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am i missing something or too unfeeling but the scene of miao miao reuniting with father in the game has many views on douyin, saw the same on twitter post which also has quite good number but i feel like the scene is nothing special i dont find it sad at all 😭

yes you are not the only that see it we all know the gay character is supporting character. my bad bc i did not noticed they put gay male lead tags as im using the apps, thought you were complaining about the LGBT tags included eventho ML is straight. dont worry about me watching the series cuz i only watch ep1 and dip, was never really interested anyway and was taking a break from my currently watched drama hence i start new drama on a whim.

fgs is for god sake, nothing homophobic about it and if you search the meaning that's the thing that came out first. funny tho that rude homophobic name is the first thing that came to your mind when my whole comments was nothing of sort, seems like projection to me. oh, idk what am i supposed not to be able to handle and move on from? and how i am not an adult or normal just bc i put my 2 cents when adults and normal ppl do exactly that. but, i acknowledged that this start from my misunderstanding of yr comments and i apologise for it

wasnt yang ling the one who initiated investigation of the tea smuggling? it doesnt seems too logical for him to be the mastermind and initiated the investigation, no? i was wondering did none of the ministers or even His Majesty think this was suspicious

i know as close as chancellor wang and lu jiaxue is, they are wary with each other, but why lu jiaxue never tell him luo shenyuan is chen jiuheng student and the one causing the case to be reopened? wouldnt that benefit both of them?

was surprised yining plan the madam qiao death but i find the part where she agree with yining idea a bit weak, it do not sound convincing that she easily agreed, sure yining promised some things to her, but i dont think she is the type that trust yining word

yup this is why some viewers prefer her to be dubbed, i applaud her for trying tho and this definitely made me understand more why many chinese actors were dubbed for historical dramas

no he definitely like her beyond that. he hesitate when asked by lin mao, but that was not an indication that he doesnt like her, imo he do feel something for her but it was yet to reach the deeper kind of love (understandably given most of their times are probably just being meal buddy with elders around) many people get together simply bc they like each other, and it could just due to mere attraction.For some, times spending together only strengthen the relationship but for other ppl, it fails in the faced of hardship and changes. he hesitated bc he likes the bubbly and cute her, but he is not confident that he would still adore her the same if she became different, that is still consider liking her imo, just not deeper enough. he is only stepping back bc she do not like him, but i believe had he was given a chance he would proceed bc stronger love can be developed with times, that's the case for relationship nowadays, no?

definitely her delivery, i didnt noticed at first bc i watch at 1.25x & 1.5x but one time i put it at 1.0x that i realised the complaints about her voice, altho i think it was less about the voice but rather the delivery. imo it has to do with the fact that the language used for historical shows are much complex than normal language spoke in modern times so her delivery are not very natural, i have watch her in ray of light and find her line delivery satisfying

fgs cant yall be normal? the brother is gay that is the lgbt in the story hence it is included, what im understanding is you come expecting gay romance bc it was tagged as lgbt but lgbt is literally more than that? the struggle, the sexuality all of those still falls under LGBT tag. even with supporting actors the shows include that theme so why should it be removed just bc shallow ppl like you? why would you hate representation just bc they were not the main lead

so i rewatch the whole drama ytd and might have skip many scenes (i watched almost whole thing at 1.5x speed) but i dont think it goes the way you were describing

1) he dated and broke up multiple times, simply said he was in relationship but was not in love. probably he didnt put many effort hence he was always dumped, but that didnt mean he wait for her. he has tried meeting new people but it did not developed into love. as he said, loving her is not about heartbreak, he take it easy hence he can still do many things for those years she was married, like dating and being successful in work. as for supporting her, i believe they both support each other but we just saw more of his pov, hence they are still close even after she is married and her being in good terms with some women he dated.

2) idk if i miss this scene but i dont recall him being happy that she was divorced, he didnt believe her at first thinking it was a joke but after knowing it was real he did not rejoiced or think he had a chance hence he never cross the brother line even after knowing she was divorced. in fact he was distressed knowing what she went through for a year after being divorced.

3) honestly i might missed the part where he help her secretly so i'm gonna skip that (he do help her multiple times but i dont think it was done secretly so maybe we are talking about different scenes)

4) she never date another man, she was in the knowing each other stage with SML, it was a casual relationship but they did not date, they only occasionally met and eat together, return and went home together. the SML himself said they were not dating yet during the scenes where ML, FL, SML, SFL ate together and not long after that their casual relationship stop as FL suggest that they should just be neighbourhood friends.

5) he confess to her while she was already in the knowing each other stage with SML and he himself said he not gonna force his feelings on her and she is free to went on date with SML, hence she still met with him multiple times after, but that was not dating. she never had feelings for SML like that. she likes the feelings on going on dates but she did not ever think to do stuff for SML, and this was different with ML bc whenever good things happen to her, ML is the first person she think of, eg getting paid: she only think of buying things for him and her daughter. even when SML hurt his finger, she forgot to give him band aid bc the thought didnt cross her mind, she was not concern and care for him.

6) i believe her hearts flutter multiple times for ML hence her rejecting him at first bc the thought of being with him scares her, as romantic relationship could be ruined in any moment. but ig it just get easier later to consider ML as a partner bc as she mentioned, she want to have fun with her partner and ML did mentioned them having lots of fun together, which imo lead to her considering it and realised that she has unknowingly view him as a man ever since she discovered his feelings for her

7) ml tried dating but he was not able to love anyone bc they are not her but that is the thing about love, some people just dont fell easily. and it is harder to forget when that person is close with you ig? not to mention they are the person that know each other best

i dont remember anything of this drama but i do remember liking it. tbf ml not dating anyone while fl was married is not really surprising/any kind of noble act or something, i dont think he is single bc of fl, or maybe he stay single bc he could not move on but that's the point, why use other people to get over someone?

i genuinely think not dating anyone else simply bc one have not met someone new that they had feelings for should be normalised. getting to know someone is seriously a very tiring process and some people are just not actively looking bc they are contented with their lives like that, i know i do. so it is not really something to be questioned about that he is single while she was married imo. some ppl only get into relationship if they seriously like the person instead of mere attraction, i personally dont think i have ever like anyone seriously in my whole life so i never date anyone and neither do i ever made any effort to find someone

what episode he became prime minister (if he ever became one), winning first place for the next exam (my last watch was ep23), clear his master name

i do think ppl use pedo term very loosely these day just bc of age gap or minor adult romance. it is absolutely understandable to be weirded out if an adult falls for minor that looks very much like a child, but if the minors lean more towards looking like in their early twenties, it is not too weird if an adult fell for them imo.

ofc it is illegal if they made a move towards these minors or groom them, but if one simply had feelings and never act upon it i dont think that is a pedo behavior (not talking about this drama just general situation) and this is an unpopular opinion ofc but my views on pedo is someone who repeatedly get attracted to minors, if they have always been attracted to adults/ppl of their age but suddenly find one minor attractive, i dont think that person is a pedo. this situation is like having feelings for someone you're not supposed to. simply having feelings is fine to me but if you as an adult act on it then that is when you crossed the line

also in the context of this drama (which i dont remember much) his feelings developed bc she is the only person who help him iirc and hers after their journey together (of suffering from same person), there is strong foundation on why they fell for each other, i understand being grossed but that kind of connection is not found in other person in their life so it made sense why he view him as a woman despite her old enough to be her teacher (not that being a teacher stop anything bc i have been a student once and seen lots of my friends developed crush for our teacher), and it made sense why she too would suddenly view him as a man despite him being in high school, she is not supposed to but im certain if this is real life, not many is able to not caught feelings after sharing that kind of experience and connection

so according to comments if the chemistry is not satisfying or the acting was bad then ml should dump his gf instead of praising him for being loyal. genuinely idk why yall want him to be with dr oh so bad, just bc yall like the chemistry more. i personally not rooting or against between FL or SFL bc both romance is just meh to me, but i also love that the plot made him loyal till the end bc everything of him in this story centred around her. it would be out of character for him if he suddenly had a change of feeling and cliche, so i do indeed actually prefer him with his gf just bc of that

ppl gonna say i hate fun but i DO love fun it just the comedy is really not my type of fun (as expected tho GJM directing is really not for me) i find bai jiu cute and now he is quite annoying, easily said i dont really like when things are being exaggerated and bc they keep doing it, it turns the fun and cute to annoying, it reminds me of jing jing character in MJTY, it was fun and cute till it's not

also, li lun obsessive ass is starting to get on my nerves, like im interested in their backstory, nothing more painful than friends turning enemies but bro can you stop being clingy 😭

i normally would if i think it was a spoiler but i dont think it was in this case, spoiler imo when it was something big or massive information that gave more depth to the story, this scene however fell into none, maybe bc you havent seen the ep so you might think it was a big info but it was not, i view it as one of the scenes that can be discussed publicly bc it held no secrets whatsoever for that ep, this place is for that, to discuss. if people are afraid to be spoilt for every little scenes of newest ep then they should avoid coming here until they have start watching

it is the opening of EP4 and it was ytd ep so no

like when they say it is more touching or less cringe than the cdrama, sure opinion is subjective and this drama has touching moments too, but there is different in shows that simply makes you cry and ached and shows that makes you cry, ached and warmth where their bonds are so beautifully done and more natural too. to add, cringe?? idek whicg part of go ahead is cringe in the early ep bc everything is so natural

they can be crazy but this is an industry that has lots of censorship, no gay romance, no transmigration, no extreme displays of bullying, so incest is definitely not allowed too

wait you are right, i thought he is possessing in the way that he is actually there, but it makes more sense that he does it remotely