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Yeah, it would be too difficult to get married to her first love, esp. with a mother like that and the guy couldn't even defend his girlfriend in front of the mother. Even though the first love cared about her a lot, he was too much of a momma's boy.

"Toto and I share the same kind of humor. In a grown up world where we learn to fake smiles, it was an incredible booster."

HELL YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHH!!!!!!! 100% true!

One of my fave lines from Chapter 4 of this drama is below:

This made me want to visit Nice BWAHAHAHAHAHAHH...

10/10. A full circle drama for sure. Brilliant casttttttt and awesome writing, also loving how cohesive and layered the time jumps. Each time jump adds a layer of understanding towards a particular scene.

Same BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHHH

Such a full-circle drama due to the long timeline. 'Coz the span of timeline is similar to my mom's and my generation, the nostalgic factor is SO strong for me. The rice container Ae-Sun was using in one scene (after adulthood) was exactly the kind that we had at one period of time. The drama makes me miss my mother A LOTTTTTTTTTTTTT. This may just be my Drama of the Year if it keeps up the pace until the end.

I don't mind that the drama focuses heavily on the FL (or many dramas). This drama only consists of 12 ep, can't really focus deeply on too many characters (either that or it's the choice of the writer). Besides, I find it refreshing to have more focus on the FLs compared to the MLs. We've got enough already male centric Hollywood movies where the women get only few lines (that aren't that important). But then again whether it's male-centric or female-centric, as long as one can enjoy it (movie/dramas), so what? Someone's trash can be someone else's treasure. :-)

You sure have a passive-aggressive way of sharing your POV. If you want to have your POV reciprocated, you should talk to others with similar POVs instead.

I was sharing my POV on FL, not ML. I'm not disregarding anyone else's backstory, but the drama so far gives more FL's complex backstory compared to the other ones.

Based on the very polarized comments, it seems it's one of those characters: whether you love/like her or hate her.

Rewinding back the latest episodes in my brain. That part when ML's character back hugged her, I thought he'd say something else, but instead he said, "I'm sorry, Kang Hee. It must've been tough/painful for you."

How many times has anyone ever verbally acknowledged her pain/trauma, I wonder? Her dad did say that to her ("it must've been tough to come back") in a previous episode, but due to her painful past with her dad, it was difficult to accept what he said because in her mind, her dad was the one who caused a lot of pain in her life, too (the loss of her mother and baby brother).

Anyway, back to ML's back hug. That tender moment of verbal acknowledgement was so crucial in terms of a healing journey. No need to fix that other person by saying unhelpful cliches like "time heals everything" or "everything will be fine"...but simply acknowledging how much it has hurt her was a powerful catalyst...that was an important scene.

FL's character is such a complex character. I salute LSY for playing this type of character.

Yeah, the toxicity level is just so high. Such a vicious cycle. Seeing the adults being so toxic = the kids also think it's normal to treat someone "different" that way. Ughhhhhhh...

FL escaped the ugly and painful past to Seoul, but never really got to process/heal from all of that. She just escaped. That's why IMO it makes perfect sense that everything is still raw. I've been in that situation where everything's still raw and that's how it's like when you merely cover your inner wounds with bandage. The bandage doesn't heal the wounds. Her wounds are still festering under all those bandages, pushed to the back part of her heart.

At first I didn't get why she came back to her hometown (only due to jealousy?) but no, the last ep showed a bigger/deeper reason why and IMO it's justifiable, considering what the grandpa had entrusted her with. So considering all these things, makes perfect sense why she's in a state of emotional turmoil all the time.

All the comments/stares by the hometown people exposed her festering wounds that she'd kept hidden away during her years in Seoul. The harsh comments and the painful flashbacks of the past were like needles and arrows stabbing her wounds, making them bleed again.

When one has reached a certain level of healing, when the wounds have stopped bleeding and over the years have become dry and left scar tissues, you can still feel the dull pain/ache when the scar tissues are prodded and stabbed, but in FL's case, her wounds are still raw 'coz they didn't have a chance to heal just yet...the road to healing from complex pain can be SO SO SO long and winding. Been there, done that. It's like healing layers and layers of pain/hurt/trauma. It's not a straight walk across the road, but it's like a rollercoaster, exhausting journey.

I feel for FL so much when she was reminiscing the past on the rooftop and then she said to SML, "All my other childhood friends seem happy now, living in the same town. Why am I the only one who ran away from it?"

More glimpse to her past showed how an A-hole ahjussi (in a drunken state) blamed her for having ruined her dad's life and for having made her dad's mother die. Also the way her mother and brother died seemed tragic. It was implicit, but it was probably the event that made her hate her dad. During the convo between FL and her dad, it seemed that he was with Su Ji when her heavily pregnant mother needed him the most (and I assume she didn't get medical help soon enough, so she and the baby were dead).

I also feel for her when she said that she was angry at herself. I've been in that place, too, angry at myself because I was triggered so much (so I acted out/lashed out at people who didn't deserve it) because of my (bleeding) inner wounds. It's clear that her inner wounds are still kinda raw. Now she's surrounded again by all the triggers that made her leave that place. To have someone (ML) who had been her safe haven in the past, but also connected so much to her bitter past (esp. 'coz he still lives there)...it's like ML embodies both poison and healing properties at the same time. That's probably why she keeps saying with such vehemence, "I HATE people who know everything about my (ugly) past."

I was seriously laughing out loud when that BGM appeared 'coz it was such a perfect timing with the overly melodramatic scene. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2nd ML: "Who are you?"
Receptionist: "Kwon."
2nd ML: "Not that...your full name, please."
Receptionist: "Mister Kwon." (in English) 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Also when 2nd ML accidentally broke the staircase's finial! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Me, too. :-)

Ah, sorry, forgot to add: she finally got a divorce and she's found a new husband now and has a kid (she fortunately had no kid with the abusive man). But still it sickened me to think her mother thinks more about "losing face" than the safety of her daughter. Geez...