one point just to annoy her father so there was that mixed signal.
ML got into a relationship with a popular girl, it didn't work out due to the girl. FL still had a steady crush, he still treated her like a bestie, till one day they got stranded and well, stuff happened.
They could never really have like PDA or stuff cause of their fathers issue, but after plenty (a whole lot) cries and heartbreaks cause their love was the most steady thing (I love romances that are "I'll have you or no one else in this life"), they got married. Years later we see a son

I kind of love when dramas don't change up ML's whole character when they fall in love
It's a little realistic, there are annoying and red flag people in the whole. Getting married won't solve their character flaws, but them learning how to at the minimum, love their partners well is always nice to watch. From there they can make little progress. Like this annoying but cute ML. Towards the end his sweetness to the FL, started spilling over to others too

I think it's because her father was a convicted criminal (I think sex offender).
And because of the stigma attached back then, neighbors would hate on the man and consequently his children. She was afraid a family would judge her for her family background so she just never tried. When Ma Kui stood for her and she was already waivering, she noticed neighbors bullying him and his children. So she ran out on the marriage. Rather than drag the family down to be bullied with her, she choose to be alone.

Good God, I'm on episode 11. You mean that lovely family that has sort of adopted ML got killed?
And I'm just finding out my guess about Tong being the person FL didn't want to leave behind us correct. I think I might have to end my watch now until it's over. To know what heartbreaks to avoid

The SML decided to join a gym that one of his junior colleagues works as a coach for on the side. The ML is also a coach there and best friends with that junior colleague.
The ML and SML meet a few days after ML and FL meet. SML tried to be a part of their cliche and he friendly with ML, but ML knew he was the boyfriend of his crush so he was very reserved.
I don't think they ever reached the friendship point. SML was very high handed, and looked down on the ML before he even realized they were love rivals

I'm done watching now. And I think it was lovely. They left a bad taste in the last few episodes by making the FL lash out without empathy the first instance there was a problem with the ML.
I still loved it, and I generally never watch a show with cheating from a good character on principle, but I didn't see any cheating to be honest. And then there was just too much unnecessary resistance from her mom, didn't fit her character.
It also shocked me how familiar the FL feels to me. I feel like I'd have acted like her in quite a lot of sceneries

I'm on EP 8, I like to think of myself as a very conservative person with a very intense moral compass. And I'm 23 yeas old, however I've never been on a date or had a boyfriend (by choice cause i just haven't liked anyone like that), but i don't think FL and ML are cheating yet (emotional or not). They're toeing the line pretty closely, but to me it seems more like SML is cheating.
Cause they've been very open. The only thing wrong she has done is lying to her boyfriend. They haven't even had dinner together, no inappropriate touching or sharing of details. There are feelings involved and they're both aware of it, however they've been very restrained about expressing it. While the SML is sleeping in another woman's house, having dinners with her family and promising marriage to her.
I believe it also has to do with the fact that FL is aware the SML is about to dump her so she's not motivated to cut this new feeling off.
And no, it's not double standard on my part cause I couldn't watch Destined with you, because i couldn't manage the cheating involved. Excusable or not.
Is there something wrong with me emotionally or mentally with my point of view?

In "destined with you" the ML practically cheated on his girlfriend. And they justified t by saying she was cheating first. But I don't think a partner cheating is justification for for you to cheat too...

Thank you 🥰

Thank you for answering and being so educative about this topic. Definitely learning a lot and I love reading your perspective.
I'm just going to go with the idea that she developed the alter in childhood. Then it probably went dormant during her dating years and resurfaced after the break up. Just to help the plot make sense (despite the fact that I've put watching on hold until all episodes are out so I can binge, I still follow spoilers here and on YouTube)

Is possible that she developed the DID as a child and then it went dormant until the maybe the trauma of her breakup or something awaken the alter?

Yeah, being a corporate lawyer is definitely different from handling cases and all. His job is basically going through contracts and legalities in having a company.
He definitely plays to his strengths and the ML covers for the rest. Makes them a good team.

Also, I feel like Peng Si deserves appreciation. The most competent worker ever.
He was basically running the company.
And ML's mom she always dressed so nice and classy. Proper slik shirts and cooperates. Maybe compensation from her market woman beginnings

I loved how they cleared up the air about him. It felt suspicious how we didn't know any more than he was her first love.

I think the villains were good enough for slice of life drama.
An evil mother in law on that scale is very unlikely to happen on real life. Also, I appreciate that dramas are beginning to depict healthy parent-child relationships. I think it affects the society if all the media and drama show are bad parents. Corporate villains are always better than family villains. Cause you can't even condemn family villains to die or prison.
Zhou Mo was bad enough for this show. Although I wished Mrs Wei hadn't been so easily deceived. I expected the evil from her and her husband. They're the areas I was disappointed in. FL escaping their trap unshattered used quite a bit of luck, but a dramatic ending episode where ML saves her or so would have been much worse. So this works.

This was a really lovely drama to watch. Like one of the actors said, happiness is when you have a good love, family and friends. The drama depicted all 3 on a solid level.
Good parents-child relationship, even among the in laws.
Good relationship and vibes amongst the friends and colleagues.
A married couple of about 8 years with good relationship and communication and their lovely baby who they both take care of.
Good relationship between our main leads, they communicated properly and no one was deliberately lead to misunderstand. They also showed their affection very well. They were really sweet to each other
Usually it's exhausting to watch the work aspect of dramas like this, but that was even fulfilling for this drama. FL has supernatural luck escaping those financial crimes unschattered but that's forgivable since after all it's a drama.
The beginning episodes were strong and amazing, the middle episodes not so much. But the later episodes were every bit of lovely.
Their tactic understanding was very good, nothing came between them once they were locked in. And in this case both ML and FL were single since birth, not a case of one going around the block while the other sits at home waiting.
All in all, I loved watching this. I only wish I had waited for the drama to be over, cause the annoying middle episodes make this a binge worthy drama. I'll probably rewatch at one point.

Exactly. The first 10 episodes an the last 10 episodes make up for the annoying middle episodes.

I agree, after I got angry at EP 14 I just gave up the romance (this is coming from a person who rarely watches anything that's not romance) and enjoyed their normal relationship. The friendship is really what makes their love sweet. When we don't have the tension of hidden feelings the show is lovely. They seem like actual bros, no ridiculous awkwardness about farts or potential intimate scenes or work stress.
The slow burn is worth it, the skinship isn't all that makes an intimate scene. We have good relationship with parents, friends and coworkers. Even the best friends issues answer common married couples problems, with a satisfying conclusion that doesn't demean the man or the woman

Yeah, when you consider his personality, it makes sense that he was so annoyingly slow in trying to transition the relationship.
When he was bullied, she stood up to save him. She was the smart one who helped him out and he just gave the vibe of low esteem. Thankfully he's very competent when he puts his mind to it. But when it comes to their relationship, she has almost always been the aggressor.
But we know she had a failed friend turned boyfriend so we know her hesitation made sense to. Plus the fact that he was very quick (annoyingly quick) to clarify that she's just a bro always.
What I appreciated was that after they got together, they still had the familiarity and comradeness they had at the beginning. All the tension we had during the transition phase was lost when they all came clear and accepted their feelings. Even the awkwardness of missed kisses and potential sex was smooth cause of their already established comrade